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You cannot change the past

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that is why they call it present”- Unknown origins. You cannot do anything to change your past neither can you delete it. But you can do something with the present to help shape your future. Look, we all have closets and in those closets are skeletons. I mean, “Some of those skeletons would even refuse to be shown to people”. Well, if you do not have skeletons, with time you will surely have them. Whether you want to share them with the world is entirely up to you. Simply put, there is no one with a perfect past.

Even the most successful and humblest of people have skeletons in their closets. I have done somethings in the past that am not proud of. Really, some of the stuff I did, if I could go back in time, equipped with the knowledge I have acquired, I would change them. Unfortunately I can’t neither can you. I am here and doing what am doing mostly because of my past.

Your past experience helped to shape your present. You therefore, need to learn to live and appreciate your past good or bad. What we should be preoccupied with is trying our level best to lay a better foundation for the future.

You cannot make progress by dwelling on your past. The past is history. Its gone, let go of it. You cannot continue crying over spilt milk. You can only embrace and accept the past. Learn from it and move on. I believe that there are lessons we can take from our past, that can be taken into the future. Growth demands that we learn from the mistakes we made and from the people around us. Human beings tend to be more wiser as they grow older. They say experience is the greatest teacher. If you cannot learn from your past experiences, well then you must be untrainable. But I believe that all human beings are trainable.

The importance of learning from your past

You cannot expect different results if you keep on doing the same things over and over. You cannot expect to succeed if there is nothing you are doing about it. If you believe that practice makes perfect; you need to change your belief system. I grew up believing that practice makes perfect until, I learned that actually practice makes room for improvement which leads to improved results. Learning from the past is what gives us wisdom. It is what makes us grow. Sometimes am left wondering what is wrong with our current generation. We want to start climbing the tree of success from the top. We want to experience success without going through the mill.

When things go wrong do not go with them. You will agree with me that wisdom comes with experience and experience comes with age. Every little positive change that you make in life is important. It takes you closer to your goals. We must realise that change is not sudden and is not easy. Just because you made a mistake at your last job and got fired does not mean you must give up. Get up and accept your mistakes and take responsibility for them. Learn from them and stop blaming your boss for having you fired, he was merely doing his job. I know its not easy when you lose a job especially in the current economic situations. But I believe that God allows such things to happen so as to position you for better things to come.

Learning from our past experiences cannot be over emphasised. It is of paramount importance that we all learn from our past experiences. It all begins by first knowing ourselves better. Over the last few years I have become an ardent student of my self. You heard me right a student of myself. You will be amazed to learn that most of us do not know ourselves very well. The fact that I now understand my self better than before is very helpful in my everyday life. I know when to do things more efficiently and what conditions I will thrive in at any particular time. I have learnt over time what sort of music will motivate me to write articles and will influence my working mood. All this has come by seriously paying attention to my self.

Live life in the present

Well, it is good to reminiscence about the past. But, this should not be your preoccupation because no matter how good your past was it is but history. Yes, it was good while it lasted. Life dictates that we move forward. If you are not moving forward then you are moving backwards. Life is never static. Charles Haanel in his book the Master Key says “Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, eminence flows progress.” My understanding of this is that if your life is not moving forward or rather if you are not taking action, opportunity will surely pass you by. There comes a time in ones life when things seem be impossible. That is when we are required to show our strength and tenacity.

I have a very good friend of mine, I wont mention his name for now. Actually his my childhood friend. This is a very intelligent and brilliant guy but has failed to progress because he still lives in the past. He has literally failed to move on in life. Every time we meet our discussions are mostly centred on the past and he never seems focus on the future. This is a guy that has gone from being one of the most promising talents in his field to being one of the most an reliable employee. All this simply because of not accepting his previous mistakes and learning from them, and as a result opportunities have passed him by because he still lives in his past glory.

What am trying to say is that we must learn to live in the present. Enjoy today. Remember today is called present. It is your present from God almighty. Make sure you do the right things. Do not take things for granted. Take every opportunity that comes your way with both hands and live your life.

Conclusion

I would like to leave you with one of my favourite prayers “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. For me this prayer summarises what we need to do in life. It recognises that fact that we cannot change the past and that a bright future belongs to the courageous. Have a wonderful and successful live and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from the under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and nourish that seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to be at the centre of your plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.

Conclusion

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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To change is to be progressive

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail. One of the biggest stumbling block to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I personally have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn from every challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines. With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when write a song later alone sing it.

You have the capacity to change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we prepare for the future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within our own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life. Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.

Conclusion

If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albeit Einstein. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in the moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenges and controversy” – Martin Luther King Jr. As human beings, we have a natural tendency to wanting to do the easier things in life. I guess this is how we are wired. However, you will realise that if you want to grow and succeed, as an individual, you better get used to doing the heavy stuff as well. Doing the things that you are not used to. The things that you like to postpone. The things that make you uncomfortable are the things that really help you grow. Not all things are easy the first time. But with practice and perseverance, they become easier, lighter and enjoyable.

There is usually no growth in times of good. In times of plenty, we normally concentrate on enjoying the rewards. However, life demands that we constantly grow in everything that we do. This month I have dedicated to write and post 29 articles. I am already behind. Not that I want to give excuses but this is the reality of it. Writing on a daily basis is an unfamiliar territory for me. I have had a few other personal challenges that have hindered my progress but to talk about them would be like to give excuses. I would rather pick it up from here and see how far I can go. I guess it will be worthwhile to review and measure my performance at the end of the challenge. I take full responsibility for it.

They say all growth comes from within. The ability to grow is implanted within each and every one of us. If you really want to grow, be it financial growth or personal development you need to start nurturing the seed of growth within you. Personal development and growth are like a mustard seed. You plant a small seed, with care and nurturing, it grows into a tree. All things take time but, better things take even longer to produce.  They say good wine takes time to mature. The longer it takes the better the quality. Likewise, if you are working on a good project, you should not expect immediate results. You will need to overcome failure and many other obstacles before you see the fruits of your labour. Most of the times there is a thin line between success and failure. Most people give up just before they strike gold.

Endurance is key

Without perseverance and endurance, there is no success. Without endurance, there is no real growth. If there is a formula for personal growth I would say, “hard or smart work + persistence + endurance = success”. Let’s take a college student, for them to get good grades, they have to work hard or smart and endure the long hours of sleepless nights of studying. When I was studying computer programming I would study into the wee hours of the night before going to bed. As a student, I had to endure the sleepless nights and persistently pursued my studies. Without which I would not have graduated.

I guess endurance is a measure of how much we are willing to go, in order to achieve certain objectives. I believe that all great inventors had to endure and conquered failure many times. Without endurance, we would not have achieved even the little that has been accomplished. You may not realise it but you have made certain sacrifices and have come out strong, it could be positive or negative we all have experienced endurance.

How motivated are you?

What contribution are you giving to humanity? Are you spending 8 hours a day doing something that does not inspire you? Are you just doing time? What will you leave because you came on earth? These few questions keep me motivated to continue writing and pursuing my life’s purpose. I believe that the most important day in one’s life is when they realise what their purpose is. When they realise why they wake up in the morning and do what they need to do on a daily basis. There is a saying that the moment you are born the body begins to prepare for death. When you were born they dug your grave and put the dirt on the right side. When you die they will put the dirt on the left side.

Unfortunately, the reality of life is that many of us will not be remembered after some time. And many of us will not even be known that we ever lived on this earth. I believe that one day we will be made to account for the time we spent on this beautiful planet. We, therefore, must make good of it. But to achieve this we must do things that keep motivating us to achieve our life’s purposes. That is why it is important to do things that make you happy on a daily basis. One of the best ways to be happy is to earn a living doing the things that make you happy.

Conclusion

Personal growth and development are usually achieved when we are going through challenges. They call them trying moments, meaning they are not permanent. “How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you become after the game, whether you are a winner or a loser” – Lou Holtz.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Get set, ready, steady go. The challenge starts today. The die is cast. There is no turning back. This is the beginning of the month-long article posting challenge. In my previous post, I made a public declaration and challenged myself to a daily article posting challenge for the month of February. Well, the month is right upon us. This is the first post for the challenge. At the end of this month, we should have a minimum of 29 articles of good value. The month has already started with challenges for me and I need to quickly learn how to navigate through them without disturbing my 29 Days challenge. I know that I will face a lot of them, but what will determine my success are the learning points that I will take from them.

I am not looking back but pressing ahead and see how far this challenge will take me. The beauty of it is that at the end of February  I will have moved a step closer to achieving my objective of improving my writing skills and contributing to humanity. I believe that when something is written it is indelible. Usually, we write what we believe in or what we want to say. Most of the time we convey our feelings and thoughts through writing.  The major difference between speaking and writing is the ease of reference. It is much easier to refer to written speeches. Written messages are never forgotten. Today we continue to make reference to the many quotes because they were written down.

Here are some of the key objectives of the 29 Day Challenge.

Increase content on the site

Increasing site content is a no brainer. Remember that I pledged to increase content on this site. The more articles that are posted on any site will, of course, add to the existing site content and hence increase the overall content. This is a basic SEO rule. The search engines love new content. This has the potential to greatly improve the site rankings by the search engines and therefore, increase search engine traffic to the website.

I believe that search engine traffic is the best because users reach your site through what they are searching for. They are more specific. Increased traffic means increased visibility and access to a wider audience. My hope is to reach as many people as possible. Through this am hoping to get more referral links pointing to this site. More backlinks mean more improved search engine rankings. This can only be good news for me.

Improve visitor satisfaction

Visitor satisfaction will come with the quality of the content being generated. Although visitor satisfaction will not only depend on content quality, there are many other factors that will ensure it is achieved. Some of them may beyond my control. However, I will endeavour to change those things that are within my power. I am also very much aware that you cannot please every visitor. But, I will try as much as possible to make the site user-friendly and work with more reliable and faster hosting service providers.

Improve my writing skills

They say practice makes perfect. I believe that even before I undertake this challenge, my writing skills are improving with every article I write. I can only assume that there will be a great improvement at the end of the challenge. I know that there is a lot of room for improving my writing skills. I can assure you that am constantly working to improving them on a regular basis. The better and more easily my articles are the more user satisfaction is generated.

Improve writing inspiration

Those of my friends who are artists and bloggers will understand what am saying when I say that you need the inspiration to write. It is not easy to just wake up and start writing. You need to have some kind of inspiration to put your thoughts on paper and worse still put them in a meaningful way. A musician always needs the inspiration to write and sing songs. The inspiration may come through real-life experiences and many other sources. One of the most killers of not putting down our thoughts is differing them to another time. I have learned over the years that when you feel inspired to write, don’t postpone to a later time, your thoughts will have disappeared by then. Just sit down and get going with it. Your thoughts will flow on paper. Usually, the idea is not even as clear at the beginning but as you delve into it you simply flow with it.

Conclusion

As we undertake this journey together I also challenge you to do something you have never done before. It could be exercising on a daily basis for a period of time. You could also challenge yourself to get rid of an old bad habit. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it adds more value to yourself and the world at large. I believe that we will be made to account for how we spend our time on this earth. 

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

If you are reading this article, today is the first day of the rest of your life, and you have every reason to be grateful for it. Thank God for the gift of your life. You are alive for a reason. I believe that life has always given us an opportunity for a second chance. You may not currently be in a position to afford a good life. A life that you desire. You may have messed up or have let an opportunity pass you by. Yes, life may seem to be unbearable and unfair; the doctors may have given you a bad report on your health but, that’s not the end of the world. Thank God you are still alive. Let me assure you, that for as long as you have the breadth of life in you; as long as you are alive;  you definitely have an opportunity to overcome your current challenges. Never give up because it is never too late for you to achieve your dreams. Yes, some people may seem to be far ahead of you, but always remember that you have your own life to live; and who says you should live your life based on other people’s progress?

Most of us have had a very bumpy life. Sometimes due to our own making and at times due to circumstances beyond our control. I believe that most of the circumstances we go through in life are of our own making. Meaning we have the power to change them. Most of us have given up on making progress with our lives. We have become accustomed and have accepted to living a mediocre life. When we fall down we must learn to pick ourselves up. Many of the times we will have very few people around when we have fallen down. It is at these times when we should summon all our strength and courage to stand up and keep moving. The God who has given us life also provides us with the strength and direction of our lives.

As human beings, we must embrace and be thankful that we are always given a second chance at life. Though we fall, when we have the courage to get up, God gives us more life and grace so that we can achieve our goals. Yes, I know that there are opportunities that come once in a lifetime. Some of these may not be the best ones for us. Never give up just know that God’s timing is the best. We should all bear in mind that the greatest glory of living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time you fall. Those that have succeeded have failed before. The great inventors of this world have failed many times before they succeeded and today who remembers their failures?

Have a never give up mentality

I love football and sports in general. Sportsmen and women who succeed have a never give up mentality. Sportsmen and women are impressive; the hours and days they put in training for them to show their skill only for a short period of time is amazing. Not only to show their skills but also win to matches, is out of this world. I recently watched a football match were the team I support was written off even before the beginning of the match. The only consolation I had as a supporter was that we are going to have a good game of football. But as the players entered the pitch you could see the positive mindset they were carrying. They just looked like they had already won the match. You see they had lost the first match and needed to win this one by an “impossible” scoreline against one of the very best teams. When my team scored the first goal I believed that the impossible would be possible. Well, the rest is history.

The never give up mentality should be adopted at all times. Those who never give up even in the times of adversity are bound to succeed. When you are given a second chance, embrace it with all your might and ensure that you make the best of every opportunity. Don’t be discouraged when you fail, because you have just discovered one way of not making it. I have set a one month challenge; beginning 1st February I will be posting an article every day until the month-end. This is a huge challenge for me, as I have never done this before. But I pray that God will give me a never give up mentality. A mentality to press on until I achieve the goal. I will evaluate my progress at the end of the challenge and share the experience. I am looking forward to it.

I believe that challenging our abilities is one of the best ways to ensuring and enhancing personal development and growth. I think life would be very boring without challenges. I am now developing a mentality of constantly challenging my abilities.

Enjoy your life

Learn to live a happy life. Decide to be happy every morning you wake up. Did you know that happiness is the highest level of success? One of the best ways of enjoying life is doing the things you enjoy most of the time. There is no point in living a life of grumbling every day. “Life is too short to be lived with hate and sadness” – said Nelson Mandela when he was released from prison after 27 years. He had no choice but to forgive his oppressors because he did not want to continue being their prisoner by carrying hatred in his heart. He wanted to enjoy total freedom for the rest of his life. If you are carrying hate, unforgiveness, and anger you are not free; you are a prisoner. Free yourself and begin to enjoy your life.

Happiness also comes through giving. I have great joy when I give and see the joy on the other person. I used to wonder why the bible says it is more blessed to give than to receive. I mean, after all, we all want to be on the receiving end especially good gifts. but I have learned that as a parent we are always happy to see our children enjoying the fruits of our labour. I don’t know about you but the joy I get when I have provided a solution for someone and they walk away happy is just mind-blowing. Giving may not necessarily be in monetary form. It could just be a helping hand. It could be your time or just being good to someone. There is so much we could do for the world that will put a smile on many people. Imagine living in a world full of happy people.

Conclusion

Life is only what we choose to make it. With every choice you make, you create your life. God is such a gracious father he is a God of second chances. We must learn to embrace the opportunities and chances that come our way. Many a time we will fail, but we must never give up. We must remain steadfast and focused. We must embrace failure and learn from it; we must never be defeated by it. Remember that life is built of the things we do. The small things we do every day. “In the end, it is not the years in your life that count. Its the life in your years” – Abraham Lincoln.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“Cause and effect is as absolute and undeviating in the hidden realm of thought as in the world of visible and material things. Mind is the master weaver, both of the interior garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance” – James Allen. Every choice we make has far-reaching consequences; all actions do. I’m a great believer in the universal principle of cause and effect. What we sow is what we reap. What we say or do comes back to us. Every action has a reaction. What goes around comes around.

All the old sayings are true. If someone is stimulating and inspired, they have an infectious way of exciting and inspiring others. When we give the best we have to give, the best comes back to us and in some way, we are rewarded. It may not be exactly the way we expect, but the more we put into life, the more we get out of it, the more good we experience.

I have been taught since early childhood that it is better to give than to receive. The great secret I grow to discover is that the more I give, the more I possess, or have inwardly. Cause and effect is not only a scientific principle but is also biblical. I believe that to every action there is an equal reaction. Every thought is a cause and every condition is an effect. We must, therefore, be mindful of what thoughts we entertain on a regular basis because they have consequences. Know also that thoughts radiate energy.

Energy, good and bad, affects us. Every deed or action has a cause and effect, as human beings, we have a distinctive aura, an atmosphere, that surrounds us in our thinking, feeling, and actions. Each choice we make makes a difference, for better or worse. We must, therefore, determine the value of an action by weighing it against the value of its consequences. Consider the logical consequence of every action of choice that you make. You and I have the power to produce an action that will achieve a good result that is of benefit to many people and society. We have a great deal of influence on the way we live our lives.

You hold the key

We choose what we want to produce, through our thoughts and actions. Our actions are mainly, influenced by our thoughts. If you are always habouring negative thoughts most likely, your actions will be negative. In other words, your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. This inner world depicts your predominant thoughts. With these thoughts, you choose the course of your life or rather charter the course of your life. “Man breathes his own life into things until finally they begin to live of themselves and to multiply.” – Carl Jung. As human beings, we are responsible for our choices. However, it is amazing to note that we always want to blame others for our shortcomings.

I believe that the best way to get the most out of our short life lives is to put forth more effort. Our lives are made possible by the goodwill and hard work of so many other people. We first have to give, in order to receive the full measure of the abundance of all the good things in life. Choose wisely what actions of others you will pay attention to and those you will ignore. Be sure your actions will bring the results you desire. When you are responsible for the consequences of your actions, when you are never satisfied with what you have done but are dedicated to doing more and better, you will be making a useful and worthwhile contribution to the universe.

In turn, you will be rewarded abundantly for your good work. You are your choices; you choose what you want to manifest with the best-intended results. If you choose the path that leads you to a good life, you will be living in the light. I believe that humanity is about service. I personally derive a lot of pleasure in seeing people happy after being, served.

Why I appreciate the law of cause and effect

There are many reasons why we should learn and appreciate the laws of cause and effect. I will answer this question from the knowledge and benefits I have so far experienced from this law. Knowing about the causes of things and the effects of the causes is surely beneficial in itself. It would be right for me to say that the ordinary man, who has no knowledge about the law of cause and effect, is governed by his feelings or emotions. Most of us grapple with unsuccessful lives because we do not know what the cause of it is. When I read about the laws of cause and effect, it changed my way of thinking.

You will appreciate to know that the law of cause and effect states that “thought, therefore, is the cause, and the experiences with which you meet in life are the effect” just this statement is life-changing. To know that your thoughts are directly responsible for your current situation is just mind-blowing. It is the first step to unlocking your full potential and realigning your life. For me, this simply means that my mind is the doorway to success. If you can change the way, you think, you can change your current circumstances. Therefore, we should be very mindful of what we feed our minds on. Since they say you reap what you sow, you cannot reap happiness if all you feed your mind on is sadness.

Knowledge of this law has helped me to be making conscious decisions about my choices. I keep asking myself if my decisions are beneficial, not only to me but to the people around me, if they make me happy and the people around me. What effect the choices I make will have in my life and how they will help to shape my future. Believe me or not our lives are shaped by the choices we make. I try to make conscious decisions that are more productive and progressive. Of late, I have learned to make proactive choices and have significantly reduced making reactive choices. It is not easy but I feel its something that has to be done. This cannot be achieved, without being prayerful and persistent. Always seek God’s guidance in everything that you do.

Conclusion

 “Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not something to be waited for, but rather something to be achieved” – William Jennings Bryan.  Learn the principles of the law of cause and effect to help you achieve your destiny. In life, do not expect to achieve different results from what you are doing. If you are expecting to be a good footballer, you are required to practice football and not basketball. Life gives you back an equal measure of what you give it. Bye for now and as usual remember to standout tall and be counted.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

There is nothing that was created or invented by man that was perfected the first time. Everything that we do or have done is never perfect the first time. All the nice buildings and all the beautiful things that are man-made were not perfect at the first attempt. A lot of planning, research, rebuilding and hard work had to be undertaken. That is why there is a constant quest for improvement of the gadgets that we use daily. The gadgets that were more valuable in the last 5 or 10 years may now be obsolete. This is the same as in the journey of life and in the pursuit of personal development and self-improvement, one must always strive to continuously seek to improve themselves. They say practice makes perfect. Nature requires and usually compels us to move on. However, we decide the direction of that movement. If you look back at your life five years ago, you will agree that there is a change and the direction of that change was sorely influenced by yourself. You are the driver of that change.

Nothing is perfect if things were perfect there would be no need for continuous improvement. There would be no need for research and development. However, nature is perfect and nature is neutral. We get from nature what we give it. If you are optimistic nature gives you back optimism; if you are positive you get exactly that; if you are expectant you will meet with expectation. In other words, you get your hearts desires. The Bible says “ask and you shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened”.

I don’t know about you, but I know that am still very much a work in progress. Am far from being a perfect role model and forgive me if at all, I present myself as perfect, it is not my intention. Every day comes with its challenges and I am continuously learning new things. I keep an open mind and have learned to focus on the positive things in life. I am always grateful to God almighty for allowing me to serve him daily. Every day that we are alive is a gift and an opportunity to make a difference. Yes, life will give you what you did not anticipate, but you have the right to make a choice. You may not know it but some people are worse off than you are right now. There are people you can help even in your current situation.

Continue to doing something to change your current situation

A successful individual typically sets his next goal somewhat, but not too much above his last achievement. In this way, he steadily raises his level of aspiration” – Kurt Lewin. Success does not come to those who wait for it; neither does it come to those who are lazy. If you want to achieve your life’s intended purpose you must work towards achieving them. The important thing is to get started and work daily. Do something daily that helps you move closer to achieving your desired life’s purpose. slowly but surely you will meet with success as you continue to improve on your daily activities.

The trouble is many of us want to be financially independent yet are not willing to work hard and smart to achieve our dreams. We instead complain about how hard life is and how things are not going well for us. We expect life to be easy and yet are not willing to pay the price now for a better future. Remember that nature is neutral and it gives you back what you give it. If you want to achieve financial freedom, you should be willing to pay the price for it. Everything that you want to achieve has a price tag. Nature will pay you back the exact price that you are willing to pay.

Over the years I have learned that the key to achieving your desired life’s goals is to firstly realise, that no one is responsible for your current situation but yourself, in other words, you must take responsibility of your situation. Acknowledge that you are mostly responsible for being in the current situation and secondly do something to change it, because if you don’t, no one is going to change it for you. Yes, it may be tough but it can be done. The Bible says “do not despise the days of your humble beginnings”. To succeed you need to start small and be persistent. Be prepared to fail the first time and learn from your mistakes. Keep on improving. Refuse to accept failure. They say “Rome was not built in one day” but neither was it built in two days. The small things that you do daily count towards achieving your goals. Yes, life will throw things at you, but do not be discouraged, there is always something to be learned from the difficult situations. Remember that God always provides a way where there seems to be no way. There is nothing too big or too small for God. He is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end.

I know that sometimes we may feel that things are not going accordingly. That is the time to double your efforts because after every storm the sea is calm. The Bible says “weeping may stay for the night but rejoicing comes in the morning”. Life is full of ups and downs. If you have been following my blog for some time you will notice that my earlier articles were not as refined as the current ones. I would confidently say that there is a great improvement in both the content and quality of the articles. The improvement did not come without a cost. I had to put in the time. This, however, does not mean that my articles are perfect, but they have improved over time. Although I know that there is always room for improvement. As such am always seeking to make the necessary changes. My dream is for this website to be the number one destination for personal development and self-development materials and articles.

We are responsible for the state of our communities

If you believe that you are responsible for being in your current situation then it is also true that you are directly or indirectly responsible for the current state of your society or country at large. I know this may sound ridiculous but I think it is the truth. Whether we like it or not we have a part to play in developing and shaping the direction our societies and countries at large. We may be complaining about the poor service delivery of the various government departments. But if we wait for help from the government it may never come and it surely takes a very long time before it comes. Why can we not do something about it ourselves? After all, we are the ones that are greatly affected. We can contribute to society in so many ways. There are many avenues out there that can be used to help improve society. If we are to see meaningful change, we must be the change carriers. Change begins with you and me, changing our ways and influencing other people.

For example, we could start by restoring our families. I know that many of us our families are hurting and broken. I believe that at the foundation of every prosperous society is a strong family bond. If you are a parent and have neglected your family it is high time you started taking responsibility for your family. Your children need you more than ever before. Do not be an absentee parent. You may be going through a bad patch in your life but that is no reason to abandon them. It is time to show them how responsible you are. It is the time to reassure them and let them stand with you. There is nothing more satisfying than spending time with your loved ones.  There are many broken homes out there and this has resulted in broken societies.

Be patient with yourself

To grow we must learn to be patient with ourselves. Growth is not instant but gradual. I always say that all growth is from within. That is why we are all born babies and grow to adulthood with time. There is a time for everything. A time to play, a time to study and a time to grow. We start but crawling before we stand and start to walk. We learn or acquire skills before we start using them. God has given us time to learn and prepare ourselves for the challenges that lie ahead. God has also equipped us with the necessary requisites to cope with life’s challenges. Be patient and allow yourself to enjoy what you are doing. Remember that not everything you are doing now will have instant results. You do certain tasks for future results. You acquire certain skills and knowledge that will come in handy in the future.

Conclusion

Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose your ability to learn new things and move forward in your life” – Dr. David M. Burns. With time and effort, you will achieve your desired results. Always remember that perfection is not achieved at the first go. It takes time, patience, persistence and dedication to achieve it. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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There is no safety in the “comfort Zone”

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Life requires that we move on while our human nature dictates that we remain in our “comfort zone”.  Unfortunately our comfort zone does not provide for growth. When you remain in your comfort zone chances are that you will never grow. You are most likely to going to live a non fulfilling life. If you have to contribute meaningfully to society, and to your own well being, you have to move out of your comfort zone and explore the world. Explore the unknown and be bruised and battered to create your own safety zone. Those that make it in life are those that embrace challenges. Unfortunately most of us do not embrace challenges. We would rather complain and do nothing about it.

Most successful people have moved out of their comfort zone and are sailing the deep waters of the sea. They are enjoying the exploits of the sea called life. Where as most of us are scared of exploring the unknown world. We would rather remain in our “comfort zone” which is not even comfortable when you come to think of it. We see our friends progress and are envious of them. I feel that it is rather unfair to world that we demand to see change when we are doing nothing about it. If you want to see change be the change agent yourself.

I believe that change begins with you. It actually begins with a change of attitude in your thinking. All growth is the sum total of the small things that we do and have accomplished on a daily basis. Human beings are like a ship. To know the strength of a ship it must leave the safe harbour and sail the deep waters. The ship must be able to stand the stormy weather and sail back to the safe harbour.

You are the captain of that ship. You must learn to navigate through life and overcome the obstacles that come your way. It is only by exploring the world around that we discover many new and exciting things. I think that when God created us he designed us to explore and learn the world. If you want to grow in a certain area of your life you need to leave your comfort zone and start exploring new ways to improve.

Why should we explore the world?

You will agree with me that life was meant to be enjoyed. You cannot enjoy life to the fullest by being in the same position. One of the best ways to derive satisfaction in life is by exploring the world around you. Many of us are even dead scared to move to new places. We would rather die in one place and not explore new places. I am one person that has always enjoyed travelling. It is through travelling that I discovered that there is more life out there than in the city.

There is more natural beauty out there. God created us to be explorers of this world. There are more opportunities to be of service out there than where you are. I have discovered that the greatest joy one can derive from life is being of service to humanity. You will agree with me that when people appreciate your work it gives you more joy and satisfaction. The y say sharing is caring.

I have discovered that it very difficult to put up a building where there is already an existing structure. You will have to demolish it before you put up a new one; where as it is very easy to build a new structure where there is no building. The majority of us would rather go and build where it is crowded because we think that is where it is safe, when you can go and build where it is not crowded. No disrespect but I find cities to be crowded places. People are all fighting for very few or dwindling resources. I see building being erected where they are not supposed to be.

The world is full of untapped resources. It is therefore, our duty to explore and utilise these untapped resources. We are not doing ourselves a service by staying in one place and constantly fighting for the ever dwindling resources when there are more to be discovered and explored out their. I believe that God created more than enough resources to go round humanity. Imagine if David Livingstone did not have the courage to explore and discover the existence of the Mighty Victoria Falls or if Christopher Columbus did not discover the Americas and many other explorers that risked their lives travelling around the world. We would have probably not known about the existence of the many discoveries they made.

Take the challenge and leave the comfort zone

This year I have set myself a target to conquer some of my fears like public speaking. Yes you heard me right. Public speaking is one area most of us are scared of, especially me. My comfort zone has always been siting in the background and let other people do the talking whilst I silently criticise. To overcome this fear I have started preparing my self both physically and mentally. I am gathering material that I think will help me. Am also already seeing my self as a very good public speaker. Not necessarily motivational speaking but to just speak in front of an audience and do it exceptionally well. I hope that come the end of the year I shall be able to stand in front  of any audience and speak on a given subject with confidence.

You could also give yourself a challenge to overcome some of your fears. It could be the fear of starting a new business, the fear of relocating and so forth. Yes you will be faced with many obstacles at the very beginning, but your success will be determined by the way to rise up when you fall. I always encourage myself by repeatedly saying “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” – Philippians. I also take comfort by know that “if God is for us, who can be against us?” – Romans. I have personalised the Romans quote by replacing “us” with “me”. I say “if God is for me, who can be against me?”. I am not a perfect person am far from being one and would probably never be perfect. I have my own struggles many of them for that matter and have never been better than most of you.

I still struggle with so many things in my life. Forgive me if at any point I portrayed my self as a perfect person, it was not and will never be my intention.

I have lived most of my life with so many struggles however, in the last 10 years or so, there has been a drastic change in my life. I thank God almighty for giving me a second chance at life. Those that know me can attest to this. Am not blowing my own trumpet but just so that you can be encouraged from my own experiences.

Grow your faith and trust God

What seems impossible one minute, through faith, becomes possible the next” – Norman Vincent Peale. Lets begin by defining faith. “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” – The Bible. I believe and trust in God almighty for all the things that I do and hope to achieve. I think it is important to grow our faith and believe that God will help us achieve our goals. There is a nice phrase that I learned from the power of positive thinking by Dr. Norman V. Peale and I encourage you to apply it on a daily basis “God is with me. God is helping me. God is guiding me”. When you start moving into deeper waters you will need a lot of encouragement.

Always remember that God is on your side and is actually guiding you. Yes you will stumble along the way, but if your trust is in God he will certainly show you the way when you call on him.

Most of the times we remain in the safe harbour because we have no faith and we fear to fail. The more you grow your faith the more courage you gain. I guess there is a direct relationship between faith and courage. The only way to grow your faith is by reading and meditating on the word of God. Everyone who has ever succeeded has faith. They believe that they will achieve that which they have set out to accomplish even when they cannot see positive results instantly. Everything that is good is worth the effort.

Conclusion

The first step is to fill your life with positive faith that will help you through anything. The second step is to start where you are” – Norman Vincent Peale. Being in our “comfort zone” will not help us grow. You cannot produce meaningful results in life if you are content with what you currently have. You must show and demonstrate the desire and the will to achieve. Until next time remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Everything is hard before it’s easy

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

If I have correct goals and I keep pursuing them the best way I know how, everything falls into line. If I do the right thing, I am going to succeed” – Dan Dierdorf. Human beings by nature want to have easy things in life. Most of us are full of envy when we see our friends driving beautiful fancy cars and living a seemingly comfortable and enjoying life in general. How we long to arrive at the so-called “easy life” destination without hard work. Yet it does not come. The lazier we become further away from the good life drifts. Yes we can all achieve what we want and I believe, that is what God intended for us all. But achieving our hearts desires requires us to take bold and right steps; to make bold decisions that require a mindset change.

Personal development and self-growth requires a change in our mind and belief systems. If you are to achieve your goals, there is no doubt that your attitude and mindset has to be in the sink. Perhaps this could be a great start for you to set your year’s objectives and goals. The key thing is to start somewhere. Start now, plan to succeed at whatever you are intending to achieve. I believe that everything that is worthwhile is worth your effort.

If everything in life was easy to achieve or get, then life would have been very boring. Our bodies were designed to work, both physically and mentally. I have discovered that nature is neutral. God has blessed us with the same environment, we all have equal access to the environment. No one on this earth can claim to have more or less than 24hrs a day, I have never heard of anyone who has more or less air. We all experience the same conditions at a given time. We all tap into the same universal resources. The difference, however, is how efficient and effectively we use these abundant resources that God has given us. We are all products of the same universe. We were all created in the image of God.

The question that one may ask is how come life seems to be easy for some people? Well, I believe that there is nothing that comes as easily as it seems and let me just say that life is never easy. All good things come at a cost. You must be willing to pay the price before you begin to reap and enjoy the rewards. I know for sure that for you to live a happy and successful life you must be willing to pay the price and be disciplined enough to delay gratification. Most of us want to live in the now and not in the future. We do not want to delay gratification. Even the so-called easy life is not as easy as it seems. It may look easy from the outside but it is not what it seems. I remember during my earlier working days in life when we used to envy our friends who worked for bigger and “better” corporate organisations. We all would be saying “if only I worked for that organisation life would be easy”. Yet the people working for the same organisations would be looking elsewhere.

Condition your mind to start working

You will agree with me that everything that is good is worth working for. It feels very nice when you have worked for something and are enjoying the benefits. It gives me much pleasure when I have achieved a target. I have a sense of joy and my mind is always positive to even work harder. It is, therefore, very important to set goals that are achievable in order that you keep a positive mental attitude. Failure should, however, not be an obstacle it should be viewed as a challenge to be overcome. It should be a learning process. Every day of our lives we are constantly pushing ourselves to achieve targets. You may not realise it but every day of your life you are achieving a target this could either be positive or negative the choice is yours.

You need to prepare your mind for success. Preparing your mind for success is important as this will also allow you to grow with your success. This will require you to take deliberate steps to condition your mind. If need be you may have to change your friends or get out of some bad relationships. Yes I mean change your friends. Not all relationships are actually beneficial some can be very detrimental. You may also need to move to a new location. Over time I have personally had to make some drastic changes to my lifestyle. This has helped me a great deal. I am more focused on what I do. Believe me, some relationships can be a distraction to your progress, the sooner you identify them and make the necessary change the better. It may be difficult for you to make drastic changes right now but if you are serious about shaping your future, find a way to adjust. Do not allow friendship to hinder your progress.

Your mind plays a key role in determining your overall progress in life. What you feed your mind on a daily basis is very important. The Bible says “ for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. If you hang around people with a positive mental attitude you are most certainly going to have a positive attitude the opposite is also true. Everything that we do or want to do in life begins in our minds. Our minds are, therefore, the workshop or the engine room of everything. Do you realise that everything that is made by man was conceived in the mind? This is how important our minds are. Apart from hanging around with positive-minded people, you could also start reading books and listening to audiotapes that will have a positive impact on your mind. Make a deliberate habit to change your mind and ensure that you take action.

There is no easy route

Once you have started pursuing your goals learn to be patient with yourself. You will keep on falling and failing. Every new skill or habit takes time to execute with minimum effort. Keep learning from your mistakes and be open-minded to make the necessary changes. I have noticed that most of the young generation are in the habit of trying to cut corners especially in the area of financial freedom. Believe me, it is not worth it. I am yet to find an easy route to success that is not short-lived. Ever since I embarked on doing what I love most it has not been easy. Yes, I enjoy it but the journey has not been an easy one. I have enjoyed both dry moments and good ones. What keeps me going is the fact that I enjoy writing and hope that these articles are of help to someone. I am still very much a work in progress but impressed with my own progress so far.

From my studies and personal experience on the subject of self-growth and improvement, I have learned that cutting corners only yields short-lived happiness. If you want long-lasting happiness resolve to do the right things. You will have peace of mind for the rest of your life. The small things that I have achieved so far through hard work make me feel over the moon. They may be small but they actually count a lot to me. After all, success is the sum total of the things we accomplish on a daily basis. I am not in any competition or race with anybody and therefore, will move at my own pace. Like I always say if something is worth the salt then it is worth your sweat. Everything is always difficult for the first time.

Conclusion

Everything in life is hard before it’s easy. They say that it takes 21 Days to develop a new habit. You can take advantage of this theory and change your non-productive habits to those that will in the process help you grow as an individual. Having the knowledge that our minds are very critical to our personal development and self-improvement it is therefore very important that we learn to guard our minds and hearts. The Bible says “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” – Philippians. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” – Proverbs. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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