The six qualities of self-development

“The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it”. ~ John Rushkin.  We all have it in ourselves to develop to our fullest potential, whether in relationship; work; family; sport; whatever. Each and every one of us is engineered to develop and reach their utmost potential. But then why is it that most of the people remain without even reaching half of the potential? To achieve your goal requires a mix of qualities, mind set and behaviours; remember that all “growth is from within”. Here are my six most important qualities. Please take note that the qualities listed here are not in any particular order.

Ability
My first quality is ability. In life, you will have a tough time achieving your full potential if you try to do something you are not gifted for. If you set out to achieve your personal intended life’s purpose ensure that you are doing the right things with the right abilities. Thankfully, our almighty God the creator gave us all the right abilities to prosper and succeed in achieving our goals.

It is therefore, important that you know what your life’s purpose is. For example you cannot succeed at being a sportsman when God engineered you to be a musician. The level of success you will attain in being a sportsman will be far less than the level you would have achieved had you been on the right path. You will spend more energy at trying to succeed at being a sportsman than being a musician. Know your life’s purpose.

Attitude
The second quality and I guess my favourite is attitude. I say attitude is the mother of all success. Attitude is the beginning and end point of all self-development work. Without the right mental attitude of positive self-belief you will not achieve anything of significant importance in life. With it everything is possible. “I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus who strengthens me”~ the Bible.

I personally regard attitude as key to personal development and success. You may have all the necessary tools and equipment laid before you (which are actually endowed in you), but with a wrong attitude you will not succeed. With the right and positive attitude the sky is the limit. Many of us have a wrong attitude towards life especially when we are faced with challenges. Instead of seeing opportunities presented in the challenge we focus on the problem. Those who succeed see opportunities in the challenges they face. Stop crying over spilt milk and rise above the challenge.

You cannot change the situation but at least you can control how the situation affects you. Charles Swindoll says “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it”.

Faith
What is faith? “It is the demonstration of hope for things not yet seen”. “Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark”~ Scandinavian Proverb.  I will give an example of Christianity. We believe that there is God even though we have never seen him. The bible encourages us to have faith. I believe that faith distinguishes those who realise their full potential from those that don’t. In fact the strength of your self-belief is the one thing that determines if you can move mountains or foot hills. But having self-belief or faith is not an easy task.

One of the best ways to help improve your faith is to talk positively to your self during a task. Even when the going gets tough tell yourself “I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus, who strengths me” these are magic words. Believe me you will not know what strength you can derive just by saying the above words. It has worked wonders for me and so it will work for you. The subject of faith is a very broad one and I would encourage you to the read the bible frequently to help you get inspired and increase your faith.

Chance
The combination of qualities of personal development such as ability, self-belief and awareness are the factors that produce what I call “luck”. Scientists believe that there are no random accidents. Everything that happens to us is as a result of our mental self-belief and our physical action. We all as human beings have more or less the same chances. The difference is how we see and utilise those chances when they come around.

In a football team where competition for numbers is high the players will work hard during training to impress the manager so as to be named in the starting line-up. When this opportunity comes it is up to the player to embrace it with both hands and prove to his manager that he is worth being in the team. This is also true with life.

Courage
“…..be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~ the Bible. This was actually a command God was giving to Joshua. It is easy to start the process of self-development, much harder to keep it going especially when things are not going our way.  When the odds are against you that is when you need to summon your courage to see you through. The journey to success is a personal one and so is the courage and will to succeed. The difference between highly successful individuals is measured by how much courage the have to undertake certain risks.

Most people fail before they even start, especially in business because they have no courage to rise up when the tide rises higher than anticipated. When you fail at the first attempt relax and evaluate your failure and try again until you have it right. Do not settle for failure. “It is not the mountain we conquer but our selves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

Perseverance
There is no short cut to self-development that I know of. I challenge anyone to help me find one. The only route I know to self-development is a combination of the above qualities mentioned coupled with perseverance and personal experience.

All personal growth follows a similar route which has its own momentum and takes its own time. There is no success without perseverance. With persistence and perseverance comes the break through to reaching our intended life’s purpose. Remember that success is not a destination but a life long journey.

Conclusion
I hope and trust that you have learned something from the above article. Please feel free to comment. Self-development is not a race neither is it a competition. You are what you think. Having a positive mind is one sure way to achieving self-development. The above qualities are only a guide and they are the ones that I use. There many other qualities that you can learn and improve yourself. Till next time “standout tall and be counted”.

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