“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” ~ Serenity Prayer. Self-management refers to the act of taking responsibility for our emotions. We all have emotions and you will notice that our emotional being has a direct effect on our daily lives. The ordinary man, who has no definite knowledge of cause and effect, is governed by his feelings or emotions. When we take responsibility of our emotions it gives us an edge and tool to push us further in our daily lives. I have devised the following principles by which I try as much as possibly can to adhere to in my daily life.
Self-control is the ability to refrain from knee jerking reactions in response to your emotion’s. Without self-control you cannot achieve your intended purpose. Our bodies naturally make certain emotional demands. It is entirely up to you to control them. This ability to refrain is what is called self-control. We as human beings we have developed certain habits that we feel have to be done on a regular basis. The body becomes accustomed to what we train it to do.
In order to possess vitality thought must be impregnated with love. Love is a product of the emotions. It is therefore essential that the emotions be controlled and guided by the intellect and reason. One of the best ways to help improve your self-control is not to react on impulse when faced with challenging situations. Stop and think before you act. I learnt when I was in Junior high school to think before acting. This is because in the workshop we had a big poster as you entered, depicting a man with bandages all over his body with a big label below saying “THINK BEFORE YOU ACT”. The reasoning is simple. I know that the emotion of anger is a strong one, but it can be controlled and termed.
Another way to enhance your self-control is to reflect on why you feel out of control in the first place. Researchers have proved that all major emotional reactions tend to come from two main emotions – Desire and fear.
Are you trust worth?
Without trust you cannot function and later on succeed. If you are in business am sure you will know that if you have to succeed you need your customers to trust you. The best way to think of trust worthiness is align it with integrity. The more trust worth you are the more integrity you have. If you value your job, you will definitely do more to achieve higher productivity and give the best results possible.
Trust worthiness is paramount especially to those of us in the service industry. But all in all we as human beings must endeavour to achieve the highest possible trustworthiness. Imagine we live in a society that each and every one of us is trust worthy. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful thing? Well, change starts with you and spreads to the next person and the next before you know it everyone is affected. Imagine you go to see a doctor when you are ill and are told that your doctor is not trust worthy. How would that make you feel? What would be your reaction? If you are a medical personnel you can help change that by being trust worthy.
When you are conscientiously you are in control and responsible for emotions. It means that you take responsibility for your work and the quality you produce. The biggest advantage you have when you are conscientiously is you have full control over your actions and what you say. You will not have regrets such as:-
- They made me do it……
- I was upset…..
- I was irritated.….
In other words you will not have to place responsibility on other people. You will take full responsibility of your emotions and actions. By taking conscientious ownership of your emotions you develop options. You aren’t at the mercy of others, you are in control and that gives you the power to decide what you say or do next.
You must be Adaptable
Perhaps one of the key principles of self-management is adaptability. This is one skill that we all have used either effectively of negatively at some point in our lives. Being adaptable can be a distinguishing factor in a work or business environment. Things change every time and with every change comes different and sometimes new methods of doing things. The biggest question is how adaptable are you.
As human beings I have come to understand that most of us are resistant to change. Rather than resist change learn to embrace it and adapt to it. Sometimes it may require that you leave employment or change the way you do business altogether. Whatever, the situation maybe, you must try by all means to adapt to the new change. I know that with change especially at work places or in relationship, come with different emotional feelings. It is very cardinal that you learn to manage the change.
Self-management requires that you are goal oriented. Besides how can you manage yourself with setting goals or targets to achieve? When you are successfully self-managing you are able to choose the actions and behaviours that help drive your personal or team goal achievement. To help enhance the skill of achievement orientation try doing the following:-
- Determine what is important and prioritise accordingly
- Delay gratification when necessary
- Keep your pride in the way of your actions
- Admit it when you have a problem and ask for help when needed
- Take great care of yourself
The highlight of achievement orientation is setting your personal intended purpose. This is the driving purpose for your achievement orientation and self-management. Without a personal intended purpose you are living an aimless life and that is not what God created you for.
I believe that self-management is a very wide topic. It is also very cardinal and important to achieve the highest standard possible in self-management. The more control you have over yourself the better the chances of being a better and successful leader. The above principles if followed can greatly improve your self-management skills and enhance your overall quality of life and character. I would like to end by encouraging you to take the first step towards self-management and help change the world. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.