“For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent.” ~Tony Robins. “Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives” ~ Tony Robins. No man is an island. Personal success and development cannot be achieved in isolation. God has abundantly blessed us with people in our lives that we can rightly use to achieve our life’s purpose and goals.
Each and every person you have come across in your life has a part to play and it is entirely up to you to recognise that and help them to help you move closer to your life’s purpose. In this article I discuss three important ways to empower our associates. Firstly let me make mention that there are 3 groups of people in our lives; firstly those close relations, these will include your family, your friends, your spouse and children; secondly your work relationships, these will include your colleagues, work mates including your boss. Thirdly all the other people you come across on a day to day basis.
You need to know how to interact these people in order for you to help you achieve your desired life’s purpose and goals. The key areas I have identified are listed below.
There is no single person I have come across in my entire life that does not like or rather feel good when they are appreciated. This is perhaps the most important aspect of getting people to like you and do what you would like them to do. You must learn and be in the habit of thanking people even for the smallest of things they have done for you. A simple smile and a “thank you” goes a long way in lifting the other persons morale.
At least say thank you for the effort even when what you have been given is not exactly what you asked for. Let the other person feel appreciated when serving you. Appreciation lifts the self-esteem of human beings. The feeling of appreciation is an intense one and can make or break someone’s self-esteem. Imagine yourself working for a boss who does not seem to appreciate whatever effort you put in your work.
Imagine the feeling of not being appreciated after you have spent so many hours on an assignment. But then contrast this with the feeling of being appreciated even for your very small efforts. You will even put in more extra time because you feel that your work and presence are being appreciated.
Remember, everyone is primarily emotional. Everything that people do, or refrain from doing, is triggered by their deeper emotions. Your job is to connect with their higher and more positive emotions so they feel so good about you they want to help you and please you in some way. If you are in a supervisory position it will really help you to spend more time with your subordinates inviting their feedback and comments on their work. This I believe is one of the best methods to get their work approved as they will understand what is expected of them.
Nothing beats the feeling of satisfaction when your work is approved by your manager. You feel like the work is personally yours. Believe me having a highly, motivated worker can yield results beyond your imagination. If your personal goal is very dependent on other people’s input you need to devise methods that are consistent and gain respect from other people. You need to be nice, friendly and courteous. I encourage you to read more on people management. In life, you always have a choice. You can either do everything yourself or you can get others to help you do some of the work.
The third and final aspect of empowering others is attention. Just like every one of us love attention in one way or the other. Learn to listen with a keen interest. Pay attention to the details that keep people motivated and work to improve them. If you have a difference with say a work colleague. Do not argue with them but reason with them. Listen to their explanation and make sure you understand the reasoning behind.
I have experienced this especially with women. Even when they know that you cannot help them but just the fact that you will listen to them makes a difference. The fact that you will give them the attention they need, will greatly improve their self-esteem. If you are married that is lesson number one for you.
Your ability to delegate effectively, which requires that you inspire and empower others to help you willingly, will determine how fast you move ahead. It will determine how much you earn in your job. It will determine the quality and quantity of your productivity. It will determine your ultimate financial success in life. And the key to all of this is your ability to empower others. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.