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The 6 Qualities of Self-Development

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives”.  – Newell D. Hillis.

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude towards what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” ~ Brian Tracy. We all have the qualities of self-development. Everybody has it in them to develop themselves to the fullest potential whether in work, sports, and relationships family endeavours, whatever. It requires a mix of qualities, mindsets and behaviour. For the past few months I have been doing a study on personal and self-development. I decided to come up with these 6 qualities that can have helped me in advancing my personal and self-development skills. Before we divulge so much further in to the topic let me make mention that this is one of those long articles I have posted so far.

Attitude

The first quality is attitude. Let’s start by defining the word attitude, “the way a person views something or tends to behave towards it, often in an evaluative way” ~ the free dictionary. “Attitude is everything” ~ Unknown. The start and end point of all self-development work is attitude. Without the right positive and mental attitude in life, you will not achieve anything of great significance. Our mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude. Self-development starts and ends with the mind. If you have a negative perception of something most likely the negative result will be attained and vice versa. This means that the attitude of the mind depends mainly on what thoughts we harbour. The thoughts we harbour have a great influence on our self-development journey.

Man has the mental power to determine his future. They say all growth is from within. This means that all self-development comes from within. This theory is very true because you become what you think. Personal growth does not happen by chance or accident. You attract it to yourself. If you want to attain your personal development goals you must first change your thoughts and attitude towards life. Having the right mentality coupled with the right attitude will surely guarantee you better results. Yes setbacks will be encountered; the most important thing is how you treat them and get over them.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

Faith

The second quality of self-development is faith. What is faith? The substance of things hope for, the evidence of things not seen is faith. Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark” ~ Scandinavian. The one thing that distinguishes success and failure is self-belief. In fact the strength of your faith is the one thing that determines whether you conquer mountains or foothills. It means believing in something that you cannot prove or be certain of; something that you have not seen physically. It means believing in life’s magic. If you are a Christian like me the emphasis on faith in the bible is very well taught. Christianity is a faith based religion. In this regard religion plays a major role in helping to increase your faith. One of the best ways to increase your faith is by the recognition of our spiritual nature.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

Courage

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified, do not be discouraged” ~ the Bible. It is very easy to start the process of personal development, but it is much more difficult to keep it going especially when faced with tough decisions to make. That’s when we summon our courage and lots of it. The make or break of your journey to success could come to an end if you lack enough courage to see you through trying times.

Courage is the main distinction between being successful and being a failure. The people who succeed are those that exhibit enough courage in times of difficulties and are willing to go the extra mile. Those that fail have very little courage and are cowards. Wisdom, strength, courage and all harmonious conditions are the result of power and we have seen that all power is from within; likewise, every lack, limitation or adverse circumstance is the result of weakness, and weakness is simply absence of power; it comes from nowhere, it is nothing.

The following sentence underlines the link between courage and faith. “You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do” ~ The Master Key. Courage can help you eliminate one of the greatest enemies to success and that is fear. If you want to eliminate fear, then concentrate on courage. To achieve greater success always concentrate on the ideal as an already existing fact; this is the germ cell, the life principle which goes forth and sets in motion those causes which guide, direct and bring about the necessary relation, which eventually manifest in form. Courage is best illustrated by the story of David and Goliath in the bible. “It’s not the mountain we conquer but, our selves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

Ability

The next quality is ability. You will have a tough time achieving your life’s intended purpose doing something you are not gifted for. Before you set out on your personal development journey, it is very important to recognise what your natural talents and gifts are. Having the ability and skills to pursue your life’s intended purpose using your natural gifts is much easier and enjoyable. It is of no use running a pig farm badly and only to realise that you should have been a footballer after thirty years. By that time pigs would have been your style.

The ability to produce is found to be the real source of wealth of the individual. It is for this reason that he who has his heart in his work is certain to meet with unbounded success. He will give and continually give; and the more he gives, the more he will receive. We as human beings are related to the creative principle by our ability to think. It is this ability we must acquire in order that we pursue our self-development goals.

Action

Action is perhaps the most important of all qualities. We can acquire all the knowledge and have all the best plans but without putting them to action nothing would have been achieved. They say the richest place on earth is the grave yard. This is a place where you find plans that have never been put to test, songs that have never been sung, discoveries that have never been unveiled and many more things that would have benefited the human race.

Do not deny the human race what GOD has put in you. It is not for you alone but to be shared and enjoyed by us all. We are all part of one big family and if we all play our part surely the world would be a better place. Whatever plans that you have for your life please ensure that you start acting on them now even before you are very sure of what it is. The picture will become clearer as you go ahead and continuously act on your plans. Imagine how the world have been if the discoverer of the internet had not acted on his plans. We would have been denied the pleasure of communication and possibly you would not have read this article through this medium. But alas they acted and today the internet is a big medium of communication.

Action is the soul of business and the key stone of prosperity. Action is the only process that brings about results. Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, and eminence follows progress. Necessities are demands, and demands create action, and actions bring about results.

Perseverance

“All endeavour calls for the ability to tramp the last mile, shape the last plan, endure the last hours toil. In the fight to the finish, spirit is the one characteristic we must possess if we are to face the future as finishers” ~ Henry David Thoreau. There is no success without perseverance. All successful people will attest to the fact that they persevered before reaching their life’s purposes. I will give you an example of education. If you set out to have good grades or good results at school you will agree with me that you may need to put in extra for the results to show. Perseverance and endurance cannot be avoided in your quest for self-development.

Whatever you set out to achieve if you are not prepared to persevere you are most likely to measurably fail. Perseverance is the ability to continue moving on even when the odds are against you. “Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance” ~ Samuel Johnson. Napoleon Hill in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich” says “perseverance and persistence are essential factors in the procedure of transmuting desire into its monetary equivalent”.

Conclusion

There is a close connection between perseverance and faith. As you have seen we achieve our self-development through faith and perseverance. In the same way you can only develop faith through perseverance. I have also noticed that faith can be induced into our minds. The more you believe in something the more faith you develop. Remember faith is a very critical ingredient to personal development have faith in what you are doing and remember as always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Do you have what it takes?

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives”.  – Newell D. Hillis.

Many people are poor because they have accepted poverty. They have failed because they have accepted failure and it is labeled all around them? Failure or poverty is a state of mind. If I asked you whether you want to succeed most likely the answer would be yes yet, you are doing nothing to change your current situation. It is this kind of negative mentality that leaves most people stagnant and wallowing in poverty and failure.

I like to define success not by the things or possessions you have but, by the many obstacles you have overcome. The more huddles or obstacles you overcome the more stronger and successful you are. Most successful people are stronger than the average or the below average people. By strong I do not necessarily mean physical strength only but also and more importantly mental strength. I have not come across a successful person with a weak mental strength. Most of them do a lot of reading and keep on accumulating knowledge. They say Knowledge is power (strength) strive to acquire it.

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I personally have come to appreciate the knowledge and understanding am getting through reading. I have become conscious about many things and able to make good judgments and better decisions. My target this year is to read at least 24 books that is 2 books per month. This is besides my usual reading of business magazines and newsletters and other literature of my interest. Through my experience in life and the analysis of some books written by successful people I have devised a short list of characteristics to help assess if you have what it takes to be successful.

Love what you do

This is perhaps the most important element among other things. If you love and enjoy what you do it makes things even much easier. Most of the time I do not perform to the very best of my abilities when something is imposed on me. If you are working and your primary objective is to just earn a salary, chances are that you do not enjoy your work and are just in it for the money. You are miserable. I am very aware that we all need money to survive but money should not be the ultimate motivator. Mind you having a lot of money does not necessarily mean you are successful.

When you love to do what you do, you do it with a passion. When you do something with a passion it shows even in the end product. Take for example 2 artists one paints just to earn a living and the other paints with passion. When the two painters paintings are up for sale the quality will be very distinct. The artist who paints with a passion will be more likely to sell their products at a more high value than the other artist. This is because he will pay more attention to detail and quality.

Believe in your self

This is a key factor in motivating yourself. How can you honestly succeed if you cannot even believe in yourself to succeed? I would strongly encourage you to first meditate and condition your mind to believe that you can succeed at achieving your set goals. The more you believe in yourself the more self confidence you develop. And the more confidence you have ,the more results you can achieve.

When you have belief and confidence on your side, you can overcome any obstacle that comes your way. Remember the journey to success is not an easy one. There is no short cut. It starts with your mind set.

Master your plan

You cannot succeed without a plan. This is cardinal. You must formulate a plan and a purpose to achieve. This must be written down. There is power in putting things down. Be the master of your plan. Seek divine guidance over your plan. This may require you to meditate and make adjustments as you go along, but ensure that your plan is at the back of your mind. What is your plan?

Do not wait to have a clear plan

Start immediately you have a verge plan. Do not wait until you have a clear one. The more you walk through your plan the more clearer and visible the end product becomes. If you wait for a clear cut plan you will probably wait forever. The plan will become even more visible and tangible as you remain focused. Along the way you will have to make adjustments and amend the course of your plan. Do not make changes that completely change your intended purpose unless you are sure of it.

Your mind is your limit

What you think is your limit to achieving your goals. Read my article on “The Power of Thought” for more insight on what your thinking can do. Do not limit your mind but control what you think. Your mind is one of your greatest assets. If you do not like books or rather reading which is unlikely if you have come this far. Then success will elude you. Start acquiring knowledge and understanding read and read and read and read. Knowledge is one of the few assets no one can ever take away from you. Acquire vital knowledge and understanding, it is key to your success

Ability to handle people

If your intended goal includes handling other people. You must learn and develop the ability to handle them properly. Human beings can be very difficult to deal with. My intended purpose is not so human intensity but rather help them “Standout tall and be counted“.

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Act successful

Dorothea Brande says “Act as if it were impossible to fail” very true. Accepting failure is an act, accepting success is also an act. Why not act successful, after all it makes you feel good and look bright. I have said to my self that even when I fail at the first attempt I will act successful. I always say that those who failed are those who have tried and those who have succeeded have failed before. I will always try to succeed in what ever I am doing. It is better to die trying than die without trying.

Conclusion

This has been a long article I hope that you found it useful. You can book mark it and come back or read it offline. This is not the exhaustive list it is my own analysis. You should always have a positive mind and attitude in your quest for success. Remember “standout tall and be counted“.

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