Nothing is perfect the first time

There is nothing that was created or invented by man that was perfected the first time. Everything that we do or have done is never perfect the first time. All the nice buildings and all the beautiful things that are man-made were not perfect at the first attempt. A lot of planning, research, rebuilding and hard work had to be undertaken. That is why there is a constant quest for improvement of the gadgets that we use daily. The gadgets that were more valuable in the last 5 or 10 years may now be obsolete. This is the same as in the journey of life and in the pursuit of personal development and self-improvement, one must always strive to continuously seek to improve themselves. They say practice makes perfect. Nature requires and usually compels us to move on. However, we decide the direction of that movement. If you look back at your life five years ago, you will agree that there is a change and the direction of that change was sorely influenced by yourself. You are the driver of that change.

Nothing is perfect if things were perfect there would be no need for continuous improvement. There would be no need for research and development. However, nature is perfect and nature is neutral. We get from nature what we give it. If you are optimistic nature gives you back optimism; if you are positive you get exactly that; if you are expectant you will meet with expectation. In other words, you get your hearts desires. The Bible says “ask and you shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened”.

I don’t know about you, but I know that am still very much a work in progress. Am far from being a perfect role model and forgive me if at all, I present myself as perfect, it is not my intention. Every day comes with its challenges and I am continuously learning new things. I keep an open mind and have learned to focus on the positive things in life. I am always grateful to God almighty for allowing me to serve him daily. Every day that we are alive is a gift and an opportunity to make a difference. Yes, life will give you what you did not anticipate, but you have the right to make a choice. You may not know it but some people are worse off than you are right now. There are people you can help even in your current situation.

Continue to doing something to change your current situation

A successful individual typically sets his next goal somewhat, but not too much above his last achievement. In this way, he steadily raises his level of aspiration” – Kurt Lewin. Success does not come to those who wait for it; neither does it come to those who are lazy. If you want to achieve your life’s intended purpose you must work towards achieving them. The important thing is to get started and work daily. Do something daily that helps you move closer to achieving your desired life’s purpose. slowly but surely you will meet with success as you continue to improve on your daily activities. The trouble is many of us want to be financially independent yet are not willing to work hard and smart to achieve our dreams. We instead complain about how hard life is and how things are not going well for us. We expect life to be easy and yet are not willing to pay the price now for a better future. Remember that nature is neutral and it gives you back what you give it. If you want to achieve financial freedom, you should be willing to pay the price for it. Everything that you want to achieve has a price tag. Nature will pay you back the exact price that you are willing to pay.

Over the years I have learned that the key to achieving your desired life’s goals is to firstly realise, that no one is responsible for your current situation but yourself, in other words, you must take responsibility of your situation. Acknowledge that you are mostly responsible for being in the current situation and secondly do something to change it, because if you don’t, no one is going to change it for you. Yes, it may be tough but it can be done. The Bible says “do not despise the days of your humble beginnings”. To succeed you need to start small and be persistent. Be prepared to fail the first time and learn from your mistakes. Keep on improving. Refuse to accept failure. They say “Rome was not built in one day” but neither was it built in two days. The small things that you do daily count towards achieving your goals. Yes, life will throw things at you, but do not be discouraged, there is always something to be learned from the difficult situations. Remember that God always provides a way where there seems to be no way. There is nothing too big or too small for God. He is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end.

I know that sometimes we may feel that things are not going accordingly. That is the time to double your efforts because after every storm the sea is calm. The Bible says “weeping may stay for the night but rejoicing comes in the morning”. Life is full of ups and downs. If you have been following my blog for some time you will notice that my earlier articles were not as refined as the current ones. I would confidently say that there is a great improvement in both the content and quality of the articles. The improvement did not come without a cost. I had to put in the time. This, however, does not mean that my articles are perfect, but they have improved over time. Although I know that there is always room for improvement. As such am always seeking to make the necessary changes. My dream is for this website to be the number one destination for personal development and self-development materials and articles.

We are responsible for the state of our communities

If you believe that you are responsible for being in your current situation then it is also true that you are directly or indirectly responsible for the current state of your society or country at large. I know this may sound ridiculous but I think it is the truth. Whether we like it or not we have a part to play in developing and shaping the direction our societies and countries at large. We may be complaining about the poor service delivery of the various government departments. But if we wait for help from the government it may never come and it surely takes a very long time before it comes. Why can we not do something about it ourselves? After all, we are the ones that are greatly affected. We can contribute to society in so many ways. There are many avenues out there that can be used to help improve society. If we are to see meaningful change, we must be the change carriers. Change begins with you and me, changing our ways and influencing other people.

For example, we could start by restoring our families. I know that many of us our families are hurting and broken. I believe that at the foundation of every prosperous society is a strong family bond. If you are a parent and have neglected your family it is high time you started taking responsibility for your family. Your children need you more than ever before. Do not be an absentee parent. You may be going through a bad patch in your life but that is no reason to abandon them. It is time to show them how responsible you are. It is the time to reassure them and let them stand with you. There is nothing more satisfying than spending time with your loved ones.  There are many broken homes out there and this has resulted in broken societies.

Be patient with yourself

To grow we must learn to be patient with ourselves. Growth is not instant but gradual. I always say that all growth is from within. That is why we are all born babies and grow to adulthood with time. There is a time for everything. A time to play, a time to study and a time to grow. We start but crawling before we stand and start to walk. We learn or acquire skills before we start using them. God has given us time to learn and prepare ourselves for the challenges that lie ahead. God has also equipped us with the necessary requisites to cope with life’s challenges. Be patient and allow yourself to enjoy what you are doing. Remember that not everything you are doing now will have instant results. You do certain tasks for future results. You acquire certain skills and knowledge that will come in handy in the future.

Conclusion

Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose your ability to learn new things and move forward in your life” – Dr. David M. Burns. With time and effort, you will achieve your desired results. Always remember that perfection is not achieved at the first go. It takes time, patience, persistence and dedication to achieve it. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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