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Life is Like a Seed that Needs to be Nurtured

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and Nourish that Seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to Be at the Centre of Your Plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.

Conclusion

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go to waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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To Change is to Be Progressive

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn From Every Challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines.

With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow of doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when writing a song lateron sing it.

You Have the Capacity to Change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we Prepare for the Future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within your own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life.

Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.

Conclusion

If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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Everything is hard before it’s easy

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

If I have correct goals and I keep pursuing them the best way I know how, everything falls into line. If I do the right thing, I am going to succeed” – Dan Dierdorf. Human beings by nature want to have easy things in life. Most of us are full of envy when we see our friends driving beautiful fancy cars and living a seemingly comfortable and enjoying life in general. How we long to arrive at the so-called “easy life” destination without hard work. Yet it does not come. The lazier we become further away from the good life drifts. Yes we can all achieve what we want and I believe, that is what God intended for us all. But achieving our hearts desires requires us to take bold and right steps; to make bold decisions that require a mindset change.

Personal development and self-growth requires a change in our mind and belief systems. If you are to achieve your goals, there is no doubt that your attitude and mindset has to be in the sink. Perhaps this could be a great start for you to set your year’s objectives and goals. The key thing is to start somewhere. Start now, plan to succeed at whatever you are intending to achieve. I believe that everything that is worthwhile is worth your effort.

If everything in life was easy to achieve or get, then life would have been very boring. Our bodies were designed to work, both physically and mentally. I have discovered that nature is neutral. God has blessed us with the same environment, we all have equal access to the environment. No one on this earth can claim to have more or less than 24hrs a day, I have never heard of anyone who has more or less air. We all experience the same conditions at a given time. We all tap into the same universal resources. The difference, however, is how efficient and effectively we use these abundant resources that God has given us. We are all products of the same universe. We were all created in the image of God.

The question that one may ask is how come life seems to be easy for some people? Well, I believe that there is nothing that comes as easily as it seems and let me just say that life is never easy. All good things come at a cost. You must be willing to pay the price before you begin to reap and enjoy the rewards. I know for sure that for you to live a happy and successful life you must be willing to pay the price and be disciplined enough to delay gratification. Most of us want to live in the now and not in the future. We do not want to delay gratification. Even the so-called easy life is not as easy as it seems. It may look easy from the outside but it is not what it seems. I remember during my earlier working days in life when we used to envy our friends who worked for bigger and “better” corporate organisations. We all would be saying “if only I worked for that organisation life would be easy”. Yet the people working for the same organisations would be looking elsewhere.

Condition your mind to start working

You will agree with me that everything that is good is worth working for. It feels very nice when you have worked for something and are enjoying the benefits. It gives me much pleasure when I have achieved a target. I have a sense of joy and my mind is always positive to even work harder. It is, therefore, very important to set goals that are achievable in order that you keep a positive mental attitude. Failure should, however, not be an obstacle it should be viewed as a challenge to be overcome. It should be a learning process. Every day of our lives we are constantly pushing ourselves to achieve targets. You may not realise it but every day of your life you are achieving a target this could either be positive or negative the choice is yours.

You need to prepare your mind for success. Preparing your mind for success is important as this will also allow you to grow with your success. This will require you to take deliberate steps to condition your mind. If need be you may have to change your friends or get out of some bad relationships. Yes I mean change your friends. Not all relationships are actually beneficial some can be very detrimental. You may also need to move to a new location. Over time I have personally had to make some drastic changes to my lifestyle. This has helped me a great deal. I am more focused on what I do. Believe me, some relationships can be a distraction to your progress, the sooner you identify them and make the necessary change the better. It may be difficult for you to make drastic changes right now but if you are serious about shaping your future, find a way to adjust. Do not allow friendship to hinder your progress.

Your mind plays a key role in determining your overall progress in life. What you feed your mind on a daily basis is very important. The Bible says “ for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. If you hang around people with a positive mental attitude you are most certainly going to have a positive attitude the opposite is also true. Everything that we do or want to do in life begins in our minds. Our minds are, therefore, the workshop or the engine room of everything. Do you realise that everything that is made by man was conceived in the mind? This is how important our minds are. Apart from hanging around with positive-minded people, you could also start reading books and listening to audiotapes that will have a positive impact on your mind. Make a deliberate habit to change your mind and ensure that you take action.

There is no easy route

Once you have started pursuing your goals learn to be patient with yourself. You will keep on falling and failing. Every new skill or habit takes time to execute with minimum effort. Keep learning from your mistakes and be open-minded to make the necessary changes. I have noticed that most of the young generation are in the habit of trying to cut corners especially in the area of financial freedom. Believe me, it is not worth it. I am yet to find an easy route to success that is not short-lived. Ever since I embarked on doing what I love most it has not been easy. Yes, I enjoy it but the journey has not been an easy one. I have enjoyed both dry moments and good ones. What keeps me going is the fact that I enjoy writing and hope that these articles are of help to someone. I am still very much a work in progress but impressed with my own progress so far.

From my studies and personal experience on the subject of self-growth and improvement, I have learned that cutting corners only yields short-lived happiness. If you want long-lasting happiness resolve to do the right things. You will have peace of mind for the rest of your life. The small things that I have achieved so far through hard work make me feel over the moon. They may be small but they actually count a lot to me. After all, success is the sum total of the things we accomplish on a daily basis. I am not in any competition or race with anybody and therefore, will move at my own pace. Like I always say if something is worth the salt then it is worth your sweat. Everything is always difficult for the first time.

Conclusion

Everything in life is hard before it’s easy. They say that it takes 21 Days to develop a new habit. You can take advantage of this theory and change your non-productive habits to those that will in the process help you grow as an individual. Having the knowledge that our minds are very critical to our personal development and self-improvement it is therefore very important that we learn to guard our minds and hearts. The Bible says “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” – Philippians. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” – Proverbs. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Yourself image determines your performance

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

We all have formed an image of our self in one way or another. I have been doing a personal study of my performance in relation to my personal image. The discovery has been phenomenon. I have discovered that the way I view my self has a direct relationship with my task performance and my general life output. I believe that this is true for most of us. We live our lives based on our self-image. We form our self-image based on many factors especially external ones. If your self-image is that of a failure or of a loser, believe me, you are most likely living a failed or losing life. However, the opposite is also true. When am carrying out a task and my personal thoughts are negative the results are also not very encouraging. I have sometimes spent hours and hours on articles only to realise that I have not done a good job and this is mostly because I had a negative feeling about the subject. These articles never find their way on my website.

It is, therefore, important that you create a positive self-image if you have to improve your performance.  Having a positive self-image is one of the key factors for enhancing your personal growth. A positive self-image will accelerate your performance levels and speed up your goal attainment process. I know that there are times when you just feel negative about something, it is absolutely okay to feel that way. The key thing is how quickly you turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. I have written enough articles on this website that sometimes when I feel demotivated I start going through some of them and boom my mind is filled with positive thoughts. I have also gotten inspiration for writing even more articles just from reading motivational books. I am not blowing my own trumpet but just merely stressing the point of reading motivational articles.

If you have always had negative thoughts about yourself I encourage you to read the bible for inspiration. There are many books out there but, the bible is the book of life. It is your manual for life. You will begin to see how precious you are in the eyes of God. Failure is mostly associated with our negative self-image. You have the capacity to change and shape your destiny if only you can change your personal image. Change begins with you. If you want to improve your performance and live the life you have always wanted, you must make the mental change to believe that you are the best at what you do and begin to take action. You are responsible for your life and should learn to take full responsibility for your actions and current situation. If you are an adult you should not expect a bailout. Just take responsibility and begin to act on making things better for your self. “The moment of enlightenment is when a person’s dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities” – Vic Bruden.

How do you change your self-image?

This is perhaps the starting point to your personal growth. You, alone are responsible for creating your self-image. It’s like in a marriage, what you tell your relatives and friends about your spouse is what they will know about her.  If you disrespect her, believe me, they will also. What you call your spouse in public is what they will call her. So if you want people to respect her you will always endeavour to tell them positive things about her. Those of you who are married must take this advice seriously. You will respect her in public regardless of the differences you had at home. It’s those that do not value their marriages who will talk negatively about their spouses in public. Yes, every marriage has its own unique problems and we do not want to bring them out in public.

The same is true with how you view and portray yourself to people. The more positive and confident you show people the more positive and confident people will see you. But this begins with yourself seeing the many positive things and qualities you possess. Take a sheet of paper and just write out 20 things that you think you are. You will be amazed at what you will write down. Yes, we fail but that does not mean we should not try again. The most successful people fail many times before they succeed. The less successful people give up once they encounter a challenge. Failure to me is merely an obstacle to be overcome. Life would be very boring without challenges. Many of the times when we encounter challenges it simply means that there is an opportunity to develop a solution for the challenge.

If you keep trying and trying things differently you will surely succeed at what you are doing. Fill your mind with positive self-images about your self and sooner than later your mind will change the way you look at your self. Create a deliberate habit of saying “I like my self” repeatedly every time you feel low emotionally. When you wake up in the morning ask God to help you focus on the positive things in life. Refuse the spirit of negativity and put on the image of positive thinking. Believe that you can complete a task with better results and make time to develop your skillset. Have an open mind to learning new things. Always see failure as a challenge and refuse to accept it. Surely changing your self-image will make you feel much much happier and definitely help to improve your performance. When you feel good about yourself you will perform much much better. After all, what you want most in life is the feeling of happiness.

know that you will come across people that will say unpleasant things about you. But you have the ultimate control to either accept or reject them. And besides, we all have skeletons in our closets. No one on this earth can claim to be pure. It is also beneficial to hang around people that have a positive image about you as this helps to keep you motivated. When you create a positive image about your yourself, somehow it flows from you and attracts the right people. Make a deliberate policy to evaluate your friends some of them may not be very beneficial to your personal growth.

Maintain the discipline of doing what is right

You know, there is a good feeling when you do something that is right. The feeling is just awesome. I would not be wrong to say that we all possess the ability to do the right thing. There is just something nice when we feel that, what we have done is good. All well-meaning people have a conscious that tells us about what we are doing. I usually go with my first thoughts or rather my instincts. If am doing a task that am not sure of its effect on society, mostly I back out unless am convinced otherwise. This is not to say that I have never done the wrong things before. Believe me, I have but, I have learned to take responsibility and help to correct them if I can. I am not ashamed to go back and say am sorry let me correct my wrongdoing. I have developed the discipline of doing what I think and feel is right especially for my success.

Self-discipline is one of the most difficult traits, but an important one for personal development and growth. We keep fighting every day to do the right things. Our minds are always telling us to do the easier things in life than do the most difficult and important things first. Like delayed gratification, we always want to spend money rather than save for the future. I will be honest, I also struggle on a daily basis to do the easy things and forget the difficult and necessary tasks. But tell you what, every time I conquer this edge, there is a feeling of joy and satisfaction.

Developing the discipline of doing the right things first is a good attribute to helping in improving your performance. Doing the right things always makes you feel motivated and proud of yourself. Society lucks men and women who can stand up to do the right things even in the advent of criticism. It seems to me that many of us have fallen prey to doing what is popular or trending for fear of being called bad names. We would rather be on the same side with the majority even when we know deep down our hearts that what we have done is wrong.

Conclusion

Believe in your self” – Unknown. The essence of personal self-image is very critical to personal growth as it is the centre of your performance attribute. We should try as much as possible to create a positive self-image if we have to enjoy our lives. Most of the people who have a negative self-image are low performers. If you are in a leadership position take a closer look at your subordinates performance reports, you will realise that one of the major factors of low performers is as a result of a negative self-image. The higher performers are more usually confident and have a positive self-image. You should consider helping those that are low performers as this will inadvertently reflect on your leadership skills and enhance your performance as a team. I hope you have found this article useful and thank most sincerely for reading up to the end. Good luck and “standout tall and be counted”.

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Goals and goal setting

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily acts of trivia.” ~ Unknown. Goal setting is the one activity that sets apart achievers from those who are surviving or just getting by. By goal setting we are enabled to create the future we want to happen rather than live the future that others want to happen. Goal setting enables us to take greater charge of our daily lives.

In this article I outline some of the ways to help set reachable goals.

Strengths

You can base your goals on anything you want, although the chances of your success are significantly increased if firstly you base them on your strengths and secondly on your opportunities in the field your are currently under taking. It is very important to know your strengths and weakness before undertaking any goal setting venture as this will help you decide what naturally flows from within you.

Do some self research such as a personal SWOT, Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats. When conducting a personal research note the following:-

  • Your strengths are the things you are good at and enjoy doing. Using your strengths for goal setting will usually provide some sort of motivation as you go on.
  • Weaknesses are the things you have to do, but these are things you dislike or make slow progress at them.
  • Opportunities are the external circumstances you expect to arise, create or already exist and expect them to aid you moving towards your set goals.
  • Threats are those external circumstances that are very unlikely to help you move forward and would probably set you backwards.

Whilst we must keep on working to improve our weaknesses and keep a close eye on the threats it is very important that our goal setting should be based on our strengths and opportunities.

Keep your dreams alive

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt. The greatest achievement was, at first, and for a time, but a dream. You must realize that all who have achieved great success first did a certain amount of dreaming, hoping, wishing, DESIRING, and PLANNING before they succeeded.  You may as well know, also that every great leader, from the dawn of civilization down to the present, was and is, a dreamer. One of the factors that restrict many people from reaching their full potential is the belief that we should not aim for big dreams. Yet all evidence for most successful people is that they have kept their big dreams alive and have fully pursued them without giving up. It is very important to keep your dreams alive and to pursue them without giving up.

I have learnt to break down my dreams into smaller achievable goals and to always make changes that improve my chances of achieving them. Remember that big dreams come with greater responsibility and that “big goals attract big resources like a magnet”. Having dreams makes my life more interest to live. Yes sometimes days do not turn out as planned but what is life without challenges? I do not give up just because the day has not turned out as hoped for, but rather I focus on the positive things that come my way.

Abraham Lincoln dreamed of freedom for the black slaves, he kept his dream alive and put it into action, and barely missed living to see a united North and South translate his dream into reality. That is how important it is to keep your dreams alive and acting on them.

Write down your goals

The best way to keep your dreams alive is to write them down and read them every often to constantly remind you of the bigger picture. There is something different when you write down your dreams as opposed to just keeping them in your head. DO NOT depend on your memory alone. I have a note book that has all the dreams intend to achieve; this is like the blue print of my life. Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants, can’ts into cans, dreams into plans and plans into reality.

The act of writing clarifies your goals and helps you keep a record of your dreams and goals. Writing down your dreams acts as a commitment to your goals. This will eventually aid you when you are doing your daily goal setting activities as these will be tailored to the overall bigger picture. You can also add reasons to your written down goals so as to give you motivation and help check your progress on a regular basis. So don’t just think it INK IT. One of the best aid I have discovered is the habit of daily goal setting.

Pursuing your goals with passion and desire

The driving force behind your goal achievement is your passion and desire. You must desire your goals constantly, vividly and with a burning passion, knowing that you have already achieved them and are now working towards realising them. When you do, it is almost impossibly to fail at what you are aiming for. The importance of pursuing our goals with passion cannot be over emphasised that is, why it is most wise and very cardinal that we set our goals based on our strengths and what we enjoy doing. Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich says that “when a man really DESIRES a thing so deeply that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it, he is sure to win”.

Conclusion

Goal setting is central to maximising and realising our potential because it enables us create something unique and new in our lives it also allows us to feed our goal oriented brain and puts us in control of our future. Set your goals as big as you can this will help challenge and stretch your capacity and ability. There are many ways that can be use to help with goal setting the above are just but some of the ways I have personally devised to help me in my endeavours. Remember to also build your goals around your strengths and the things that you enjoy doing. “standout tall and be counted”.

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How being positive influences your direction of goal achievement

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge” ~ Albert Einstein. If you are a person who wants to achieve something worthwhile in your life, you must have set yourself some goals. Then you should ask yourself what drives you to your goal achievement? If you have not set your goals, well this is about the time you should reflect and set them.

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Achieving your goals is largely a matter of your attitude which can either be positive or negative. Your attitude has an influence on the outcome of your success. We know that you become what you think about and what you think about helps shape your character; and forms your habits. It is these habits; these small little things that you do or fail to do every day that move you towards or far from achieving your written down life’s intended purpose. My personal goal achievement is largely moved by the positive small little things that I have to do every day.

If we know that having a positive state of mind has a big influence on our goal achievement then it is important we also know how to make and keep our minds positive and focused. Here’s what I suggest.

Having a positive mental attitude
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude” ~ Thomas Jefferson. This is perhaps the key to your success. We all know that a positive mental attitude is a requisite to the success of your goal achievement. I am pretty sure that you have been told before to have a positive mental attitude if you have to succeed at what you are doing. Studies have been made to show that 85% of everything that a person would accomplish or obtain, be it finances; prestige; status and recognition after they left Harvard University would be based on their attitude and that only 15% would be based on their aptitude and ability.

If you have to be successful in life then you cannot avoid having a positive mental attitude. You see successful goal achievement begins with having the right frame of mind. There is no way you will succeed if you are always negative about what you are doing. Cultivate or rather develop a positive mind towards your life and all things will naturally fall in to place according to your plans. I have noticed that every time I expect something to happen I always develop an attitude towards achieving my expectation.

Notice also that if you expect something to turnout well, you will have a positive attitude and if you expect something to turnout otherwise you will have a negative attitude. The only explanation I can give is that there is a correlation ship between expectation and attitude. Therefore attitude is a product of expectation. Your attitude is largely dependent on your expectation. You will agree with me that winners have a tendency of manufacturing positive expectations in advance before the actual outcome.

I guess that the expectation of something happening has a direct influence on attitude. I would encourage you therefore, to live a life of positive expectation. Always expect something you planned for to happen. This is the only way you will have a positive mental attitude that will help drive you towards your goal achievement. “If you don’t like something, change it, if you can’t change it, change your attitude” ~ Maya Angelou.

Having a success mindset
If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavour to live the life which you have imagined, you will meet with success unexpectedly in common hours” ~ Henry David Thoreau. Perhaps the key question here would be; what is a success mindset? Having a success mindset is seeing; living and feeling success even before it is achieved. Remember that all achievement begin with the conditioning of your mind. Having a success mindset will surely help you in your goal achievement.

When you condition your mind in such a way that you think, feel and live success, believe me your goal achievement will be sooner rather than later. Even just the feeling of happiness and wellbeing is enhanced. Having a success mindset just takes you to another level. I don’t know what it is you want to achieve in your life, but whatever it is tune you mind and begin to see and feel yourself successful. Image yourself living the life of your dreams; the feeling and the emotion this bring to are so real. This will surely motivate you to work even harder for your goal achievement.

However, be aware that having a success mindset does not necessarily mean you should stop working. I believe that there is no substitute for hard work. “There is no secret to success it the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure” ~ Colin Powell.

Overcome negative habits
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw. Remember that our daily habits contribute immensely towards our goal achievement. It is therefore, very important that you know or rather overcome negative habits that have a detrimental effect towards your goal achievement.
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It may be of help to know that your brain has two sides the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious is the part that takes in data from the environment and processes it. It is the link between the inside world and the outside world. The conscious is the thinking part of the brain. The conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time positive or negative; yes or no. Whenever the conscious mind has made a decision the subconscious mind accepts it instantly and acts on it. Decisions can be negative of positive.

The subconscious mind stores the processed data from the conscious mind. They say the conscious mind is the gate keeper for the subconscious mind. You will notice that most of the habits we have developed are acted upon unconsciously. Different people will react differently in the same environment. This is dependent on what the subconscious mind has been fed with. I can safely say that all out habits sit on the subconscious mind. It is therefore very important to guard what we feed the subconscious mind.

I know for sure that some negative habits are hard to get rid of. But through persistent training of the conscious you can change the perception of the subconscious mind. Scientist say the mind does not sleep even when the body is asleep. This only illustrates how powerful the mind is and what role it plays in our goal achievement. The value of the subconscious is enormous; it inspires us; it warns us; it furnishes us with names, facts and scenes from the storehouse of memory.

Conclusion
Personal success and development cannot be achieved with a negative mind set. Having a positive mind set is one of the key elements to moving towards your goal achievement. We should all endeavour to cultivate a positive mind if we have to achieve our success. “Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of the blue print of your ultimate achievements” ~ Napoleon Hill. Until next time remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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5 Common principles for successful people

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit” ~ Conrad Hilton. You may have asked yourself this old age question. Why are other people more successful than others; why is it that some people make more money, have more friends, enjoy better life than others; why do other people derive more satisfaction from life than others? Studies have been done and lots of money spent seeking the answers to these questions. I have been doing my own personal study of successful men and women. The revelations have been phenomenal and interesting.

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I know that the subject of success is a very wide one and that there is no formula to success and that it is, also very difficult to measure. However, after my little study I realized that all successful men and women have 5 habits or rather principles in common. They practice these differently and have variations in their applications but, you can be rest assured that no matter what variations they apply, these 5 principles or habits will be listed amongst their daily activities. It is therefore, imperative and important for you and me that are striving to succeed, to incorporate these five principles into our daily lives. Thank God we do not have to reinvent the wheel, studies and documentation is there to provide us with a guide on how other people have succeed in their lives.

Remember that there is no defined formula for success. What works for someone may not necessarily produce the same desired results for you. Please note that you are not competing with anyone. Success is a personal journey. Do not measure and compare it with anyone else. In my quest to help change the world for the better I do not consider “competition” as a threat I rather treat it as complementary. For me if anyone is doing what I think will help change the world they are most welcome, they are not competition but we complement each other. I have presented these 5 principles in no particular order.

The habit of saving
The number one principle is the habit of saving. The saying “Rome was not built in one day” holds a lot of water. If you want to build up riches it is common sense that you must learn to save from your current income. The discipline of saving cannot be compared to any. You must be like the ant, it knows when to store food to be used in the future. You must know that you will not always have good health or that at some day the energy you have will be a thing of the past. It is therefore, important that you start saving and investing your money wisely. Investing your money should be in investments that you understand and of a long term nature. Do not invest your money in something you do not understand unless you have professional advice.

Most financially successful people will tell you that the habit or rather the principle of saving is very important. You should learn to live not for now but for tomorrow unless you have no tomorrow. Can you imagine how much you would have raised after 20 years if you saved only $100 per month from your pay check. You can accelerate the time it takes you to raise a million dollars by half if only you can defer gratification to a later date. This does not mean however, that you should not enjoy your wealth.

The principle of saving is probably the number one factor in determining the extent to which you will succeed. Be it financial or in any other field you are engaged in. Remember that saving is not just about saving finances; saving can be in any form. I have learnt to save especially in the area of my finances. Personally I save a minimum of about 20% of my current pay cheque; I intend to increase this as my income increases. The best way to get you started is to start saving in small bits. If you are working you could open up a savings account and ask your employer to split your salary. The discipline of saving requires that you cut down on many unnecessary spending. Some areas you could look at are how much you spend on talk time; entertainment; deferring to buy a new car instead buy a second hand; transportation and many other things you know are not necessary.

Time Management
If there is one thing that God has given us all in equal measure is time. We all have 24hrs per day; 7 days per week and so forth and so on. There is no one on planet earth who can claim to have less time than this. Yet with the same amount of time some people seem to succeed than others. One of the magic wands to success is the principle of time management. If you are to succeed at whatever, you are doing it is very important that you learn how to manage your time efficiently.

Most successful men and women have mastered the principle of time management. They say time is money. I say time is more than money, once lost it cannot be recovered this is how precious the commodity of time is. I have learned from Brian Tracy’s “How to master your time” the technique of writing down my daily goals. This simple principle of daily goal setting is a life changer. In this technique you are required to write down and plan your day. Organize it in such a way that you start with what is more important moving down to what is less important. Your daily goal setting is best done the previous day and reviewed at the end of your day. Stick to your daily goal setting principle religiously for better results. It surely is a wonderful tool to use.

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In everything that we do time is of the essence. Most successful people have realized that time needs be managed and managed very well. You will agree with me that time is a precious commodity especially during school examinations. The difference between passing and failing an exam could just be time management. If you have to take a giant step towards success you must be time conscious. If you are in business marketing, then you know what it is to learn how to manage your time very well. You can learn more about time management by purchasing Brian Tracy’s “How to master your time” CD’s from this store.

Hard work, perseverance & persistence
“Hard work pays off” ~ unknown. There is no substitute for hard work. Successful people work hard smartly. There is no point in working hard for the wrong results. If you have to achieve above average results you need to start working hard and doing it smartly. Every successful person will tell you how hard working they are. The difference between more successful people and less successful people is the level of hard work and perseverance. Most of us give up at the point when we are just about to break through. The most success people will work hard even when they fail, they will get up and continue. With perseverance, hard work and persistence comes success. There is no sweet without sweat.

You will be amazed at how much time successful people work. Most of them will tell you that they wake up very early in the morning and they are the last ones to go to bed. I have noticed that most of us want to have it easy. We let our bodies dictate our way of living. There is no difference in terms of brain capacity between those that are successful and those that are not. The only difference I have noted is that those that make it are the ones that are disciplined. They have trained themselves to do that which is important first, even when it feels awkward to be done. They have the discipline to follow their daily goal settings. If the goal says to wake up at 05:00hrs in the morning and exercise before anything else they do just that even when the body still wants to sleep. This kind of discipline is the one that makes the difference.

Most people fail because of a lack of discipline; lack of hard work; lack of perseverance and persistence. Vince Lombardi says “the price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand”. I can therefore, conclude that the price to pay for success is hard work. If you are in the habit of stopping a project when faced with a little challenge today, should be an eye opener. You must learn to develop a culture of hard work, perseverance and be persistence.

Clear life’s purpose
If I have to rearrange these principles according to their importance I would put this (Clear life’s purpose) at number one. What is success without a life’s purpose? How do you even start on your journey of success without a target? If you have not yet formulated your life’s purpose please stop wasting your time and devise one. Having no life’s purpose is living by the wind. God gave each one of us a life’s purpose. Every successful person has a purpose they are living for. You may be wondering why the fuss about having a life’s purpose. Your intended life’s purpose defines who you want be; what you want to achieve; how you will achieve it. In other ways it is the reason why you exist. Remember that we are all but one big family with different roles to play.

I would encourage you to formulate one before you start on your success journey. The best way to do it is by writing your life’s purpose in a note book. Read it very often possibly every day so that your mind absorbs it. Believe me it becomes easier to tailor your business or whatever activity around your life’s intended purpose. You will notice that what you have written down as your intended life’s purpose flows very easily from within you. This makes even running a business much easier and fun as you will be working with something that you enjoy doing and flows naturally from within. Believe me we all have something to give to this world and I mean something unique. There are no two people with the same exact DNA. It does not matter if you look alike with someone you are very unique and have your own signature.

Successful people have a clear life’s purpose and that is their driving force. I can tell you that living life with a purpose is much more exciting. Ever since I had my intended life’s purpose written down I always look forward to the next challenge coming my way. It has not been easy but it has been fun. I am still a long way to go but am slowly getting there one step at a time.

Knowledge
The final common principle is acquiring knowledge. “My people perish for lack of knowledge” ~ the Bible. “If money is your hope for independence, you will never have it. The only real security that a man can have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience and ability” ~ Henry Ford. This is perhaps one of the keys to success. To be more you need to have more. Successful people are more knowledgeable than the average people. They spend time reading and expanding their knowledge base. I always encourage people to read and read and read. If there is anything that you will go with when you die it is knowledge. The world is full of reading materials and one of the best ways to expand your knowledge base is by reading.

If you are not in the habit of reading quickly develop one, even thirty minutes every day can make a difference to your knowledge base. Knowledge will help increase your skills set. If you have to be successful you must acquire knowledge at all costs. I have a daily reading program that I stick to. I have a modest target of reading one motivational book every month on top of my other materials. I have realized that even the target of one motivational book per month is not enough but I have to make a balance. The good thing with reading is that it is one of the best ways to keep my mind from mischief.

Ever since I gave myself this target I have noticed an increase in my knowledge in this area. I am hoping to increase it even further, so that one day I should be able to write my own books on the subject of personal development and self growth. If you have to join the successful elite you cannot afford to lag behind in knowledge.

Conclusion
“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out” ~ Robert Collier. I hope and trust that this article has been of help to you. I must make mention here that there is no written down formula for success. What may work for someone else may not necessarily produce the desired results for you. However, it is very important that you take action and begin on your wonderful journey of success. You were created to contribute to the healing of the world and to help make it a better place for all humanity. “He who has health has hope and he who has hope has everything” ~ Unknown. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”

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The 7 key principles of success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

“Success is a journey not a destination” ~ Ben Sweetland. This is one of my favourite quotes. Indeed success is not a destination that you can say now I have arrived at success. It is a daily way of living. I have come to understand that there is no quick formula to success. We all have asked questions of why are other people more successful than others. I have been doing some research on this question and have come to an understanding and believe that the following key principles have a common ground among successful people. There are a lot other factors that have made different people succeed but all of them have revolved around these 7 principles.

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There are many different ways of measuring success. Some people measure it by the wealth they have accumulated others by what they have achieved. Whatever, measure you choose to use I believe that the 7 principles mentioned in this article will definitely be of use for you. Personal development is directly link to success. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the attitude towards what they want to achieve. Those who men and women who walk the journey of success are usually persistent and are more motivated and focussed with what they are trying to achieve. And now I present to you the 7 principles of success;-

Set your goals
“If one advances confidently in the direction of their goals and endeavours to live the life that they have imagined, they will meet with success unexpected in common hours” ~ Henry David Thoreau. The principle of goal setting cannot be over emphasised. You cannot call yourself successful if you have no target to achieve. It is there very important that you write down what your intended life’s purpose is before you set out fulfilling it. I believe that all human beings have a God given task to achieve in their lives. Most of us have abandoned or have no idea what that purpose is. Man was not created to live an aimless life. God created you to contribute positively to the human race.

Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard” this is because at the grave yard lies ideas that have never been; songs that have never been song; inventions that have never been born. Imagine if you and I play our part in making this world a better place. Setting goals is the first thing that should be done before venturing out to fulfilling your God given purpose. I know that when you write down your goals and read them on a frequent basis, they act as a stimulus and motivation to helping you move towards achieving them. Targets act as reminders. They are meant to be used as a gauge. I have never come across a successful person who has no goals. If you have no goals in life then you are just flowing with the wind. I can rest assure you that if you do not set targets for yourself you will never achieve much.

Forget about failure
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently” ~ Henry Ford. We fail because we accept failure. There are many great stories about how people never gave up even when they were faced with the prospect of failing. Failure should be treated as an opportunity to perfect our act. Yes in everything that you set out to do you shall encounter challenges. A challenge is merely there you teach you and tell you to adjust your plans. A word of encouragement to everyone is that there is no success without failure. There is no successful person that has never failed at some point. The difference is perseverance.

When you are starting out with your plans “DO NOT PLAN FOR FAILURE”. Don’t even think about failure; erase it from your mind. When you are faced with failure take it as a challenge face it head on. Failure is as result of wrong thinking and lack of persistence. Put on your positive thoughts and failure will run out through the window. Please understand me very well personal success does not necessarily mean that you will not encounter challenges. If you think that the journey of success is a plain and easy one then you are absolutely mistaken. Walking the journey of success requires persistence; hard work; diligence and perseverance. If you cultivate the habit of persistence you will certainly enjoy the insurance against failure. “Mastery of the Law of Success philosophy is the equivalent of an insurance policy against failure” ~ Samuel Gomers. I have come to realise that one of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is confronted by temporary defeat. Most of us are guilty of this mistake at one time or another. We have all quit at some point in life.

Take one step at a time
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”~ Chinese Proverb. Often times when we set out on a project we have a tendency of doing too many things at a time. I find that there is nothing wrong with multi-tasking but the danger with multi-tasking is that you may lose your focus on your main objective(s). It is therefore, very important that you take one step at a time. Put in mind that you are not racing with anyone. It is your personal achievement program. Your plans will not be very clear as at the beginning but as you take one step at a time the clear picture of what you want to achieve will begin to illuminate.

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The beauty about setting out your life’s purpose is that you do something that you enjoying doing for the rest of your life. The challenges you will face on a daily basis will be more exciting as you overcome them. You will be able to look back with pride and joy at how far you have come. In this part of the world I come from we have a tendency of doing things for the interim. Even our own local businessmen start it businesses just for daily sustenance we have no succession plan. When the owner of the business dies they die with it. There are very few well established businesses that have flourished long after the original owners have passed on. I do not want to be in the bracket of them that dies with the ideas.

Avoid negativity
Watch out for the negative people. Always get around positive people. Find people who will encourage you and compliment what you are doing. You cannot entertain negative thoughts and expect to have a positive outcome? The positive thought will destroy the negative as certainly as light destroys darkness, and the results will be just as effectual. Negativity is the mother of failure. I can challenge you to think of a successful person who has a negative minded personality. One of the major differences between success and failure is positivity and negativity. The more you lean towards positivity the more success you will accomplish or achieve and the opposite is true.

But then you may ask how can I avoid negativity? See 4 tips to help stay positive. In this article you will find some useful tips and information that you can use. Like I said before negativity is the beginning of all failure. The bible says you will reap what you sow. If you sow negativity you will definitely meet with negative results if you are positive you will as well reap positive results. There are very few instances that you reap negative results when you are very optimistic. Avoiding all the negative things in life can help change and enhance your personal success.

Clarify your goals
The goals you set will not be clear at the first instance. If you wait for them to be clear you will never start on your journey and I can assure you they will never be clear. When I first set out my life’s purpose it was very hazy and it only started becoming clearer as I started working the process. Every day I visualise what the end product will be and it gets more and more clear. It is important though at the very beginning to be specific on what you want to achieve example you may have a target to raise say US$5 million in five years. This is a more specific and measurable target than to just say I want to raise a lot of money after 5 years.

Clarifying your goals as you go along is very important as it sets your mind in tune with what you are doing. Have an open mind be more interested in the journey rather than the goal. Remember it is only with unbounded confidence that the goal is reached.

Embrace obstacles
Large ideas have a tendency to eliminate all smaller ideas so that it is well to hold ideas large enough to counteract and destroy all small or undesirable tendencies. This will remove innumerable petty and annoying obstacles from your path. You also become conscious of a larger world of thought, thereby increasing your mental capacity as well as placing yourself in position to accomplish something of value. Obstacles must be embraced; they are part of the journey to success. Obstacles are a way of telling us to change something our plans.

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It is, however, through attention that you will finally be able to overcome obstacles of any kind that appear in your path onward and upward, and the only way to acquire this wonderful power is by practice. Remember practice makes perfect. Difficulties, in harmonies, and obstacles, indicate that we are either refusing to give out what we no longer need, or refusing to accept what we require. Difficulties and obstacles will continue to come until we absorb their wisdom and gather from them the essentials of further growth.

You are not an island
No man is an island. We are all part of one big family and that is the universe. There is a reason why God gives us people to be surrounded with. You should not be ashamed or feel inferior to ask for help. In fact help is everywhere. Solicit for help in areas that you require it. Man is part of one huge universe and each and every one of us has a different role to play just the human body consists of various parts performing different but coordinated functions. Support can come through various different forms, if you are in business it could come through employing people and or delegating some of your duties. You should always endeavour not to live life in isolation. Also try and surround yourself with helpful people. That is those that you can learn something from.

Conclusion
Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving they make mistakes but they do not quit”~ Conrad Hilton. There is no known secret to success, but believe me he who thinks big and acts on his thoughts has every chance to succeed than he who thinks small and does not act on his thoughts. I would like to end by encouraging you try out these principles they could just be what you have been missing in your life above all “standout tall and be counted”.

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5 principles to help you set your goals

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals” ~ Henry Ford. As the year comes to an end and as you prepare for the New coming Year, I thought I could just remind you and probably give you a few tips on how to set out your future goals. Goal setting is one activity that distinguishes successful people from the average ones. It is hence important in life to set your own achievable targets that are measurable. Before you set your goals, have your life’s intended purpose written down. The goals you set are aimed at helping you achieve your intended life’s purpose. For more on goal setting please read this article Goal setting Tips.

What are your strengths?
“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender that is strength” ~ Mahatma Gandhi. It is very important to know what your strengths and weaknesses are as a human being. Before you step out to set your goals know what your strengths and weaknesses are. Know what flows from you naturally. I have noticed that the best goals are those set around our strengths.

This makes life very easy and the journey to success enjoyable. You cannot set a goal as being a better mathematics teacher when your God given call is being an athlete. You will surely fail terribly. This goes to parents who are in the bad habit of deciding their children’s careers. Just because you are the one paying school fees, you have no right to force your children to study what they do not want. Or put straight, forcing them to become what you failed to be. I have two boys and all that I do is help them build on what they want to be.

My first son tells me he wants to be a medical doctor because he feels pity when he sees sick people. He wants to help them get better. The only thing I do is to help him work hard and tell him that he needs to work extra hard in sciences, be accepted in medical school. So far so good and I pray to God that he continues on this path.

Write down your goals
There is power in writing down something. One sure way of reminding yourself about your goals is to put them in black and white. Please make sure that you are the one deciding your own goals and they are not borrowed. It is much better and easier to set your own targets than copying some else’s.

The targets you set must be your own blue print that can be adjusted as you go along. Writing also acts a measure and monitor, as this helps you to review them from time and again. I find goal writing fun and interesting. A lot of things pop up that I could have easily forgotten about if I had not put them in writing. Your targets are your blue print; the final product is your white print. All successful people have their life’s intended purposes written down and broken down into smaller manageable and achievable targets.

Dream Big
“If one advances confidently in the direction of their goals and endeavours to live the life that they have imagined, they will meet with success unexpected in un common hours” ~ Henry David Thoreau. Our lives are made of what we dream about. It all starts with your mind. If you dream, small you are more likely to achieve less in life. The bigger your dreams are the bigger your requirement to dedication and the bigger your expectations are. Zig Zigglar rightly says “if you can dream it, then you can achieve it”.

Am sure that you have dreams of what you want to be. I believe that every one of us dreams of what they want to be. There is nothing wrong in dreaming big. You are only increasing your chances of success.

Imagine yourself succeeding
I would say dreaming and imagination go hand in hand. When you are dreaming you are visualising yourself living your dream. Use your imagination to keep your dreams alive. If you want to achieve your goals you need to continue imagining yourself as a success. Such positive thoughts send out strong energies that attract complimentary thoughts from people that can help us achieve what we want.

Constructive imagination means mental labour, by some considered to be the hardest kind of labour, but, if so, it yields the greatest returns, for all the great things in life have come to men and women who had the capacity to think, to imagine, and to make their dreams come true. “The cultivation of the imagination leads to the development of the ideal out of which your future will emerge” ~ The Master Key.

Pursue you goals with passion
The driving force behind your goal achievement is your desire. You must develop a burning desire that transcends everything else to achieve your purpose. That is why I said in the first place that you set your goals based on your strengths. Whatever life’s purpose you have in life always make sure that you enjoy what you do. Life’s too short to be lived miserably.

Inject some passion in thing that you do. If you are an artist’s draw like that is your last drawing. Imagine that you are going away and you want people to remember you for something you will surely give them the very best of your being. If you are in the service industry being good and just smiling at your customers makes them come back frequently. Live life with passion.

Conclusion
I will end with one of my favourite quotes by Thomas Jefferson ~ “nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”. Lastly as always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Your confidence is key to success

“It’s not the mountain we conquer but our selves”~ Edmund Hillary. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without confidence” ~ Hellen Keller. Success cannot be achieved without confidence. I have learned that most successful people are the ones with confidence. You cannot set out to do something and succeed without the backing of confidence. If you luck confidence there is a very high likelihood that whatever, endeavour you have embarked on will not be a success this is surely a guarantee. In this article I will show you how to develop the confidence you need to succeed. Read 5 ways to improve your self-confidence.

It’s absolutely vital that you develop the confidence and self-belief that you will achieve your goals. Self-belief is very crucial to succeed. I am not talking about being arrogant and ignoring feedback from other people and thinking you are infallible or invisible. Am talking about having a balanced view of yourself that does not indulge in false modesty and self-pity, and an inner view that is not strong enough to be crushed and defeated when someone challenges you.

The thing is; to succeed you must develop the mind-set and confidence to achieve your goals. If you’re really are serious about succeeding you cannot afford to wallow in negative thoughts of “I am not good enough”. Here are a few tips to help you develop your confidence.

Self-talk
Self-talk is perhaps the most important step towards developing self-confidence. What to tell your self has more bearing than what other people tell you. Remember you are what you think. The bible says “as man thinketh so is he in his heart”.  Develop the attitude of talking positively to yourself. It helps to keep telling yourself that you can do it, you can do it. Usually when am working on a task I keep reminding myself of the benefits that accruals when a task is achieved.

I usually remind myself early in the morning that I can achieve all the tasks that I have laid down. Yes I will come across obstacles but my mind is prepared for the tasks ahead. You should try having a to do list every morning and see how that helps you towards achieving your intended goals. “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” ~ the bible. This is my prayer every morning. Try personalising this saying and say how your confidence levels will be improved.

Your behaviour matters
What you think about and what you say to yourself has a profound bearing on your behaviour and on what happens to you. Your thoughts, attitudes and behaviours towards your ability to achieve your goals, have an impact on your expectation of the situation. In turn your expectation will impact on the way you behave in a given situation. People will just respond to your behaviours. “The most powerful forces of Nature are the invisible forces, so we find that the most powerful forces of man are his invisible forces, his spiritual force, and the only way in which the spiritual force can manifest is through the process of thinking” ~ the Master Key.

Am sure we’ve all known someone if not ourselves, who has been worrying about something they have to do and have constantly spoken how badly it’s going to go and when it does go badly they jump and exclaim “I knew” that would happen. You see all along they did not realise that they created their own self-fulfilling prophesy. There is power in thoughts and words. Always be mindful of what to say.

Focus on the things you do well
Take stock of your skills set and attributes that you already possess. In other words know your weaknesses and strengths and focus on improving your strengths. The idea is when you set out to do a task and accomplish it very well there is a sense of wellbeing and satisfaction. This is not to say that you should neglect to improve on your weakness. But focusing on doing the things you do better can highly improve your motivation and confidence levels.

I have listed down the some personal questions to help you identify your skill set and attributes if you are not sure of them. Write down the answers and keep on reviewing them. Make sure you answer the questions honestly.

  • What am I good at?
  • What have I received compliments and positive feedback for in the past?
  • What do people value me for? (Compare this with what you value yourself for).
  • What challenges have I overcome in the past?
  • What skills helped me to overcome the challenges?
  • What have I achieved in the past that I perhaps thought I couldn’t?

“We see things not as they are but as we are” ~ H. M. Tomlinson. As human beings I have noticed that we judge other people by our own standards. Believe me if you have set yourself a high standard that is what you expect to get from other people and nothing less.

Be inspired by other people
One of the things that has always inspired and given me confidence to succeed is by looking at and reading about other people who have made it. Find yourself some role models whom you admire and whose story of success inspires you. A role model does not necessarily have to be alive or known personally. It could be someone you have read about or someone who does not even know you. Most successful people have written books about their lives. Find some literature about them and read it.

A good role model will show you the following attributes

  • Their attitude and approach
  • Where and how they started
  • How they made the most of their abilities
  • How they handle their success
  • How they overcome challenges

Always remind yourself these too were or are human beings just like you and me. If they can make it why shouldn’t you make it?

Conclusion
I hope and trust that you have learned one or two things from this article. Let me end by emphasising that you cannot succeed without having self-belief and the confidence to carry you on. I have not come across a successful person without self-belief and no confidence. I challenge you set out intended purpose in life and start pursuing it with confidence and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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