Do Not Underestimate the Power of Your Actions

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

There is power in your actions just as there is power in your tongue. The two are synonymous. You should always be mindful of what you say or do. Most people underestimate the power that God has deposited in each and everyone of us. Within you there is more than sufficient energy and will power to achieve anything that you set your mind to. “Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!” – Tony Robbins.

It is therefore, important that you realise it and stop underrating yourself. One of the reasons why we do not progress and achieve our goals is because we underestimate ourselves. People think they cannot achieve certain things because they do not have such and such. If you are thinking like that, it is a sign of inferiority complex. Please get rid of it. God created us equal and it does not matter whether you are black or white; rich or poor. Remove the colour of your skin and we all have the same blood running through our veins. I have never seen anyone with white or black blood. We all have red blood in our veins.

We all breath the same air. The sun shines on all humanity regardless of your locality and colour of your skin. Darkness falls on both the rich and the poor. Everyone enjoys the same seasons. There are 24hrs in day for all. Someday each and everyone of us will die. Why then do you underestimate the power of your actions? Every great man or woman knows that every action they take leads to something. That is why it is important that you learn to take decisive actions with your life.

Yes, I know that sometimes our actions may seem not to be right with every one at the time. But nature requires us to do the right things. Some of the things I learnt from my late Dad seemed very harsh then. But fast forward I realise that they are now very useful for my survival. I learnt at an early age in life to be independent. My Dad taught me to be more independent. Well, back then it looked like punishment.

Off course as a young man I would have loved to be a little bit more spoiled. Equipped with more knowledge now, I think It would have been a challenge for me to be a more responsible person if I was spoiled.

Your Every Action Builds your Character

Society will always judge you by your actions, simply because this is what they see. They are not preview to your thoughts and feelings. Most of the times they will miss understand your actions. But always remember that for every action you make there is a reaction. Some will be positive and others will be negative reactions. Stay your course and do what you think is right. I always tell my Children that when you do the right things no one is going to bother you. Not even yourself. You will be at peace with everyone.

No matter how small your deeds may be, do not underestimate the power they carry. It may just be saying thank you to a stranger for helping you. That one small deed can go a long way to making someone happy and feel appreciated. I remember one time at church as I was on duty, I offered one of my team members a cup of coffee. For me it was just extending a good gesture to a team mate. I was very touched to find out a few weeks later that it was the only meal he had for that particular day.

You are a sum total of the small things that you do. Your character is built and formed by the little things you do on a daily basis. So matter how small or insignificant you think your actions are, do not underestimate them. You never know who is watching.

Life is a Work in Progress

My life is a continuous work in progress. I don’t think there will ever be a time when things will just happen on auto pilot. I have to constantly keep pushing myself and find ways of improving. Everyday of my life, it dawns on me that am aging and I have to learn how to do certain things as am aging. When I look at people who are really advanced in age and cannot do the very things they used to do when they were much younger. I realise that actually life is a work in progress. At every stage you have to learn, just when you think you have mastered one thing another challenge comes along.

That is why you must quickly learn to become a student of yourself. You may not have the same energy to achieve your goals in the next few years. They say make hay when its summer because you cannot make it when winter comes. In order to move in tandem with this world you must learn to evolve. Develop ideas on how you can change your way of life and remain relevant to the core. The more relevant you are the more you can contribute positively to humanity.

For as long as am able to, it is my intention to continue contributing in my own small way to the cause of personal development and self growth. I will try and write on topics that are relevant and will continue learning and finding more ways of delivering my messages. I will simply not give up. Not just yet.

Confidence Comes From Experience

You can overcome your fears and flaws by gaining experience. Experience is gained through practice. Take the example of driving a car. The first time you do it you are gripped with fear and are nervous. You are lacking in confidence and make a lot of mistakes on the road. The more you practice the more confident you get. After a number of times driving, you are so much confident that you do not even think about it. Even when you make mistakes you are not bothered that much.

Before you gain confidence you will fall and sometimes bruise your self. But if you persist you will soon get the hang of it and your confidence will soon be more than your fear. To apply the principle of improving your confidence the following could be of great use. Identify the areas of your life that are outside your comfort zone. Take a step by ensuring that you venture into your un comfortable zone. The first time will feel very awkward.

It will not be easy the first time and believe me it will not be perfect either. Go on and continue doing it and you will eventually get the hang of it. Remember that it is not practice that makes perfect but, imperfect practice that results in perfectness.


Never underestimate the potential and power of the human spirit”. Your actions are responsible for shaping your character. If you want to build a good reputation you need to guard your heart jealously as this is the source of your actions. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”.  It is also says “you shall know them by their fruits”. We do not just act from without. We react with what we have. Remember to “never underestimate the power of your actions”.

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How Not to be Successful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

You may be thinking why would you want to know about how not to be successful? Don’t we all want to know about how to be successful after all, that is one of the main themes for this website? Before we delve into the article, lets define the word successful, according to the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary it means “achieving your aims or what was intended”.

From the above definition you can already see why learning about how not to be successful can help you achieve your goals. Sometimes in life we are so focused on knowing the positives and forget about learning how to avoid the negatives. We are so much consumed about how to do this and that, we never take time to learn how not to be positive. If you want to be positive you must know how not to be positive in order to avoid being negative.

Many of us are busy researching on success but are failing to understand why we are not achieving it. I thought to bring to light some of the things that have contributed to either slowing down progress or not progressing at all. Maybe if you take a break and learn the opposite of not being prosperous you will avoid the pitfalls and stay on the right track.

The above definition is more or less straight forward and is on point. It is not ambiguous. For me the definition brings out a few things that I am passionate and have been constantly writing about on this site. Before you embark on the road to pursue success there are a few requisites that need to be attended to. If you are not attending to these basics, you will find it very difficult to thrive. Being successful, is all about achieving. When you achieve you are successful. “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful men keep moving; they make mistakes, but they do not quit” – Conrad Hilton.

Not Knowing Your Life’s Intended Purpose

Your life’s intended purpose is key to being victorious. Remember the definition says “achieving what was intended”. If you do not know what you were created for; what you where intended for; you will find it hard to be successful. I believe that the first thing one needs to do is finding out or establishing his life’s’ intended purpose. This will generally lead to making decisions and taking steps that help to achieve that purpose.

In other words you need to have set goals and targets, and work towards attaining them. Perhaps one of the most sure way of not being successful is not having goals or not knowing your purpose in life. If you do not have a goal you simply cannot attain it. Yes, you may have all the possessions but is that your goal? Only you can measure the true level of your success. “To be successful you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish, and then resolve to pay the price to get it” – Bunker Hunt.

The other way of not be successful is to not being true and sincere to the situation. Most of us are more concerned with who is right and not what is right. We have so much ego that we let it cloud our judgement. I have been in such situations before, where am questioning who gave the solution and believe me most of the times I have ended up missing the opportunity. This is very common especially, if you are so much involved and interested in politics. A famous politician once said politics makes you sit on your intelligence.

Most of the people who are ardent followers of political parties usually do not make honest and objective opinions about the candidates they support. They turn a blind eye to the wrongs being committed by the party they support and are quick to point out the wrongs being committed by their competitors. That is why I have detached myself from politics. I do try as much as possible to make an honest and balanced judgement. However, on this website I promise to not take sides with any politician and will always not talk politics. I just think politics are more divisive.

Not Having the Right Mental Attitude

Achievement is in your mind and your attitude. If you do not see yourself successful, you are not ready for it. They say you are what you think about most of the times. If you critically look back at your thoughts in the last few years and compare them with your current life. Nine out of ten you are living your thoughts.

Not having the right mental attitude is a sure way of not achieving your goals. The two major mental obstacles for success are fear and doubt. Fear is one of the greatest negative emotions. First of all it is the fear of failure; the fear of embarrassment; the fear of loss and poverty. I have also learned that fear mostly exposes our inadequacies. We fear, to do something maybe because we do not have enough knowledge on a certain topic.

The second emotion of doubt is equally as detrimental as fear. We doubt our abilities mostly because we compare ourselves to other individuals, who are more competent and smarter than us. We feel inadequate to the challenges at hand.

However, the good thing is that both fear and doubt are learned emotions. We acquire them as we grow. This is true because I have never seen a negative baby. You will agree with me that children are fearless, that is why they need adult supervision all the time. What ever has been learned can be unlearned.

The emotions of fear and doubt can be replaced by courage and confidence. The higher your levels of courage and confidence the lower your feelings of fear and doubt. The more knowledgeable you are about a subject matter the more courageous and confident you are to participate. I can attest to this because the more I write and post articles the more courageous and confident I become.

I am hoping that in months to come there will be a total transformation in my writing skills.


There are many things that can make you not to achieve your goals. I just thought of writing this article to make you look at the aside of life. It is not my intention not to see you succeed but to help you change, by bringing to light some of the things that maybe a road block in your life. I believe that knowing what works and what doesn’t work in your life is more important to helping you make those decisions that will push you closer to the finishing line. “If you consistently and persistently do the things that other successful people do, nothing in the world can stop you from being a big success also” – Brian Tracy. Stay focused and standout tall and be successful.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is making your dreams come true. We all have dreams, but life can be a discouragement. Life has a way of pushing our dreams backward. We all have gone through a rough patch in our lives and this may have resulted in burying our dreams. There are various reasons why our dreams are buried.  Some dreams are buried under bad health; some are buried under divorce and still, most people are buried with their dreams. Dr. Myles Monroe says the richest place on earth is the cemetery. This is were you find songs that have never been sung; books that have never been written; paintings that have never been painted; businesses that have never been actualised; the buildings that have never been built and many other dreams that will never be actualised.

Even though your dreams have been buried, for as long as you still have the breath of life they are still alive, I believe that God has not forgotten about them. Your dreams may be buried but they are not dead.

I know that most of us are discouraged when we are met with adversity. But do you realise that obstacles are part of the bigger picture to help you achieve your dreams? The adversities are diversities to actualise our dreams. The many obstacles that we go through are part of the journey to achieving your dreams. There is no success without overcoming obstacles. They say success is measured by the many obstacles that you overcome. The fact that you have dreams does not necessarily mean that they will be achieved without hard work and persistence. Yes, it’s very important and necessary to have dreams but it does not guarantee that you will not come across challenges. Life is full of challenges and I believe that these are meant to prepare us for a better future.

I want to let you know that it is never too late to realise your dreams. It does not matter how old you are if you awaken the dreams that God put on your heart you will achieve them. The bible says “I will restore the years that the locust has eaten”. God has a way of giving us back our lost time. Do not die with your dreams, but God to help you share your dreams with the world. When God created you, he put in you all the gifts and talents needed to over any adversity and obstacles that you may encounter on your way to realising your goals. He put in you the ability to change adversity into diversity; the ability to overcome obstacles.

Write down your dreams

We must keep a hard copy of our dreams. Most successful people have written down their dreams. Read goals and goal setting for more details. There is a saying that when you write down your dreams when people read them, they will most likely follow them and this will eventually help you realise them even more quickly. Writing down our dreams also acts as a constant reminder to us. Every so often it is important to refer back to them and constantly remind our selves of what we want to achieve. Believe me, it is not easy to commit to something we have not written down. Regularly review your progress and make improvements. This can only be achieved if you have written them down.

I have developed a habit of writing down what I want to achieve. Every year I make resolutions and set out goals to be achieved. I make sure that they conform to the bigger picture of what my life’s intended purpose is. Life is becoming more bearable for me as each day I focus on what I want to achieve. Yes, sometimes I find my self fire fighting. But I always try as much as possible to learn from them. Sometimes we may feel that there are too many setbacks, but do you realise that those same “setbacks” are setups to achieving our dreams? They propel you see beyond the current situation. In every bad circumstance, there is always something positive. We may not understand it but I think God does not let us go through the storm alone. He always provides a way where there seems to be no way.

God is always with us and he is always providing guidance. The currents that determine our dreams and shape our lives, flow from the attitudes that we nurture every day.

Speak life to every dead situation

There is power in your tongue. What you say usually comes to pass. Remember that even during creation the bibles tells us in Genesis that every time God spoke: “it came to be”. For example on the first day of creation God said “let there be light” and here we are today, we have light throughout the day. All through creation we are told God said whatever he wanted to see and that is what came out and was created. To me, this demonstrates the power that the tongue holds. We are in our current situations mostly because of what we hold as thoughts and what we have said in the past. In other words, we have created our situation knowingly or unknowingly.

If you go about complaining how hard the economy is and how things are not working out for you that, is exactly what will come to pass in your life. Have you noticed that when economists predict a rise in inflation or commodity prices that is exactly what happens around the world? And the opposite is also true. This is equally true even with us on an individual level. When we speak positively about our life things begin to change. It is therefore important that you learn to always speak positive words of encouragement when faced with negative situations. One source of encouragement is the bible. God has promised us so many good things even when we are faced with adversities.

If you are sick, begin to claim your healing because the bible promises us good health and long life. “With long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation” – the Bible. It may take time but every time you speak healing to your body you unbury your dreams of being healthy again. Begin to see yourself walking and living your dreams because God promised it. Speak positive affirmations to all negative situations in your life. Yes, you may be struggling financially but remember that God promised that he shall supply all your needs. Not some but all of them.

Trust in God

Because he loves me, says the Lord, I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name” – the Bible. At the end of the day, we are all created by God in His image and likeness. It’s like when we buy an appliance, the first thing we do is read the users manual and understand how the new appliance works and what limitations it has. The mere fact that we take time to read what the manufacturers manual says, we are placing our trust in the manufacturer because of us the creator of that appliance.

We are acknowledging that the manufacturer knows the appliance better than us and gives us instructions on how to use it. I think its the same with us as human beings. If we live trusting God he surely does not let us down. Yes sometimes things may not go as we want them, but God Almighty knows what’s best for us. All things work out for the better if we put our trust in God.

Over the years I have learned to trust God. There are times when I feel that he is far away from me but my plans are not his. I know that for sure that he has much much better plans for my life than I can imagine. I live my life according to his plans.  The fact that am still alive is testimony enough that God cares about me. You may not realise it but we all have many things to thank God for. If its wealth I believe that this world has more than enough to round for all the 6 billion + inhabitants. Most of the times we find our selves on the wrong end because we ignore what God is telling us and usually this is done out of selfish motives.

There is a time I learned the hard way. I was trying to grow some tomatoes on a large scale for sale. God had clearly told me to do my seedlings, this would have meant that I plant the seeds and wait for at least a month before transplanting them, but instead, I decided to go and buy the seedlings. They started very well and I thought you see I could have wasted time. My my my I lost everything after putting in so much effort and wasting money on fertilisers and chemicals. By the time I decided to do what God had earlier told me it was late and the rains were upon us. I guess God was trying to guide me to work within his plans.


We should show our lives not as it is or how it ought to be, but only as we see it in our dreams” – Count Leo Tolstoy. I believe that every reasonable human being has a dream, in fact, many dreams. The difference between successful people and average people is that successful people have kept their dreams alive and are seriously perusing them. If you are reading this article I know that you have dreams, it is my prayer and hope that you will ask God to not allow you go to the grave without realising your dreams. I also hope and trust that you have found this article useful and has helped stir up your long-buried dreams. Have a blessed day and go and realise your dreams always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

We live in a society that is constantly evolving and therefore, it is important that we adapt to change in order that we enhance our personal development and growth. Change is inevitable especially with the continuous advancement of technology and information gathering. It is very unwise to have a rigid mind that does not easily accept change. Most of us are in this category. You should keep an open mind and focus on the things that will help you achieve your personal goals. Make sure that you make the change as and when necessary in the processes you are imploring to achieving your goals. However, stay focused on the ultimate goal. “It is not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change” – Charles Dawin.

The best leaders are those that do realise when to make the change and implement it as and when necessary. In my journey for personal development and growth I have had to make lots of changes in the way I do things without compromising on my personal values and I always keep my focus on my goals. I keep an ear to the ground and am always willing to make the necessary adjustments to accommodate the ever changing environment. Flexibility does not mean you accept failure, it is just one way of doing things quicker and effectively. You will agree with me that a few years ago posting letters was done mainly through the post office where as now we are living in the advent of emails and other technological messaging systems. These have entailed that we drastically change the way we do business. Imagine if you remained behind and still just want to use the post office for sending mails to your clients as opposed to using the various platforms that are quicker. If you are into sales you will definitely be out of business.

Nearly everything has evolved over the last decade or so and it is therefore, inevitable that you have a flexible mind and change the way you conduct your daily business. Being a computer programmer myself who learnt programming in a language called COBOL in the early 90’s I know how much the computer industry had changed. In fact COBOL has been obsolete for a very long time now. If i did not move with time it would have been difficult for me to keep up with the industry. Some of you will agree with me that some of the things you learnt at school a few years ago are no longer applicable now. The key thing about change is that it can either be the better or for worse. You should always understand what the pros and cons are for a certain change before initiating it. Take time to learn and appreciate it.

Keep Learning and improving your skills

As a human beings it is very important that we are continuously learning and keep improving our skills if we are to be relevant to industry. I am always reading and learning new skills on a daily basis. My current target is to read 12 Books by 31st October 2019 as a way of improving my skill set this is on top of my other everyday readings. I will keep reviewing this on a quarterly basis and see how much progress am making. I also want my site to be one of the best personal development and self growth websites in the next five years. To achieve this I have set out to keep reading and learning new technics that will be of value to my readers. This means that for me to rank in the top bracket, the site will need to have very updates in terms of articles. Not just articles but good quality articles that are helpful. I have also noticed that its builds my confidence to talk about the subject of personal development.

Improving your skill set is one major way to improving your chances of achieving your personal goals with more pleasure and less pressure. I know for sure that in the coming months I will be more confident and motivated to write very meaningful articles. I am also currently learning article writing technics. Those of you who have been reading my articles will agree that there is a tremendous improvement with my articles. With the new skills being acquired I also intend to do a major face lift of the earlier articles and bring them up to the desired standard. These are some of the goals that I have set for this website.

I encourage you to take learning and improving your skill sets very seriously regardless of what you are involved in. The most successful people are constantly reading and learning new skills as this is the only way to keep them above the competition. If you are in sales for example it will do you good to learn how to spend more time with your customers who are more promising, so as to close your sales more quickly and efficiently. There are lots of ways you can increase your knowledge. You could either decide to go to school or have a deliberate habit of spending more time reading industry related materials. An investment in your knowledge and putting what you have learned to practice is a sure way of improving your skill set.

Be willing to pay the price

If your goal is a financial one make sure you set a clear price of what you will pay for what you want to earn. If you want to earn a certain amount of money say $5K every month ensure that you begin giving society the equivalent of $5K in value every month. In other words be willing to pay the price. Start with one or two streams of income and broaden them as you get comfortable with the current ones. Be very honest with your self and do not cut corners by doing illegal things. Having multiple streams of income is a very good safe guard as when one stream dries up due to various reasons, you will still have another one generating  income as needed. On this website my major source of income is google adsense. There are a few other affiliate programs that I recommend but currently google adsense seems to be doing much better than all of them. I intend to include more streams as time goes by and as the site starts to generate more traffic.

I am  also pretty sure that as the traffic increases the google ads will generate even more revenue than what is currently obtaining. I hope to publish the income figures in the future. Currently its really nothing to talk about. The encouraging thing is that if I can generate $1 per day then I think it is possible to generate $2, $3, $4 per day and so on. I just have to keep working hard, until I get the desired results before moving on to implement the other streams. I have noticed that those who are financial sound do not just have one source of income but they have learned to have multiple sources of income doing what they love most.

I believe that it takes time and effort to build something worthwhile, this am determined to achieve and very motivated to seeing it come to pass. Like I said in my earlier articles this website is just one way of my contribution to the world. It is my prayer that everyone who reads my articles at least gets inspired by them. I have so far written 99 articles averaging 1,000 words per article this is a whooping 99,000 words on this website, Wow.

Experiment with change

Human beings are always fearful of change and usually do not like it. Change always brings with it a lot of things and mostly we are reluctant to change for fear of failure. Remember failure is just an opportunity to do things differently. We must learn to embrace change and be able to adjust accordingly. It is also important to experiment with change and focus on the opportunities it brings along. We are always fearful to change especially when we think we do not have adequate knowledge and expertise to go along with it. Sometimes it is just that we are accustomed to doing things in a certain way and sudden need to change our habits is usually un comfortable. I know how frustrating it maybe. I have been their before.

What I have noticed so far is that change always requires us to learn new things and puts a challenge on our abilities. I guess life would have been very boring without change. In your daily endeavours I encourage you to experiment especially in the area of technology, before you fully implement the new one. This will give you a better understanding of the new changes and what is actually required and expected of you. At the rate we are going in the field of technology I am always one of the last people to jump on the new changes. I will be very honest with you I have never been a fun of microsoft windows 10. I find it very difficult to navigate through and always struggle when am using it. But I guess that at some point windows 7 & 8 will be obsolete and I will have to make the change.

As human beings we need to accept mistakes and make the necessary adjustments. Experimenting comes with a lot of mistakes and the only way we can quickly move on is to accept them. It does not help much to start pointing fingers on who is wrong and who is right but rather focus on correcting the mistake. This is true especially if you are in a leadership position. Besides the success or failure of a group is all credited to the leader. A good leader takes responsibility especially for the failures of a team, he will give credit to the team for its successes.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. You cannot stop the wind of change when it blows in your direction regardless of what you are doing. If you want to grow exponentially you need to learn how to embrace change and work to improve your skills. Remember that change always comes with various opportunities and you should always be on the look out to identifying and benefiting from them. A good leader always reads ahead of his followers and is quick to give direction in the advent of the ever changing environment.  I hope you will keep an open mind and be flexible to embracing change as the will help you to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“All growth is from within” ~ Master Key. “Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life” ~ Herbert Otto. I know and believe that every normal thinking person has a dream, at least I have one. We all want to believe deep down in our souls that we have a special gift, that we can make a difference, that we can touch others in a special way, and that we can help make society and the world at large a better place. The biggest challenge to this belief is ones-self. You are responsible for making it and living your dream life. No one but you alone, are the master of your destiny. The thoughts and actions you make come from within you and hence determine the course of your life’s direction. In this article I try and help you take a leap of personal development by accepting that you play a major role in determining the course of your future.

There are three decisions that you make every moment of your life that shape and control your destiny. These three decisions will control what you will notice, what you will feel, what you will do and finally what you will contribute and who you will become. I believe that if you do not control these decisions it becomes very difficult to take the giant step of growth. It also means to me, that you are not in control of your life. Firstly you must understand that all growth comes from within; growth is embedded thin the inside of you. Jesus gives us the example of the mastered seed in the bible. Out of a small seed grows a huge tree. Where does the tree come from? Off course the external environment plays a part but it is hugely what is inside that determines that extent of growth. If you have very little faith in what you are doing then you might as well stop it and grow the faith before continuing. When you control these three decisions then you begin to shape your destiny.

What is your focus in life?

Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives” ~Tony Robbins. The first step of growth for me to take is the decision is what to focus on. You see, it’s not what is happening to you right now or what happened to you in the past that determines who you want to become. But rather it’s your decision on what to focus on that will help determine your personal growth. Do you want to dwell on the negative past and want to focus on the negative results that you have archived? What you decide to focus on largely determines what results you will accomplish. Focus on negative results and believe me you will have just that. It is very important that you learn to focus on the positive aspects of life even in trying movements. Here is a lesson I have learnt in life it is much easier to walk out when things are not going on well. This I tell you is the easiest decision you can make in life and believe me it is not usually the best one available.

Luckily we all have the ability to make decisions to focus; we all have the some power and consciousness to focus. When you focus this power through attention or concentration on any single purpose for considerable length of time nothing becomes impossible. If you have ever looked through the viewfinder of a camera, you found that when the object was not in focus, the impression was indistinct and possibly blurred, but when the proper focus was obtained the picture was clear and distinct. This illustrates the power of concentration. Unless you can focus and concentrate upon the object which you have in view, you will have but a hazy, indifferent, vague, indistinct and blurred outline of your ideal and the results will be in accordance with your mental picture. We therefore, have no excuse to fail making better decisions.

By making the decision to focus on the right things in life we are taking a giant step of growth. Remember that growth will not come all at once or like manner from heaven. You need to make the right decisions and actions. I want to believe that if you have a written down life’s intended purpose then you have a plan to focus on. The first thing to do before you make the decision to focus is to have a written down life’s purpose as mentioned before. This will give you a better reason to focus and achieve your goals in a more organized manner.

What do things means to you?

“My definition of success is to live your life in a way that causes you to feel a ton of pleasure and very little pain – and because of your lifestyle, have the people around you feel a lot more pleasure than they do pain” ~ Tony Robbins. My second step of growth is the decision about what things mean to you? Well you may want to ask yourself what life means to you; why do you exist? These are just but some of the questions that you may have to know the answers to. The decision about what things mean to you is a huge one that you cannot afford not to make if you have to make the second giant step of growth. Remember you need to know what things mean to you in order to have greater control of your life. After you have made the decision to focus ask yourself what does the thing(s) you are focusing on mean to you; what is the value of it? If it can be quantified put a monetary value to it. They say you heart is where your money is. Where is your heart?

In life we come across so many things and most of them are actually useful for a short while and then become meaningless after some time. Therefore, it is very important that you know when something is of value and when to let go of it. Many of the times we keep holding on even to things that have no more value. We carry a lot of cabbage long with us. Know that if you carry cabbage it is of no value to you. This applies even to people that we come across. Some of them have no value per say in our lives. Yet we continuously spend more time with them. I am not saying you should create enemies but try to spend more time with the people that add value to your life, If you have to grow.

If you have to grow stop taking responsibility for people’s actions. Remember you are accountable for your own actions. I have seen people who want to take responsibility for someone’s actions in the name of pleasing them. This is very wrong, and please know that the best recipe for failure is to try to please everyone. You should attach a value to Personal growth and development. To do this you need firstly to have spelt out your intended life’s purpose. Believe me, if you do not have a written down LIFE’S INTENDED PURPOSE, you are just chasing after the wind. You are flowing with the wind. You have no control of your life’s destiny.

What do you want to do?

I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” —THOMAS EDISON. Lastly the decision to know what you want to do to achieve your goal is very cardinal. This still brings me back to the idea of having a written down life’s intended purpose. Without which you cannot make the decision to know what to do to achieve it. If you went ahead and made the decision, it would be like getting in a car and driving off without a known destination. In other words you would be driving aimlessly. In this case you are living life aimlessly without a written down life’s intended purpose.

Many of us are scared to make decisions of what we want to do or rather how we want to go about achieving our intended life’s purpose, for fear of making the wrong decisions. Believe me we all have made wrong decisions in our lives and we are all going to make wrong ones in future. The key is to be flexible enough to override our earlier decisions and replace them. We do not have to allow the past wrong decisions we made to control our future. Remember your future is affected by the decisions you make now. Always try your level best to think through and possibly delay your decisions so as to make better judgment of what you want to achieve. The best time to make some of these hard decisions is in the night when you are alone and reflecting on your day. Believe me I have made far much better decisions when not rushed. Remember: Success truly is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is the result of experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgment!


Too many of us don’t make the majority of our decisions consciously, especially these three absolutely crucial ones; in so doing, we pay a major price. To avoid making wrong decisions’ we must commit to learning from the earlier mistakes. This is the only way we can improve on our decision making process and stop make better judgment of what decisions are to be made in future. Personal development is a continuous process and does not come without effort. Remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Do more things that make you happy

This is my first article for this year and I thought that I should write an article that will help you stay happy for the rest of the year. “A man is successful if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do” ~ Bob Dylan. Perhaps this is the best description of success for me. The key factor is enjoying doing what you want to do. Sometimes the obvious escapes us.

Notice that whenever you are enjoying what you are doing, you do a better and outstanding job, you have more fun, and feel a certain sense of ease delight and mastery. We become better at something because of the time we spend doing it. In other words the saying practice makes perfect is true. I read somewhere that if we spend two hours a day doing something that we choose to do that makes us happy, within five years we can become an expert. That is why it is very important to have a job that you enjoy. There is no joy in doing a job that does not make you happy.

The challenge
I want to challenge you to find a little something that makes you happy every day. If you are currently working and you feel you do not enjoy your work, well before you think about quitting look at how you can improve your current situation and learn from it. Life is too short to live worrying every day. Besides most of us spend a lot of our time at our work places, why not make them a happy place. I have been in employment before that I dreaded going for work every day and I know what am talking about. The best solution is to make the best out of it. Remember it is essential that you learn to enjoy life there is much more to enjoyment that being sad. I know for sure that happiness makes you look younger.

You and only you alone are in charge of discovering then deciding what you want to do more of that which makes you happy. There are certain things that have to be done. To achieve happiness, make a commitment to making the best out of every situation. Work with pride do your job as if there is no tomorrow. Challenge yourself to always go an extra mile if you are in employment. This will certainly make you stand out from your fellow workers and earn you accolades. If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased and that is you.

Happiness is infectious
Marcus Aurelius concluded that “very little is needed to make a happy life”. Indeed happiness is a state of mind. A happy person always has a positive mental attitude. Make is a point in life to decide to be happy. I know that you come across trials and tribulations but the more you practice to do the things that make you happy the more relaxed and the more inner peace you will have. Happiness has a tendency of spilling over to the others around you.

I have a friend who is always happy. There are very few times I have seen him sad and he is such a huge source of greatness for me. Every time we meet up you feel like you just want to be with this guy more and more. I asked him what his secret to happiness was and he simply said I make a decision every morning to be happy and try to do more of the things that make me happy. This to me is one of the best formulas to happiness. Turn your sad moments to learning moments and reflect on them. Many of the times we are sad because we have allowed others to do so. There are times in all of our lives when we have to focus on sad and painful situations. But in the big picture, when life is running more smoothly, we have to remember to get back in the habit of making choices that will provide opportunities for us to do more and more things that make us happy.

Happiness in service
I believe that some of the happiest people are those in the service industry. If you are in this industry and are not happy please quit. I know that some of the people join the service industry for the sake of a pay cheque. These are the ones that should leave the industry and allow people with a natural inclination for serving humanity to do it with dignity and honor. I have experienced some of the worst treatment by medical personal yet this is a noble profession with a calling to serving lives.

In reality it feels very nice and pleasant and you feel useful after giving a helping hand. I have noticed that, even in my little kids they enjoy giving a hand in whatever I am doing. When they take this opportunity they are very joyful and happy. I want to believe that we all have a part to play in making the world a better pace and it all starts with you and me being a happy people. Service is honourable. When we continue to do more things that make us happy, we will become happier. This gift of well-being is the great reward of living the good life. Each one of us has a choice about how to love the world in our own unique way. “I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves…The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth” ~ Albert Einstein.

Laughter is the best medicine” ~ Unknown. Every day of your life make a decision to be happy. Wake up and declare happiness to be a part of your day. Yes you shall encounter sad moments but treat them as stepping stones. Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a happy world where everyone is playing there part and are happily doing it? I believe it can be done if we all played our part honestly and happily. Stay happy and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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4 Tips for self-improvement

What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in?  What if you are sick and tired of your job? What if you are sick and tired of your current situation? What can you do to get out the current dilemma?

Though not easy, it is possible to take inspired and motivated actions to survive your present situation and live the life you’ve always dreamed of. To do this you will have to come out of your comfort zones to discover potential opportunities waiting for you.  You have to conquer your fear and take calculated risks. You have to stay focused and persevere despite the difficulties you will encounter.

Success does not come easy.  It takes heart, passion and time. Experience is always a good teacher and there can never be any better substitute. The lessons learned in your everyday life become your foundation. Self-improvement does not come without hard work and perseverance.

You have to work harder, dig deeper, and sacrifice more to attain your ambitions. But no, you do not have to hate the world and feel bad when you encounter difficult situation.  Just remember the Law of Attraction. If you hate the world, the world will hate you back. Here are 4 tips to consider for your self-improvement.

Learn to love your current situation. 
No matter how bad your current situation is, there are some good things in it. See all the positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Love your boss, your coworkers, your family, your friends, love whatever it is that you are currently despising. Love attracts goodness and general happiness.

It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong will power. Just do not fall in love so much that you totally forget about your dreams. Love, but try to hold on to reality. Many of the times we tend to focus on the negatives in a situation. But do you know that there are also a lot of lessons to be learned in your current situation. No matter how bad it is find the positives and concentrate your efforts on them.

Balance is the key. 
Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time. One day at a time. Do not be so engrossed as to forget about other aspects of life. Learn to live a balanced life even as you embark on your journey to success.

While you are slowly starting on the long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible.  Do not hurry up too much that you totally forget how to enjoy life. Appreciate the beautiful things you will encounter on the journey. Always remember that personal development and self-improvement is not a competition. You are not competing with anyone to succeed.

One day, you will finally attain what you have always longed for.  But when that day comes, do not look down on those who belittled you. Forgive and forget, after all your desire is to be a better person.

Stay humble. 
Do not criticize others when you see that you are becoming more successful than they are. Try to help them. Helping others is an act of good will. Inject your positive aura into their personalities. When you give, you will yield back equal or greater rewards. “It is more blessed to give” ~ the Bible. Always endeavour to give more and more.

Humbleness just like patience is a virtue. Even when you are walking in your success stay humble. I know and have seen some people that have lost their coolness after attaining their success. Do not think that you are the only one who can succeed instead try and help others to reach their goals if you can. Always do something that other people will appreciate. Self-improvement is all about making the world a better place by first improving yourself.

Are you ready to begin the journey?
Start it with the courage and desire to improve your life. Survive and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and positive thinking. Finish it with a resounding bang of accomplishment and with the desire to help others succeed as well.

Before you begin your journey have a written down plan for your life’s purpose. This should be a guide towards how you will live your life. Continue to improve on it and read it every day and believe that you have attained it. Commit your plans to God’s hands and see how wonderful and faithful he is. “A journey of 3000 miles begins with one step” ~ Chinese proverb. With these few pieces of advice I think you can begin your journey.

There are many other self-improvement tips that you will get as you go on with your daily life. Take note that you are not alone. There are others in much more difficult situations than you are currently in. That is why there will be no shortage of advice about self-improvement. Hope and trust that you will find the above tips helpful. Remember to always stay focused and share love and be compassionate with one another.

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How to motivate yourself

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt. Just as willpower is an essential factor in achieving success, at some point in time, discouragement and lack of motivation may hinder you from reaching your objective. And it is up to you, and you alone to devise techniques that will help you keep the fire burning within.

It is helpful to have visual goals. Whatever it is you are working towards, make it visual. Write it down and always remember to remind yourself about it every day. It maybe something material like a car, or a vacation you have been looking forward to for a long time.

If possible take or cut out a picture of it and post it at a conspicuous place at work or at home where you can see it often. So that when you feel discouraged, this will remind you of your goal and will help you keep your spotlight.

Make a contract with yourself. According to motivational researches, people who write down to-do-lists are far more triumphant in achieving their intended goals than those people who just keep mental lists instead.

Putting something in writing somehow makes it more powerful psychologically speaking. This may also be the basis why most cultures have such a high regard in honoring contracts. In the contract, you may also include a certain reward that you will give yourself once you have accomplished the task.

After all, everyone likes to be rewarded for completing a good job. Even a simple pat on the back, “good job”, or “thank you” may do the trick to give the person the additional push to carry on, but unfortunately, these may not always be readily available. Considering that these are also essential in keeping oneself motivated, you must learn to find a way to get that encouragement on your own through pleasing yourself.

Abusive people lower your self-esteem and bring you down. Get these negative people out of your life. Surround yourself with positive people. Imitate their example. Smile amply and think happy thoughts.

These will give you a brighter outlook and lets you see a clearer picture of what you really want and a fresh mind to know what steps to take to get there. Rather than wait for things to happen, try to be proactive and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Inactivity idles the brain and stagnates your potential to reach your goals. There is a saying that “an idle mind is the devils workshop”.

Read inspirational books and literature. These will help you improve your attitude and heal your mind. A book of success stories also proves to be encouraging. You will not only learn from others’ experiences and derive confidence boosting insights from them but the story will be instrumental in motivating you to go for your goal and move ahead with your plans. If this still seems to falter, get training or education.

Often times, not knowing how or where to start from is frustrating. Knowledge is power. Having a clear understanding of how and where to start is empowering and it will provide the extra drive needed to hit the mark you are aiming for and follow it through.

Whatever it is that you have been meaning to do, or wanting to achieve, JUST DO IT! Keep on aiming high and go for it! Actually getting your hands dirty best solves the problem of motivation. By “forcing” yourself to just do it, your momentum will pick up gradually as you go along and before you know it you have finished the task or have finally achieved your goal. Divide and conquer is the key.

Break down the apparently unattainable activity to small doable steps. Not only does it become less overwhelming, but seeing the “in the meantime” results will further your confidence that it can indeed be done.

Lack of motivation happens to us all, but if you do not encourage yourself to accept opportunities and be challenged, no one else will. It is most important to keep your eye on the goal, find ways to keep going, and in no time, you shall reap its benefits.

And if at the beginning you were just doing it for the material reward, you will also learn to realize that the fulfillment, satisfaction and self-achievement you derive from reaching your goal is equally much enjoyable and will keep the drive within constantly burning.

There are many other ways to keep yourself motivated. The key is to maintain it at a level that drives you to achieving your intended purpose. We all need to be motivated to reach our goals and sometimes that drive burns out and needs to be rekindled. If you want to stay motivated get the motivation spirit and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Be gracious and stay happy

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation” ~ Brian Tracy. When something bad happens, instead of embracing it and taking it personal you need to learn to change how you think of it. For instance, if you work in the service industry and you have a rude customer, instead of letting it ruin your day and your mood, try and show some compassion, you see different people have different problems, perhaps something bad has happened to that individual, try and do something nice for them. A smile can be contagious. Instead of taking everyone’s bad mood personal make the choice to be in a good mood, smile and circulate the cheer! Thank the customer and wish them a pleasant day.

With larger life issues that can bring us down, like an ill family member, a divorce, a disagreement with a loved one, cast your worries away. Do what you can to help or correct the situation and then leave it in God’s hands. Many of the times we want to carry the burden in our heart. Remember you’re only a human, you can’t fix everything and shouldn’t have to carry all of life’s burden’s on your heart day in and day out. Do your best to apologise to those you wronged, forgive those who wronged you, ask for help when you require it, and offer help when you are able to.
It’s about letting go of all of those things sitting in your heart that are keeping you from having a positive outlook. It’s your choice; do not overload your heart with hate and spite. If you are able to keep the negative in your heart, let it go to make room for the positive.

Some people will never tell you they had a bad day perhaps they will describe the events that occurred. As a matter of fact some believe there’s no such thing as a bad day. I know that this is a hard concept to grasp especially for me, “bad days” have been a steady occurrence. To some every day is a gift. Some are thankful for the challenges as they are a source of learning. Be thankful for your job even when it is not pleasant. I have worked in an unpleasant environment. Until I learned to appreciate the job did I start getting some job satisfaction. I did not stay long though my plan was to move on.

Try and start to adopt the philosophy of appreciating what you have and see if it can work for you as well. Make a choice to be positive and learn to be thankful for all you have. Remember there are millions of people in a worse situation than you are. When you are having a “bad day” try and discover something good in it, there are more good things than bad things in a day. When you discover something good you will realize that a few bad things don’t ruin a whole day unless you let them! It’s an option! Every day we’re alive is a gift there is so much to be grateful for so why do we center on the things that make us unhappy? “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it called present” ~ unknown. Surely a present is mean for all to enjoy.

Readapt your thinking .bad days are selections we make! In the end having a positive outlook is entirely up to you! Its a choice you make day-to-day. You can never control what other people say or do to you but you are able to control your response. By selecting the positive route, as briefly outlined, you’ll be happier and healthier than ever before. You’ll have a peace within you that will leave people looking at you in awe. I think it is a choice that’s worth making. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted” and be gracious and enjoy your life.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent.” ~Tony Robins.  “Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives” ~ Tony Robins. No man is an island. Personal success and development cannot be achieved in isolation. God has abundantly blessed us with people in our lives that we can rightly use to achieve our life’s purpose and goals.

Each and every person you have come across in your life has a part to play and it is entirely up to you to recognise that and help them to help you move closer to your life’s purpose. In this article I discuss three important ways to empower our associates. Firstly let me make mention that there are 3 groups of people in our lives; firstly those close relations, these will include your family, your friends, your spouse and children; secondly your work relationships, these will include your colleagues, work mates including your boss. Thirdly all the other people you come across on a day to day basis.

You need to know how to interact these people in order for you to help you achieve your desired life’s purpose and goals. The key areas I have identified are listed below.

There is no single person I have come across in my entire life that does not like or rather feel good when they are appreciated. This is perhaps the most important aspect of getting people to like you and do what you would like them to do. You must learn and be in the habit of thanking people even for the smallest of things they have done for you. A simple smile and a “thank you” goes a long way in lifting the other persons morale.

At least say thank you for the effort even when what you have been given is not exactly what you asked for. Let the other person feel appreciated when serving you. Appreciation lifts the self-esteem of human beings. The feeling of appreciation is an intense one and can make or break someone’s self-esteem. Imagine yourself working for a boss who does not seem to appreciate whatever effort you put in your work.

Imagine the feeling of not being appreciated after you have spent so many hours on an assignment. But then contrast this with the feeling of being appreciated even for your very small efforts. You will even put in more extra time because you feel that your work and presence are being appreciated.

Remember, everyone is primarily emotional.  Everything that people do, or refrain from doing, is triggered by their deeper emotions.  Your job is to connect with their higher and more positive emotions so they feel so good about you they want to help you and please you in some way. If you are in a supervisory position it will really help you to spend more time with your subordinates inviting their feedback and comments on their work. This I believe is one of the best methods to get their work approved as they will understand what is expected of them.

Nothing beats the feeling of satisfaction when your work is approved by your manager. You feel like the work is personally yours. Believe me having a highly, motivated worker can yield results beyond your imagination. If your personal goal is very dependent on other people’s input you need to devise methods that are consistent and gain respect from other people. You need to be nice, friendly and courteous. I encourage you to read more on people management. In life, you always have a choice.  You can either do everything yourself or you can get others to help you do some of the work.

The third and final aspect of empowering others is attention. Just like every one of us love attention in one way or the other. Learn to listen with a keen interest. Pay attention to the details that keep people motivated and work to improve them. If you have a difference with say a work colleague. Do not argue with them but reason with them. Listen to their explanation and make sure you understand the reasoning behind.

I have experienced this especially with women. Even when they know that you cannot help them but just the fact that you will listen to them makes a difference. The fact that you will give them the attention they need, will greatly improve their self-esteem. If you are married that is lesson number one for you.

Your ability to delegate effectively, which requires that you inspire and empower others to help you willingly, will determine how fast you move ahead.  It will determine how much you earn in your job. It will determine the quality and quantity of your productivity.  It will determine your ultimate financial success in life.  And the key to all of this is your ability to empower others. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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