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Adversity Introduces You to Yourself

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or greater Benefit” – Napoleon Hill. We have all experienced misfortunes. Some have come out scathed and bruised and some have come out un scathed. There are many lessons we learn when faced with adversity.

Goals are like the stars; they are always there. Adversity is like the clouds; they are temporary and will move on. Keep your eyes focused on the stars. Your goals will always be there. But for you to reach them they will always be challenges. The adversities we face in life are what makes us grow.

The highest courage is to dare to be yourself in the face of adversity. Choosing right over wrong, ethics over convenience, and truth over popularity. These are the choices that measure your life. Travel the path of integrity without looking back, for there will never be a wrong time to do the right thing. Focus your mind on what is right and not on who is right.

When you are deep in the middle of the storm, when you are at your darkest moments of your life. You have tried everything you can and nothing seems to be working. Am sure you can relate to this situation. At moments like this is when most people will just give up. They will throw in the towel. But do you know that if you have to achieve personal development it comes with a high price. In fact the greater your achievement the high the price.

If you have been told that personal growth is easy, get it from me that is not true. There is no quick fix to personal Development. I have never found one. The only formula I have found is being persistent and getting up when I fall. I have refused to accept defeat. Yes, sometimes it feels like nothing is going my way. But I keep pushing sometimes not for myself but for the sake of my family and the people around me.

When you are faced with life’s challenges do not be quick to point at your failures. Do not play the blame game. But instead its time to summon your inner self and focus your energies on facing the challenges with a positive attitude.

After Adversity Comes Rewards

No adversity lasts forever. Misfortunes come and go. “Weeping may endure for a night but Joy comes in the morning” – Psalms. God always gives a way where there seems to be no way. He is always by your side if only you can pay attention to his counsel and direction. I want to believe that when we overcome challenges we grow to another level. It is our responsibility to triumph over them. “Adversity is the diamond dust that heaven polishes its jewels with. large sailing ship moving onward” – Leighton.

Those who have succeeded know that they will fail, not just once but many times. They learn lessons from the failures they endure. They never give up when faced with adversity. If you are not prepared to overcome challenges, then you are not prepared for success.  I believe that hard times prepare us for better ones to come. For to he who is given more, more of him is required. Great success comes with great responsibility.

There is no way you will succeed without going through the mill, never. Otherwise we would all be successful. Everyone of us would be enjoying a successful life. Every storm that comes your way is followed with calmness. For every mountain you climb is followed by great rewards. Do not give up and slide back when climbing your mountains.

Yes, the maintain may be marred with mud but keep your mind focused on the reward that follows. The mud will be dry for you to step on and move forward with a ease. Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I’ll show you someone who has overcome adversity.

We all face different challenges everyday of our lives. Some challenges seem insurmountable, some seem obvious. There is no one size fits all solution to overcoming them. It calls on one using there own wisdom and intuition to tackling them. I Personally prepare my day by saying a prayer early in the morning.

Thanking God Almighty for giving me the opportunity, to serve him; the opportunity to enjoy life;  the privilege to interact with people and for the grace to write articles. I also thank him for what he has prepared for me for the day. I refuse to be negative. Early in the morning I make the decision to be happy.

I always include my family in the prayer. I seek for God’s guidance, protection and wisdom. They say prayer moves mountains.

Conclusion

I would like to end with one of my favourite prayers “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. Its always a pleasure to write for your bye and remember to “standout tall”.

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At the Heart of Every Obstacle Lies an Opportunity

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There is no short cut. Victory lies in overcoming obstacles everyday“. When life takes a turn and brings about an unexpected obstacles, we react with our emotions. One may face fear, resentment, anger and doubt. It is absolutely humane to react in this manner. Sometimes the obstacles may seem impossible to overcome. They may seem bigger than we can handle. The bigger the problem the more the rewards. I read a story that changed my perspective to the way I view challenges. This story illustrates the opportunities that lies at the heart of every obstacle.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying on the road where the boulder had been.

The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

Change your Attitude

On the path to success always lies big O’s. Some read them as Obstacles, and others read them as Opportunities.

Off course the peasant in the story had to remove the boulder to clear his way, but in doing so he got rewarded. Going round it is was the easy way out. But, then this would not have solved anything and he would have missed out on the unseen reward. He decided to confront the obstacle head on and got his reward. You, see apart from just the gold that he received he also demonstrated responsibility. Just the act of him removing the boulder benefited more people than just him.

Now, we all know that responsibility is a big part of personal development. It is one of the key areas of personal growth and self improvement.

The other lesson learned from the story is that nature is neutral and it pays you for your efforts. Am very sure that if the king had mentioned about the reward the peasant would not have been the one to receive it as they were other people before him. I guess the peasant’s positive attitude towards problem solving was more at play than anything.

Most of the time we miss out on opportunities that could be life changing, all because of our negative attitude. Usually, the hindrances, presented, are telling us something. If you take time and analyse the problem, if you look at it with a positive mind set, it could be pointing you in the right direction for your much needed solution.

Change your attitude, and start looking at challenges with a more positive mental attitude. Overcoming challenges in life is what constitutes personal development. Whatever problems you are facing right now, there is a lesson that life is trying to teach you and they will not get fixed until you learn that lesson.

Learn from your Current Obstacle (s)

To reach maximum potential one must continuously be learning from life. Everyday is an opportunity to improve our lives. The small things that we do are adding up to our lives. We must make a deliberate habit of learning from our daily challenges. You may not be where you want to be in life. Life may have turned out to be what you did not expect. Well, know that you are not alone, there are people in much more difficult situations than you.

The good news though, is that you have built up a wealth of knowledge from your current situation. Armed with it you can change the course of you life. You have gained valuable experiences that have shown you the results of the choices and decisions you have previously made. If you want to make a positive change, you now know what not to do based on your life’s understandings.

I believe you are more and better equipped than before. The hurdles we face in life merely give us a chance to look at things differently. Sometimes, we are so fixed on one thing and do not look at the other side and then bang, we are faced with an obstacle and realise that there is another way of looking at things. The most important thing is not to lose focus and never give-up when faced with adversities. But, use them as a learning base.

Conclusion

Entrepreneurs are simply those who understand that there is little difference between obstacle and opportunity, and are able to turn both to their advantage” – Victor Kiam. The classic story in this article is really an eye opener. It is worth learning from. The story tells many stories and I know that if analysed even further, you will be able to deduce much more from it than I have. You must always try to solve problems than going round them. This is the only way we can help make the world a better place. Standout and always see the opportunity in the obstacles that lie ahead.

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Responsibility is a Source of Happiness

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Happiness is not by chance, but by choice” – Jim Rohn. There is a very big relationship between taking more responsibility and being happy. These two thing are intertwined. The more responsible you are the more you enjoy happiness. Being responsible can be a source of great happiness. I have been doing a simple study on people who are seemingly enjoying happiness and have noticed that among the most common factors they share, is that they have taken up more responsibilities in their circles. These are the people who are in the driving seat of their lives.

Following up on this study I decided to take more responsibility, firstly with my own life. Yes, my own life. Most of us are not responsible for our own lives. We live under the shadows of other people. We only want to take responsibility when the right outcomes are achieved, sometimes even for the things that should not even be credited to us. I have seen this type of behaviour especially with our friends in the political world. There is a tendency of wanting to be praised for other peoples efforts.

But also amongst my peers. There is this tendency of only wanting to take credit when things are right, but we do not even want to take full responsibility when our actions are wrong. We always want to blame someone else or give excuses.

Taking Responsibility Puts You in the Drivers Seat

Look, when you take full responsibility for your life, you simply takeover the driving seat. You are in charge. You will accept when things are bad. Being in the driving seat is usually a source of happiness. It gives me joy when a plan comes together. You are happiest when things go according to your plan. If you are in charge you will quickly put up corrective measures when things are drifting away.  “Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action” – William James.

Taking up responsibility is also an indication of being a good leader. Remember, we are all leaders of our own lives and I believe that at some point you will be made to account for the actions you take in life. The quicker you realise it the better for you.

Personal growth and development is all about taking responsibility for all your actions and not just some. If you want to achieve serious self growth you need to start taking charge of your life. Do not let your mood be determined by other people, they may dampen it. This means taking control of your thoughts, as they are responsible for your emotions; taking control of your emotions as these may lead you to act on impulse. Usually, your predominant thoughts will dictate the state of your mood.

Make a Conscious Decision to be Responsible

The best time to consciously make decisions is in the morning. I have made it a point that every morning before my day gets hectic a decision is made that I will stay focused, be happy and responsible for my actions. Look, no one will make a decision for you unless you approve of it. If you live an unhappy life its your decision; if you are not in charge of your life its your decision. All in all the power to decide is within you. Learn to use it properly.

There is something about doing certain things early in the morning. Your mind just remains focused on them. I usually read through my writing ideas every night before sleeping and every morning when I wake up. Ever since I started this practice, my productivity levels have just been going up. How I wish this had started sometime back. Am writing and publishing articles on a regular basis.

I have taken full responsibility for my actions both positive and negative. On the days that I am not writing I take time to improve my writing skills by reading; researching, listening and watching motivational videos among other things. Yes, sometimes I have to force myself to do these things but I have made it a point that they are done. This is all, is a result of a single decision I make in the morning and that is to be responsible.

Sharing is Caring

They say sharing is caring. Some people find it had to share anything. If they have to share, it is those things that have no meaning and value to them. In other words they share what they call scraps. Well, I guess its human nature but I feel that it is wrong. I read somewhere that all habits are learnable good or bad. This is true. If you can learn bad habits you can also un learn them and replace them with good habits.

There is always something you can share. Sometimes people have lame excuses for not sharing. You will be amazed that the little you think you have some people do not have. I practice an open door policy and have taught my children to always learn to share. I know that sometimes its had, but we must share anyhow. Sharing does not necessarily mean giving out handouts in form of money, it could just be sharing your time to help out someone in need of your skills.

I know that if we all developed and practiced the habit of sharing, the world would be a much much better place. Sharing is also a source of happiness. Let me ask you a question. How do you feel when you see the joy on someone’s face all because you shared something with them? Exactly, that’s why you must share unconditionally more often. When you share do not expect anything back, you are not in control of them. If you expect anything in return more often than not you will be disappointed.

Conclusion

I would like to end by encouraging you to develop the habit of taking responsibility for your life, accept that you are the master of your destiny. Take charge and live a happy life. Learn to also take extra responsibilities and share your gifts with the world. “Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul” – Democritus. Standout tall and be happy.

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You Cannot Change the Past

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that is why they call it present”- Unknown origins. You cannot do anything to change your past neither can you delete it. But you can do something with the present to help shape your future. Look, we all have closets and in those closets are skeletons. I mean, “Some of those skeletons would even refuse to be shown to people”. Well, if you do not have skeletons, with time you will surely have them. Whether you want to share them with the world is entirely up to you. Simply put, there is no one with a perfect past.

Even the most successful and humblest of people have skeletons in their closets. I have done somethings in the past that am not proud of. Really, some of the stuff I did, if I could go back in time, equipped with the knowledge I have acquired, I would change them. Unfortunately I can’t neither can you. I am here and doing what am doing mostly because of my past.

Your past experience helped to shape your present. You therefore, need to learn to live and appreciate your past, good or bad. What we should be preoccupied with is trying our level best to lay a better foundation for the future.

You cannot make progress by dwelling on your past. The past is history. Its gone, let go of it. You cannot continue crying over spilt milk. You can only embrace and accept the past. Learn from it and move on. I believe that there are lessons we can take from our past, that can be taken into the future. Growth demands that we learn from the mistakes we made and from the people around us. Human beings tend to be more wiser as they grow older. They say experience is the greatest teacher. If you cannot learn from your past experiences, well then you must be un trainable. But I believe that all human beings are trainable.

The Importance of Learning from Your Past

You cannot expect different results if you keep on doing the same things over and over. You cannot expect to succeed if there is nothing you are doing about it. If you believe that practice makes perfect; you need to change your belief system. I grew up believing that practice makes perfect until, I learned that practice makes room for improvement which leads to improved results. Learning from the past is what gives us wisdom. It is what makes us grow. Sometimes am left wondering what is wrong with our current generation. We want to start climbing the tree of success from the top. We want to experience success without going through the mill.

When things go wrong do not go with them. You will agree with me that wisdom comes with experience and experience comes with age. Every little positive change that you make in life is important. It takes you closer to your goals. We must realise that change is not sudden and is not easy. Just because you made a mistake at your last job and got fired does not mean you must give up. Get up and accept your mistakes and take responsibility for them. Learn from them and stop blaming your boss for having you fired, he was merely doing his job. I know its not easy when you lose a job especially in the current economic situations. But I believe that God allows such things to happen so as to position you for better things to come.

Learning from our past experiences cannot be over emphasised. It is of paramount importance that we all learn from our past experiences. It all begins by first knowing ourselves better. Over the last few years I have become an ardent student of my self. You heard me right a student of myself. You will be amazed to learn that most of us do not know ourselves very well. The fact that I now understand my self better than before is very helpful in my everyday life. I know when to do things more efficiently and what conditions I will thrive in at any particular time. I have learnt over time what sort of music will motivate me to write articles and will influence my working mood. All this has come by seriously paying attention to my self.

Live Life in the Present

Well, it is good to reminiscence about the past. But, this should not be your preoccupation because no matter how good your past was it is but history. Yes, it was good while it lasted. Life dictates that we move forward. If you are not moving forward then you are moving backwards. Life is never static. Charles Haanel in his book the Master Key says “Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, eminence flows progress.” My understanding of this is that if your life is not moving forward or rather if you are not taking action, opportunity will surely pass you by. There comes a time in ones life when things seem be impossible. That is when we are required to show our strength and tenacity.

I have a very good friend of mine, I wont mention his name for now. Actually his my childhood friend. This is a very intelligent and brilliant guy but has failed to progress because he still lives in the past. He has literally failed to move on in life. Every time we meet our discussions are mostly centred on the past and he never seems to focus on the future. This is a guy that has gone from being one of the most promising talents in his field to being one of the most an reliable employee. All this simply because of not accepting his previous mistakes and learning from them, and as a result opportunities have passed him by because he still lives in his past glory.

What am trying to say is that we must learn to live in the present. Enjoy today. Remember today is called present. It is your present from God Almighty. Make sure you do the right things. Do not take things for granted. Take every opportunity that comes your way with both hands and live your life.

Conclusion

I would like to leave you with one of my favourite prayers “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. For me this prayer summarises what we need to do in life. It recognises the fact that we cannot change the past and that a bright future belongs to the courageous. Have a wonderful and successful live and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Life is Like a Seed that Needs to be Nurtured

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and Nourish that Seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to Be at the Centre of Your Plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.

Conclusion

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go to waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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To change is to be progressive

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail. One of the biggest stumbling block to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I personally have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn from every challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines. With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when write a song later alone sing it.

You have the capacity to change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we prepare for the future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within our own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life. Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.

Conclusion

If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albeit Einstein. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in the moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenges and controversy” – Martin Luther King Jr. As human beings, we have a natural tendency to wanting to do the easier things in life. I guess this is how we are wired. However, you will realise that if you want to grow and succeed, as an individual, you better get used to doing the heavy stuff as well. Doing the things that you are not used to. The things that you like to postpone. The things that make you uncomfortable are the things that really help you grow. Not all things are easy the first time. But with practice and perseverance, they become easier, lighter and enjoyable.

There is usually no growth in times of good. In times of plenty, we normally concentrate on enjoying the rewards. However, life demands that we constantly grow in everything that we do. This month I have dedicated to write and post 29 articles. I am already behind. Not that I want to give excuses but this is the reality of it. Writing on a daily basis is an unfamiliar territory for me. I have had a few other personal challenges that have hindered my progress but to talk about them would be like to give excuses. I would rather pick it up from here and see how far I can go. I guess it will be worthwhile to review and measure my performance at the end of the challenge. I take full responsibility for it.

They say all growth comes from within. The ability to grow is implanted within each and every one of us. If you really want to grow, be it financial growth or personal development you need to start nurturing the seed of growth within you. Personal development and growth are like a mustard seed. You plant a small seed, with care and nurturing, it grows into a tree. All things take time but, better things take even longer to produce.  They say good wine takes time to mature. The longer it takes the better the quality. Likewise, if you are working on a good project, you should not expect immediate results. You will need to overcome failure and many other obstacles before you see the fruits of your labour. Most of the times there is a thin line between success and failure. Most people give up just before they strike gold.

Endurance is key

Without perseverance and endurance, there is no success. Without endurance, there is no real growth. If there is a formula for personal growth I would say, “hard or smart work + persistence + endurance = success”. Let’s take a college student, for them to get good grades, they have to work hard or smart and endure the long hours of sleepless nights of studying. When I was studying computer programming I would study into the wee hours of the night before going to bed. As a student, I had to endure the sleepless nights and persistently pursued my studies. Without which I would not have graduated.

I guess endurance is a measure of how much we are willing to go, in order to achieve certain objectives. I believe that all great inventors had to endure and conquered failure many times. Without endurance, we would not have achieved even the little that has been accomplished. You may not realise it but you have made certain sacrifices and have come out strong, it could be positive or negative we all have experienced endurance.

How motivated are you?

What contribution are you giving to humanity? Are you spending 8 hours a day doing something that does not inspire you? Are you just doing time? What will you leave because you came on earth? These few questions keep me motivated to continue writing and pursuing my life’s purpose. I believe that the most important day in one’s life is when they realise what their purpose is. When they realise why they wake up in the morning and do what they need to do on a daily basis. There is a saying that the moment you are born the body begins to prepare for death. When you were born they dug your grave and put the dirt on the right side. When you die they will put the dirt on the left side.

Unfortunately, the reality of life is that many of us will not be remembered after some time. And many of us will not even be known that we ever lived on this earth. I believe that one day we will be made to account for the time we spent on this beautiful planet. We, therefore, must make good of it. But to achieve this we must do things that keep motivating us to achieve our life’s purposes. That is why it is important to do things that make you happy on a daily basis. One of the best ways to be happy is to earn a living doing the things that make you happy.

Conclusion

Personal growth and development are usually achieved when we are going through challenges. They call them trying moments, meaning they are not permanent. “How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you become after the game, whether you are a winner or a loser” – Lou Holtz.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Get set, ready, steady go. The challenge starts today. The die is cast. There is no turning back. This is the beginning of the month-long article posting challenge. In my previous post, I made a public declaration and challenged myself to a daily article posting challenge for the month of February. Well, the month is right upon us. This is the first post for the challenge. At the end of this month, we should have a minimum of 29 articles of good value. The month has already started with challenges for me and I need to quickly learn how to navigate through them without disturbing my 29 Days challenge. I know that I will face a lot of them, but what will determine my success are the learning points that I will take from them.

I am not looking back but pressing ahead and see how far this challenge will take me. The beauty of it is that at the end of February  I will have moved a step closer to achieving my objective of improving my writing skills and contributing to humanity. I believe that when something is written it is indelible. Usually, we write what we believe in or what we want to say. Most of the time we convey our feelings and thoughts through writing.  The major difference between speaking and writing is the ease of reference. It is much easier to refer to written speeches. Written messages are never forgotten. Today we continue to make reference to the many quotes because they were written down.

Here are some of the key objectives of the 29 Day Challenge.

Increase content on the site

Increasing site content is a no brainer. Remember that I pledged to increase content on this site. The more articles that are posted on any site will, of course, add to the existing site content and hence increase the overall content. This is a basic SEO rule. The search engines love new content. This has the potential to greatly improve the site rankings by the search engines and therefore, increase search engine traffic to the website.

I believe that search engine traffic is the best because users reach your site through what they are searching for. They are more specific. Increased traffic means increased visibility and access to a wider audience. My hope is to reach as many people as possible. Through this am hoping to get more referral links pointing to this site. More backlinks mean more improved search engine rankings. This can only be good news for me.

Improve visitor satisfaction

Visitor satisfaction will come with the quality of the content being generated. Although visitor satisfaction will not only depend on content quality, there are many other factors that will ensure it is achieved. Some of them may beyond my control. However, I will endeavour to change those things that are within my power. I am also very much aware that you cannot please every visitor. But, I will try as much as possible to make the site user-friendly and work with more reliable and faster hosting service providers.

Improve my writing skills

They say practice makes perfect. I believe that even before I undertake this challenge, my writing skills are improving with every article I write. I can only assume that there will be a great improvement at the end of the challenge. I know that there is a lot of room for improving my writing skills. I can assure you that am constantly working to improving them on a regular basis. The better and more easily my articles are the more user satisfaction is generated.

Improve writing inspiration

Those of my friends who are artists and bloggers will understand what am saying when I say that you need the inspiration to write. It is not easy to just wake up and start writing. You need to have some kind of inspiration to put your thoughts on paper and worse still put them in a meaningful way. A musician always needs the inspiration to write and sing songs. The inspiration may come through real-life experiences and many other sources. One of the most killers of not putting down our thoughts is differing them to another time. I have learned over the years that when you feel inspired to write, don’t postpone to a later time, your thoughts will have disappeared by then. Just sit down and get going with it. Your thoughts will flow on paper. Usually, the idea is not even as clear at the beginning but as you delve into it you simply flow with it.

Conclusion

As we undertake this journey together I also challenge you to do something you have never done before. It could be exercising on a daily basis for a period of time. You could also challenge yourself to get rid of an old bad habit. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it adds more value to yourself and the world at large. I believe that we will be made to account for how we spend our time on this earth. 

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

If you are reading this article, today is the first day of the rest of your life, and you have every reason to be grateful for it. Thank God for the gift of your life. You are alive for a reason. I believe that life has always given us an opportunity for a second chance. You may not currently be in a position to afford a good life. A life that you desire. You may have messed up or have let an opportunity pass you by. Yes, life may seem to be unbearable and unfair; the doctors may have given you a bad report on your health but, that’s not the end of the world. Thank God you are still alive. Let me assure you, that for as long as you have the breadth of life in you; as long as you are alive;  you definitely have an opportunity to overcome your current challenges. Never give up because it is never too late for you to achieve your dreams. Yes, some people may seem to be far ahead of you, but always remember that you have your own life to live; and who says you should live your life based on other people’s progress?

Most of us have had a very bumpy life. Sometimes due to our own making and at times due to circumstances beyond our control. I believe that most of the circumstances we go through in life are of our own making. Meaning we have the power to change them. Most of us have given up on making progress with our lives. We have become accustomed and have accepted to living a mediocre life. When we fall down we must learn to pick ourselves up. Many of the times we will have very few people around when we have fallen down. It is at these times when we should summon all our strength and courage to stand up and keep moving. The God who has given us life also provides us with the strength and direction of our lives.

As human beings, we must embrace and be thankful that we are always given a second chance at life. Though we fall, when we have the courage to get up, God gives us more life and grace so that we can achieve our goals. Yes, I know that there are opportunities that come once in a lifetime. Some of these may not be the best ones for us. Never give up just know that God’s timing is the best. We should all bear in mind that the greatest glory of living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time you fall. Those that have succeeded have failed before. The great inventors of this world have failed many times before they succeeded and today who remembers their failures?

Have a never give up mentality

I love football and sports in general. Sportsmen and women who succeed have a never give up mentality. Sportsmen and women are impressive; the hours and days they put in training for them to show their skill only for a short period of time is amazing. Not only to show their skills but also win to matches, is out of this world. I recently watched a football match were the team I support was written off even before the beginning of the match. The only consolation I had as a supporter was that we are going to have a good game of football. But as the players entered the pitch you could see the positive mindset they were carrying. They just looked like they had already won the match. You see they had lost the first match and needed to win this one by an “impossible” scoreline against one of the very best teams. When my team scored the first goal I believed that the impossible would be possible. Well, the rest is history.

The never give up mentality should be adopted at all times. Those who never give up even in the times of adversity are bound to succeed. When you are given a second chance, embrace it with all your might and ensure that you make the best of every opportunity. Don’t be discouraged when you fail, because you have just discovered one way of not making it. I have set a one month challenge; beginning 1st February I will be posting an article every day until the month-end. This is a huge challenge for me, as I have never done this before. But I pray that God will give me a never give up mentality. A mentality to press on until I achieve the goal. I will evaluate my progress at the end of the challenge and share the experience. I am looking forward to it.

I believe that challenging our abilities is one of the best ways to ensuring and enhancing personal development and growth. I think life would be very boring without challenges. I am now developing a mentality of constantly challenging my abilities.

Enjoy your life

Learn to live a happy life. Decide to be happy every morning you wake up. Did you know that happiness is the highest level of success? One of the best ways of enjoying life is doing the things you enjoy most of the time. There is no point in living a life of grumbling every day. “Life is too short to be lived with hate and sadness” – said Nelson Mandela when he was released from prison after 27 years. He had no choice but to forgive his oppressors because he did not want to continue being their prisoner by carrying hatred in his heart. He wanted to enjoy total freedom for the rest of his life. If you are carrying hate, unforgiveness, and anger you are not free; you are a prisoner. Free yourself and begin to enjoy your life.

Happiness also comes through giving. I have great joy when I give and see the joy on the other person. I used to wonder why the bible says it is more blessed to give than to receive. I mean, after all, we all want to be on the receiving end especially good gifts. but I have learned that as a parent we are always happy to see our children enjoying the fruits of our labour. I don’t know about you but the joy I get when I have provided a solution for someone and they walk away happy is just mind-blowing. Giving may not necessarily be in monetary form. It could just be a helping hand. It could be your time or just being good to someone. There is so much we could do for the world that will put a smile on many people. Imagine living in a world full of happy people.

Conclusion

Life is only what we choose to make it. With every choice you make, you create your life. God is such a gracious father he is a God of second chances. We must learn to embrace the opportunities and chances that come our way. Many a time we will fail, but we must never give up. We must remain steadfast and focused. We must embrace failure and learn from it; we must never be defeated by it. Remember that life is built of the things we do. The small things we do every day. “In the end, it is not the years in your life that count. Its the life in your years” – Abraham Lincoln.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

What would life be like without challenges? My guess is that it would be boring, actually very boring. As days continue rolling over in the new year and as we draw close to entering in the month of love, I have set my self a 29 days challenge to be completed at the end of the month of February. The challenge is I have committed to posting an article every day in the new month. These posts could be in the form of a written article like most of them are at this point, or it could be an audio or video recordings soon to be introduced. I am hoping that this month-long challenge will help improve my dedication to providing quality content to this site and continue to add value to people’s lives, which I strongly believe am doing. This will be my first public challenge for the year and hope to introduce many more along the way.

As mentioned I have never done this before, but can only pray and hope that God Almighty gives me the grace, strength, inspiration and wisdom to produce meaningful posts for my audience. I want to believe that it is good to challenge yourself out of your comfort zone in order to achieve your aspirations. Many of the times we are content with what we have as long as it is going well. Life is full of challenges and it is wise that you prepare for them. To achieve more you need to do more. To do more you need to challenge yourself for more. You never know what life will throw your way. Most of the times we are caught off guard with the challenges that come our way. As human beings, we have the capacity to do much more than we are currently doing. The biggest stumbling block to achieving your goals is you. If you challenge yourself enough and not be content with your current situation you will definitely achieve beyond your imagination. Remember that all growth comes from inside. It takes energy to grow and that energy can only be generated by your actions.

If you feel you are not improving any more with your current situation, it may just be that you have reached your limit with the current challenge and its time to move to a new one. “Don’t limit your challenges; but challenge your limits”. Over time I have learned to embrace new challenges. If you are in a working place and are resisting change just know that it is time for you to move on. In this world, today change is inevitable if you have to stay relevant and competitive. You must always be prepared to take on new challenges. If you feel you cannot cope with the new challenge take a break and learn the skills you need. If it means going back to school to acquire the knowledge, do just that. These days education has come even closer. We live in times where there are very few excuses for not being knowledgeable, what with the internet in our homes. I have also noticed that there are now more distance learning centres than ever before, even the traditional classroom centres are also providing distance learning. This means that you can access education from anywhere in the world.

As mentioned before that this year I have set my self many challenges and one of them being the active maintenance of this site. You will see more improvements made during the year some will be visible and others will not be. Those improvements will come by way of increased articles and general site outlook; improved presentation of articles. It is my intention that I become more and more active in posting articles on this site. I will be using more and more of this platform to communicate my thoughts, I think it is long overdue that I take this site to the next level. The other challenge which I will be talking about in detail at some point is the challenge to setup a back yard garden and letter transform it into a full-blown business. Gardening has always been something I have always wanted to do. I will be doing a lot of articles on this as well. I intend to do a lot of videos and pictures to show the progress and failures of my new gardening passion. By the way, it is the first time to have my own backyard garden. Keep tuned in.

Why you should challenge yourself

Martin Luther King Jr once said “the ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moment of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy” this statement alone should be enough reason for you to challenge yourself. There are many reasons why you should challenge yourself. The more you challenge your self the more growth you experience. Remember though that you must ensure that you do not just challenge yourself, but endeavour to overcome your challenges. Those who failed are those who tried and those who succeed have at some point experienced failure. I view challenges as temporal obstacles to success. There is a very positive feeling every time you overcome a challenge. Look Brian Tracy rightly said, “it’s only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars”.

When challenging your self you are simply stepping up or preparing yourself for growth or the next level. If you are serious personal growth and development you need to continuously challenge yourself and overcoming the little obstacles that come your way.  “Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful” – Joshua J. Marine.

Conclusion

I intend to give feedback at the end of the 29 Days challenge hopefully it will be positive. I will share my experiences and lessons learned, though I pray that the results will do more speaking. I would also like to encourage you to be in the habit of challenging yourselves and following through them. By overcoming the many difficulties that life throws at us in a positive way we can help change the world for the better. For more reading on how to succeed on challenging you can read Steve Pavlina’s “The one reason, people fail at 30 Day challenges”.

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