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The Joy of Serving People

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution will ever experience life’s deepest joy; true fulfillment” – Anthony Robbins. We live to serve people. Humanity was created for service. What ever kind of job you do is related to serving people. It may be directly or indirectly interacting with people, but I believe that what ever we do in life is ultimately serving people. If what you do, does not benefit people, it simply means you are robbing the world. Everyday of our lives there is a time when we have to serve someone. No matter what you are or do there comes a time when you have to serve someone. Service that is beneficial to the person being served. People do not realise that there is joy and a lot of satisfaction in being of service.

People remember us by the way we treat them; the way we talk to them. The small things we do and say really matter and count. If you are a parent or a guardian you will agree with me that you take pride and joy when you are being of service to your children or spouse. I always try as much as possible to be of help and make myself available when ever time allows. With the busy schedule I have on my plate I have over the past created some days during the week where I give my family undivided attention. My two children know that they can ask me to play with them and they do not expect any objections. Sometimes my youngest son David will remind me and and say that today is our time with you.

I have noticed that ever since I deliberately created more time for them there is a sense of togetherness. I am beginning to grow more patient with them on so many things. This has helped improve my understanding and enhanced my relationship with my family. I guess this is very important especially that my eldest son Lutangu is getting into his teens. In other words am discovering the other side of me; the patient side of me; the gentle side of me. Because generally I am not a very patient person. Now they look forward to those days. When we are playing games am the one who is usually serving them; am the one who does the dirty work and they get to enjoy seeing me all dirty.

I also serve at church in the traffic department. We are the first people you meet and the last people you see when you come to church on Sundays. It is a tough job especially, on hot and rainy days but the joy and satisfaction you get when serving God’s people is just immeasurable. People will always appreciate the service you render to them no matter what. Even if they don’t thank you immediately they will at some point thank you. All you have to do is to just continue doing what is right. It is such a joy when you find people thanking you for your service. That is why it is always important to say thank you when you are being served, it simply encourages the one providing the service to even do more.

There is Growth from Service

Apart from just the joy you get from serving, there is also personal growth. We are all called to serve. The world needs more people to serve. If you are not deliberately serving people, I encourage you to take time to find something that you can do to serve others. It could be at your work place. Be the one that helps out a colleague; be the one who is more dependable in a certain area. Not just helping your boss but also help your peers. The more you practice to help the more you grow and the more you get satisfaction and derive happiness. The bible says “it is more blessed to give than to receive“. The rewards of serving are immense.

I developed this website not only to share my personal experience but to be of service to people. The articles I write are mainly personal experiences through which I hope that someone is being encouraged and challenged. Over the years I have also enjoyed personal growth because of my own articles. I do a lot of reading and research. As a result I am learning everyday of my life. I can only thank God for the ideas and opportunity he has given me to develop this website. I  believe that am still very much a work in progress. There are many many areas of my life that need to be worked on and slowly but surely they are being turned around.

Conclusion

Love is the joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amazement of the Gods” – Plato. Through service of people lives can be changed and transformed. As we serve and grow we should, endeavour to reach out to the world at large. I believe that serving people is also one way to unlocking our full potential. One can realise their potential by being of service to people. Again I would like to encourage you to find something that you can do that can be of service to the community around you. Start small and slowly reach out to a larger audience.  Take joy in serving people. Remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Decide to Be Happy Everyday and Enjoy Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There are two things to aim at in life: first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second” – Logan Pearshall Smith. Everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with joy and happiness, but also everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with sadness. If every day is a gift why do you then decide to live a life of sadness. We live our lives based off, the decisions we made in the past. That is why it is better to make the right decisions today that will affect our future.

Am not perfect but everyday that I wake-up, I thank God almighty for giving me another opportunity to better my life. I believe that for as long as you are alive you have the chance of improving your life and that of the people around you and beyond.

Yes, I know you may not be in a position to do the things you want to do now, but you have the chance because you are alive. One thing I have noticed is that we as human beings take life for granted. We do not take time to appreciate the fact that we are alive and in pretty much good health. If you are reading this article you are even more privileged than most people. It simply means that you have access to a computer and the internet.

However, you are accessing them, these things cost money. Do you know how many people cannot even come close to think about having the privilege you have? Yet you continue living a life of sadness. I know that you may not have all you desire, but at least give thanks that you are alive. Life is not just about having all you desire but living happily and enjoying it.

Take Responsibility for Your Decisions

The biggest weakness we have as human beings is not taking full responsibility for our decisions. We only want to take responsibility when things are going right and people are praising us. I believe that taking responsibility for our mistakes is a sign of maturity. I am proud to take full responsibility for my personal decisions. Sometimes its difficult to accept that am in a certain situation because of my decisions but that’s just the truth. If I had made better choices I could not have found my self in difficult circumstances in the first place. Ever since I decided to be taking full responsibility for my decisions, life is more fulfilling and enjoyable. What this has done is that, before I make a major decision I think about it very hard.

I have also learnt that deciding to be happy early in the morning makes my day a lot easier to navigate. I know that sometimes people want to mess it up for me, but because a decision was made in the morning to be happy, I stick with it. My mind is pre-conditioned to stay happy and this flows to my emotions. They say our thoughts influence our emotions. When you decide on something and you stick with it, nothing can shake you. Yes things may be thrown at you, but you have the resolve to be happy and you will be, even during the bad and difficult times.

One of the things I do when am confronted with a potentially explosive situation is to just smile and walk away if I can or better still just keep quiet. Its hard to just walk away at first especially if you are hot tempered, but with practice it becomes easier.

There is no need to allow people to annoy you. Life is too short to be lived sad. God has given us the ability to choose freely. The power to decide is entirely in your hands. I like to make a comparison with say going out to have fun with friends. Most of the time when something goes wrong we blame the company we were hanging around with for the decisions we made. Yes they may have played a part but the final say, lies in our hands. If you say no to taking part in unwanted situation you can. This also goes to being in a toxic relationship. You can either decide to continue in it or you can get out.

Learn to Enjoy Your Life

Life is too short, learn to enjoy it. You can only enjoy life if you decide to and this decision is entirely yours. There are many ways to enjoying life, one of which is to do the things that make you happy more often. Most of us do not enjoy our lives simply because of the jobs we do. If your daily job does not make you happy you are most likely living a sad life.

The happiest people are those with jobs that make them happy. You can be paid as much money as possible but without happiness the job is meaningless. You would be probably contributing more if you found a job that makes you happy. Now, a job does not necessarily mean being employed by someone or working for a big corporation. You could be self employed and earning a decent living by doing the things that make you happy. “Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do” – Gerry Sikorski.

That is why it very important to know your life’s purpose earlier in your life. This helps in choosing careers that will enhance and help you achieve your goals. One of the ways to know what your life’s purpose is, is to list down the things that easily flow from you. The things that you do with much ease and less effort. These are the things that could point you to what your life’s purpose is. It could be that you are gifted at making people laugh, well go ahead and be a professional comedian. The idea is start living and enjoy your working life. After all we spend most of our time working.

If you have made mistakes in the past like me, don’t worry, there is still room for change. You can make the change right now and decide to do the right things for the rest of your life. And besides who has never made a mistake in their life? Forget the mistakes you made, treat them as a learning point and move on. You cannot change the past but can positively influence your future beginning this moment by making the right decisions.

Conclusion

You don’t pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success” – Zig Ziglar. I would like to conclude by advising you to made a decision to start living a happy life. Get your power back by taking responsibility for your decisions. We all fall down, but we get up and press on with life. Until next time have a blessed and happy life.

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Your values make the person you are

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Life is lived from the inside out. At the very core of your personality are your values. What you become or what you are, is largely dictated by the values that you hold strong. If your values are love, kindness, honesty, positivity and sincerity that is what will often be shown in your life. Our outward life is merely a reflection of our inner core values. The Bible says “you shall know them by their fruits”. Our values are our fruits. We all live life by our values, be it wrong or right and sometimes knowingly or unknowingly. Human beings are mostly directed by the values they hold. We are daily displaying what we value by the way we live our lives. The life you are living today is a direct reflection of your inner values. Notice that most successful people have a positive outlook about themselves. They harbour positive values within their inner being.

It is, therefore, very important that if we are to succeed at whatever we are doing we must learn to feed our minds and inner souls with the right material. If you feed on negative emotions you are most likely going to produce negative emotions and the opposite is equally true. In short, your character is a sum total of what you feed on. The good thing with our mind is that it can be transformed. If you want a transformation of your mind, feed it with the right material. The bible says “you shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind”. The only way I know of renewing your mind is by reading and learning. Look, whatever you read sticks in your mind and someday it will come out. If you read wrong books your mind will be transformed by them. One of the books I read on a daily basis is the Bible. It is full of positive affirmations. The Bible is actually my life’s guide.

You have to make a deliberate policy and have the will to change. Our daily actions are controlled, consciously or unconsciously by our thoughts. You may not have noticed it but believe me, your thinking has a direct bearing on your character and general behaviour. What you hold dear to your heart will always manifest. I always like to give the example of thieves, do you realise that no one is born a thief. People just learn to thieve and since it can be learned it can also be unlearned. Nature provides us all with equal opportunities. For example, we all have 24hrs a day, 12 months a year. The biggest difference is the way we seize the opportunities that come our way. Sometimes opportunities can be disguised as a “disaster” say, loss of employment. Most of the times when one loses employment they moan and groan about it without realising that it could be an opportunity that has just presented itself to be self-employed or even look for better employment.

Improve your values

Like I said before our values can be learned and unlearned. The question is how can we unlearn the bad values that have accumulated over a period of time. Over the past months, I have been focussing on changing some of my values by reading, listening and watching motivational materials and attending personal transformation seminars. This has seen me change my internal values tremendously. To this day some of the things I thought of being valuable are actually of negative value. When you change your values and focus on building positive ones it gives you a sense of purpose and you feel in control of your life. Most of us are not in full control of our lives and hence just flow with the wind. Hence the frustration with life.

A positive mindset has the ability to create a sense of responsibility and enables you to enjoy your life much much better. You have less pressure and you do not panic when things go wrong. Believe me, things will always go wrong and sometimes very messy. The most important thing is the way you react to them. Do you let the situation overtake you or do you take control of the situation? Most of the things that go wrong are actually within our control. I believe that everything that happens to us, happens for a reason and mostly it is just an opportunity for us to provide a solution differently. However, this entails thinking outside the box. In fact, removing the box altogether. I always like to think of life as a journey. When faced with a challenge do I go back or face the challenge head-on. I focus on facing the challenge head-on. There is always a solution to every challenge that comes your way. Remember that God always makes a way where they seem to be no way. The Bible says “seek ye first the kingdom of God and everything shall be added on to you”. The bible also says that “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”. It is, therefore, very important to have a prayerful life if you have to be successful. Prayer and meditation on the word of God open doors.

Your values are the key components in determining your character. As human beings, our lives portray our core values. Take stock of your life and see what you value most. The best way is to write down what you think your values are. Now compare that with the way you carry on with your daily life. If your values are love, honesty and sincerity this will tend to be exactly how you treat other people. You will always treat people with love and sincerity. I have also noticed that we make opinions about people based on our own characters and past behaviour.  Just take time to observe your life and you will surely agree with me that what you value most will definitely be primary in your daily life.

Clarify your values

One of the characteristics of good leaders is that they have clarity of their values. Remember that we are all leaders of some sort. You may not be in a leadership position but you are the leader of “yourself corporation limited”. The more you get to know what your values are with clarity the better person you become and the more happiness you experience. Many of us have values that are not clear. If you want to succeed at what you are doing it is very important that you write down a clear set of values that you believe in. These values should actually be engraved and be identified with your belief system. This is also true that most successful corporations have a set of values they adhere to.

Your belief system is also key in determining your values. Remember that our belief system can also be learned or unlearned. Our beliefs are mainly deduced as a result of our past experiences and what we have read and seen. Some experiences can be directly linked to us as individuals or can be someone we have seen or read about. To be successful and develop a positive mental attitude there is need to have clarity in your values and belief system. Personal development and self-growth is not a destination but a journey. We are all on the journey of life, however, the difference is how we are enjoying this journey.

Enjoy your life

There is much joy in doing the right things. I have heard that if you are feeling low and want to experience happiness try giving a helping hand to someone else. You will definitely be filled with joy when you see the glow of happiness in the other person.  I believe that humanity was created to help each other. We are the solution to many people around us. If you look around you will realise that there are many people who are worse than you. The onus is on you to make the best out of the current situation. Stop complaining and blaming people for your current situation. Especially if you are over the age of 18, you have full responsibility for your life. Learn to enjoy life by doing that which God created you for. You have the ability and capacity to improve yourself no matter how bad the situation may look like.

Life was meant to be enjoyed. I have learned that for as long as someone has the breath of life in them they are not to be written off. Never ever look down upon anyone in life no matter what their current situation is, instead try and help them where possible. They say as you climb the ladder upwards ensure that you look after those you leave downwards as they will be able to catch you when a calamity falls on you. No offense but I have noticed that those people occupying higher authority, have a tendency of thinking that they do not need anybody whose below them.  I believe that life is a vicious circle. You never know when someone will come and give you a helping hand simply because you helped them at some point in life. You may not be the direct beneficiary of that help but it could be your children or indeed someone close to you. Some of the favours I have personally received are a result of my late father’s goodwill. People have told me that we have done this for you not because you deserve it but out of appreciation of your late fathers’ good standing with us.

Conclusion

Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals and values are in balance” – Brian Tracy. One of the key areas of personal development and success is knowing what your value set are. Your values form an important aspect of your character. It is your character and will that eventually drives you to your life’s goals. I encourage you to set goals for your life and just be a student of your self. Know yourself as much as possible and take action to correct the areas of your life that you think need correction. Lastly, if this site is an encouragement to you, please feel free to share it. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and counted”.

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The Importance of having a defined written down Intended Life’s Purpose

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Service is the rent we pay for being. It is the very purpose of life and not something you do in your spare time” – Marion Wright Edelman. I cannot emphasise how important it is to know and write down your Intended Life’s Purpose. We all have a purpose in life that is why we are here. Our creator designed us to fulfill a purpose therefore, it is very important that we get to know what our God given intended life’s purpose is. To know what your intended life’s purpose is, you need to go back to your manufacturer. “A person with a clear purpose will make progress on even the roughest road. A person with no purpose will make no progress even on the smoothest road”-Thomas Carlyle. There is no way you can know what an appliance was made for before reading the manufacturer’s manual for instructions on how to use the item. God has given us our blue print through the Bible.

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If you do not have a written down Intended Life’s Purpose you are most likely travelling the road of confusion where many of us are right now. “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the lords purpose that prevails” – Proverbs. You were created to add value and to be a solution to the world, regardless of how small or big you may think it is. Alas many of us are denying the world the solutions we were created to offer the world. I feel it does not matter what your age is, you can still contribute to the world by finding your intended life’s purpose.

There are many benefits when we are living or pursing our intended life’s purpose some of which are as follows:-

You will be more effective and efficient
There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it” – Napoleon Hill. When you have discovered your intended life’s purpose you will be more effective and efficient at doing it and work will flow naturally from within you. As an illustration let’s use a guitar as an example. Now we all know that a guitar is a musical instrument, instead of using it for playing music say it is used to paddle a canoe. The effort and energy used will be much more, than if it is used for the intended purpose as per the manufacturer’s manual. Yes it may work as a paddle, but not as effective as a paddle which was made for that purpose. Equally the same with us human beings, if you are living a purposeless life you will notice that you are less effective at your work or whatever, endeavour you are engaged in. Simply put effectiveness means doing what you where meant to do.

One contributing factor to negativity is not being efficient with what you are doing. Personal development and growth demands that, you are more effective and efficient at what you are doing. Effectiveness and efficiency are motivating factors in achieving your intended life’s purpose. Effectiveness does not just mean doing good things, but rather doing the right thing.

The quality of your service is noticeable
When you are doing what you love and are designed for, there is a difference and most of the times the end product is of a very high quality. When you do what you love you do it with a passion and patience. I like to give an example of some of the medical personnel in our hospitals. Those that do it as a vacation are usually not the best, they tend to be in a hurry and do it for the money where, as those that are called to be medical practitioners are more patient and caring for their patients.

Another example is a time when I was tasked to buy some small table for an exhibition, I approached a carpenter and asked him to make one for me. Off course I explained to him all the details and measurements. When he brought the table I asked what the price was. When he mentioned the price I was shocked and politely asked him how much he would be willing to pay for it if the money was coming from him. He shocked me again by giving a ridiculously low price because the quality of his product was sub standard.

This experience brought out one thing for me, the carpenter was in the wrong business. When you have your intended life’s purpose correct the quality and standard of your service or products will be very high and hence will attract good value for money. One way to check if you are moving towards your intended life’s purpose especially if you are in the service industry is to put yourself in the shoes of your customers or clients. Believe me if your work is of a high quality and standard you will know it even without being told by any one.

People are willing to pay a high price for a quality service or product. You will agree with me that when you walk into an electronics shop and you compare the prices for stereos with brand names such as Sony, Sharp and Kenwood with other brands the difference will actually tell you the story and surely you will be much more willing to pay a higher price for the known brands. This is because they have built a good reputation for themselves.
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Joy and happiness
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful” – Herman Cain. There is a great satisfaction and happiness when you have accomplished what you have set out to achieve. The happiest of people are those that are working there intended life’s purpose. Every small goal that you accomplish and moves you towards your greater goal acts as a motivator for the next assignment. When you are doing what you enjoy and love doing, life is more bearable and enjoyable. Yes there will be challenges and obstacles that will come your way, but you will overcome them much easier.

There is no written formula for happiness. For me the only formula I have found to happiness and joy is doing that which I love most. “Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution will ever experience life’s deepest joy; true fulfillment” – Anthony Robbins.

Conclusion
There are more benefits for having a written down intended life’s purpose I have just touched the surface of it. I would encourage each and every one of us to find what God created us to do. The only way to know your intended life’s purpose is to seek the face of God in prayer. “Take up one idea and act on it. Make that one idea your life. Think of it, dream of it, and live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, and every part of your body be full of that idea and leave all other ideas alone. This is the way to success” – Unknown. Bye for now and remember to “standout tall and be counted“.

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Relationships are a source of personal stability

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” ~ Brian Tracy. Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and personal stability; and can also be long lasting despite many trials. There are very few people if any that can claim not to have been or be in a relationship of some sort.

Being in a healthy relationship can be a great source personal stability and can provide security. We derive comfort and security in relationships. Human nature demands that we create relationships. No man is an island. We succeed based mainly on how successful or rather how healthy our relationships are, be it in a business or intimate relationship. I have come to understand that being in an unhealthy relationship has a very negative effect on your personal development journey.

Creating effective and efficient relationships
We all strive for security and personal stability therefore; building an effective and lasting relationship is a necessity. As human beings we feel more comfortable and secure if we know that we come from a loving and caring environment. It gives you a peace of mind when you know that you come from a caring and loving home. It is therefore very important in life that we cultivate and nurture our current relationships. For me the number one killer of relationships; be it personal or business, is luck of satisfactory communication channels. If you are in an intimate relationship make communication number one on the agenda of your to do list.

And effective relationship will have such attributes as; Respect and trust; understanding; taking responsibility for our actions; effective communication and confidence; in intimate relationships patience is also important. When these attributes are correctly applied you are guaranteed of having an effective and efficient relationship. It takes all parties involved in the relationship to make it work.

Even in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management. Sometimes there is a tendency by management not to listen to complaints and suggestions from the junior members, forgetting that without the junior members there would be no organisation to run. People seek employment that offers personal stability and security.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An ineffective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group, with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

Relationships and society
Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. In simple terms society is made up of you and me. I would like to emphasise that at the very core of society is the family. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. We all look forward to a society that offers security and personal stability for all. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships. We are part of one big family. Each and every one of us was created to contribute positively to the growth of every society.

Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them. This is one way of showing respect and exercising your communication skills.

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice. This often creates a breakdown in communication. It is not wise to assume or rather think on behalf of someone. Relationships play a very important part in molding society.

Respect and trust in relationships
Perhaps one of the key factors in determining the healthiness of a relationship is respect and trust. A relationship without both will definitely fail. I have not come across a successful business partnership without respect and trust among the members. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. Respect and trust also applies very much in intimate relationships. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.
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You see in any relationship it takes both parties’ efforts to make a healthy relationship, this is one way you can achieve personal stability. If you are in an intimate relationship it is very important that you respect and trust your partner. The bible says “do onto others what you would want them do unto you”. We definitely do not take pleasure in being hurt unless you are not normal. You see it takes a long time to build trust yet it is very easy to break it. Most of the broken relationships I have come across are as a result of mistrust and luck of respect.

Your character is a reflection of what you think. Feed your mind with the right stuff and you will think and act rightly. There is no way you will respect others if you do not learn to respect and trust yourself. Change begins with you. You cannot go into a relationship expecting to receive what you cannot give. One must learn to please the other before they can receive. Service is very cardinal in any relationship. You must be the first one to be of service and remember you are doing it without expecting any reward.

Conclusion
Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’. Being in a healthy relationship can be a source of personal stability and security as it releases your mind to focus on achieving your life’s intended purpose. “standout tall and be counted”.

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Do more things that make you happy

This is my first article for this year and I thought that I should write an article that will help you stay happy for the rest of the year. “A man is successful if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do” ~ Bob Dylan. Perhaps this is the best description of success for me. The key factor is enjoying doing what you want to do. Sometimes the obvious escapes us.

Notice that whenever you are enjoying what you are doing, you do a better and outstanding job, you have more fun, and feel a certain sense of ease delight and mastery. We become better at something because of the time we spend doing it. In other words the saying practice makes perfect is true. I read somewhere that if we spend two hours a day doing something that we choose to do that makes us happy, within five years we can become an expert. That is why it is very important to have a job that you enjoy. There is no joy in doing a job that does not make you happy.

The challenge
I want to challenge you to find a little something that makes you happy every day. If you are currently working and you feel you do not enjoy your work, well before you think about quitting look at how you can improve your current situation and learn from it. Life is too short to live worrying every day. Besides most of us spend a lot of our time at our work places, why not make them a happy place. I have been in employment before that I dreaded going for work every day and I know what am talking about. The best solution is to make the best out of it. Remember it is essential that you learn to enjoy life there is much more to enjoyment that being sad. I know for sure that happiness makes you look younger.

You and only you alone are in charge of discovering then deciding what you want to do more of that which makes you happy. There are certain things that have to be done. To achieve happiness, make a commitment to making the best out of every situation. Work with pride do your job as if there is no tomorrow. Challenge yourself to always go an extra mile if you are in employment. This will certainly make you stand out from your fellow workers and earn you accolades. If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased and that is you.

Happiness is infectious
Marcus Aurelius concluded that “very little is needed to make a happy life”. Indeed happiness is a state of mind. A happy person always has a positive mental attitude. Make is a point in life to decide to be happy. I know that you come across trials and tribulations but the more you practice to do the things that make you happy the more relaxed and the more inner peace you will have. Happiness has a tendency of spilling over to the others around you.

I have a friend who is always happy. There are very few times I have seen him sad and he is such a huge source of greatness for me. Every time we meet up you feel like you just want to be with this guy more and more. I asked him what his secret to happiness was and he simply said I make a decision every morning to be happy and try to do more of the things that make me happy. This to me is one of the best formulas to happiness. Turn your sad moments to learning moments and reflect on them. Many of the times we are sad because we have allowed others to do so. There are times in all of our lives when we have to focus on sad and painful situations. But in the big picture, when life is running more smoothly, we have to remember to get back in the habit of making choices that will provide opportunities for us to do more and more things that make us happy.

Happiness in service
I believe that some of the happiest people are those in the service industry. If you are in this industry and are not happy please quit. I know that some of the people join the service industry for the sake of a pay cheque. These are the ones that should leave the industry and allow people with a natural inclination for serving humanity to do it with dignity and honor. I have experienced some of the worst treatment by medical personal yet this is a noble profession with a calling to serving lives.

In reality it feels very nice and pleasant and you feel useful after giving a helping hand. I have noticed that, even in my little kids they enjoy giving a hand in whatever I am doing. When they take this opportunity they are very joyful and happy. I want to believe that we all have a part to play in making the world a better pace and it all starts with you and me being a happy people. Service is honourable. When we continue to do more things that make us happy, we will become happier. This gift of well-being is the great reward of living the good life. Each one of us has a choice about how to love the world in our own unique way. “I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves…The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth” ~ Albert Einstein.

Conclusion
Laughter is the best medicine” ~ Unknown. Every day of your life make a decision to be happy. Wake up and declare happiness to be a part of your day. Yes you shall encounter sad moments but treat them as stepping stones. Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a happy world where everyone is playing there part and are happily doing it? I believe it can be done if we all played our part honestly and happily. Stay happy and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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