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The building blocks of good character

“I am not made or unmade by the things that happen to me but, by the things that I do”. Unconsciously we are forming habits every moment of our lives. Some of  these habits are of a bad nature and some are of a good one. My character is not determined by the things that someone will do nor say to me. It will be determined by my reaction to the things that are being done or said to me. My reaction comes from deep inside of me. It is this reaction that will determine my character. The traits of my character are engraved inside me and can only be seen from my reaction to the environment.

In my quest to improve my life, mentally; physically; spiritually and financially, I have learnt that the following traits are some of the building blocks of a good character. We all have a character it is either good or bad and in fact we all have both good and bad characters within us. The difference is the dominating character that comes out. I believe that with persistence, practice and God’s help, we can all develop our characters to whatever, we want them to be.

Our thoughts

Your every conscious act is preceded by a thought. Your dominating thoughts determine your dominating actions which form your dominating character. We as human beings are gifted with a very powerful mind that needs to be controlled and and tamed. We have the ability in us to control what dominates our minds see related article for more. Thought is parent to our character, acts, and habits. If you harbour thoughts that are of a bad intent chances are that you will act according to your thoughts; if harbour thoughts are of good intent you are most likely to act according to them. We must always endeavour to entertain good thoughts; thoughts that promote good life and help improve humanity.

I believe that “I will be what I will to be” with the right frame of mind and positive thinking. My thoughts currently are focused on writing blogs that are beneficial to both my self and anyone who reads them. Mind control is as a result of self discipline and habit.

Humility

Humility is golden. It is second only to non. Humility is humbleness; meekness; modesty. The quality of being respectful or modesty is humility. I do believe that each and every human being has some level of humility, again it is the quantity and quality of it that will determine your character. You see to build a good character you need wisdom and humility is a large part of wisdom. Wisdom is basically illuminated reason and it leads to humility.

When we are humble and accept our mistakes and take responsibility for them our humility grows and leads us to be of higher integrity. Our character also grows to new levels. I have noticed that most of us rarely want to be associated with mistakes or failure, we want only to be associated with success, forgetting that taking responsibility for our failures is a pathway to success.

Integrity

My third block for building good character is integrity. Perhaps an area that most of us lack. Integrity is honesty; truthfulness; uprightness. The most successful leaders are of a higher integrity. You cannot be of good character yet with a low integrity. Good character and low integrity does not mix.

The law of success is service and is built on integrity. We make money through friends and enlarge our circle of friends by helping them make money, by being of service to them. Integrity is not easily acquired it comes with time. The possession and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles is integrity.

Discipline

The final though not the least is discipline. Without discipline no one can succeed. Discipline is necessary to think correctly yet most of us are lacking in discipline. If you enter into the discipline necessary to bring about a radical change in your life, you must do so deliberately, after giving the matter careful thought and full consideration, and then you must allow nothing to interfere with your decision. Click here to see the “five d’s of success part 2” for more on discipline.

Discipline comes with self control. Before you can control conditions, you must control your self. Self discipline is very important and should be earned or learned at all costs. Every thing we do in life requires us to have self-discipline in order that we succeed. It is therefore important to master the power of self-discipline.

Conclusion

The above building blocks are just but a scratch to having a better and good character. Humanity must endeavour to live in harmony with each other. I know that the earth is endowed with endless natural resources waiting for us to utilise for the benefit of us all. Humanity can only benefit from us when we develop a good and appropriate character. We must learn to control our minds so as to preoccupy ourselves with good thoughts that will translate into good habits that will form good character. A good character should definitely be a target for us. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Stand on your two feet

Each step upward makes me feel stronger and fit for the next step” – GANDHI. Everyone of us has a privilege to life and this comes with the great responsibility of improving our lives with the choices we make. To those of us who are striving to become whatever we have set our eyes on, the key is to be able to stand on our own two feet. A famous Chinese proverb says “a journey of a thousand miles starts with one step” in the right direction of course. Whatever, you want to achieve in life cannot be achieved without you standing on your own two feet. Get me right, yes you need people around you as you go on. You cannot succeed without people around you. I have not come across a successful person who is a loner. In this article I will try and outline the importance of standing on your own two feet.

Why stand on your two feet?

I believe that as a parent the best gift you can give to your children is the gift of freedom. Allowing them to make decisions on their own and providing guidance as they learn to stand on their own two feet. When you teach your children how to catch fish, they will surely not be dependant on you for fish. One of the biggest mistake I see in our society is that children are not taught how to catch fish at the right age. Parents will continue to spoon feed their children and not letting them learn the realities of life. I thank God for my late father who taught me to work hard for everything that I possess. I realised at a tender age that my father’s assets are not mine but his.

Again I thank God for giving me a country were we have freedom to so many things without government interference. Standing on your own two feet means freedom to me; freedom to express myself; freedom to do whatever I want to do.  We are born to be free to decide what kind of life we want to lead. Break the chains of dependency and enjoy the freedom of standing on your own two feet. Enjoy the freedom to make choices that build on your character on a daily basis. We all should learn to stand on our own in whatever, we do in life. Be it financially or socially. We were created to core exist but to be able to stand on our own feet. When you are able to stand on your own that is the time you can give the world your best.

How many of us enjoy being perpetual dependants on someone for survival? I certainly do not enjoy it. Life demands that we move from being a dependant to being dependable. We have a huge responsibility to be taken up that is to be dependable and not being a perpetual dependant. There is nothing wrong though on being dependant in our infancy and childhood. we do not just stand on our two feet from nowhere but we learn to stand on our own through our every day experiences and choices we make.

Learn from the past

Learning is a continuous process. We are learning something new everyday. It is this knowledge that we accumulate over time that helps us grow. To be able to stand on our own feet we must learn and appreciate past experiences. They say experience is the best teacher, very true. What you have learned through your own experience will stick to your mind much more than what is taught by someone else. I personally have taught my self how to use most computer applications that I know of. I have learnt through experience that most computer user applications almost the same, usually the difference is minimal. Notice that even when you are confronted with a situation that you have come across before decision making is usually based on past experiences.

Life has a lot of ups and downs. The people who have succeed in life have failed before and people who are not successful are failures. We all have come across challenging situations. Some have remained stagnant because they have accepted defeat. I have not accepted defeat and will continue to soldier on. Personal growth does not come easy. The daily experiences we encounter add to our growth. We are an expression of our exposure.

Conclusion

To stand on your own two feet is one of the greatest gifts you can ever receive in life. We always ensure that we are striving to stand on our own. I know that life has a lot of challenges and many of these are a stepping stone to greater growth. We choose to accept what we cannot change and instead change our inner selves, learning whatever there is to be learned. This is the only way we can grow and learn to stand on our own feet. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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How to build your character

Nature compels us all to move through life, but every right thinking person wants not merely to move through life like an empty bottle, but to develop, to improve and to continue the development of his thoughts to the close of physical life. Yet, most of the people have remained stagnant and wallow in poverty and live in mediocrity. This development can only occur through the improvement of the quality of the individuals thoughts and the ideals and actions that arise thereof. Every one of us has the power of will and choice, and can therefore, exercise them in the selection of the type or kind of life to lead.

Personal development is not an easy task and no one can say they have arrived at the station of personal development. It is not destination but, a continuous exercise. We can only get closer to perfection as we continue to build our selves on a daily basis. The only way to keep from going backward is to keep going forward. There are three things that you need in order to help build your character.

Knowledge of the power within

Surely knowledge is supreme and all growth is from within. The bible tells us that “without knowledge my people perish“. Perhaps the most cardinal ingredient to personal development and achievement is knowledge no one single person can do without it. You need to acquire knowledge in order that you succeed at anything you desire to do. He who desires wisdom, power, or permanent success of any kind will find it only within. Knowledge is the number one building block to achieving your personal development and success. Therefore, you need a solid foundation of knowledge if you are to succeed at any endeavor you set out to do.

Knowledge leads to skills. A good set of knowledge leads to a good set of life skills. In order to build and improve on your skills you need to build on your arsenal of knowledge. One of the best ways I do to build my knowledge is by reading the bible on a daily basis. I have come to appreciate the bible because it also offers not only a worth of knowledge but also spiritual growth. The only way not to go backwards is to keep moving forward. When you discover the power within you the sky is the limit if only you can touch the clouds.

Courage to dare

How many of us have the courage and I mean real courage to dare? Many of us fail because we have no courage. We are always saying what if I start up a business and I fail? Dare yourself and say what if I start a business and succeed. Surely we are what we think. The thoughts we harbor are reflection of what we are “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart“. You must always remember that all there is today is as a result of thought. Think about all the buildings around you. They all first existed in someone?s mind. The bible encourages us to be strong and courageous, not to be discouraged and not to be terrified.

The courage to dare is the most lacking ingredient to people?s success. Most people have developed brilliant ideas yet they luck the courage to dare implement them. We always find excuses for not implementing our ideas and thoughts. The most successful men and women have the courage to dare implement there ideas. Failure is a state of mind. You only fail when you accept failure.

The faith to do

What is faith? “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen“. Knowledge alone will not bring forth success. You need to have faith and believe in what you are doing in order to bring forth results. Faith is a powerful tool needed to achieve any level of success. Walk in faith and just start living your dreams.

If faith is so important how then do you acquire it? The bible says “faith cometh by hearing“. I have discovered that one of the best ways to develop faith is to write down your intended purpose and desire and read it to your self aloud every morning and night. The repeated reading of your life?s mission statement will be impressed on your subconscious. As your mind becomes attuned to your intended purpose and desire you will develop the faith to do.

Conclusion

Like I always mention in many of my articles the subject of personal development is not an easy one. I believe that the above article has helped you. A good mix of the three will definitely yield better results for you. Personal development is a life long commitment and should be taken seriously. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted“.

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