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Do Not Allow Fear to Hold You Back

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Courage is not the absence of fear. Fear is an emotion that is experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger. The emotion of fear usually triggers negative thoughts and feelings. We all have experienced fear before and continue to do so every now and again. For some it could be the fear of heights; the fear to tell our story because we are scared of being embarrassed.

The fear of failure to venture into something new. Does this sound like you? Fear comes in many ways. For some the shear thought of living their comfort zone sends chills in their spine. We fail because we lack enough courage to overcome our fears.

Although fear can help us make necessary preparations to avoid certain calamities, it can also be quite devastating on our lives. It can have long term negative effects. It can lead to physical and psychological challenges. Fear has stopped most of us from fully, enjoying our God given lives. “To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong” – Joseph Chilton Pearce.

Many studies that have been conducted reveal that “Fear causes worry. Worry makes you tense and nervous and affects the nerves of your stomach and actually changes the gastric juices of your stomach from normal to abnormal and often leads to stomach ulcers.”

This means that fear can eat you alive without you knowing. Dr. Joseph F. Montague, author of the book Nervous Stomach Trouble, says “You do not get stomach ulcers from what you eat. However, you get ulcers from what is eating you.” This is how much you can be destroyed by fear.

Let Go of Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure” –  Marianne Williamson. If you want to accomplish much in life, you need to let go of your fears. Especially the fear of failure.

Those who have accomplished beyond average are those who have learned to overcome their fears. It does not necessarily mean they are not afraid, they have just learned to have more courage and less fear. The more courage you develop the more fearless you become.

One of the ways to let go of fear is staying positive on your goals; staying true to goals. Focusing on the benefits and achievements that will accrue with your goals.

When you start to feel anxious remember that it is normal. It only becomes abnormal when you let anxiety stop you from your goals. This is what has killed most of us. We have allowed anxiety to take centre stage in our lives.

Focusing on your goals makes you motivated to achieving them. Yes, you may not achieve your goals the first time and neither will you the second time. But every time you take a step you move towards achieving your them. With every step and effort that you make you become less and less fearful.

I know that at times it can be very difficult to stay positive, but that is the essence of personal development and self improvement; that is life. It is to always find ways and means to overcoming your limitations and challenges.

You could try the following tips to help you stay motivated:-

  • Showing gratitude to others – I believe that showing gratitude is a sign of appreciation. It is a sign of being thankful. I believe that it is just humane to say thank you when you have been served. It is appreciating the effort that someone has put in to serving you.
  • Keep learning every day – This will take you away from your daily routine which sometimes could become boring. Besides learning is the corner stone of life. It is the holy grail of self improvement. The more you learn the more you become. If you want to achieve more you must become more. Be open minded to learning. Knowledge is one of the very few things that you will be buried with. Knowledge is personal to holder.
  • Lend a helping hand – Humanity was created to core exist. We have just lost it along the way, because of our selfish motives and petty jealousy. I know for sure that many of us derive satisfaction when we lend a helping hand. There is goodness in everyone of us.
  • Live for yourself – You are not in competition with anyone. You are your own competition. Move at your own pace and most of all learn to enjoy your life. Find something that you love to do and get on with it. Something that make you happy.
  • List your positive things in life – We all have done somethings that we are proud of. No matter how insignificant they are. They might seem small but when listed they add up.  It is important to list them and make reference to them every now and again. You will be amazed at the list you could come up with. This will always remind you of them and how it feels when you accomplish something you are proud of. You will more often than not try to replicate that feeling.

Conclusion

Only when we are not afraid do we begin to live” – Dorothy Thompson. I would like to conclude by encouraging you not to let fear stand in your way. You can achieve whatever you set your mind on only if you can be less fearful and be more courageous. “Feel the fear and do it any way”. Remember to be courageous and fearless. For more reading please follow this link.

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Inspiration

The Most Important Change Begins With You

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The fact that you are still alive and still on this earth, going through what you are going through, I want you to know that God has a plan for you. Look around and dig deep inside you and begin to work on the inner you. If you have to succeed you have to know that the most important change begins with you. You possess all that you need to achieve your goals.

Stop complaining about how over weight you are, when you are eating anything that comes around and not going to to the gym. Don’t complain about the quality of your life if you are not doing anything to improve it. You have no right to complain about your pay when you are not not doing a thing to improve your skills. Change your mind and begin living a life of happiness.

Living happy is not a just an opportunity or a privilege. You have a responsibility to enjoy happiness. Decide and determine your own happiness.

You hold the key to change your life. Why are you complaining about how bad things are around you, If you are surrounding yourself with them? Begin by changing your mind and the way you look at things. Why are you complaining about the quality of friends you have when you entertain them?

Just because you have been invited doesn’t mean you have to attend. Just because someone has called you doesn’t  mean you have to call them back. If you are in a pub and someone is offering you alcohol doesn’t mean you have to consume it. You have the power to say no. Quit giving those lame excuses, you have the will power to do the right things.

Just because your homey’s are partying doesn’t mean you have to party. You have a responsibility to your own life. Just because you are down doesn’t mean you cannot get up. You will fall many times before you succeed. Just like like a baby falls many times when learning how to walk. Just because you have made mistakes in life doesn’t mean that’s the end of the world. Who does not make mistakes?

Change Your Mind and Change Your Life

If you are down, get up. Its time to make that important change and move your life to another level. Stop feeling pity for yourself. Yes, you are the reason why you are not employed. You are the one in that unhealthy relationship. But, what are you doing about it? You can change the way you feel by changing the way you think.

Self pity will only make you more miserable and sad. Self pity will not change anything; complaining will even compound your situation. Get a grip on your life by changing the way you think. Look, if you are not in control of your life someone else is. Someone else is making decisions for you; someone else is determining how much you should be paid.

When you change your mind set new doors begin to open up. You begin to write a whole new, better chapter of your life. You begin to possess the very things that you long for in your life. The talents, ideas, the gifts and imaginations you have all begin to come to life. Do not let your poverty mentality determine your destiny.

You begin to attract the very things that have eluded you before.  Look, God created you to succeed. Even before he created this world he had you in mind. Don’t allow your mind to be a stumbling block to your destiny. Do not be afraid of the unknown. If you can see the invisible you can do the impossible. Venture into the unknown and stop being afraid of the unfamiliar.

Your mind is the biggest asset and tool for improving your well being. It is in your mind that change is cultivated, nurtured and birthed. “Everything changes when you change” – Jim Rohn.

Why Important Change is Valuable

Change makes you break your cycle. It motivates you to look beyond your comfort zone. Change makes you venture into new dimensions of your life. It exposes you to things that you never would have experienced. With change you begin to look at life from a different perspective. Positive change makes you feel in control of your life.

I believe that positive transformation is a huge sign of ones personal growth. Not many people embrace change easily. It therefore, means that we must all strive to make positive transformation if we have to have an impact in our lives.

If you do not take the right steps to adapt, the world will leave you behind. After all we live in an ever changing environment. Those who succeed are those who embrace and harness change. Do not be shy from making positive changes in your life. The only way to keep improving your life is to keep on making positive changes. Those who succeed are those who are not scared to make and take bold decisions.

The world is not what it used to be 15 years ago. For example technology has tremendously evolved over the last decades. Take mobile phones, they have rapidly moved from analogue to digital. Now we have smart phones. Gone are the days when a phone was just used for voice calls only. Imagine how difficult it is for people who have resisted change.

Conclusion

The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and
emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing
what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our
behaviours
” – Tony Robbins.

Be the change you would like to see in the world. Fear not your inadequacies. Learn from your past experiences above all take steps to make the change when necessary. I know that sudden change can make you lose your focus, always put your trust and faith in God Almighty he is a great shepherd. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” – Proverbs.

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Do Not Underestimate the Power of Your Actions

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There is power in your actions just as there is power in your tongue. The two are synonymous. You should always be mindful of what you say or do. Most people underestimate the power that God has deposited in each and everyone of us. Within you there is more than sufficient energy and will power to achieve anything that you set your mind to. “Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!” – Tony Robbins.

It is therefore, important that you realise it and stop underrating yourself. One of the reasons why we do not progress and achieve our goals is because we underestimate ourselves. People think they cannot achieve certain things because they do not have such and such. If you are thinking like that, it is a sign of inferiority complex. Please get rid of it. God created us equal and it does not matter whether you are black or white; rich or poor. Remove the colour of your skin and we all have the same blood running through our veins. I have never seen anyone with white or black blood. We all have red blood in our veins.

We all breath the same air. The sun shines on all humanity regardless of your locality and colour of your skin. Darkness falls on both the rich and the poor. Everyone enjoys the same seasons. There are 24hrs in day for all. Someday each and everyone of us will die. Why then do you underestimate the power of your actions? Every great man or woman knows that every action they take leads to something. That is why it is important that you learn to take decisive actions with your life.

Yes, I know that sometimes our actions may seem not to be right with every one at the time. But nature requires us to do the right things. Some of the things I learnt from my late Dad seemed very harsh then. But fast forward I realise that they are now very useful for my survival. I learnt at an early age in life to be independent. My Dad taught me to be more independent. Well, back then it looked like punishment.

Off course as a young man I would have loved to be a little bit more spoiled. Equipped with more knowledge now, I think It would have been a challenge for me to be a more responsible person if I was spoiled.

Your Every Action Builds your Character

Society will always judge you by your actions, simply because this is what they see. They are not preview to your thoughts and feelings. Most of the times they will miss understand your actions. But always remember that for every action you make there is a reaction. Some will be positive and others will be negative reactions. Stay your course and do what you think is right. I always tell my Children that when you do the right things no one is going to bother you. Not even yourself. You will be at peace with everyone.

No matter how small your deeds may be, do not underestimate the power they carry. It may just be saying thank you to a stranger for helping you. That one small deed can go a long way to making someone happy and feel appreciated. I remember one time at church as I was on duty, I offered one of my team members a cup of coffee. For me it was just extending a good gesture to a team mate. I was very touched to find out a few weeks later that it was the only meal he had for that particular day.

You are a sum total of the small things that you do. Your character is built and formed by the little things you do on a daily basis. So matter how small or insignificant you think your actions are, do not underestimate them. You never know who is watching.

Life is a Work in Progress

My life is a continuous work in progress. I don’t think there will ever be a time when things will just happen on auto pilot. I have to constantly keep pushing myself and find ways of improving. Everyday of my life, it dawns on me that am aging and I have to learn how to do certain things as am aging. When I look at people who are really advanced in age and cannot do the very things they used to do when they were much younger. I realise that actually life is a work in progress. At every stage you have to learn, just when you think you have mastered one thing another challenge comes along.

That is why you must quickly learn to become a student of yourself. You may not have the same energy to achieve your goals in the next few years. They say make hay when its summer because you cannot make it when winter comes. In order to move in tandem with this world you must learn to evolve. Develop ideas on how you can change your way of life and remain relevant to the core. The more relevant you are the more you can contribute positively to humanity.

For as long as am able to, it is my intention to continue contributing in my own small way to the cause of personal development and self growth. I will try and write on topics that are relevant and will continue learning and finding more ways of delivering my messages. I will simply not give up. Not just yet.

Confidence Comes From Experience

You can overcome your fears and flaws by gaining experience. Experience is gained through practice. Take the example of driving a car. The first time you do it you are gripped with fear and are nervous. You are lacking in confidence and make a lot of mistakes on the road. The more you practice the more confident you get. After a number of times driving, you are so much confident that you do not even think about it. Even when you make mistakes you are not bothered that much.

Before you gain confidence you will fall and sometimes bruise your self. But if you persist you will soon get the hang of it and your confidence will soon be more than your fear. To apply the principle of improving your confidence the following could be of great use. Identify the areas of your life that are outside your comfort zone. Take a step by ensuring that you venture into your un comfortable zone. The first time will feel very awkward.

It will not be easy the first time and believe me it will not be perfect either. Go on and continue doing it and you will eventually get the hang of it. Remember that it is not practice that makes perfect but, imperfect practice that results in perfectness.

Conclusion

Never underestimate the potential and power of the human spirit”. Your actions are responsible for shaping your character. If you want to build a good reputation you need to guard your heart jealously as this is the source of your actions. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”.  It is also says “you shall know them by their fruits”. We do not just act from without. We react with what we have. Remember to “never underestimate the power of your actions”.

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How Not to Be Successful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

You may be thinking why would you want to know about how not to be successful? Don’t we all want to know about how to be successful after all, that is one of the main themes for this website? Before we delve into the article, lets define the word successful, according to the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary it means “achieving your aims or what was intended”.

From the above definition you can already see why learning about how not to be successful can help you achieve your goals. Sometimes in life we are so focused on knowing the positives and forget about learning how to avoid the negatives. We are so much consumed about how to do this and that, we never take time to learn how not to be positive. If you want to be positive you must know how not to be positive in order to avoid being negative.

Many of us are busy researching on success but are failing to understand why we are not achieving it. I thought to bring to light some of the things that have contributed to either slowing down progress or not progressing at all. Maybe if you take a break and learn the opposite of not being prosperous you will avoid the pitfalls and stay on the right track.

The above definition is more or less straight forward and is on point. It is not ambiguous. For me the definition brings out a few things that I am passionate and have been constantly writing about on this site. Before you embark on the road to pursue success there are a few requisites that need to be attended to. If you are not attending to these basics, you will find it very difficult to thrive. Being successful, is all about achieving. When you achieve you are successful. “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful men keep moving; they make mistakes, but they do not quit” – Conrad Hilton.

Not Knowing Your Life’s Intended Purpose

Your life’s intended purpose is key to being victorious. Remember the definition says “achieving what was intended”. If you do not know what you were created for; what you where intended for; you will find it hard to be successful. I believe that the first thing one needs to do is finding out or establishing his life’s’ intended purpose. This will generally lead to making decisions and taking steps that help to achieve that purpose.

In other words you need to have set goals and targets, and work towards attaining them. Perhaps one of the most sure way of not being successful is not having goals or not knowing your purpose in life. If you do not have a goal you simply cannot attain it. Yes, you may have all the possessions but is that your goal? Only you can measure the true level of your success. “To be successful you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish, and then resolve to pay the price to get it” – Bunker Hunt.

The other way of not be successful is to not being true and sincere to the situation. Most of us are more concerned with who is right and not what is right. We have so much ego that we let it cloud our judgement. I have been in such situations before, where am questioning who gave the solution and believe me most of the times I have ended up missing the opportunity. This is very common especially, if you are so much involved and interested in politics. A famous politician once said politics makes you sit on your intelligence.

Most of the people who are ardent followers of political parties usually do not make honest and objective opinions about the candidates they support. They turn a blind eye to the wrongs being committed by the party they support and are quick to point out the wrongs being committed by their competitors. That is why I have detached myself from politics. I do try as much as possible to make an honest and balanced judgement. However, on this website I promise to not take sides with any politician and will always not talk politics. I just think politics are more divisive.

Not Having the Right Mental Attitude

Achievement is in your mind and your attitude. If you do not see yourself successful, you are not ready for it. They say you are what you think about most of the times. If you critically look back at your thoughts in the last few years and compare them with your current life. Nine out of ten you are living your thoughts.

Not having the right mental attitude is a sure way of not achieving your goals. The two major mental obstacles for success are fear and doubt. Fear is one of the greatest negative emotions. First of all it is the fear of failure; the fear of embarrassment; the fear of loss and poverty. I have also learned that fear mostly exposes our inadequacies. We fear, to do something maybe because we do not have enough knowledge on a certain topic.

The second emotion of doubt is equally as detrimental as fear. We doubt our abilities mostly because we compare ourselves to other individuals, who are more competent and smarter than us. We feel inadequate to the challenges at hand.

However, the good thing is that both fear and doubt are learned emotions. We acquire them as we grow. This is true because I have never seen a negative baby. You will agree with me that children are fearless, that is why they need adult supervision all the time. What ever has been learned can be unlearned.

The emotions of fear and doubt can be replaced by courage and confidence. The higher your levels of courage and confidence the lower your feelings of fear and doubt. The more knowledgeable you are about a subject matter the more courageous and confident you are to participate. I can attest to this because the more I write and post articles the more courageous and confident I become.

I am hoping that in months to come there will be a total transformation in my writing skills.

Conclusion

There are many things that can make you not to achieve your goals. I just thought of writing this article to make you look at the aside of life. It is not my intention not to see you succeed but to help you change, by bringing to light some of the things that maybe a road block in your life. I believe that knowing what works and what doesn’t work in your life is more important to helping you make those decisions that will push you closer to the finishing line. “If you consistently and persistently do the things that other successful people do, nothing in the world can stop you from being a big success also” – Brian Tracy. Stay focused and standout tall and be successful.

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Why it is Important to Measure Your Progress

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

You have to measure what you want more of” – Charles Coonradt. Self-improvement takes a lot of hard work. Writing, being productive, managing your finances and improving your social life, all of these
pursuits take a great deal of energy and time. They can also be a little overwhelming and they all need to be measured to ascertain your progress.

Life is not static, it is dynamic. Things are always in motion. Life dictates that we grow and that all growth is from inside. Change is inevitable. The things we used to do five years ago cannot be done today. What was fashionable a few years ago is no longer fashionable now. This therefore, demands that you measure your progress every step of the way, if you have to keep up with life. Many of us have remained behind and are just moving with the wind. They say time waits for no one.

If you want to succeed you need to develop habits that will help you achieve your objectives. Now, I would not consider my self as  successful, but I know that am on the right track and path. Although, I still remain a very much work in progress in many aspects of my life I equally have made great success in some other aspects of which am very happy and proud of. It is very important that we learn how to measure and monitor our progression in life. In doing so we must also bear in mind that we are living our own race and are not in competition with anyone. This is very important.

Many of the times, people end up taking short cuts and find themselves in an wanted situations. It is not good to cut corners in life. One of the people I was privileged to have met and I thank God for bringing him in my life, was an engineer. I met this man for a few years but oh the wisdom he shared with me was very valuable. He became a father like figure to me even though we met on a professional level. The man always used to encourage me to do the right things and never cut corners because life has a way of catching up.

He shared with me his personal life experiences and you could see that even in his advanced age he had nothing to hide. From him I learnt that those who live to enjoy life are those who do the right the things all the time, even when it is not fashionable amongst their peers.

If you have to be successful at what ever you do, it is very important that you learn how to measure your progress. Knowing how to measure ones progress in life is one of the yards sticks of achieving your goals. This however, is not taught in schools. Yet, measuring progress is the norm at school and often times the teacher will give you a test. The purpose of the examination is to gauge the progress of the learners. It even gets worse when you attend tertiary institutions were you cannot proceed to the next semester without passing exams.

I believe that we need to change our educational system to start teaching learners how to be successful and not just for the sake of acquiring knowledge. Success principles must be included as put of our school curriculum. “Success has always been easy to measure. It’s the distance between one’s origins and one’s final achievement” – Michael Korda.

With the demands of life what has helped me greatly is to know how to measure my progress. Measuring my progress has more benefits in helping me be the right track. It helps me to be more efficient on my productivity; am more organised as I keep reviewing my performances regularly; I get more and more organised. Right now I have become a little more efficient on my article writing because I jot down my ideas as they pop up. This efficiency is largely due to reviewing my progress on a regular basis.

If you critically think about it. Your natural inclination is always to improve. How then do you know where you are going without keeping score of your progress? If you were to keep a scoresheet on the five things that would advance your personal and professional objectives the most, imagine how motivated you would be each time the numbers improved in your favour.

Conclusion

Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided” – Tony Robbins. Decide where you need to keep score in order to manifest your vision and achieve your goals. Make sure to keep measuring your progress in all the areas of your life.

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The Joy of Serving People

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution will ever experience life’s deepest joy; true fulfillment” – Anthony Robbins. We live to serve people. Humanity was created for service. What ever kind of job you do is related to serving people. It may be directly or indirectly interacting with people, but I believe that what ever we do in life is ultimately serving people. If what you do, does not benefit people, it simply means you are robbing the world. Everyday of our lives there is a time when we have to serve someone. No matter what you are or do there comes a time when you have to serve someone. Service that is beneficial to the person being served. People do not realise that there is joy and a lot of satisfaction in being of service.

People remember us by the way we treat them; the way we talk to them. The small things we do and say really matter and count. If you are a parent or a guardian you will agree with me that you take pride and joy when you are being of service to your children or spouse. I always try as much as possible to be of help and make myself available when ever time allows. With the busy schedule I have on my plate I have over the past created some days during the week where I give my family undivided attention. My two children know that they can ask me to play with them and they do not expect any objections. Sometimes my youngest son David will remind me and and say that today is our time with you.

I have noticed that ever since I deliberately created more time for them there is a sense of togetherness. I am beginning to grow more patient with them on so many things. This has helped improve my understanding and enhanced my relationship with my family. I guess this is very important especially that my eldest son Lutangu is getting into his teens. In other words am discovering the other side of me; the patient side of me; the gentle side of me. Because generally I am not a very patient person. Now they look forward to those days. When we are playing games am the one who is usually serving them; am the one who does the dirty work and they get to enjoy seeing me all dirty.

I also serve at church in the traffic department. We are the first people you meet and the last people you see when you come to church on Sundays. It is a tough job especially, on hot and rainy days but the joy and satisfaction you get when serving God’s people is just immeasurable. People will always appreciate the service you render to them no matter what. Even if they don’t thank you immediately they will at some point thank you. All you have to do is to just continue doing what is right. It is such a joy when you find people thanking you for your service. That is why it is always important to say thank you when you are being served, it simply encourages the one providing the service to even do more.

There is Growth from Service

Apart from just the joy you get from serving, there is also personal growth. We are all called to serve. The world needs more people to serve. If you are not deliberately serving people, I encourage you to take time to find something that you can do to serve others. It could be at your work place. Be the one that helps out a colleague; be the one who is more dependable in a certain area. Not just helping your boss but also help your peers. The more you practice to help the more you grow and the more you get satisfaction and derive happiness. The bible says “it is more blessed to give than to receive“. The rewards of serving are immense.

I developed this website not only to share my personal experience but to be of service to people. The articles I write are mainly personal experiences through which I hope that someone is being encouraged and challenged. Over the years I have also enjoyed personal growth because of my own articles. I do a lot of reading and research. As a result I am learning everyday of my life. I can only thank God for the ideas and opportunity he has given me to develop this website. I  believe that am still very much a work in progress. There are many many areas of my life that need to be worked on and slowly but surely they are being turned around.

Conclusion

Love is the joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amazement of the Gods” – Plato. Through service of people lives can be changed and transformed. As we serve and grow we should, endeavour to reach out to the world at large. I believe that serving people is also one way to unlocking our full potential. One can realise their potential by being of service to people. Again I would like to encourage you to find something that you can do that can be of service to the community around you. Start small and slowly reach out to a larger audience.  Take joy in serving people. Remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Decide to Be Happy Everyday and Enjoy Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There are two things to aim at in life: first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second” – Logan Pearshall Smith. Everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with joy and happiness, but also everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with sadness. If every day is a gift why do you then decide to live a life of sadness. We live our lives based off, the decisions we made in the past. That is why it is better to make the right decisions today that will affect our future.

Am not perfect but everyday that I wake-up, I thank God almighty for giving me another opportunity to better my life. I believe that for as long as you are alive you have the chance of improving your life and that of the people around you and beyond.

Yes, I know you may not be in a position to do the things you want to do now, but you have the chance because you are alive. One thing I have noticed is that we as human beings take life for granted. We do not take time to appreciate the fact that we are alive and in pretty much good health. If you are reading this article you are even more privileged than most people. It simply means that you have access to a computer and the internet.

However, you are accessing them, these things cost money. Do you know how many people cannot even come close to think about having the privilege you have? Yet you continue living a life of sadness. I know that you may not have all you desire, but at least give thanks that you are alive. Life is not just about having all you desire but living happily and enjoying it.

Take Responsibility for Your Decisions

The biggest weakness we have as human beings is not taking full responsibility for our decisions. We only want to take responsibility when things are going right and people are praising us. I believe that taking responsibility for our mistakes is a sign of maturity. I am proud to take full responsibility for my personal decisions. Sometimes its difficult to accept that am in a certain situation because of my decisions but that’s just the truth. If I had made better choices I could not have found my self in difficult circumstances in the first place. Ever since I decided to be taking full responsibility for my decisions, life is more fulfilling and enjoyable. What this has done is that, before I make a major decision I think about it very hard.

I have also learnt that deciding to be happy early in the morning makes my day a lot easier to navigate. I know that sometimes people want to mess it up for me, but because a decision was made in the morning to be happy, I stick with it. My mind is pre-conditioned to stay happy and this flows to my emotions. They say our thoughts influence our emotions. When you decide on something and you stick with it, nothing can shake you. Yes things may be thrown at you, but you have the resolve to be happy and you will be, even during the bad and difficult times.

One of the things I do when am confronted with a potentially explosive situation is to just smile and walk away if I can or better still just keep quiet. Its hard to just walk away at first especially if you are hot tempered, but with practice it becomes easier.

There is no need to allow people to annoy you. Life is too short to be lived sad. God has given us the ability to choose freely. The power to decide is entirely in your hands. I like to make a comparison with say going out to have fun with friends. Most of the time when something goes wrong we blame the company we were hanging around with for the decisions we made. Yes they may have played a part but the final say, lies in our hands. If you say no to taking part in unwanted situation you can. This also goes to being in a toxic relationship. You can either decide to continue in it or you can get out.

Learn to Enjoy Your Life

Life is too short, learn to enjoy it. You can only enjoy life if you decide to and this decision is entirely yours. There are many ways to enjoying life, one of which is to do the things that make you happy more often. Most of us do not enjoy our lives simply because of the jobs we do. If your daily job does not make you happy you are most likely living a sad life.

The happiest people are those with jobs that make them happy. You can be paid as much money as possible but without happiness the job is meaningless. You would be probably contributing more if you found a job that makes you happy. Now, a job does not necessarily mean being employed by someone or working for a big corporation. You could be self employed and earning a decent living by doing the things that make you happy. “Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do” – Gerry Sikorski.

That is why it very important to know your life’s purpose earlier in your life. This helps in choosing careers that will enhance and help you achieve your goals. One of the ways to know what your life’s purpose is, is to list down the things that easily flow from you. The things that you do with much ease and less effort. These are the things that could point you to what your life’s purpose is. It could be that you are gifted at making people laugh, well go ahead and be a professional comedian. The idea is start living and enjoy your working life. After all we spend most of our time working.

If you have made mistakes in the past like me, don’t worry, there is still room for change. You can make the change right now and decide to do the right things for the rest of your life. And besides who has never made a mistake in their life? Forget the mistakes you made, treat them as a learning point and move on. You cannot change the past but can positively influence your future beginning this moment by making the right decisions.

Conclusion

You don’t pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success” – Zig Ziglar. I would like to conclude by advising you to made a decision to start living a happy life. Get your power back by taking responsibility for your decisions. We all fall down, but we get up and press on with life. Until next time have a blessed and happy life.

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Your Mind is the Get Way to Your Success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think” – Benjamin Desraeli. This article is a follow-up to yesterdays post entitled your health is your wealth. The state of your mind has a great effect on your life’s well being. Your mind directs your foot paths. In other words your mind is the compass for your life’s direction. You are where you are because of what you think constantly and the action you have taken. You are a sum total of your thoughts and actions. That thinking takes place in your mind. With this knowledge, I know that a healthy mind is key to achieving your life’s intended purpose.

As human beings who are aspiring and focused to contributing positively to a better society, it is therefore, inevitable that we know how to keep our minds healthy. We must also aspire to develop and devise the right mental attitude and create the desire to take action. There is no quick fix to this statement. This however, does not come easy. They say the most high paying jobs are those that involve thinking. Whether this is true or not is a matter for another day.

Most people who have succeed in life have deliberately developed a right mental attitude towards life. Yes I know that life will not always be easy. But, it also entails that we must be prepared for what comes along because even the so called easy things are not as easy as they seem. Just because you can get over a task with ease does not necessarily mean it is easy for the next person. If you point your compass in the right direction and take the necessary steps in the right direction you are surely guaranteed to meet with success. “The mind has exactly the same power as the hands; not merely to grasp the world, but to change it” – Colin Wilson.

In this regard preparation is key. At the core of ones character is ones thinking and attitude. It is therefore, of paramount importance that we feed our minds with the right stuff. The stuff that will help us in the future and in the present. The right stuff could simply mean changing the people we hangout with; taking time to further our education; making a complete u-turn in the things we are currently doing. You will agree with me that our minds continuously play back our life’s experiences. These experiences come through different ways that may include the following;  real life experiences, reading books, watching videos etc. We should not just exist to navigate through life but to ensure that we leave the world a better place than we found it.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him” – Buddha.

Throughout the years of my life I have discovered that everything that I have become, is as a result of the thoughts and the decision I have made. Believe me some of the decisions I have made in the past are terrible. But you know what am OK with them because I cannot change the past. These are what have helped me learn how to navigate through life with ease. You may not realise it but your thinking and attitude towards life is what has brought you to your current situation. However, do not despair, if your compass is pointing in the wrong direction there is still room to correct it.

I believe that you can still achieve your goals and life’s intended purpose regardless of your current situation and age. You can turn round the ship and begin to sail in the right direction. After all life is not a competition. The fact that you are reading this article could be that you are ready to take the next step in your life. The starting point of all success is to change the way you think. If your thoughts are always negative change them and begin to believe in yourself a lot more and just having a positive outlook about life. Look, not everything that glitters is gold. Even the people you think are successful have struggles in their lives. Its just that they are more optimistic and positive about it. They have prepared themselves mentally for what life has to offer.

Conclusion

The sooner you realise that you need to protect your mind from negativity the better. The bible says “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”. If we are to leave a better world we then must learn to feed our minds with the correct stuff and begin to act on it. There is so much going on in this world that needs to be corrected and I believe that you are living now for a reason and purpose. You may be going the wrong way with your life but I know that you change the status quo by repositioning your mind. I challenge you to find it within yourself. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind” – William James. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Life is Like a Seed that Needs to be Nurtured

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and Nourish that Seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to Be at the Centre of Your Plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.

Conclusion

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go to waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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To Change is to Be Progressive

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn From Every Challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines.

With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow of doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when writing a song lateron sing it.

You Have the Capacity to Change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we Prepare for the Future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within your own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life.

Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.

Conclusion

If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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