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Time to Change Relationships that Need to be Changed

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The year 2020 will be remembered as a year that came with a lot of change. It changed the order of doing things. We were all either affected and or infected by the virus that has continued to ravage the world, the COVID-19 pandemic.

This change has been forced upon us. We have had to adapt to the new norm of doing things, such as wearing face masks, regular use of hand saniters and taking extra precaution when going out in public. Social gatherings are restricted. But, like in every other challenge some people have thrived and some have, all but complained.

The lessons taken from the preceding year are very valuable. The experiences of the closing year have taught us that we need to change some relationships going forward. There is need to readjust our lives to conform to the new order of doing things.

Humans are well known for being social in nature. In Africa we love large gatherings, be it social, political, spiritual or whatever, we just love them. However, I don’t see this coming back in the shortest possible time. Surely for as long as the COVID-19 pandemic is around, life will not be as it were before.

How to Make the Change

A nice way to make the change, as we begin the new year is to identify your relationships and evaluate them. Clarify your relationships on how you would like them to affect the various aspects of your life. Then take necessary action that you would expect to improve these relationships. You need to make rational goals.

For example the following relationships have a bearing on my life:-

  • Finances/money
  • Family
  • Work
  • Health
  • Friends
  • Spirituality
  • Website

I will take the relationship with finances/money as an example. Am sure that most of us have a story to tell on this one. If your relationship with finances is not as good as it should be, maybe you are struggling to make earns meet or maybe your current job does not pay as much as you should be getting.

List down your monthly expenses and compare them with your current income. Now, list down your desired expenditure and compare it with your current income. Your desired expenditure is what you would like to be spending on a monthly basis without stressing.

Identify and cut down on unnecessary expenditure. Find more ways to improve your earnings to supplement your current pay check. If your current job is not flexible enough to allow you to do extra work maybe, it is not the right job for you.

Invest in your skills by getting an education that will help enhance your career and productivity. Read more about how to manage finances/money. Have definite, realistic and achievable goals that will keep you motivated. Work on your goals every day.

This year I have set a target to create passive income for my self. It seems hard work for now, but I think it will pay off as this will greatly improve my income and free up time for me. I have identified a few sources that I think are worth trying out. I will be sharing during the course of the year on the progress.

You may be asking, what if you do not realise your goals within the time frame? Well you can adjust the time frame, the most important thing is, you have a target you are working towards. You have something to work with.

One of the reasons why we have a poor relationship with our finances is that we work for money instead of letting money work for us.

Set Resolutions for the Year

One way of keeping track of your progress is to have a set of written down resolutions and a habit of reviewing them on a regular basis. This year resolve to improve on your short comings. Resolve to improve on those poor relationships that are greatly affecting your life negatively.

Make resolutions and work towards achieving them. Start with a few that can easily be managed. This will encourage and challenge you to move on to those that will take you much longer and are seemingly difficult to repair or manage.

The best time for me to make resolutions is usually at the beginning of the calendar year. However, there is no rule, you can actually make them at any time of the year and begin to work on them as you please. But you must make and work them anyway.

It is a good idea to have resolutions that are precise and measurable. This way, when you are reviewing them, you will be able to determine how much progress has been made and determine if there is need for adjustment. I normally review mine on a quarterly basis.

Yes I know that sometimes I lag behind. By reviewing my resolutions on a regular basis ensures that am reminded of them and can easily get to work on improving those that have remained behind. I find it normal that there are always some that I carry forward into the following year.

Be Optimistic

To be optimistic is to be hopeful and confident about the future. Being optimistic is key in ensuring that you achieve the resolutions that you have set. It is an important ingredient to have when we have set targets for ourselves.

Otherwise there is no point in setting goals and resolutions that you are not optimistic of achieving. That is why it is important to set goals and resolutions that are fairly reasonable and achievable.

That nice feeling you get when you have accomplished a task should be repeated more often. It should be what drives you to even greater heights. You must make it your driving force and leverage on it to push you in your quest for personal development and self-growth.

Being optimistic is a great sign of confidence in what you are doing. It shows that you are in control and are expectant of positive results. Yes, sometimes results may not be as expected. But this should not make you give up.

Conclusion

If you want to succeed you must develop a habit of setting resolutions at the beginning of every year. This helps you set the tone and pace and what you are going to achieve during the year. It gives you a sense and purpose to live life. “For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent” – Tony Robbins.

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Your Attitude and Self Application Determines Your Success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

We all want to be successful. Don’t we? If you are an ambitious person, am confident that you are determined to achieve your success; that you are working round the clock to achieving your success. But being successful is not an easy fit. Because if it was, everyone one of us would have achieve our success.

The world would have been a totally different place than it is today. It would have been teeming with successful people. I can only imagine what it would have been like.

There are so many theories and formulas on how to become successful. Well,  I have not found an answer that is a one size fits all. However, reading and researching on the subject has helped me realise that there is no shot cut and substitute for hard work and self application.

Yes, you may have the desire; and that is very important; you may have the best tools at your disposal; but without the correct mental attitude and without taking action. Believe me you will not achieve your success. Why? because you will not have taken action. It is action which is very important.

To achieve your success, you need to have the right mental attitude; you need to apply yourself, because along the way you will be met with temporal setbacks. Things will not always go according to your expectations or plans. You will fall down and your attitude towards these temporal failures will largely determine how well you will achieve your success.

Your tenacity and willingness to learn from your mistakes; to know when to make adjustments; to take corrective measures where necessary will surely give you an advantage as you pursue your success. You will learn that to achieve your success you will need be a good leader of yourself. One who knows when to make drastic changes.

If you don’t apply your self you are certainly headed for failure. Sometimes, when we are faced with challenges, we always look for the easy way out. There are times I have felt like am dreaming and hope that when I wakeup, boom the problems would have disappeared.

But guess what, if you do not attend to the challenges you encounter they are surely doing more damage and will surface back to haunt you. I know for sure, that some challenges we face can be difficult to handle, but that does not mean you should turn a blind eye to them. Wakeup from your slumber and face them head on.

Keep Your Faith and Hopes Alive

The bible says “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” When feeling frustrated because of your inability to achieve your goals, there is no need to lose faith and hope. Never lose your faith and hope when faced with frustrations.

Frustrations are a part of life. They are part of the learning process. It is very important to continue persisting and keep your faith and hopes alive. Focus on the bigger picture. Develop a mental attitude that will motivate you to achieve your goals.

The frustrations and challenges we go through are merely a way of building us up. They help prepare us to handle even bigger responsibilities. You should know that being successful comes with  responsibilities. The more successful you are, the more responsibilities you carry on your shoulders.

Keep in mind the joy, feeling and benefits that accrue with accomplishing your success. I know that it is not easy to keep focused when things are not going your way. But this is the time when we should exercise our faith and hope in God Almighty. The bible encourages us to put our plans in Gods hands. Believe me, he is faithful to those who are faithful to him.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is having faith without works. Yes it is good to have faith, but the bible says that “faith without works is dead.” Faith alone cannot save you. You need to take action on your faith to produce results. To achieve your success you need to take action on your faith.

How then do you develop this faith? Well, the bible says “faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.” The preceding statement is very loud and clear. You cannot develop faith without hearing about it.

Now, with so many tools at our disposal we have no excuse to not have heard about the word of God. The bible is a source of inspiration for me. I encourage you to develop a habit of spending time reading and practising the word of God.

Do Not be Afraid of Your Failures

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives” so says Newell D. Hillis. “Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go” – William Feather.

If you want to be successful you should not be afraid of failing. Failure is synonymous with success. Those who have succeeded have failed before. The more you fail the greater the chance of success. Well you may not agree with all these statements.

But the truth of the matter is you will never succeed without failure. So you might as well get used to the fact that being afraid will only prolong or indeed deter your from your success. Get over with being afraid of the unknown.

It is time for you to put your plans to action; to begin to realise those dreams. The more you act on your plans the more fearless you become. Sometimes I feel fear is just a state of mind or rather laziness. Yes, laziness. I believe that it is better to die trying than not to try at all. “I failed my way to success” –
Thomas Edison.

Conclusion

How far you go in life is largely determined by how far you are willing to go. In other words you determine the level of your success by the actions you take. I found this article on how to increase your success chances very helpful check it out. Unit next time remember that “your action and and self application determines your success.”

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Challenges Require Us to Conquer Them

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Life is full of challenges. Everyday comes with its own challenges. If you give up, you are acknowledging failure. You are embracing failure. We were designed to overcome all difficulties that come our way. I don’t know what you are facing but I know that you are sorely responsible for your life. “How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you become after the game, whether you are a winner or a loser” – Lou Holtz.

It is your responsibility to do your very best to overcome all issues that come with life. If you sit and wait for someone, they will never show up. It is entirely up you to do something about it. Get up and get moving for challenges do not last a life time, they last, but a moment.

Challenges are a sign of things to come. They are merely a test of your mental attitude and character. The challenges we go through in our life help build our characters. The way you handle your current challenges determines how far you will go in achieving your success. Surely success does not come easily. It does not come on a silver platter.

If it were easy we would all be successful and am sure that life would be boring. There would be no motivation to life. Challenges help us find solutions to life. “Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful” – Joshua J. Marine.

In your journey to succeed you will fail many times but that should not stop you from reaching your goals. Problems are temporal, they are the path to success. You will achieve whatever you set your mind on, but that does not mean it will come without great cost. Every good thing comes at a high cost. There is always a price to pay for you to enjoy long lasting success.

One of the biggest problems I have noticed especially with the current generation is wanting to cut corners. Wanting to compete with other people. Measuring success by possessional materials. Being envious of other peoples achievements. Just because you have seen your friend seemingly doing fine, you also want to do the same. No! live your own life.

Learn How to Handle Your Own Your Challenges

I believe that there are no problems that are insurmountable. In my life I have faced some very challenging situations that at times have left me feeling helpless. Some of the problems are as a result of my bad decisions and some are not of my own making. But in all, I have learnt to handle them positively.

I remember the first time I lost my job due to restructuring. It was very difficult to comprehend then and it actually took me sometime to open up and start telling people about it. I thought it was the end of the world. Maybe, the only consolation then was that I was still very young and learning life.

It took me some time to actually come to terms with the fact that I was un employed. Young as I was, I had to re-focus my life. I know that its not easy when you have lost your only source of income. But there is always a way out. Sometimes things happen for us to see the other side of life. Losing a source of income is not the end of your life but rather it is the beginning of a new challenge in your life.

Stop complaining about not having an income and start working on your next big income stream. If you can see the invisible you can achieve the impossible. Start seeing the invisible. If promotion is not coming, what are you doing about it? If you are looking for a huge business contract are you ready for it? Are you prepared to handle the many responsibilities that come with huge business contracts?

The thing is, you may be going through challenges right now but, you are not the only one. Learn from your current situation and get ready for the next big step in your life. God blesses people he can trust. He blesses people who are ready and willing to take the challenge.

Keep Moving Forward

When you are faced with problems the most important thing to do is to keep moving forward. Yes, sometimes it seems impossible to even just motivate yourself, but just keep moving anyway. Ever since I took on the journey of personal development I have learned that not all days are the same. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose.

But even in your loss there is a pinch of victory, because you will have learned how not to fail. You may not notice it, but you are slowly growing as you move forward. I like giving the example of my website, every time I successfully publish an article, I know that am moving forward.

The more I write the more I move forward, the more I move forward, the closer I get to achieving my dream of building a reputable and successful personal development and self growth website. For me the main focus and motivation for this site is to encourage someone to achieve their dreams.

Look, if I can contribute in a small way am more than happy to do that. I am not perfect but more than willing to help. And you know this site is also a source of motivation for me that is why I intend to keep providing free self improvement content and materials.

Conclusion

Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars” – Brian Tracy. I would like encourage you to take steps that will help you to overcome life’s challenges. After all challenges are what make us grow. When you where a baby you had to overcome the fear of falling when learning how to walk. You were fearless. Get back that attitude and start overcoming your current situation. Bye and remember to conquer your challenges.

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Adversity Introduces You to Yourself

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or greater Benefit” – Napoleon Hill. We have all experienced misfortunes. Some have come out scathed and bruised and some have come out un scathed. There are many lessons we learn when faced with adversity.

Goals are like the stars; they are always there. Adversity is like the clouds; they are temporary and will move on. Keep your eyes focused on the stars. Your goals will always be there. But for you to reach them they will always be challenges. The adversities we face in life are what makes us grow.

The highest courage is to dare to be yourself in the face of adversity. Choosing right over wrong, ethics over convenience, and truth over popularity. These are the choices that measure your life. Travel the path of integrity without looking back, for there will never be a wrong time to do the right thing. Focus your mind on what is right and not on who is right.

When you are deep in the middle of the storm, when you are at your darkest moments of your life. You have tried everything you can and nothing seems to be working. Am sure you can relate to this situation. At moments like this is when most people will just give up. They will throw in the towel. But do you know that if you have to achieve personal development it comes with a high price. In fact the greater your achievement the high the price.

If you have been told that personal growth is easy, get it from me that is not true. There is no quick fix to personal Development. I have never found one. The only formula I have found is being persistent and getting up when I fall. I have refused to accept defeat. Yes, sometimes it feels like nothing is going my way. But I keep pushing sometimes not for myself but for the sake of my family and the people around me.

When you are faced with life’s challenges do not be quick to point at your failures. Do not play the blame game. But instead its time to summon your inner self and focus your energies on facing the challenges with a positive attitude.

After Adversity Comes Rewards

No adversity lasts forever. Misfortunes come and go. “Weeping may endure for a night but Joy comes in the morning” – Psalms. God always gives a way where there seems to be no way. He is always by your side if only you can pay attention to his counsel and direction. I want to believe that when we overcome challenges we grow to another level. It is our responsibility to triumph over them. “Adversity is the diamond dust that heaven polishes its jewels with. large sailing ship moving onward” – Leighton.

Those who have succeeded know that they will fail, not just once but many times. They learn lessons from the failures they endure. They never give up when faced with adversity. If you are not prepared to overcome challenges, then you are not prepared for success.  I believe that hard times prepare us for better ones to come. For to he who is given more, more of him is required. Great success comes with great responsibility.

There is no way you will succeed without going through the mill, never. Otherwise we would all be successful. Everyone of us would be enjoying a successful life. Every storm that comes your way is followed with calmness. For every mountain you climb is followed by great rewards. Do not give up and slide back when climbing your mountains.

Yes, the maintain may be marred with mud but keep your mind focused on the reward that follows. The mud will be dry for you to step on and move forward with a ease. Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I’ll show you someone who has overcome adversity.

We all face different challenges everyday of our lives. Some challenges seem insurmountable, some seem obvious. There is no one size fits all solution to overcoming them. It calls on one using there own wisdom and intuition to tackling them. I Personally prepare my day by saying a prayer early in the morning.

Thanking God Almighty for giving me the opportunity, to serve him; the opportunity to enjoy life;  the privilege to interact with people and for the grace to write articles. I also thank him for what he has prepared for me for the day. I refuse to be negative. Early in the morning I make the decision to be happy.

I always include my family in the prayer. I seek for God’s guidance, protection and wisdom. They say prayer moves mountains.

Conclusion

I would like to end with one of my favourite prayers “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. Its always a pleasure to write for your bye and remember to “standout tall”.

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At the Heart of Every Obstacle Lies an Opportunity

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There is no short cut. Victory lies in overcoming obstacles everyday“. When life takes a turn and brings about an unexpected obstacles, we react with our emotions. One may face fear, resentment, anger and doubt. It is absolutely humane to react in this manner. Sometimes the obstacles may seem impossible to overcome. They may seem bigger than we can handle. The bigger the problem the more the rewards. I read a story that changed my perspective to the way I view challenges. This story illustrates the opportunities that lies at the heart of every obstacle.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying on the road where the boulder had been.

The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

Change your Attitude

On the path to success always lies big O’s. Some read them as Obstacles, and others read them as Opportunities.

Off course the peasant in the story had to remove the boulder to clear his way, but in doing so he got rewarded. Going round it is was the easy way out. But, then this would not have solved anything and he would have missed out on the unseen reward. He decided to confront the obstacle head on and got his reward. You, see apart from just the gold that he received he also demonstrated responsibility. Just the act of him removing the boulder benefited more people than just him.

Now, we all know that responsibility is a big part of personal development. It is one of the key areas of personal growth and self improvement.

The other lesson learned from the story is that nature is neutral and it pays you for your efforts. Am very sure that if the king had mentioned about the reward the peasant would not have been the one to receive it as they were other people before him. I guess the peasant’s positive attitude towards problem solving was more at play than anything.

Most of the time we miss out on opportunities that could be life changing, all because of our negative attitude. Usually, the hindrances, presented, are telling us something. If you take time and analyse the problem, if you look at it with a positive mind set, it could be pointing you in the right direction for your much needed solution.

Change your attitude, and start looking at challenges with a more positive mental attitude. Overcoming challenges in life is what constitutes personal development. Whatever problems you are facing right now, there is a lesson that life is trying to teach you and they will not get fixed until you learn that lesson.

Learn from your Current Obstacle (s)

To reach maximum potential one must continuously be learning from life. Everyday is an opportunity to improve our lives. The small things that we do are adding up to our lives. We must make a deliberate habit of learning from our daily challenges. You may not be where you want to be in life. Life may have turned out to be what you did not expect. Well, know that you are not alone, there are people in much more difficult situations than you.

The good news though, is that you have built up a wealth of knowledge from your current situation. Armed with it you can change the course of you life. You have gained valuable experiences that have shown you the results of the choices and decisions you have previously made. If you want to make a positive change, you now know what not to do based on your life’s understandings.

I believe you are more and better equipped than before. The hurdles we face in life merely give us a chance to look at things differently. Sometimes, we are so fixed on one thing and do not look at the other side and then bang, we are faced with an obstacle and realise that there is another way of looking at things. The most important thing is not to lose focus and never give-up when faced with adversities. But, use them as a learning base.

Conclusion

Entrepreneurs are simply those who understand that there is little difference between obstacle and opportunity, and are able to turn both to their advantage” – Victor Kiam. The classic story in this article is really an eye opener. It is worth learning from. The story tells many stories and I know that if analysed even further, you will be able to deduce much more from it than I have. You must always try to solve problems than going round them. This is the only way we can help make the world a better place. Standout and always see the opportunity in the obstacles that lie ahead.

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Responsibility is a Source of Happiness

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Happiness is not by chance, but by choice” – Jim Rohn. There is a very big relationship between taking more responsibility and being happy. These two thing are intertwined. The more responsible you are the more you enjoy happiness. Being responsible can be a source of great happiness. I have been doing a simple study on people who are seemingly enjoying happiness and have noticed that among the most common factors they share, is that they have taken up more responsibilities in their circles. These are the people who are in the driving seat of their lives.

Following up on this study I decided to take more responsibility, firstly with my own life. Yes, my own life. Most of us are not responsible for our own lives. We live under the shadows of other people. We only want to take responsibility when the right outcomes are achieved, sometimes even for the things that should not even be credited to us. I have seen this type of behaviour especially with our friends in the political world. There is a tendency of wanting to be praised for other peoples efforts.

But also amongst my peers. There is this tendency of only wanting to take credit when things are right, but we do not even want to take full responsibility when our actions are wrong. We always want to blame someone else or give excuses.

Taking Responsibility Puts You in the Drivers Seat

Look, when you take full responsibility for your life, you simply takeover the driving seat. You are in charge. You will accept when things are bad. Being in the driving seat is usually a source of happiness. It gives me joy when a plan comes together. You are happiest when things go according to your plan. If you are in charge you will quickly put up corrective measures when things are drifting away.  “Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action” – William James.

Taking up responsibility is also an indication of being a good leader. Remember, we are all leaders of our own lives and I believe that at some point you will be made to account for the actions you take in life. The quicker you realise it the better for you.

Personal growth and development is all about taking responsibility for all your actions and not just some. If you want to achieve serious self growth you need to start taking charge of your life. Do not let your mood be determined by other people, they may dampen it. This means taking control of your thoughts, as they are responsible for your emotions; taking control of your emotions as these may lead you to act on impulse. Usually, your predominant thoughts will dictate the state of your mood.

Make a Conscious Decision to be Responsible

The best time to consciously make decisions is in the morning. I have made it a point that every morning before my day gets hectic a decision is made that I will stay focused, be happy and responsible for my actions. Look, no one will make a decision for you unless you approve of it. If you live an unhappy life its your decision; if you are not in charge of your life its your decision. All in all the power to decide is within you. Learn to use it properly.

There is something about doing certain things early in the morning. Your mind just remains focused on them. I usually read through my writing ideas every night before sleeping and every morning when I wake up. Ever since I started this practice, my productivity levels have just been going up. How I wish this had started sometime back. Am writing and publishing articles on a regular basis.

I have taken full responsibility for my actions both positive and negative. On the days that I am not writing I take time to improve my writing skills by reading; researching, listening and watching motivational videos among other things. Yes, sometimes I have to force myself to do these things but I have made it a point that they are done. This is all, is a result of a single decision I make in the morning and that is to be responsible.

Sharing is Caring

They say sharing is caring. Some people find it had to share anything. If they have to share, it is those things that have no meaning and value to them. In other words they share what they call scraps. Well, I guess its human nature but I feel that it is wrong. I read somewhere that all habits are learnable good or bad. This is true. If you can learn bad habits you can also un learn them and replace them with good habits.

There is always something you can share. Sometimes people have lame excuses for not sharing. You will be amazed that the little you think you have some people do not have. I practice an open door policy and have taught my children to always learn to share. I know that sometimes its had, but we must share anyhow. Sharing does not necessarily mean giving out handouts in form of money, it could just be sharing your time to help out someone in need of your skills.

I know that if we all developed and practiced the habit of sharing, the world would be a much much better place. Sharing is also a source of happiness. Let me ask you a question. How do you feel when you see the joy on someone’s face all because you shared something with them? Exactly, that’s why you must share unconditionally more often. When you share do not expect anything back, you are not in control of them. If you expect anything in return more often than not you will be disappointed.

Conclusion

I would like to end by encouraging you to develop the habit of taking responsibility for your life, accept that you are the master of your destiny. Take charge and live a happy life. Learn to also take extra responsibilities and share your gifts with the world. “Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul” – Democritus. Standout tall and be happy.

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You Cannot Change the Past

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that is why they call it present”- Unknown origins. You cannot do anything to change your past neither can you delete it. But you can do something with the present to help shape your future. Look, we all have closets and in those closets are skeletons. I mean, “Some of those skeletons would even refuse to be shown to people”. Well, if you do not have skeletons, with time you will surely have them. Whether you want to share them with the world is entirely up to you. Simply put, there is no one with a perfect past.

Even the most successful and humblest of people have skeletons in their closets. I have done somethings in the past that am not proud of. Really, some of the stuff I did, if I could go back in time, equipped with the knowledge I have acquired, I would change them. Unfortunately I can’t neither can you. I am here and doing what am doing mostly because of my past.

Your past experience helped to shape your present. You therefore, need to learn to live and appreciate your past, good or bad. What we should be preoccupied with is trying our level best to lay a better foundation for the future.

You cannot make progress by dwelling on your past. The past is history. Its gone, let go of it. You cannot continue crying over spilt milk. You can only embrace and accept the past. Learn from it and move on. I believe that there are lessons we can take from our past, that can be taken into the future. Growth demands that we learn from the mistakes we made and from the people around us. Human beings tend to be more wiser as they grow older. They say experience is the greatest teacher. If you cannot learn from your past experiences, well then you must be un trainable. But I believe that all human beings are trainable.

The Importance of Learning from Your Past

You cannot expect different results if you keep on doing the same things over and over. You cannot expect to succeed if there is nothing you are doing about it. If you believe that practice makes perfect; you need to change your belief system. I grew up believing that practice makes perfect until, I learned that practice makes room for improvement which leads to improved results. Learning from the past is what gives us wisdom. It is what makes us grow. Sometimes am left wondering what is wrong with our current generation. We want to start climbing the tree of success from the top. We want to experience success without going through the mill.

When things go wrong do not go with them. You will agree with me that wisdom comes with experience and experience comes with age. Every little positive change that you make in life is important. It takes you closer to your goals. We must realise that change is not sudden and is not easy. Just because you made a mistake at your last job and got fired does not mean you must give up. Get up and accept your mistakes and take responsibility for them. Learn from them and stop blaming your boss for having you fired, he was merely doing his job. I know its not easy when you lose a job especially in the current economic situations. But I believe that God allows such things to happen so as to position you for better things to come.

Learning from our past experiences cannot be over emphasised. It is of paramount importance that we all learn from our past experiences. It all begins by first knowing ourselves better. Over the last few years I have become an ardent student of my self. You heard me right a student of myself. You will be amazed to learn that most of us do not know ourselves very well. The fact that I now understand my self better than before is very helpful in my everyday life. I know when to do things more efficiently and what conditions I will thrive in at any particular time. I have learnt over time what sort of music will motivate me to write articles and will influence my working mood. All this has come by seriously paying attention to my self.

Live Life in the Present

Well, it is good to reminiscence about the past. But, this should not be your preoccupation because no matter how good your past was it is but history. Yes, it was good while it lasted. Life dictates that we move forward. If you are not moving forward then you are moving backwards. Life is never static. Charles Haanel in his book the Master Key says “Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, eminence flows progress.” My understanding of this is that if your life is not moving forward or rather if you are not taking action, opportunity will surely pass you by. There comes a time in ones life when things seem be impossible. That is when we are required to show our strength and tenacity.

I have a very good friend of mine, I wont mention his name for now. Actually his my childhood friend. This is a very intelligent and brilliant guy but has failed to progress because he still lives in the past. He has literally failed to move on in life. Every time we meet our discussions are mostly centred on the past and he never seems to focus on the future. This is a guy that has gone from being one of the most promising talents in his field to being one of the most an reliable employee. All this simply because of not accepting his previous mistakes and learning from them, and as a result opportunities have passed him by because he still lives in his past glory.

What am trying to say is that we must learn to live in the present. Enjoy today. Remember today is called present. It is your present from God Almighty. Make sure you do the right things. Do not take things for granted. Take every opportunity that comes your way with both hands and live your life.

Conclusion

I would like to leave you with one of my favourite prayers “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. For me this prayer summarises what we need to do in life. It recognises the fact that we cannot change the past and that a bright future belongs to the courageous. Have a wonderful and successful live and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Life is Like a Seed that Needs to be Nurtured

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and Nourish that Seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to Be at the Centre of Your Plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.

Conclusion

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go to waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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To Change is to Be Progressive

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn From Every Challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines.

With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow of doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when writing a song lateron sing it.

You Have the Capacity to Change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we Prepare for the Future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within your own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life.

Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.

Conclusion

If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albeit Einstein. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in the moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenges and controversy” – Martin Luther King Jr. As human beings, we have a natural tendency to wanting to do the easier things in life. I guess this is how we are wired. However, you will realise that if you want to grow and succeed, as an individual, you better get used to doing the heavy stuff as well. Doing the things that you are not used to. The things that you like to postpone. The things that make you uncomfortable are the things that really help you grow. Not all things are easy the first time. But with practice and perseverance, they become easier, lighter and enjoyable.

There is usually no growth in times of good. In times of plenty, we normally concentrate on enjoying the rewards. However, life demands that we constantly grow in everything that we do. This month I have dedicated to write and post 29 articles. I am already behind. Not that I want to give excuses but this is the reality of it. Writing on a daily basis is an unfamiliar territory for me. I have had a few other personal challenges that have hindered my progress but to talk about them would be like to give excuses. I would rather pick it up from here and see how far I can go. I guess it will be worthwhile to review and measure my performance at the end of the challenge. I take full responsibility for it.

They say all growth comes from within. The ability to grow is implanted within each and every one of us. If you really want to grow, be it financial growth or personal development you need to start nurturing the seed of growth within you. Personal development and growth are like a mustard seed. You plant a small seed, with care and nurturing, it grows into a tree. All things take time but, better things take even longer to produce.  They say good wine takes time to mature. The longer it takes the better the quality. Likewise, if you are working on a good project, you should not expect immediate results. You will need to overcome failure and many other obstacles before you see the fruits of your labour. Most of the times there is a thin line between success and failure. Most people give up just before they strike gold.

Endurance is key

Without perseverance and endurance, there is no success. Without endurance, there is no real growth. If there is a formula for personal growth I would say, “hard or smart work + persistence + endurance = success”. Let’s take a college student, for them to get good grades, they have to work hard or smart and endure the long hours of sleepless nights of studying. When I was studying computer programming I would study into the wee hours of the night before going to bed. As a student, I had to endure the sleepless nights and persistently pursued my studies. Without which I would not have graduated.

I guess endurance is a measure of how much we are willing to go, in order to achieve certain objectives. I believe that all great inventors had to endure and conquered failure many times. Without endurance, we would not have achieved even the little that has been accomplished. You may not realise it but you have made certain sacrifices and have come out strong, it could be positive or negative we all have experienced endurance.

How Motivated are You?

What contribution are you giving to humanity? Are you spending 8 hours a day doing something that does not inspire you? Are you just doing time? What will you leave because you came on earth? These few questions keep me motivated to continue writing and pursuing my life’s purpose. I believe that the most important day in one’s life is when they realise what their purpose is. When they realise why they wake up in the morning and do what they need to do on a daily basis. There is a saying that the moment you are born the body begins to prepare for death. When you were born they dug your grave and put the dirt on the right side. When you die they will put the dirt on the left side.

Unfortunately, the reality of life is that many of us will not be remembered after some time. And many of us will not even be known that we ever lived on this earth. I believe that one day we will be made to account for the time we spent on this beautiful planet. We, therefore, must make good of it. But to achieve this we must do things that keep motivating us to achieve our life’s purposes. That is why it is important to do things that make you happy on a daily basis. One of the best ways to be happy is to earn a living doing the things that make you happy.

Conclusion

Personal growth and development are usually achieved when we are going through challenges. They call them trying moments, meaning they are not permanent. “How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you become after the game, whether you are a winner or a loser” – Lou Holtz.

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