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How to create a positive self-image

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives”.  – Newell D. Hillis.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself” ~ George Bernard Shaw. Before we start please get a piece of paper and write down the answer to the following questions. What do you think about yourself, what do you think your colleagues and peers think about you? The answers off course will vary from individual to individual and will reflect what you think you radiate and transmit to your associates and peers. Galileo Galilei once said “you cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself”. What most of us do not know is that our positive spirit is the adventurer in us. It’s just a glimpse of what we are capable of doing. Yourself image is the person you think you are. You are your own creation.

When you carry a low self-image you attract into your life all the experiences and conditions that tell you how poor and pathetic you are. Conversely when you are high in spirits you attract all the experiences telling you how great you are. When you have learned to form mental images of the conditions desired, it will be the easier and quickest way to secure results; if not, results can be accomplished by argument, by the process of convincing yourself absolutely of the truth of your statement. Personal development and success has no room for a negative self-image. Which successful person have you ever seen carrying or putting on a low self-image?

Have a positive mind
“Whatever, the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” ~ Napoleon Hill. Life requires us to put on a positive self-image. You see everything begins with your mind. Have you ever noticed that that when you have a positively inclined mind about something the results follow suit? If you have never observed this try to deliberately have a positive conscious mind about something good happening to you today. Believe me just the thought will make you will feel good and act positively. Imagine living in a society with positive minded people. Individuals, who do not talk or act negatively towards each other, well it all starts with one person and that person is you. Creating a positive mind is one sure way of creating a positive self-image.

With a positive self-image even the people around you will be infected with it. This I guess is the only decease you and I would be glad to spread. They will begin to treat you positively. Remember you attract what you think. The more ambitious and positive you think the more you attract those things that you will need to prosper. Yes I agree that you may be distracted by temporal setbacks. But remember they are temporal and they offer us an opportunity to learn and grow from them. Image how boring life would be without challenges? Without having to sweat before sweet comes. Most of us especially the young generation, we want to have sweet before we sweat. We want to cut corners and start enjoying good things where we did not sow, the end result is usually terrible.

I believe that if God intended for us to enjoy everything at the same time he would have done that. But, then that’s not the case. That is why he gave us stages in life. First you feed on your mother’s milk before you graduate to feeding on solids. You start small and as you learn how to handle small things he increases upon your responsibilities. Some of us though, have remained and have not grown to handle larger responsibilities. This has mainly got to do with our mind set. Do you realise that we all have the same mind? It is the same mind that is in you and me. It is the same mind that has had great inventions. The difference between success and failure is how we have positioned our mind. What mental self-image do you carry in your mind? Having a positive mind set will definitely radiate a positive self-image.

Act positively
They say actions speak louder than words. True to this is how you act in different situations. If you have to build a positive self-image then you have to act accordingly. Even when you have been challenged, be it physically or otherwise. A positive reaction attracts positive results. You cannot create a positive self-image just in your mind without reflecting it. Your outward behaviour is a reflection or a mirror of your inner self. I always say that our outer reaction is an accumulation of our inner image. One always reveals themselves by how they react especially in challenging situations.

Self-image can only be reflected by your actions. Therefore, it is very important to act positively if you have to create a positive self-image. Without action there is no reaction. Imagine all the great inventors did not act on their thoughts, we would not have been privileged to be using computers today later on the internet. Action is the key to every outcome. There would be no outcome without some action and reaction. Personal development requires us to act on the knowledge that we accumulate. I don’t know about you but the knowledge I acquire is for sharing with the people I come into contact with including you reading this article. It is no use accumulating knowledge and not acting on it.

The difference between success and failure is the luck of action or acting on the wrong side of the coin. Positive action will surely enhance your self-image. There are many situations that will come your way in life and will require your action. In this instance your actions will be a reflection of your self-image. This is when it matters most, what you feed your mind. If your mind is not well feed it will be revealed. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”. Our thoughts are predominantly what we see, hear and read.

“Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw.

Renew your mind
“You shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind” ~ the Bible. Nothing beats the renewing of your mind other than by reading. It is far the best way to renewing your mind. What you feed your mind is very important. From the time you are born to the time you grow up most of your character is as a result of what has been feed to your mind. I will give an example, if you grew up in a home where your parents fought every now and again you will most likely end up doing the same. It may not be your fault but your mind is conditioned that way. That is why it is important to feed your mind with the right stuff. If you are a parent PLEASE DO NOT DO ANYTHING especially with your spouse that sends a wrong self-image in front of your children. Their mind is like a camera they never forget easily; remember that they learn from us. We as parents are responsible for nourishing their fragile minds.

I have given myself a target of reading one personal development and self-growth book every month this is besides the bible off course. I know this is not much of a target but atleast I feed my mind positively. Believe me reading especially the bible, helps to build my self-image. I have always emphasied in my previous articles on the importance of reading. If there is anything that you will not leave with anyone on this earth when you die, it is knowledge not unless you impart it on them. Therefore, when you acquire knowledge it is your choice whether to keep it to yourself or share it. Please don’t be self-fish learn to share so as to make this world a better place. I am only saying this to emphasise the need to read. The Bible says “By wisdom the earth’s foundation was formed”. Wisdom is gained through knowledge and the main source of knowledge is reading. You cannot make a wise decision without having knowledge.

“If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest” ~ Benjamin Franklin.

Conclusion
Having a positive self-image can greatly accelerate your personal development and success process. We as human beings must always endeavour to improve on our self-image after all we were created in the image of GOD. The more positive your self-image is the more confident you are, carrying about your daily life. This also gives you more confidence in achieving your, written down life’s intended purpose. I know that there are many other ways that you can use to help improve your self-image. I would encourage you to take them one step at a time. Always remember that you are not in a race. Personal development is your own race and only move at the pace you set yourself. You are not competing with anyone. Stay blessed and always remember to “standout tall and be counted” thank you.

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The 6 Qualities of Self-Development

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives”.  – Newell D. Hillis.

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude towards what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” ~ Brian Tracy. We all have the qualities of self-development. Everybody has it in them to develop themselves to the fullest potential whether in work, sports, and relationships family endeavours, whatever. It requires a mix of qualities, mindsets and behaviour. For the past few months I have been doing a study on personal and self-development. I decided to come up with these 6 qualities that can have helped me in advancing my personal and self-development skills. Before we divulge so much further in to the topic let me make mention that this is one of those long articles I have posted so far.

Attitude

The first quality is attitude. Let’s start by defining the word attitude, “the way a person views something or tends to behave towards it, often in an evaluative way” ~ the free dictionary. “Attitude is everything” ~ Unknown. The start and end point of all self-development work is attitude. Without the right positive and mental attitude in life, you will not achieve anything of great significance. Our mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude. Self-development starts and ends with the mind. If you have a negative perception of something most likely the negative result will be attained and vice versa. This means that the attitude of the mind depends mainly on what thoughts we harbour. The thoughts we harbour have a great influence on our self-development journey.

Man has the mental power to determine his future. They say all growth is from within. This means that all self-development comes from within. This theory is very true because you become what you think. Personal growth does not happen by chance or accident. You attract it to yourself. If you want to attain your personal development goals you must first change your thoughts and attitude towards life. Having the right mentality coupled with the right attitude will surely guarantee you better results. Yes setbacks will be encountered; the most important thing is how you treat them and get over them.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

Faith

The second quality of self-development is faith. What is faith? The substance of things hope for, the evidence of things not seen is faith. Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark” ~ Scandinavian. The one thing that distinguishes success and failure is self-belief. In fact the strength of your faith is the one thing that determines whether you conquer mountains or foothills. It means believing in something that you cannot prove or be certain of; something that you have not seen physically. It means believing in life’s magic. If you are a Christian like me the emphasis on faith in the bible is very well taught. Christianity is a faith based religion. In this regard religion plays a major role in helping to increase your faith. One of the best ways to increase your faith is by the recognition of our spiritual nature.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

Courage

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified, do not be discouraged” ~ the Bible. It is very easy to start the process of personal development, but it is much more difficult to keep it going especially when faced with tough decisions to make. That’s when we summon our courage and lots of it. The make or break of your journey to success could come to an end if you lack enough courage to see you through trying times.

Courage is the main distinction between being successful and being a failure. The people who succeed are those that exhibit enough courage in times of difficulties and are willing to go the extra mile. Those that fail have very little courage and are cowards. Wisdom, strength, courage and all harmonious conditions are the result of power and we have seen that all power is from within; likewise, every lack, limitation or adverse circumstance is the result of weakness, and weakness is simply absence of power; it comes from nowhere, it is nothing.

The following sentence underlines the link between courage and faith. “You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do” ~ The Master Key. Courage can help you eliminate one of the greatest enemies to success and that is fear. If you want to eliminate fear, then concentrate on courage. To achieve greater success always concentrate on the ideal as an already existing fact; this is the germ cell, the life principle which goes forth and sets in motion those causes which guide, direct and bring about the necessary relation, which eventually manifest in form. Courage is best illustrated by the story of David and Goliath in the bible. “It’s not the mountain we conquer but, our selves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

Ability

The next quality is ability. You will have a tough time achieving your life’s intended purpose doing something you are not gifted for. Before you set out on your personal development journey, it is very important to recognise what your natural talents and gifts are. Having the ability and skills to pursue your life’s intended purpose using your natural gifts is much easier and enjoyable. It is of no use running a pig farm badly and only to realise that you should have been a footballer after thirty years. By that time pigs would have been your style.

The ability to produce is found to be the real source of wealth of the individual. It is for this reason that he who has his heart in his work is certain to meet with unbounded success. He will give and continually give; and the more he gives, the more he will receive. We as human beings are related to the creative principle by our ability to think. It is this ability we must acquire in order that we pursue our self-development goals.

Action

Action is perhaps the most important of all qualities. We can acquire all the knowledge and have all the best plans but without putting them to action nothing would have been achieved. They say the richest place on earth is the grave yard. This is a place where you find plans that have never been put to test, songs that have never been sung, discoveries that have never been unveiled and many more things that would have benefited the human race.

Do not deny the human race what GOD has put in you. It is not for you alone but to be shared and enjoyed by us all. We are all part of one big family and if we all play our part surely the world would be a better place. Whatever plans that you have for your life please ensure that you start acting on them now even before you are very sure of what it is. The picture will become clearer as you go ahead and continuously act on your plans. Imagine how the world have been if the discoverer of the internet had not acted on his plans. We would have been denied the pleasure of communication and possibly you would not have read this article through this medium. But alas they acted and today the internet is a big medium of communication.

Action is the soul of business and the key stone of prosperity. Action is the only process that brings about results. Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, and eminence follows progress. Necessities are demands, and demands create action, and actions bring about results.

Perseverance

“All endeavour calls for the ability to tramp the last mile, shape the last plan, endure the last hours toil. In the fight to the finish, spirit is the one characteristic we must possess if we are to face the future as finishers” ~ Henry David Thoreau. There is no success without perseverance. All successful people will attest to the fact that they persevered before reaching their life’s purposes. I will give you an example of education. If you set out to have good grades or good results at school you will agree with me that you may need to put in extra for the results to show. Perseverance and endurance cannot be avoided in your quest for self-development.

Whatever you set out to achieve if you are not prepared to persevere you are most likely to measurably fail. Perseverance is the ability to continue moving on even when the odds are against you. “Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance” ~ Samuel Johnson. Napoleon Hill in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich” says “perseverance and persistence are essential factors in the procedure of transmuting desire into its monetary equivalent”.

Conclusion

There is a close connection between perseverance and faith. As you have seen we achieve our self-development through faith and perseverance. In the same way you can only develop faith through perseverance. I have also noticed that faith can be induced into our minds. The more you believe in something the more faith you develop. Remember faith is a very critical ingredient to personal development have faith in what you are doing and remember as always “standout tall and be counted”.

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