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How to Make Yourself Useful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

Nature dictates that we grow. One cannot remain in the same position forever. All growth comes from within. We grow so as to make meaningful contributions to the world. We were created not to live in isolation.

Whether you are contributing positively or not the fact still remains that you are endowed with unique talents and potential that need to be shared with the world.

You are part of the big family that is interlinked and interdependent now more than ever before. We now live in a global village where we have more access to either side of the world than before, via the use of technology.

All humans have a duty and responsibility to use their talents and provide solutions that benefit humankind. You can help change the world and make it a better place to live for all by making your life useful.

Everything that you do has an effect on the quality of the kind of life you are leading. If you are positive you are most likely contributing positively to your well-being.

The current state of your well-being largely determines how much your contribution is to the world. Stop thinking that you have nothing to give.

No matter what you are going through, the fact that you are still alive means that God is not yet through with you. He has given you another opportunity to change the things that you need to change in your life.

Stop giving excuses, get up and get ready for your next challenge. Life is about overcoming obstacles and challenges that are thrown at us.

Make your life worthwhile by being positive and useful. Life was not meant to be lived miserably or unhappy. Get out of your negative frame of mind and begin to do something meaningful with your life.

Decide What You Want for Your Life

When you do not have a plan for your life you live an aimless one. You move with the wind. Opportunities will pass you by. Often times you will be forced to take anything that comes your way just to make earns meet.

However, if you have a plan, you tend to attract and choose the right opportunities that help advance your life to the next level. You make your choices off the fact that they are in tandem with your life’s vision and plan.


If you have a plan in place you are more likely living a very happy and fulfilling life. You are more likely making changes that are influencing the world positively.

That is why it is very advisable to quickly formulate your life’s plan early in life. This way you live to enjoy the fruits of your labour much much longer. It also helps because this is the time when you have so much energy to pursue your dreams.

However, if you do have a plan for your life you can devise it right away. The following techniques might be of great help when coming up with your plan.

  • Prayer – prayer moves mountains. Spend time in prayer, seeking God’s guidance over your life. God has the blueprint for your life. He has the manual for your life. He knows what you are capable of doing and what you can achieve. Put him at the centre of your life. Let him be the guiding force over everything you do. The bible says “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” God is never tired of being asked.
  • Find what makes you happy – I believe that we all want to live a happy life. We are most effective when we are happy. Find what makes you happy and do more of it. If you do not derive pleasure from your current job or employment, it is definitely not for you. I guess that your performance is not as effective as it should be. You should seriously evaluate your current job or employment before you make any further decisions that may affect your financial livelihood.
  • Find what you do with less effort – We all have something that we can give easily. Deep down embedded in each and every one of us, is something that flows with very little or no effort. You need to tap into that realm and harness it. It is most likely what your purpose is all about.

Take Action

Once you have decided what you want your life to be like, it is time to take action. It is time to set the train of life into motion. They say “a journey of a thousand miles starts with one step.” By the way, make sure you write down your life’s plan on paper.

Break your plan into smaller achievable goals and begin to work on them. Start working towards achieving your goals even when your plan is not as perfect as you want it. It will become more clearer when you start working on it and as you put God at the centre of every aspect of your life.

God is always faithful when we trust him and involve him in our daily activities.

Action is what produces results. To succeed you need to work and work smart. Work is motion in action. Yes, you will encounter failure. Your reaction to failure will determine your willingness to achieve your life’s plan. Don’t let failure stop you from achieving your destiny.

Do not be discouraged when you fail. Failure is part of personal development. Instead, learn from your failures and mistakes.

Resolve to do something that helps move you closer to your goals every single day. Remember you are on a journey and every step make counts. When you do nothing, you delay your own progress. When you take action you accelerate your progress.

Taking action makes you feel useful. When you are moving towards achieving your personal growth you are also naturally contributing to the world.

You may not know it, but remember that you will be interacting with nature as you work towards improving your life. Nature is neutral. It will give you back what you give.

Be Thankful and Helpful

helping hand

Practicing gratitude is of paramount importance to humanity. To have a great impact on people you must learn to be thankful and be of help. A little thank you when you have been saved goes a long way to lifting the morale of the person serving.

Being thankful is a way of showing appreciation for the service being rendered. Being thankful is also a sign of showing gratitude.

Many studies that have been conducted have shown that gratitude can be a very important source of happiness. In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.

Being helpful is another way of making your life useful. Helping others is good for your heart, it relieves pain and stress, and motivates you to achieve your own goals.

Being helpful is not only good for you, but it is also good for the person receiving help. One act of kindness can turn into many acts of reciprocal kindness. When you offer to help someone, do it voluntarily and do not expect anything in return. If you do it with expectations you will be disappointed.

There is always someone that needs help, look around and find someone you can lend a helping hand. Most of us think that help always has to be in monetary terms. Actually, help can be in any acceptable form. Helping is a form of service and I believe that there is joy in service.

In the same vein of helping, you must also learn to ask for help when you need it. This way you give chance for people to shine in their areas of expertise. You give people the opportunity to grow when they are of help to you.

Share What You Have

They say sharing is caring. Don’t live a lonely life. Be open with people about your knowledge and skills. Let them know that you are always ready to share with them when requested to do so.

Do not be stingy with what you have. Sharing allows you to create even more closer relationships with other people. Know that what you have is valuable and is needed by many other people. The world would not be what it is today if many other people did not share their knowledge, skills, and or possessions with us.

Sharing is an act of kindness. The bible encourages us to share, “there are more blessings from giving than receiving.” When we give we create room for more blessings.

Conclusion

Being useful does not necessarily mean allowing other people to use you. It means offering what you can when you can and doing so with a happy and willing heart. It means you creating time for other people.

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Mental Health

A Changed Mind is Powerful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. We speak what is in us. Your speech is directly linked with what is harboured in your mind.

Life demands that we grow physically, spiritually and mentally. Although these processes of transitioning from childhood to adulthood seem to come naturally, we have a huge responsibility and duty to ensure that the transition is smooth.

Not only to see it happen but to ensure that it is done right. Even as a small child we were responsible for ensuring that the food prepared for us was eaten. Our parents or guardians were only responsible for the provision.

Just as the body needs nourishment to stay in good physical condition, the mind and the spirit which are mostly neglected also need to be looked after very well.

Everything that we do starts with the mind. I cannot think of anything that the body does that is not controlled by the brain which houses our mind. If you want success you need to have a success mind. You need to change the way you think.

Watch your thoughts they become you actions, watch your actions they become your character that defines you. In every situation or circumstance the state of your mind largely determines the way you navigate through life.

Stop doubting your ability to think big. You have more than enough capacity to achieve anything that you think about. If you can think it then you can be it. If you have a negative state of mind you need to change your thinking habits.

If it means changing the people you hang around with, do it. You are currently in your stagnant life mainly because you have not allowed your mind to provide solutions for you. You have created a box that you cannot think beyond its edges.

Feed Your Mind the Right Stuff

What are you reading? What are you watching? If you are not reading you are starving the growth of your mind. The Bible says “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Transformation of the mind is key to both your survival and your personal development and self improvement.

Your outward life is a reflection of the world within. You may wonder why your life is stagnant. Take a look at your predominant thoughts and bang! you have your answer. If you spend most of your time complaining you are most likely a complainant.

Life gives you back what you give it. If you give it lemons, you get lemons out of it. You cannot expect to harvest apples from a mango tree neither, can you expect to harvest mango’s from an apple tree.

If you want apples plant an apple tree, take care of it diligently and in due course you can harvest apples. If you want to achieve success change your thinking habits and have a success mind. Be successful in your mind and work towards achieving it.

One of the ways I use to help stay positive is by reading motivational books and the Bible on a daily basis. Everyday I spend at least not less than one and a half hours reading. I have a deliberate target of reading at least two book in a month.

I listen to podcasts, CD’s and watch motivational videos. With the advent of the internet there is lots of free sources for material, You Tube is one of them. I have also greatly reduced on my TV time. Yes, I do find time to relax with my family but I spend most of my free time reading.

The change has been immense. My thinking has greatly improved and is more positive than before. Now, am not saying I do not have negative thoughts, I do have them from time to time but I have also learned how to handle them.

I do not allow them to take over my predominant thoughts. Getting rid of them quickly, once they surface is one of the techniques I use. I have also learned to be more focused and have become more productive with my work.

Get Your Hands Dirty

Don’t just end at changing your thinking habits. To achieve anything you need to put in the time, you need to fold your sleeves and get your hands dirty. You need to work.

Thinking without taking action will not put food on your table. Remember you have bills to settle and they are paid from your earnings and these come from your work.

Get to work even when your plan is not as clear as you want it to be. It will become more clearer as you navigate through it on a daily basis. The most important thing is to just get started.

When I was setting out to start this blog I had no concrete idea on the direction it would take. To be honest even up to now I cannot exactly say what direction it will take. The only direction I pray and hope it will continue taking is the provision of free personal development and self improvement materials.

I keep getting more ideas on how to make improvements to the site and currently I have been thinking of publishing an eBook. I know this is going to be hard work. I know for sure that hard work is not a guarantee to success, but it surely is the only chance I have.

I believe that human beings were created to work. If you are not working, you are more likely living a life you do not enjoy. Work is also good for the health of your body. Working also makes you feel relevant in life as you are contributing to the growth of the world.

The Bible says “a good man shall leave an inheritance for his children’s children.” Yes,  it is your responsibility to ensure that your children and your grand children have a heads start in life.

You may say I never had a good start, well the fact that you are here, reading this article, means that you are privileged enough to make sure that those coming after you have a heads start.

The Bible also says that “if a man will not work, he shall not eat.” A little sleep, a little slumber and a little folding of the arms to rest and poverty will come upon you like a robber. There is no substitute for getting your hands dirty, it has to be done.

Conclusion

If there is one thing you must possess it is having a clear thinking mental attitude. Having a changed and positive mind will surely give you a heads start in all your endeavours. Your mind is the heart of your life, guard it from destructive vices. Do not neglect to nourish it well. Change your mind and change the narrative for your life.

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Mental Health Spirituality

Nothing Feels As Good As When You Give Willingly

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

“It is more blessed to give than to receive” – The Bible. “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give” – Winston Churchill.

Giving just like receiving generally makes you feel happy. There are many studies and researches that have been conducted to prove that giving is a happiness antidote. So if you want to be happy there you go just start giving.

There is even more joy when you give, not because you have to, but because you want to. I believe that giving should not be done under duress or under any external pressure.

Giving is also Biblical. The Bible says “Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” – NLT.

This is powerful. We are told that when you give you will receive back in full. I love this, on top of the happiness and joy you feel, your gift is given back to you in full, not half or quarter but in full measure and in fact pressed down to make room for more, WOW.

The Bible also says that “God loves a cheerful giver.”  To me a cheerful giver is one that is giving out of his own free will and volition; one that has not been coerced. I know that some people will not like what am about to say. Especially some Pentecostal preachers.

There is so much preaching about financial prosperity to the extent that you begin to feel as if the preacher is talking about you. I have heard stories of people who have given their pension to churches, yes you read right PENSION, all in the name of prosperity.

Look this is crazy, I mean who does that? I have been to churches and have felt like demanding back my money after being coerced into giving. Thank God I belong to a very good church Miracle Life Family Church.  If you happen to be in Lusaka, Zambia please pay us a visit. I can guarantee you will feel at home.

Provide For Your Family

If you are a parent like me, it is your responsibility to provide for your family. Not only financial support but also in many aspects of your children’s lives. One of the biggest mistakes we make as parents especially us fathers is to think that we only need to provide financial support.

We have a tendency of leaving the mothers to do rest. Yes financial provision is important but your children need you in every aspect of their lives. Get involved in knowing them better not just by name. Create time off your busy schedule and spend some quality time with them.

The relationship I had with my father was more or less strictly Dad, Son relationship. At no time did my Dad get involved with helping me with my school work. He only got involved when it was time to get my report card.

Well I don’t blame him and am not complaining. Maybe that is the way he was brought up. However, am trying to change the narrative for my kids. I try as much as possible to know how they are doing at school and help them where I can. Am not perfect and there is still a lot of room for improvement that needs to be filled in this area.

Its also time consuming but its worthwhile. The benefits of spending more time with my family out weighs the benefits of chasing after that extra income. Not that I do not need the extra finances, I need it, neither am  saying you should not work had, but you need to strike a balance between family and work.

Remember parenting is a one time shot. You either get it right or wrong and before you know it the kids would have grown and you would have missed out in influencing their development at the right time.

I believe that family is more important than money. Look, how many people do you know that have a lot of money and are divorced? This goes to show you that money is not everything. I do not subscribe to the notion that money is the answer to all your problems.

Money should be regarded as a tool just like any other that you use to help alleviate your life. Do not love money. I believe that it is good to have a healthy bank account “but the love for money is the root of all evil.” – the Bible.

Giving Is An Expression of Gratitude

When you give you are expressing gratitude. You are blessing someone with your earthly possessions. I have also learnt that when you give, you create more room for receiving.

Giving does not necessarily have to be material items. You will be shocked that even just emotional support is very much appreciated. You could give your time as well.

I was elated by my some of my church members from our cell group when they visited me during my young brothers funeral. Their visit just made me feel that I belong to a supportive family because I never expected them to visit.

If you look around your home you will realise that you have so many things that you no longer need or have use for, that can be useful to some people. It could be old books, old toys, old clothes and anything else. Give them away.

There is always someone who is in need. It could just be someone in your neighbour hood or even a close friend or relative. Where I come from there is always someone in need. There is always an opportunity to give back.

It is just natural that if you have to be more you need to be more. You cannot experience extra ordinary personal growth by doing ordinary things. Leave the ordinary to ordinary people. Do the extra ordinary and see if you will not be an achiever.

If you have to wakeup at 04:00 in the morning do it. If you have to stay late at the office go ahead and give it your best shot.

Just like at school, you cannot get good results if you are not putting in extra hours of study. Look school is hard work. Those who achieve more are those who have developed an attitude of going the extra mile.

If you spend most of your time fooling around and expect to get good results you in for a rude shock. The bible says “you reap what you sow.” If you think that by sleeping 10hrs a day you will achieve your goals, well good luck.

The joy of giving is multiplied because we know the joy of receiving. Put yourself on the receiving end every time you give something out. Am always happy when I see the expression of happiness on my children’s faces when I give them something. Also learn to give without expecting anything back.

Give because you are happy to do it.

Giving Encourages Social Connection

Being generous promotes and encourages social connections. When you give you are more likely to get back. If you belong to any social group you will agree with me that you are more likely to help those that are more generous.

Nature requires us to create social connections in order to have a better life. I have observed that even in family circles there is always one who receives more attention when they are in need. This is usually because of their giving stature.

The more you give the more connected you become. This exchange of gifts usually promotes a sense of trust and cooperation that strengths our ties to other people it takes away loneliness.

The most important thing is that when we give to others we make them feel closer or rather we draw them closer to us and this usually opens up other avenues for mutual understanding and cooperation.

Social connections are very important in our lives.

Conclusion

Perhaps giving is one of the most important act of expressing gratitude. It is also a source of and joy and happiness. When you give always make sure you do not give under any pressure but out of your own free will.

Lastly “give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give the world your best anyway” – Mother Theresa. Lets continue to give freely and willingly to help one another and make the world a better place for all.

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Inspiration

You Are Responsible For Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

“I am the captain of my soul. I am the master of my fate” – William Henley. If you didn’t know now you know that you are solely responsible for your life. The choices and decisions you make are your responsibility.

Stop blaming other people for your under achievements and take responsibility to correct them. Humans have a tendency of playing the blame game. We want to have an excuse for our failures and inadequacies.

Most of the times we want to find someone or something to blame when things are not going right.

But do you realise that most of the time, if not all time we are responsible for the out come of our decisions?

If you make poor or bad choices do you expect to have better results? Why then do you want to blame other people for your choices?

This lack of being in control of our lives has costed many of us opportunities for growth.

Look if I have been in total control of my life from a young age I know for sure that I could have achieved many things. Am pretty sure you can relate to this as well.

However, the fact that I have not progressed as desired does not preclude me from being accountable for my life. It is my responsibility to ensure that I achieve and attain my God given destiny.

I know for sure that we all want to live a good life atleast I do. But, every good thing comes with a price.

For you to live a good life you must first take responsibility and be prepared to pay the price and usually it is a very high one.

Sometimes the small things that we do may seem to be insignificant. Well you are wrong, success is doing the small things that need to be done and when added up they become significant.

Being responsible makes you feel at peace with yourself. I know that as human beings we do not like being associated with negative results. But remember that it is the movement from negative to positive that determines the level of your success.

Personal development and self improvement starts from being responsible for your life. When you are in control of your life it is much easier to chart the course of your life.

Yes things will not always go accordingly, but you will learn to handle disappointments more maturely and improve on your weaknesses.

The Need to Be Accountable

“Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to; all they need is one reason why they can” – Willis Whitney.

“A desire to be in charge of our own lives, and a need for control is born in each of  us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control” – Robert F. Bennett.

When I was growing up I had no sense of accountability. For me life was just about enjoying myself and nothing else. But slowly as I approached my teens and advanced in my education things started to change.

The demand from my Dad to perform better and keep up with school work, made me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life. At least then, it was out of fear of being reprimanded by my Dad.

I thank God and give a lot of credit to my late Dad for the role he played in making me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life not only to my self but to him as well. This was a game changer for my life.

Being able to be accountable made me realise that I also needed to be in charge of my life. Because you will not be able to give a positive account if you do not know what you are doing. I think being accountable makes you responsible.

Fast forward, am no longer accountable to my Dad but I have a wife and children that look up to me. Apart from God and society at large these are the people that am directly accountable to.

You see because I now have my own family and they depend on me, I have learned that my life is not just about me. It is also about them. I need to strike a balance between my needs and also meet there needs.

So far they have been very supportive of my work and I really thank them. But I do not take it for granted.

Being accountable to someone makes you grow as an individual. It also helps you measure the level of your growth. If you do not have someone you are answerable to, it takes a lot of discipline to stay focused.

I would encourage you to find someone you can be answerable to. I know that the temptation especially for us men to wanting freedom is greater, but if you want to have better control of your life you need to have someone who can help you be in check.

One Day You will Be Answerable

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God” – Leo Buscaglia.

I believe in God and the resurrection and that we were all created by him. I also believe that there is a heaven and hell somewhere.

The one who gives us life on a daily basis will one day demand an explanation of how we lived our lives on earth.

We will be answerable to him, that is why we must try as much as possible to live according to his word.

I have developed a never give up mentality, because for everyday that I wake up, I believe that God still has use for me.

Oh yes, I know that some things have eluded me, but I also believe that there are much better opportunities to come for me.

Always look to the brighter side of life. Stop complaining about going through the darkest side of life. If not you, then who?

Get on and do the right thing bearing in mind that one day you will be answerable to your creator.

Conclusion

Life is too short. Focus from this day forward on making a difference. It is your responsibility to ensure that to attain your God given destiny.

With each choice you make, you create your life. Choose wisely and above all be responsible for your life.

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Mental Health

Why is a Positive Mental Attitude Important?

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with a wrong mental attitude” – Thomas Jefferson.

Attitude is everything. At the heart and core of personal development is mental attitude. Success or failure is largely determined by ones’ reaction to their environment. The ability to react is a result of your mentality.

How you react to adversity; your ability to grow and learn and your ability to overcome challenges are all factors that are largely influenced by your mental attitude.

What determines your success or failure is your attitude towards life. If you have a positive mental attitude you are more likely to succeed. That is why it is very important to keep a positive mental attitude.

For this reason, you will agree, that one of the most important personal assets to continuously make improvements on, is your mental attitude. If you want to achieve more, you must ensure that you work on improving your mental attitude.

It is the get way to life’s opportunities. How you react to different situations will determine what course of action you will take.

You may not realise it but, sometimes opportunities come and they pass you by, simply because of your negative way of thinking.

The most successful people are those that have a positive mentality even when they are faced with adversity. Yes, I know that sometimes it is very difficult to stay positive, but if you want to succeed you need to put on a positive mentality.

They say “the only disability in life is a bad mental attitude.” We all have weaknesses. I always say that we are all challenged in one way or the other. But, the only disability is having a bad mentality.

I have seen people who are physically challenged, yet are successful in life. A good example is one of my favourite preachers Nick Vujicic.

This is a man who is physically challenged yet with great charisma and a positive mental attitude towards life. I find his teachings amazing.

The reality with life is that we are solely responsible for forming our own attitudes. God has given us the authority and willpower to be in charge and be responsible for our own characters.

It Has an Effect on Your Life

Your attitude is usually formed over a period of time due to your life’s experiences. However, your reaction and actions towards any given situation are but your choice.

You have the power and will to choose how you are going to react to any given situation. Only you are in charge of the willpower to choose.

Your reaction towards life also has a bearing on both your long and short-term achievements. The negative reactions will usually delay your success rate and increase your failure rate.

What you want in life is to increase your chances of success, which can only be done with a positive attitude.

The more positive your attitude is the more increased your chances of success is.

Like I have said before that life is enjoyed when you triumph. Winning can be addictive just as losing can be demoralising.

It’s like in sport, the more you win, the more motivated you are and the more invincible you feel. However, the opposite is true, the more you lose the more demoralised you feel.

Am sure it takes more energy and a great attitude to reverse a losing streak in any situation.

The effects of having a positive way of thinking on your life is the ultimate feeling you should be aiming for. You have better self-esteem and your confidence is enhanced.

Confidence naturally reduces your stress levels and you develop a feel-good factor about yourself, that leads to more happiness. After all, the ultimate goal in life is to live a happy and healthy life.

It Can Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

As mentioned before having a positive attitude has many benefits among them is the improvement and boosting of your self-esteem.

The quality of your life and the way you feel about yourself are all linked to your mental attitude.

The more positive your mental attitude is, the better the quality of your life.

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” – Brian Tracy.

If you think positively, you will feel happier. If you are negative, you’ll feel pretty dull. Boost your self-esteem by looking at yourself in a positive light and picking out the things you like about yourself. Also, turn any negative features or characteristics into positives.

People will always have an opinion about you, it’s important to not let what others think to bother you, and to really try not to worry yourself about what they think at all.

I have a personal rule, of not paying so much attention to things that I have no control of. One of which is that you will never have control of what people think or say about you. Make it a policy that they do not affect your happiness.

Always remember that everything action you take has consequences and it is basically a reflection of your inner being. Like I said before you have the willpower to make better choices.

As mentioned above attitudes are formed through experience. They are learnable. This means that both positive and negative mental attitudes have been learned over time. Just like anything else that can be learned they can also be unlearned.

According to a Stanford Research Institute study, the path to success is comprised of 88% attitude and only 12% education. This does not negate the importance of education but goes to show how vital a positive mental attitude is to success.

Self-esteem can only be boosted by unlearning the negative way of thinking and replacing it with a positive one.

It Can Improve Your Motivation

You are motivated when you are sure of yourself. Motivation is a product of having a positive outlook. Motivation is key to achieving your personal development and self-improvement.

When you are of good cheer, nothing can stand in your way. Yes, you will stumble but will turn adversity to your advantage. A person of good cheer will surely succeed in life because they will be razor-focused on achieving their goals.

“When you change the way you look at things; the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer.

Conclusion

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” – Brian Tracy.

Having a positive mental attitude is what you should be working towards achieving.

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You Cannot Succeed Without Failure

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

It is not a secret that the greatest fear we have is often failure. Perhaps it is one of the greatest fears that anyone has ever experienced. Unfortunately you cannot detach failure from success.

Ask even the most successful people if they have ever failed the answer will be a resounding yes. This just goes to show you how important it is to learn from failure.

In my years of being a student of personal development and self growth, the fear of failure has played a major part of my progress. Fear can also be a very big hinderance to ones progress.

The fear of failure to achieve my dreams; the fear of failure  to succeed academically; the fear of failure to provide for my family; are some of the things that have motivated me to work even harder.

Am sure that you can related to the fear of failure with your own life. But, what if I told you that actually failure was a good thing? Albeit Einstein once said that “failure is success in progress.”

Failure has a way of bringing out the best in you. Encountering failure is one of the best ways to help achieve your success. I have discovered that the more you fail the more prepared you are for success.

Look, am not saying that you must be happy when you fail. But you must make sure that you learn from your failures to achieve your success. Take time to analyse what made you fail before moving forward.

Here are a few things that failure can do to you to help you on your road to success.

Failure Keeps You in Check

There is tendency to raise our egos when we are experiencing success. Often times we look down on people that we think are not achieving much as we are.

Well guess what, failure brings you down to earth from cloud nine and makes you realise that you are not a super human. It helps you be in touch with reality. Failure makes you humble when you are in desperate need of humbleness.

I have come to appreciate that being kept in check is very important as you are climbing the ladder of success. When you are experiencing constant success there is a tendency of being enslaved by success, before you know it you will be doing anything, even wrong things, to just make you stay at the top.

But nature has a way of keeping us in check. When you experience failure you realise that life is about ups and downs and that success should not be taken for granted. Failure is a good teacher.

Failure Creates Extraordinary Change

Failure could be a catalyst for both positive or negative change. What grows out of the initial experience with failure is entirely up to what lessons were learned.

In life it is easy to become demotivated and down cast when we experience failure. Instead we must learn to use failure as a springboard to propel and motivate us to succeed. Learn to reset your mind and create the much needed mental change.

Adversity can make even the most talented people refine the roadmap of their destiny, while other equally talented individuals could allow it to derail and kill their dreams.

Most of us know the story of Steve Jobs, that he was fired by Aple in 1985 and many of us know that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Yet they were both able to bounce back and are considered legends.

I would like to think that if both Steve and Michael had not failed at some point in their lives they would not have gone to achieve what they did. I am sure they learnt a lot from there failures as they pursued their different careers. They did not give up.

In other words failure is necessary to shake things up in our lives. Without which we would be comfortable and not make the much needed quantum leaps.

When you want to make it life you must realise that you will always encounter adversity. The way you handle life’s challenges will determine your level of success.

Failure Can be Informative

One of the best sources of information in my life is in the failures that I have experienced. Look, the fact that you have encountered adversity does not necessarily mean you are a failure. Get up and continue on your journey of life.

In life you must take lessons from every result that does not go your way. Never throw in the towel when things are not going as expected. Instead sit down and learn from them.

Get as much information as you possibly can from your negative results. They are simply telling you, what should be avoided in future. I normally take failure as a learning tool.

If I fail to achieve a goal I list down what I think lead to the failure and try as much as possible to work on correcting the mistake. In doing this I also discover new methods or processes that I had no idea existed. I end up enriching my skills.

Yes, sometimes in the process of making corrections I fail even more. I know that this can be very demotivating and discouraging most of the times, but that’s what life is all about. If you have to be an achiever you need to have patience, persistence and perseverance.

The value of information and lessons learned from your failure is immeasurable.

Conclusion

I know that many of us do not want to be associated with failure. We only want to be associated success. But I can guarantee you that success does not come without challenges. If you are looking to succeed be least assured that you will encounter failure. Failing is a way of preparing us for what lies ahead. Failure is the seed of growth and success.

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You Can Turn Your Dreams into Reality

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

We all have dreams, aspirations, ideas, fantasies and goals that we would like to achieve. Unless you are not ambitious, I know that you dream of achieving things in your life. Whatever the dreams that you harbour and whether you will achieve them, entirely depends on you.

You are in charge of transforming your dreams into reality. You are the CEO, the Leader and the Boss of “yourself incorporated.” Everything that we see that is man made was first conceived as a dream. It took someone to work diligently to turn them into reality.

This though did not come without failure. Even, the greatest of inventors worked hard and never gave up on their dreams because they wanted to actualise them. They were passionate about them. Never give up on something you really want. It maybe difficult to wait, but way more difficult to regret.

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. So stop delaying and get started! Start working on your dreams today, no excuses.

Turning your dreams into reality is very challenging, it takes a lot of effort and time. I have never heard anyone who has achieved success and says that, it was a walk in the park. However, I believe that if your dream is centred on your life’s purpose it should be fun working to actualise it.

Believe in Your Aspirations

The most important person to believe in is always yourself. If you think you can achieve your dreams just get started working on them. Sometimes the people who are closest to us can be very discouraging, because they cannot see what you see.

You own your dreams. Yes, it is important to seek guidance and second opinions. But the fact that someone says you cannot achieve such and such or you cannot be this or that, does not necessarily mean you cannot. If you can see it then you can be it.

Believe that you will succeed and it will come to pass. At the end of the day it is your life. You will be held accountable for not utilising your talents and adding positively to humanity. Do what you have to do to add positively to humanity.

If you don’t believe in your dreams, who will? I know that the journey to realising our dreams involves people. How can the people you are involving to help you, have confidence in your dreams if you the owner does not believe in your own aspirations?

Failure Should be Embraced

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.“ – Michael Jordan.

Your dreams, aspirations and ideas are your projects. You must stay committed to them. Life as it maybe, is full of challenges. Not everything you set out to do will go according to your will and plans. Along the way things will happen that you never expected.

Just like in many other project you will fail many times and you will succeed many times. The key is achieving your goal. Failure is part of the process of realising your dreams.

Perhaps failure happens so that we learn how to handle success. I believe that there are lessons to be learned from failing. Failure does not necessarily mean you are dull nor does it mean you cannot succeed. It simply means you have learned another way to avoid in future.

When you fall down, getup, dust yourself and move on. You are not the first nor will you be the last person to fail. Ask any successful person, whether they have not failed before, you will be amazed at their stories. The difference is that they have learnt to embrace failure.

Don’t allow failure to scare you, have the courage and motivation to look beyond it and focus on the bigger picture. People will always fail. Failure sharpens you. It makes you grow and be well prepared for your destiny.

When you are sharped by the challenges thrown your way and your despair for failure, this makes you grow into a better a person. A person who knows how it feels to fail will always be better prepared at what they do. They say experience is the best teacher, I say failure is the better teacher.

Take Your Dreams Seriously

If you want to be independent in life, you must make, realising your dreams one of your key priorities. If you do not build your ideas someone else will hire you to help them realise their dreams. Am not saying that its bad to work for someone. But you are never in control if you work for someone.

What you want, is to be in the driving seat of your life. You want to determine how much you earn. This is what make you happy. You want to do things the way you want them done. If you are currently working for someone am not suggesting that you quit your job without a plan.

Your dreams are the blue print for your goals and success. They say your imagination and your dreams are a preview of things to come. The good thing about having dreams is that you are the only one who has seen them. Only you will know when you have achieved them.

I know that at first our dreams can be scary. They can be intimidating. But once you get started they begin to take shape. Most of the times you will be guided on how to move, what to do, depending on the outcomes and circumstances of your achievements.

When I was setting out to start this website. It was a daunting idea. I had no clue as to what content I would be writing and where it would be coming from. Yes, I know that the growth has not been what it should be, but believe me it is surely moving in the right direction.

I guess the growth of the website in terms of content is directly influenced by my personal growth as well. As you may know, you cannot give what do not have. You only give from what you have. Sometimes I would want to write but have nothing to talk about.

Conclusion

Dreams are there to be pursued. If you have dreams pursue them relentlessly until you have accomplished them. You do not want to regret and look back at what you should have done. The time to start is now. There is never a better time and place to start following your dreams than today. Your dreams minus your doubts equal your true worth. Never let your fears be the boundaries of your dreams.

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When You Have the Will, the Sky is the Limit

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

The capability of conscious choice and decision and intention; is called the will; “the exercise of their volition we construe as revolt”– George Meredith. In other words we all exercise the will to do things at our own volition. Everyone of us has the will to do something.

The power of choosing; the faculty or endowment of the soul by which it is capable of choosing; the faculty or power of the mind by which we decide to do or not to do; the power or faculty of preferring or selecting one of two or more objects; is the will.

If you want to achieve something meaningful with your life, develop a strong desire for it. If you want money develop a strong desire for money. When you have the will to achieve something, nothing can stop you. Nothing can stand in your way; only the sky is the limit.

God gave each and every one of us the determination to succeed. To succeed you need to have the desire; the determination; the resolve and the will to take action. The will is what powers you. It is what drives you to continue taking action, that is why they call it the will power.

The strength of your mind should always be kept at optimum level. To achieve this you need to feed your mind with the right material. You need to have the right mental attitude for every situation that you encounter. If you want peace in your life, your mind must always be thinking peace.

The most common mistake most people make is not possessing what they want, in their mind. You will not achieve personal development if your mind is not thinking personal development. Your mind is the centre of all creation. You are who you are because of what you think about most of the times.

How can you enjoy happiness if your mind is always thinking negatively? change your mind and you will surely experience change.

Do Not Limit Yourself

The biggest obstacle to your progress is yourself. Often times we obstruct ourselves from reaching our full potential. We give up when we are faced with challenges. But do you realise that the darkest hour is just before dawn?

When you are about to hit Gold that’s the time when things look like they are crumbling down. It is usually the most darkest of periods. But I have learnt that it is actually the time to hold on even more. It is time to persevere.

Look, to reach your full potential you must move from the bottom going up. You must move from being a doubter to being a believer. Personal growth demands that you learn the ropes from the bottom up. You do not start climbing a tree from the top.

If you climb from the top, the only other way to go is either side ways or down. If you are going side ways it means there is no growth taking place and of course downs means you are falling.

I have learned that before every growth level there are challenges to be overcome. These challenges are a test of your character and the will to persist. They are building you for what is coming next. However, you need to know how to navigate through them.

In my life I have struggled with so many things, but I have not allowed my struggles to hold me down from pursuing my personal objectives. I have pledged to do everything I can to achieve my personal objectives.

In dark times I always ask God to help me change the things I can change. This way I concentrate my energies on my I can change and allow God to do the rest. He is always faithful. “The men who succeed are the efficient few. They are the few who have the ambition and will power to develop themselves” – Herbert N. Casson.

Celebrate Your Small Victories

We all have experienced success in one thing or the other. The key to staying focused on your goals, which is the bigger picture, is to celebrate your small victories. If possible document them and make a reference to them every now and again.

This will always help you stay motivated and encouraged to work extra hard to experience the feeling of success again. I have found that completing a task on time is very fulfilling for me. Am very happy and proud of myself every time I produce an article for this website.

That nice feeling of having to complete a task drives me to even do more. Yes, I know that sometimes I get bogged down with other things, but I always look forward to being inspired to writing again.

Success is made up of the small victories that we pickup along the way. You should learn to give yourself a pat on the back when you have achieved or completed a task that you set out to do. Completing the small tasks leads you to your main goal.

Conclusion

“If I had to select one quality and one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick persistence and determination. The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying, Here comes number seventy one” – Richard M. Devos. Always remember that when you have the will, the sky is the limit.

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The 4 Keys to Success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

You will agree with me that everyone wants to achieve personal success. We all have one common goal in life. To be successful and live a happy and fulfilling life. Everyone of us wants to learn the ropes of being successful.

We all have a desire to make a difference in the world. But many of us struggle to triumph and live a below average life.

I know that many of us have read on the subject of personal success. Many of us, if not all are students of the success subject. Only a few are good students and are successful. While many of us fall in the category of bad students and are struggling.

It is almost impossible to understand the subject of success in one attempt. However, in all the books I have come across there are similarities. The presentations may be different but most of them have similar themes and methods of achieving success.

I believe that there are basically 4 keys that you need to help you achieve your success and these are:-

Write Down Your Goals

Without writing down your own goals, you will be shooting in the air; you will just be drifting and moving along aimlessly; you will be at the bottom of the park which is crowded. To have meaning success you need to write down your goals and start working on them.

This is the only way to measure your success. Your written down goals have to be measurable and specific. I like to personalise them by saying “I earn so much by such a date; I have done this by such a date.”

You are the only person that can use the “I” for yourself. No one else can use it on you. Making such pronouncements helps me to immediately know the exact target and the expected results. It also sets a deadline for me. Being exact with the goal, gives me motivation every time I read it.

Since the goals are measurable, if by the set date, I have not achieved the target, I simply adjust the date accordingly. However, I do not adjust the goal because by then my mind is already conditioned and working to achieve the set goal.

Remember that the goals you set must be those that are in tandem with your overall life’s objectives. They must help you get closer to achieving your life’s intended purpose.

Do not underestimate the power of writing down your goals. I usually carry around a note book with me. Where I write down ideas and many other personal things. Don’t just rely on your memory, write down your goals.

Set a Deadline

Everything in life has a useful shelf life. Some things have a much longer useful shelf life than others. That is why deadlines are important. They make you work extra hard. We are always working to beat dead lines because we all know that time waits for no one.

Setting reasonable deadlines is also key to ensuring that you achieve your success. Reasonable deadlines are those that give you ample time to  be creative, work and stay motivated. I have found that short deadlines can be a source of frustration especially if the goals are not achieved.

Everyone has an optimum point when they give in their best. This is the time when you are full of energy and enthusiasm for life. The time when you can take on any challenge without much of a problem. I believe that this is the best time to ensure that you work extra hard to do the right things.

If you are relatively younger this is the best time to ensure that you put your act together. Stop fooling around. Get to work and you will enjoy the benefits later. I know that a day will come when those energy levels will be a thing of the past. Ask those who are well advanced in age and they will tell you.

The way I set my goals is that they include a deadline in the goal it self so am always in the know if am working beyond my expected deadline date. The thing with having deadlines is that your mind is tuned in and expectant to achieve a result at the set time.

I have noticed that somehow your mind is constantly alert to your deadline and this keeps you working towards achieving or beating the set deadline.

Take Action

They say actions speak louder than words. Yes, its important to set goals and having deadlines. But, setting goals and having deadlines will not achieve anything if you do not take action. Most of our plans die a natural death because we do not act on them. Taking action will ensure that you start moving towards your goals.

Create a habit of taking action that will help you achieve your goals on a daily basis. Take one step at a time. If your goal is to make say US$200,000 by 31 December 2021, decide how you are going to make this money and get started with the process.

We have a habit of just making good pronouncements and leaving everything to God. Look, God is not going to make you rich without you playing your part. God will open an opportunity for you and it is entirely up to you to cease it and make good use of it.

You have a big part to play in God’s picture. I have noticed a tendency especially among us Christians of saying “I receive in Jesus name” when a preacher makes certain pronouncements and we leave it at that.

Yes, receive it and start working on actualising the pronouncement by taking action. Get up and go to work. The bible says “the Lord will bless the work of your hands.” Those who succeed are those who try and take action. It is better to die trying.

Persist Until You Succeed

Success does not come easy and does not come cheap. If it were easy, then we would all have been successful. There would have been no need to talk about it. But we talk about because we know the challenges that people will face on the path of success.

Yes, things will not always go according to your plan, and most of the time they never, but when you persist you will triumph over any challenge. Persistence is key to your success. Those who are successful are those who are resilient and persistent. They know that challenges have to be conquered.

Without persistence you are surely doomed to fail. Because along the way of success you will be met with many challenges. Some of these challenges may look to be insurmountable. Your success will be largely determined by your persistence.

The bigger your goals are the more hard work and persistence you need to have. Be prepared that on your journey to succeed you will be greatly tested. You will need to focus on the things that you have influence on, as these are the things that will help you over come your challenges.

Conclusion

There are many ways to succeed but the above are key for me and they seem to work so far. You can devise what works for you but I recon that they will not be very different from mine. We are all wired to succeed and the ball is in our hands. “Successful people tend to become more successful because they are always thinking about their successes” – Brian Tracy.

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The Reward for Your Success Lies in the Next Challenge

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

Success has many rewards. Walking in success feels great, but rewards last if only you look forward to your next challenge. You will agree with me that when you achieve a goal, when you are successful, you are happy and ecstatic in that moment, you feel like you have conquered the world, you feel over the moon. But as soon as the excitement subsides and reality creeps in, you begin to look for the next challenge to conquer. “Successful people tend to become more successful because they are always thinking about their successes” – Brian Tracy.

The desire to keep enjoying the rewards of your success gets more and more intense, as you achieve your set objectives and goals. The more you succeed the more happiness you enjoy. Seems to me that success brings with it a huge dose of happiness and joy. Those who enjoy a more successful life usually live a happy and fulfilling one. We derive our happiness from our success.

Notice that people who are usually complaining are those who are not working to be successful. They are waiting for success to come to them. The size of your success depends on the depth of your desire.

It is people who do not take action or have given up and think that they will be successful by just waiting and not doing anything about it. Success does not come easy, it takes smart work to achieve it. The more you work at being successful the closer you get at achieving your goals. The closer you get at achieving your success the more happiness you enjoy. I know that sometimes we go through trying moments.

Challenges are not permanent, they are temporal. Challenges are the way that leads to your success. Often times they open up new doors and new perspectives without which it could have been impossible or difficult to achieve our goals. They should not prevent you from accomplishing your destiny,  rather they should propel you even more to achieve your desired results. If you want to enjoy the reward, you must push on and persist when faced with challenges.

Hard Work is not a Guarantee to Success

I know this may not sound or go very well with with many people but I just think that hard work is not a guarantee that you will succeed. Yes, its hard to be successful without hard work but it doesn’t guarantee success. However, it is one of the ways that will ensure your success. Am not discouraging you from working hard. I just want to make a point clear that smart hard work will surely get you the desired results. If you are to achieve your success you must definitely work hard but not only that you should do it smartly.

The following story is a comparison between hard work and smart work. Once upon a time there was a quint little village. It was a great place to live except for one problem. The village had no water unless it rained. To solve this problem once and for all. The village elders decided to putout to bid a contract to have water delivered to the village on a daily basis.

Two people volunteered to bid and take up the task, the elders awarded the contract to both of them, because it was felt that a little competition would help keep the prices lower and ensure a backup supply of water. The first of the two people who won the contract Ed immediately ran out. He bought two galvanised steel buckets and began to run back and forth along the trail to the lake which was a mile away. Ed immediately began making money as he laboured morning to dusk hauling water from the lake with his two buckets. He emptied them into the large holding concrete tank that the village had built.

Each morning he had to getup before the village awoke to make sure there is enough water for the village when they wanted it. It was hard work but he was very happy to be making money and for having one of the two exclusive contracts for this business.

The second winning contractor Bill, disappeared for a while, he was not seen for months, which made Ed even more happy since he had no competition. Ed was making all the money. Instead of buying two buckets to compete with Ed, Bill had written a business plan. He involved various people like, investors and managers and created a corporation. He retained six months later with a construction crew.

Within a year his team had built a large volume stainless steel pipe that connected the village to the lake. At the grant opening celebration Bill announced that his water would be 75% cheaper and that it was more cleaner. Bill knew about the about complaints of the quality of Ed’s water, he also announced that he could supply the commodity 24hrs a day 7 days a week. Ed could only deliver water on the weekdays as he did not work on weekends.

The village cheered and quickly ran for the faucet at the end of Bills line. In order for Ed to compete he immediately bought two more buckets lowered his charge by 75%, employed more people to haul water on a daily basis. Bill realised that if this village needed water then more villages needed it. He rewrote his business plan and expanded to other villages who quickly connected to his line. Bill could supply more volumes of water to more people at a cheap price and therefore, made more money than his competitor. I will end the story here. Now ask yourself who was smarter between Bill and Ed? Who would you rather be?

Recognise the Advantages of Planning

The above story about Bill and Ed brings out a few things that can be learned and applied to our daily lives. Firstly this is a story about solving a problem that was encountered by the village. Which I believe that our lives are meant to solve the problems that are faced by the world. Bill demonstrated the advantages of planning.

How we go about solving these challenges is largely determined by the way we think. That is why for me, the most important asset we have is our mind. Ed seems to have had a head start in solving the water crisis that was faced by the small village. Indeed he succeeded not until Bill came up with a much better plan and solution. I do not think Ed had a thorough thought about how he was going to provide the solution. His aim was probably just having the contract to earn him money.

For me Bill demonstrated that having a goal is not just good enough. We must take time to plan and start working our plan to achieve the intended target and this takes time. In as much as Bill offered a much better solution than Ed am sure he must have given it more thought before going ahead to implement it. Bill’s plan involved investors and managers. It took Bill more than a year before he started reaping from his labour.

Bill’s plan also demonstrates that in our life’s journey we need people who can add value to our lives. People who are going to help us achieve our goals. If you are planning to achieve your goals you need to identify the right people who are going to help you achieve your goals.

By Ed employing more people to haul water from the lake, he demonstrated a lack of learning. He refused to embrace change and instead of learning from the new technology of transporting water he stuck to his old methods. Very often in our lives we do not want to embrace change.

Conclusion

Personal development and growth is a mix of things. I believe that self growth does not come easy it takes time and requires us to take small steps everyday of our lives. If you want to enjoy your life you must always be looking forward to your next challenge. The reward of overcoming a challenge should always motivate you to looking forward to the next challenge for this is the cycle of life. Happiness is the highest level of success. Enjoy the fruits of your labour.

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