Personal Development

Time to Change Relationships that Need to be Changed

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The year 2020 will be remembered as a year that came with a lot of change. It changed the order of doing things. We were all either affected and or infected by the virus that has continued to ravage the world, the COVID-19 pandemic.

This change has been forced upon us. We have had to adapt to the new norm of doing things, such as wearing face masks, regular use of hand saniters and taking extra precaution when going out in public. Social gatherings are restricted. But, like in every other challenge some people have thrived and some have, all but complained.

The lessons taken from the preceding year are very valuable. The experiences of the closing year have taught us that we need to change some relationships going forward. There is need to readjust our lives to conform to the new order of doing things.

Humans are well known for being social in nature. In Africa we love large gatherings, be it social, political, spiritual or whatever, we just love them. However, I don’t see this coming back in the shortest possible time. Surely for as long as the COVID-19 pandemic is around, life will not be as it were before.

How to Make the Change

A nice way to make the change, as we begin the new year is to identify your relationships and evaluate them. Clarify your relationships on how you would like them to affect the various aspects of your life. Then take necessary action that you would expect to improve these relationships. You need to make rational goals.

For example the following relationships have a bearing on my life:-

  • Finances/money
  • Family
  • Work
  • Health
  • Friends
  • Spirituality
  • Website

I will take the relationship with finances/money as an example. Am sure that most of us have a story to tell on this one. If your relationship with finances is not as good as it should be, maybe you are struggling to make earns meet or maybe your current job does not pay as much as you should be getting.

List down your monthly expenses and compare them with your current income. Now, list down your desired expenditure and compare it with your current income. Your desired expenditure is what you would like to be spending on a monthly basis without stressing.

Identify and cut down on unnecessary expenditure. Find more ways to improve your earnings to supplement your current pay check. If your current job is not flexible enough to allow you to do extra work maybe, it is not the right job for you.

Invest in your skills by getting an education that will help enhance your career and productivity. Read more about how to manage finances/money. Have definite, realistic and achievable goals that will keep you motivated. Work on your goals every day.

This year I have set a target to create passive income for my self. It seems hard work for now, but I think it will pay off as this will greatly improve my income and free up time for me. I have identified a few sources that I think are worth trying out. I will be sharing during the course of the year on the progress.

You may be asking, what if you do not realise your goals within the time frame? Well you can adjust the time frame, the most important thing is, you have a target you are working towards. You have something to work with.

One of the reasons why we have a poor relationship with our finances is that we work for money instead of letting money work for us.

Set Resolutions for the Year

One way of keeping track of your progress is to have a set of written down resolutions and a habit of reviewing them on a regular basis. This year resolve to improve on your short comings. Resolve to improve on those poor relationships that are greatly affecting your life negatively.

Make resolutions and work towards achieving them. Start with a few that can easily be managed. This will encourage and challenge you to move on to those that will take you much longer and are seemingly difficult to repair or manage.

The best time for me to make resolutions is usually at the beginning of the calendar year. However, there is no rule, you can actually make them at any time of the year and begin to work on them as you please. But you must make and work them anyway.

It is a good idea to have resolutions that are precise and measurable. This way, when you are reviewing them, you will be able to determine how much progress has been made and determine if there is need for adjustment. I normally review mine on a quarterly basis.

Yes I know that sometimes I lag behind. By reviewing my resolutions on a regular basis ensures that am reminded of them and can easily get to work on improving those that have remained behind. I find it normal that there are always some that I carry forward into the following year.

Be Optimistic

To be optimistic is to be hopeful and confident about the future. Being optimistic is key in ensuring that you achieve the resolutions that you have set. It is an important ingredient to have when we have set targets for ourselves.

Otherwise there is no point in setting goals and resolutions that you are not optimistic of achieving. That is why it is important to set goals and resolutions that are fairly reasonable and achievable.

That nice feeling you get when you have accomplished a task should be repeated more often. It should be what drives you to even greater heights. You must make it your driving force and leverage on it to push you in your quest for personal development and self-growth.

Being optimistic is a great sign of confidence in what you are doing. It shows that you are in control and are expectant of positive results. Yes, sometimes results may not be as expected. But this should not make you give up.


If you want to succeed you must develop a habit of setting resolutions at the beginning of every year. This helps you set the tone and pace and what you are going to achieve during the year. It gives you a sense and purpose to live life. “For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent” – Tony Robbins.

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How Not to Be Successful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

You may be thinking why would you want to know about how not to be successful? Don’t we all want to know about how to be successful after all, that is one of the main themes for this website? Before we delve into the article, lets define the word successful, according to the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary it means “achieving your aims or what was intended”.

From the above definition you can already see why learning about how not to be successful can help you achieve your goals. Sometimes in life we are so focused on knowing the positives and forget about learning how to avoid the negatives. We are so much consumed about how to do this and that, we never take time to learn how not to be positive. If you want to be positive you must know how not to be positive in order to avoid being negative.

Many of us are busy researching on success but are failing to understand why we are not achieving it. I thought to bring to light some of the things that have contributed to either slowing down progress or not progressing at all. Maybe if you take a break and learn the opposite of not being prosperous you will avoid the pitfalls and stay on the right track.

The above definition is more or less straight forward and is on point. It is not ambiguous. For me the definition brings out a few things that I am passionate and have been constantly writing about on this site. Before you embark on the road to pursue success there are a few requisites that need to be attended to. If you are not attending to these basics, you will find it very difficult to thrive. Being successful, is all about achieving. When you achieve you are successful. “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful men keep moving; they make mistakes, but they do not quit” – Conrad Hilton.

Not Knowing Your Life’s Intended Purpose

Your life’s intended purpose is key to being victorious. Remember the definition says “achieving what was intended”. If you do not know what you were created for; what you where intended for; you will find it hard to be successful. I believe that the first thing one needs to do is finding out or establishing his life’s’ intended purpose. This will generally lead to making decisions and taking steps that help to achieve that purpose.

In other words you need to have set goals and targets, and work towards attaining them. Perhaps one of the most sure way of not being successful is not having goals or not knowing your purpose in life. If you do not have a goal you simply cannot attain it. Yes, you may have all the possessions but is that your goal? Only you can measure the true level of your success. “To be successful you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish, and then resolve to pay the price to get it” – Bunker Hunt.

The other way of not be successful is to not being true and sincere to the situation. Most of us are more concerned with who is right and not what is right. We have so much ego that we let it cloud our judgement. I have been in such situations before, where am questioning who gave the solution and believe me most of the times I have ended up missing the opportunity. This is very common especially, if you are so much involved and interested in politics. A famous politician once said politics makes you sit on your intelligence.

Most of the people who are ardent followers of political parties usually do not make honest and objective opinions about the candidates they support. They turn a blind eye to the wrongs being committed by the party they support and are quick to point out the wrongs being committed by their competitors. That is why I have detached myself from politics. I do try as much as possible to make an honest and balanced judgement. However, on this website I promise to not take sides with any politician and will always not talk politics. I just think politics are more divisive.

Not Having the Right Mental Attitude

Achievement is in your mind and your attitude. If you do not see yourself successful, you are not ready for it. They say you are what you think about most of the times. If you critically look back at your thoughts in the last few years and compare them with your current life. Nine out of ten you are living your thoughts.

Not having the right mental attitude is a sure way of not achieving your goals. The two major mental obstacles for success are fear and doubt. Fear is one of the greatest negative emotions. First of all it is the fear of failure; the fear of embarrassment; the fear of loss and poverty. I have also learned that fear mostly exposes our inadequacies. We fear, to do something maybe because we do not have enough knowledge on a certain topic.

The second emotion of doubt is equally as detrimental as fear. We doubt our abilities mostly because we compare ourselves to other individuals, who are more competent and smarter than us. We feel inadequate to the challenges at hand.

However, the good thing is that both fear and doubt are learned emotions. We acquire them as we grow. This is true because I have never seen a negative baby. You will agree with me that children are fearless, that is why they need adult supervision all the time. What ever has been learned can be unlearned.

The emotions of fear and doubt can be replaced by courage and confidence. The higher your levels of courage and confidence the lower your feelings of fear and doubt. The more knowledgeable you are about a subject matter the more courageous and confident you are to participate. I can attest to this because the more I write and post articles the more courageous and confident I become.

I am hoping that in months to come there will be a total transformation in my writing skills.


There are many things that can make you not to achieve your goals. I just thought of writing this article to make you look at the aside of life. It is not my intention not to see you succeed but to help you change, by bringing to light some of the things that maybe a road block in your life. I believe that knowing what works and what doesn’t work in your life is more important to helping you make those decisions that will push you closer to the finishing line. “If you consistently and persistently do the things that other successful people do, nothing in the world can stop you from being a big success also” – Brian Tracy. Stay focused and standout tall and be successful.

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Self Improvement

Start With What You Have

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Everything that you want to be or achieve in life, begins with what you have. You cannot give what you do not have. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them” – Henry David Thoreau. The biggest challenge the average person has is starting with what they have. Most of the times we want to wait until we have accumulated a certain amount of money before we invest in an idea; we want to wait until we start earning a certain amount of money before we can start saving. But here is the thing, distractions will always be there. Worse still the opportunity may just pass you by. Yes, you may not succeed at the first attempt. But the experience, you will have gained is very valuable for your next project or idea.

Most people who succeed start with the little they have and grow their resources as they progress. In fact, some of the people that have gone on to be successful started with nothing. If you want to start a business, resources do not necessarily mean finances. Resources could just be the skills you have or even the idea you are harbouring is a resource. One of the biggest resources that is over looked by start-up entrepreneurs’  is the human capital.

Many of the times we always want to justify our fears. We are scared of failure; embarrassment and rejection. Justifying our fears is having a poverty mentality. Yes, I call it justifying, our poverty mentality because this is most common among poor people. I cannot start this business because its time consuming; who says being in business does not require your time? Stop giving excuses and get on with your life.

Just Get Started

The company Nike have a very good motto that I like so much “just do it”.  Stop justifying your poverty mentality and get started with whatever, it is that you want to achieve. Look, before starting this website, I had so many excuses. What will people think about me; I am not sure if I can generate enough writing ideas, were some of the lame excuses I was giving. Well a few years down the line am still writing. This site has over 120 original articles published with an average of about 1000 words per posting. I now, have even discovered more ways to keep generating new ideas. Yes, am aware that for now this site may not be as popular as I would want, but slowly and with time it will achieve the intended goals.

When you start, things begin to fall in place. Your mind begins to direct you in a certain way. By doing what you love everyday, you attract the right resources. It is entirely up you to harness them. It is the beginning that is always difficult, but as you go on you grow in confidence. As you grow in confidence, you grow in stature and this gives you even more confidence. Do not be afraid to change your methods.

With every article I publish my confidence is growing and I believe that even my writing skills are being sharpened. My thinking is much more clearer and my plans for this website are even more refined and clearer. Developing ideas has become even more easier.

Today as I write this article I have more than 20 ideas that need to be actualised. Everyday, I keep adding onto this list. My ideas are ahead of my writing skills and ability. It was not like this, a few years ago when I was starting this website. It was a struggle and even when ideas would pop up writing them was still a challenge. But, over time writing has become more easier.

One Day You Will be Proud

Sometimes it seems not fashionable to start small.  The bible says do not despise the days of your humble beginnings. We only admire business empire’s when they are big. When they become house hold names. Yet, we forget that Rome was not built in one day. These same big corporations that are now flourishing started small. Some of them started in backyards and garages. Alas, the owners are now proud when they sit back and look at how far they have come.

It takes time and hard work to build something worthwhile. Imagine the joy you get when you see something of your creation flourishing. I cannot wait to see this site grow to those levels. Am still very proud of it and proud of my self. For now my job is to continue doing what am currently doing.

Improve on Your Skills Set

Once you start and get going with whatever, you intend to do, make time to improve your skill set. This is important. Devote your time and energy to ensure that you achieve your dreams. If your intention is financial freedom, improve your financial management skills. If it means taking further education just do it. With the advent of the internet and advancement in technology, education today has become more accessible than ever.

Improving your skill set could be the difference to earning more income and moving up the ladder quickly. Now, to improve your skill set does not necessarily mean acquiring formal education. I know that it is important to be formally educated. But you can improve your skill set in many ways. You could find materials such as books, audios and videos on the internet. Currently am reading materials on how to improve my writing skills am not formally enrolled in any college or university.

It is safe for me to say am getting an education. I know for sure that reading more will enhance my writing skills and off course this will have more benefits for my readers. The more sharper my skill set the more quality articles I generate. This obviously translates to enjoying my life even more.


You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you” – Brian Tracy. Successful people start with what they have. They do not wait for the so called right time. They strike when the iron is still hot. I guess the right time to take your first step is now. You never know what the morrow will bring forth. Remember to “standout and start with what you have”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There are two things to aim at in life: first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second” – Logan Pearshall Smith. Everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with joy and happiness, but also everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with sadness. If every day is a gift why do you then decide to live a life of sadness. We live our lives based off, the decisions we made in the past. That is why it is better to make the right decisions today that will affect our future.

Am not perfect but everyday that I wake-up, I thank God almighty for giving me another opportunity to better my life. I believe that for as long as you are alive you have the chance of improving your life and that of the people around you and beyond.

Yes, I know you may not be in a position to do the things you want to do now, but you have the chance because you are alive. One thing I have noticed is that we as human beings take life for granted. We do not take time to appreciate the fact that we are alive and in pretty much good health. If you are reading this article you are even more privileged than most people. It simply means that you have access to a computer and the internet.

However, you are accessing them, these things cost money. Do you know how many people cannot even come close to think about having the privilege you have? Yet you continue living a life of sadness. I know that you may not have all you desire, but at least give thanks that you are alive. Life is not just about having all you desire but living happily and enjoying it.

Take Responsibility for Your Decisions

The biggest weakness we have as human beings is not taking full responsibility for our decisions. We only want to take responsibility when things are going right and people are praising us. I believe that taking responsibility for our mistakes is a sign of maturity. I am proud to take full responsibility for my personal decisions. Sometimes its difficult to accept that am in a certain situation because of my decisions but that’s just the truth. If I had made better choices I could not have found my self in difficult circumstances in the first place. Ever since I decided to be taking full responsibility for my decisions, life is more fulfilling and enjoyable. What this has done is that, before I make a major decision I think about it very hard.

I have also learnt that deciding to be happy early in the morning makes my day a lot easier to navigate. I know that sometimes people want to mess it up for me, but because a decision was made in the morning to be happy, I stick with it. My mind is pre-conditioned to stay happy and this flows to my emotions. They say our thoughts influence our emotions. When you decide on something and you stick with it, nothing can shake you. Yes things may be thrown at you, but you have the resolve to be happy and you will be, even during the bad and difficult times.

One of the things I do when am confronted with a potentially explosive situation is to just smile and walk away if I can or better still just keep quiet. Its hard to just walk away at first especially if you are hot tempered, but with practice it becomes easier.

There is no need to allow people to annoy you. Life is too short to be lived sad. God has given us the ability to choose freely. The power to decide is entirely in your hands. I like to make a comparison with say going out to have fun with friends. Most of the time when something goes wrong we blame the company we were hanging around with for the decisions we made. Yes they may have played a part but the final say, lies in our hands. If you say no to taking part in unwanted situation you can. This also goes to being in a toxic relationship. You can either decide to continue in it or you can get out.

Learn to Enjoy Your Life

Life is too short, learn to enjoy it. You can only enjoy life if you decide to and this decision is entirely yours. There are many ways to enjoying life, one of which is to do the things that make you happy more often. Most of us do not enjoy our lives simply because of the jobs we do. If your daily job does not make you happy you are most likely living a sad life.

The happiest people are those with jobs that make them happy. You can be paid as much money as possible but without happiness the job is meaningless. You would be probably contributing more if you found a job that makes you happy. Now, a job does not necessarily mean being employed by someone or working for a big corporation. You could be self employed and earning a decent living by doing the things that make you happy. “Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do” – Gerry Sikorski.

That is why it very important to know your life’s purpose earlier in your life. This helps in choosing careers that will enhance and help you achieve your goals. One of the ways to know what your life’s purpose is, is to list down the things that easily flow from you. The things that you do with much ease and less effort. These are the things that could point you to what your life’s purpose is. It could be that you are gifted at making people laugh, well go ahead and be a professional comedian. The idea is start living and enjoy your working life. After all we spend most of our time working.

If you have made mistakes in the past like me, don’t worry, there is still room for change. You can make the change right now and decide to do the right things for the rest of your life. And besides who has never made a mistake in their life? Forget the mistakes you made, treat them as a learning point and move on. You cannot change the past but can positively influence your future beginning this moment by making the right decisions.


You don’t pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success” – Zig Ziglar. I would like to conclude by advising you to made a decision to start living a happy life. Get your power back by taking responsibility for your decisions. We all fall down, but we get up and press on with life. Until next time have a blessed and happy life.

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Life is Like a Seed that Needs to be Nurtured

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but, by the seeds you plant” – Robert Louis Stevenson. Our attitude about the future depends on our ability to see the future. Each of us has the inherent ability to dream, design, and experience the future through our hopeful imagination. Whatever the mind has the capacity to imagine, it also has the ability to create. All human beings carry a seed to create. They say all growth is from within. You see we all carry the seed to succeed and grow in whatever we put our mind on. In other words life is like a seed. If you look around, you will realise that there is nothing that was not created. Believe it or not, everything you see was first conceived as a seed.

The question you might be asking is if we all carry the seed of success why is it that only a few people are successful? Well the biggest challenge with most of us is that we let the seed go to waste. We do not take good care of it. You see for any seed to grow, it must be nurtured and nourished. This is the process that we do not want to undertake. Nurturing and nourishing a seed takes a lot of time, discipline and is hard work.

Recently I started a small backyard garden. I have been growing plants from seeds. It has taken me close to 3 months to grow pepper, from seed to now almost harvest time. I have not yet harvested it and anything could go wrong before then. So not until we have enjoyed the first harvest, we have not yet enjoyed the benefits of our labour.

I believe that life is like a tree. It starts as a seed and grows into a tree. Any seed has the potential to grow into a tree. However, whether the seed will grow into a tree and produce good fruit or not will depend on the quality of the nutrients. See for any seed to sprout and grow it needs dirt or better still soil otherwise if left open the sun will burn it. Now soil contains nutrients that are necessary for the growth of the seed. I believe it takes a lot of energy for the small seed to push it’s self up from under ground to the surface. And better still it has to adapt to the different weather patterns and conditions to grow and start bearing good fruit.

Nurture and Nourish that Seed

Whatever that you want to do in life is like a seed. If you want to be successful at whatever, you need to understand that it takes hard and smart work to achieve it. Look, “somewhere in the Kafue National Park every morning arises an impala that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be eaten and die that day, in the same National Park arises a Lion that realises that it must run faster than the fastest Impala or it will starve and die that day”. The moral of the story is that no matter what you do in life you have to run.

No matter who you are you have to run. The running symbolises the work that you have to do on a daily basis. If you’ve had the opportunity to watch national geographics and observed how both the Impala and the Lion run. You will realise that they do not just run in a straight line.

Life will throw things at you. It is therefore, important that you learn how to meander throw those obstacles. Believe me learning to meander through life is not easy. We are constantly learning and adapting to life on a daily basis. If you are not changing with time then, you are not improving and are most likely to remain behind. It could be the reason why you have stagnated in life.

The dirt or soil symbolises the hard work. This is the hardest part. To make the soil more fertile and conducive for the seed, takes learning and discipline. This helps you build character. Now that you have character with time and endurance you will have nurtured and nourished your ideas and will give birth to your plans or project. Before you know it you will be reaping the fruits of your labour. The hardest part however, is the nurturing and nourishing part. I believe that every good thing takes time. Most of us do not want to endure the soil. We do not want the dirt being thrown at us. We want to skip from seed to fruit.

Allow God to Be at the Centre of Your Plans

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29. This is huge for me. To me it is clear that what ever plans we have before we implement them we must put them before God. Ultimately the Lord knows what he has planned for us. It is therefore, imperative that we conform with the plans of the lord for our lives. Allowing God to lead is just wonderful. Yes sometimes we miss it and get off target and yes sometimes things do not go as we want them. The bigger picture is that God knows what is best for our us. Am human just like you and sometimes I question God when things are not going as I expect them.

The comforting thing is that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Allow me to say that God is a teacher and accepts anyone as they are. The beauty with following God is that it is at your own free will. I have made mistakes and some of the things am not proud of. But I know that he accepts me just the way I am.


Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” – Proverbs. Do not let those plans; those seeds that you have go to waste. You have a duty or rather a responsibility to ensure that you do not deprive the world of them. Lastly we should should learn to give thanks and praise to the Lord because he gives us the opportunity to live and go on with our lives. Thank you and remember to standout tall and be counted.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. Change comes from within. To ignore change is to accept defeat. Successful people are those who embrace change. Without change there is no meaningful success. I guess change is an agent of success. Before success, comes change. If you intend to succeed at anything you are involved with, you cannot expect to achieve different results if you are doing the same thing’s that make you fail.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to achieving our goals, be it personal; organisational and indeed financial, is a luck of change in our attitude. John F. Kennedy once said “change is the law of life and those who look only to the past and the present are certain to miss the future”.

I have failed before, actually many times and I keep failing on a daily basis. One of my latest shortcomings is not being able to fulfill the challenge to publish 29 articles in the month of February as promised. Have I given up on the challenge? No. The shortfall taught me to set reasonable and achievable targets. It was a worthwhile target but, one that needed a lot of time and dedication to implement. However, I reserve it for the future. I now know what adjustments are needed to make, for a challenge of that magnitude and nature.

Learn From Every Challenge

There are many lessons I took from the previous challenge. However, I will mention just a few here. The biggest one being that I needed a lot of time and dedication. But during the implementation period I was faced with a lot of time constraints. I could not devote enough of my time to writing articles, as there were other more pressing matters to be attended to. This is not to negate the importance I attach to this website. In fact the plan for this website is to grow it to be the number one stop for personal development and growth materials. It is more of a long term than short term project. However, the other matters were short term and more of a physical nature and they really drained my energy.

I needed to come up with a practical way of article writing, regularly or better still on a daily basis. Unfortunately I stayed in my comfort zone. I now need to move out of my comfort zone if I have to fulfill the vision and plan for this website. It is also my plan to write and post articles that I feel add value to my readers. In other words I write content for people not for the search engines.

With the lessons learned this far I hope to begin to show that movement out of my comfort zone. I now know without a shadow of doubt that I do not expect to achieve my goals without a radical change.

The other lesson learned is that I lost my focus. They were times that I could have written something but lacked total concentration. To write valuable content you need to be relaxed and focused and let your thoughts flow on paper. My friends who are artists will agree with me that you need to be focused and inspired when writing a song lateron sing it.

You Have the Capacity to Change

Do not doubt your ability to change. We all have the capacity and ability to change. If you want to achieve anything, you will need to change and adapt your ways and mentality to winning ways. I believe that there is no short cut to achieving our dreams. Hard work or rather smart work is the key. The bible says “do not despise the days of your small beginnings” – Zechariah 4:10. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step in the right direction. Emphasis is the first step. The first step is as important as the last step.

You will not move a mile if you do not take the first step. Every step that you take counts towards your goal. Every small change that you make is important. You have the capacity to make those small adjustments and before you know it you will have made bigger adjustments.

Any change that you make is progressive. Every one of us can be progressive by changing one thing at a time, no matter how small. I know for a fact that all of us have things we want to change. There is no perfect individual on this earth. One of the many mistakes we make is wanting to succeed without changing our ways. I find this totally impossible. I believe that success comes with change.

How do we Prepare for the Future

There are many factors that should be considered when preparing for our future. Some of them are beyond our control. However, we must always endeavour to change those things that are in our control. Brian Tracy says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”. I believe that we all have a chance at succeeding. I also believe that life gives each and everyone of us a second chance.

A lot of things that will help shape our future are within your own grasp. Most of us miss the opportunity to help shape our own future through foolish decision and end up making mistakes that come to haunt us. I know that sometimes the mistakes we make can be very fatal. But, remember that we all make mistakes and the most successful people have learnt from their own mistakes.

The most important ingredient to success is to make the change and stop making the same mistakes over and over. Decide today to make the change and start moving towards a better life. It is never too late to make the change. Start by accepting that you are responsible for your own life. Acknowledge that you owe it to yourself to live a better life.

Stop blaming your parents for what they never gave you; your government for the limited opportunities; your siblings for not sharing or indeed your spouse. You are totally responsible for everything that you do. Go out there and conquer the world.

I strongly believe that there is more than enough wealth in the world to go round. If we all played our part we could help change the world for the better. The world today is short of so many things. You are the solution to some of the challenges being faced. Dig deep within you and unleash that solution that the world is so craving for. Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard”. Because buried there, are dreams and ideas that were never realised.


If we don’t change we don’t grow, if we don’t grow we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy. In order for us to make meaningful achievements we must set goals. As a human being you should have your own personal development goals; relationship goals; financial goals and above all spiritual goals. We must never forget that God loves us all regardless of our ethnicity and what our past holds. As I conclude and in view of the current outbreak of the COVID-19, I encourage you to keep our medical personnel and leaders in prayers. We can also play a very important part by staying at home and keeping a social distance. Let us all standout and be counted in the fight against this pandemic. GOD BLESS.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

We live in a society that is constantly evolving and therefore, it is important that we adapt to change in order that we enhance our personal development and growth. Change is inevitable especially with the continuous advancement of technology and information gathering. It is very unwise to have a rigid mind that does not easily accept change. Most of us are in this category. You should keep an open mind and focus on the things that will help you achieve your personal goals. Make sure that you make the change as and when necessary in the processes you are imploring to achieving your goals. However, stay focused on the ultimate goal. “It is not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change” – Charles Dawin.

The best leaders are those that do realise when to make the change and implement it as and when necessary. In my journey for personal development and growth I have had to make lots of changes in the way I do things without compromising on my personal values and I always keep my focus on my goals. I keep an ear to the ground and am always willing to make the necessary adjustments to accommodate the ever changing environment. Flexibility does not mean you accept failure, it is just one way of doing things quicker and effectively. You will agree with me that a few years ago posting letters was done mainly through the post office where as now we are living in the advent of emails and other technological messaging systems. These have entailed that we drastically change the way we do business. Imagine if you remained behind and still just want to use the post office for sending mails to your clients as opposed to using the various platforms that are quicker. If you are into sales you will definitely be out of business.

Nearly everything has evolved over the last decade or so and it is therefore, inevitable that you have a flexible mind and change the way you conduct your daily business. Being a computer programmer myself who learnt programming in a language called COBOL in the early 90’s I know how much the computer industry had changed. In fact COBOL has been obsolete for a very long time now. If i did not move with time it would have been difficult for me to keep up with the industry. Some of you will agree with me that some of the things you learnt at school a few years ago are no longer applicable now. The key thing about change is that it can either be the better or for worse. You should always understand what the pros and cons are for a certain change before initiating it. Take time to learn and appreciate it.

Keep Learning and improving your skills

As a human beings it is very important that we are continuously learning and keep improving our skills if we are to be relevant to industry. I am always reading and learning new skills on a daily basis. My current target is to read 12 Books by 31st October 2019 as a way of improving my skill set this is on top of my other everyday readings. I will keep reviewing this on a quarterly basis and see how much progress am making. I also want my site to be one of the best personal development and self growth websites in the next five years. To achieve this I have set out to keep reading and learning new technics that will be of value to my readers. This means that for me to rank in the top bracket, the site will need to have very updates in terms of articles. Not just articles but good quality articles that are helpful. I have also noticed that its builds my confidence to talk about the subject of personal development.

Improving your skill set is one major way to improving your chances of achieving your personal goals with more pleasure and less pressure. I know for sure that in the coming months I will be more confident and motivated to write very meaningful articles. I am also currently learning article writing technics. Those of you who have been reading my articles will agree that there is a tremendous improvement with my articles. With the new skills being acquired I also intend to do a major face lift of the earlier articles and bring them up to the desired standard. These are some of the goals that I have set for this website.

I encourage you to take learning and improving your skill sets very seriously regardless of what you are involved in. The most successful people are constantly reading and learning new skills as this is the only way to keep them above the competition. If you are in sales for example it will do you good to learn how to spend more time with your customers who are more promising, so as to close your sales more quickly and efficiently. There are lots of ways you can increase your knowledge. You could either decide to go to school or have a deliberate habit of spending more time reading industry related materials. An investment in your knowledge and putting what you have learned to practice is a sure way of improving your skill set.

Be willing to pay the price

If your goal is a financial one make sure you set a clear price of what you will pay for what you want to earn. If you want to earn a certain amount of money say $5K every month ensure that you begin giving society the equivalent of $5K in value every month. In other words be willing to pay the price. Start with one or two streams of income and broaden them as you get comfortable with the current ones. Be very honest with your self and do not cut corners by doing illegal things. Having multiple streams of income is a very good safe guard as when one stream dries up due to various reasons, you will still have another one generating  income as needed. On this website my major source of income is google adsense. There are a few other affiliate programs that I recommend but currently google adsense seems to be doing much better than all of them. I intend to include more streams as time goes by and as the site starts to generate more traffic.

I am  also pretty sure that as the traffic increases the google ads will generate even more revenue than what is currently obtaining. I hope to publish the income figures in the future. Currently its really nothing to talk about. The encouraging thing is that if I can generate $1 per day then I think it is possible to generate $2, $3, $4 per day and so on. I just have to keep working hard, until I get the desired results before moving on to implement the other streams. I have noticed that those who are financial sound do not just have one source of income but they have learned to have multiple sources of income doing what they love most.

I believe that it takes time and effort to build something worthwhile, this am determined to achieve and very motivated to seeing it come to pass. Like I said in my earlier articles this website is just one way of my contribution to the world. It is my prayer that everyone who reads my articles at least gets inspired by them. I have so far written 99 articles averaging 1,000 words per article this is a whooping 99,000 words on this website, Wow.

Experiment with change

Human beings are always fearful of change and usually do not like it. Change always brings with it a lot of things and mostly we are reluctant to change for fear of failure. Remember failure is just an opportunity to do things differently. We must learn to embrace change and be able to adjust accordingly. It is also important to experiment with change and focus on the opportunities it brings along. We are always fearful to change especially when we think we do not have adequate knowledge and expertise to go along with it. Sometimes it is just that we are accustomed to doing things in a certain way and sudden need to change our habits is usually un comfortable. I know how frustrating it maybe. I have been their before.

What I have noticed so far is that change always requires us to learn new things and puts a challenge on our abilities. I guess life would have been very boring without change. In your daily endeavours I encourage you to experiment especially in the area of technology, before you fully implement the new one. This will give you a better understanding of the new changes and what is actually required and expected of you. At the rate we are going in the field of technology I am always one of the last people to jump on the new changes. I will be very honest with you I have never been a fun of microsoft windows 10. I find it very difficult to navigate through and always struggle when am using it. But I guess that at some point windows 7 & 8 will be obsolete and I will have to make the change.

As human beings we need to accept mistakes and make the necessary adjustments. Experimenting comes with a lot of mistakes and the only way we can quickly move on is to accept them. It does not help much to start pointing fingers on who is wrong and who is right but rather focus on correcting the mistake. This is true especially if you are in a leadership position. Besides the success or failure of a group is all credited to the leader. A good leader takes responsibility especially for the failures of a team, he will give credit to the team for its successes.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer. You cannot stop the wind of change when it blows in your direction regardless of what you are doing. If you want to grow exponentially you need to learn how to embrace change and work to improve your skills. Remember that change always comes with various opportunities and you should always be on the look out to identifying and benefiting from them. A good leader always reads ahead of his followers and is quick to give direction in the advent of the ever changing environment.  I hope you will keep an open mind and be flexible to embracing change as the will help you to “standout tall and be counted”.

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4 Reasons why memory should be improved on

Surely there can never be personal growth without someone having a Memory. Perhaps one of the key physical ingredient to personal development is having a good memory. We use it in our daily lives but often we take it for granted. Imagine life without memory. You would not even remember your own family. Yet not many people realize the important function that memory has in our lives. But this should not be the case. Having a great memory is vital to our survival and personal growth. The ability to remember is what is called memory. This ability can either be improved or neglected.

Most of us are content with an average size memory. The little science I know tells me that the difference between being a smart student and and average one is the ability to quickly recall what has been learned when needed. Thus, it is important that you take steps to better your memory. Here are 4 reasons why you should:

Memory defines who we are
Our daily lives are made up of the things we do and the things we do are stored up in our memory. The memories in your lives define who you are. Try erasing all your memories and you will not have a sense of who you are. It is the experiences that we have in the past that will determine who will be in the future. Without a memory of the past, we will find it hard to go forward in the future. Most of the decisions we make today are based on our past experiences. Without which we will have to start building relationships again and have a sense of who we are like what we did when we were still growing up.

In all our entire lives we heavily depend on our memory. I cannot remember a day I never used my memory maybe you can. I say this to stress the point that our memory defines who we are. You are nothing without memory.

It helps us learn
We are continuously learning things in our everyday lives and we use our memory to learn new things and develop new skills. Without memory I can bet anyone they would not have been schools. It would have been impossible learn. Memory is actually important in school where we need to memorize a lot of information in order to pass our examinations. Memory is the one that we rely on when it comes to examinations and recitations. But memory is not just for memorizing. Knowledge is also acquired with the use of memory. We learn to do things because of our brain’s work.

As I said before learning is a continuous process that cannot be achieved without the aid of memory. The sharper your memory the quicker you will learn new things. It is therefore, very important that you improve on your memory for this purpose. Un improved memory is a get way to doing things better and faster.

It helps us with our jobs
Although we will not be answering examination questions when we are on the job, we need memory to help keep up with our schedules and the meetings that we have had with people. There are professionals who rely a lot on excellent memory. You need it as a secretary when you have to be on top of your boss’ schedules. You need it when you are a journalist especially in remembering statements that your interviewees have made. You even need it as the owner of the company. You need to remember all the products that you are manufacturing, the capital that you used and the income that you get for the second quarter of the year etc.

You need it especially of you are like me who deals with figures every day. I always have to answer questions from the top of my head in meetings. I cannot imagine what it would be like if I lost my memory today. I would definitely find it very difficult to work. Even as I write this blog I am heavily relying on my memory.

It helps build relationships
People who easily remember the names of people are seen as much warmer and more intelligent than those who can’t remember names even on the same night. This is why personal relations employees are trained to remember names on an instant as this shows respect and appreciation for others. When people remember our names, we feel a sense of importance and we in turn forward those feelings of good will to that person.

Having an excellent memory also helps people remember birthdays. This is especially true with men who usually forget dates of anniversaries and birthdays especially for their spouses. People who remember special dates come across as more thoughtful and more caring as opposed to those who forget all the time. Even if remembering birthdays are not really a sign of love or a measure of love, people still see it that way.

Memory is actually a reflection of our mental processes. Having excellent memory usually means that you have great brain power. Thus, when you are making an effort to better your memory, you are also improving the way you think. And with that, you don’t really need so many reasons.

We must always keep our memory in excellent condition as it forms an integral part of our personal development. No single person I know can achieve their personal goals without having an excellent memory. Our memory defines what we are, what decisions to make and who we want to associate with. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted” and commit what you have read today to memory.

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