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The 6 Qualities of Self-Development

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives”.  – Newell D. Hillis.

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude towards what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” ~ Brian Tracy. We all have the qualities of self-development. Everybody has it in them to develop themselves to the fullest potential whether in work, sports, and relationships family endeavours, whatever. It requires a mix of qualities, mindsets and behaviour. For the past few months I have been doing a study on personal and self-development. I decided to come up with these 6 qualities that can have helped me in advancing my personal and self-development skills. Before we divulge so much further in to the topic let me make mention that this is one of those long articles I have posted so far.

Attitude

The first quality is attitude. Let’s start by defining the word attitude, “the way a person views something or tends to behave towards it, often in an evaluative way” ~ the free dictionary. “Attitude is everything” ~ Unknown. The start and end point of all self-development work is attitude. Without the right positive and mental attitude in life, you will not achieve anything of great significance. Our mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude. Self-development starts and ends with the mind. If you have a negative perception of something most likely the negative result will be attained and vice versa. This means that the attitude of the mind depends mainly on what thoughts we harbour. The thoughts we harbour have a great influence on our self-development journey.

Man has the mental power to determine his future. They say all growth is from within. This means that all self-development comes from within. This theory is very true because you become what you think. Personal growth does not happen by chance or accident. You attract it to yourself. If you want to attain your personal development goals you must first change your thoughts and attitude towards life. Having the right mentality coupled with the right attitude will surely guarantee you better results. Yes setbacks will be encountered; the most important thing is how you treat them and get over them.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

Faith

The second quality of self-development is faith. What is faith? The substance of things hope for, the evidence of things not seen is faith. Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark” ~ Scandinavian. The one thing that distinguishes success and failure is self-belief. In fact the strength of your faith is the one thing that determines whether you conquer mountains or foothills. It means believing in something that you cannot prove or be certain of; something that you have not seen physically. It means believing in life’s magic. If you are a Christian like me the emphasis on faith in the bible is very well taught. Christianity is a faith based religion. In this regard religion plays a major role in helping to increase your faith. One of the best ways to increase your faith is by the recognition of our spiritual nature.

There is no success without challenges. To every successful person there are more challenges than success. I believe that our environment reflects conditions corresponding to the predominant mental attitude which we entertain. It is our attitude of mind toward life which determines the experiences with which we are to meet; if we expect nothing, we shall have nothing; if we demand much, we shall receive the greater portion. Attitude has everything to do with the mind. We must endeavour to have the right mental attitude as an ingredient to achieving our life’s objectives.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

One best way to acquire faith is to have positive affirmations. The bible says “faith comes by hearing”. True to this statement is that you must formulate positive affirmations that will encourage you to achieve your intended purpose in life. Replace all negative thoughts with positive ones and keep reminding yourself about them. I have some magic words that work for me. Every morning I remind myself that “I can do all things possible through Christ which strengths me”. This is my magic sentence it has done wonders for me even in the darkest situations I have managed to pull through. This is because I have faith that I can do all things through Christ.

Courage

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified, do not be discouraged” ~ the Bible. It is very easy to start the process of personal development, but it is much more difficult to keep it going especially when faced with tough decisions to make. That’s when we summon our courage and lots of it. The make or break of your journey to success could come to an end if you lack enough courage to see you through trying times.

Courage is the main distinction between being successful and being a failure. The people who succeed are those that exhibit enough courage in times of difficulties and are willing to go the extra mile. Those that fail have very little courage and are cowards. Wisdom, strength, courage and all harmonious conditions are the result of power and we have seen that all power is from within; likewise, every lack, limitation or adverse circumstance is the result of weakness, and weakness is simply absence of power; it comes from nowhere, it is nothing.

The following sentence underlines the link between courage and faith. “You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do” ~ The Master Key. Courage can help you eliminate one of the greatest enemies to success and that is fear. If you want to eliminate fear, then concentrate on courage. To achieve greater success always concentrate on the ideal as an already existing fact; this is the germ cell, the life principle which goes forth and sets in motion those causes which guide, direct and bring about the necessary relation, which eventually manifest in form. Courage is best illustrated by the story of David and Goliath in the bible. “It’s not the mountain we conquer but, our selves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

Ability

The next quality is ability. You will have a tough time achieving your life’s intended purpose doing something you are not gifted for. Before you set out on your personal development journey, it is very important to recognise what your natural talents and gifts are. Having the ability and skills to pursue your life’s intended purpose using your natural gifts is much easier and enjoyable. It is of no use running a pig farm badly and only to realise that you should have been a footballer after thirty years. By that time pigs would have been your style.

The ability to produce is found to be the real source of wealth of the individual. It is for this reason that he who has his heart in his work is certain to meet with unbounded success. He will give and continually give; and the more he gives, the more he will receive. We as human beings are related to the creative principle by our ability to think. It is this ability we must acquire in order that we pursue our self-development goals.

Action

Action is perhaps the most important of all qualities. We can acquire all the knowledge and have all the best plans but without putting them to action nothing would have been achieved. They say the richest place on earth is the grave yard. This is a place where you find plans that have never been put to test, songs that have never been sung, discoveries that have never been unveiled and many more things that would have benefited the human race.

Do not deny the human race what GOD has put in you. It is not for you alone but to be shared and enjoyed by us all. We are all part of one big family and if we all play our part surely the world would be a better place. Whatever plans that you have for your life please ensure that you start acting on them now even before you are very sure of what it is. The picture will become clearer as you go ahead and continuously act on your plans. Imagine how the world have been if the discoverer of the internet had not acted on his plans. We would have been denied the pleasure of communication and possibly you would not have read this article through this medium. But alas they acted and today the internet is a big medium of communication.

Action is the soul of business and the key stone of prosperity. Action is the only process that brings about results. Opportunity follows perception, action follows inspiration, growth follows knowledge, and eminence follows progress. Necessities are demands, and demands create action, and actions bring about results.

Perseverance

“All endeavour calls for the ability to tramp the last mile, shape the last plan, endure the last hours toil. In the fight to the finish, spirit is the one characteristic we must possess if we are to face the future as finishers” ~ Henry David Thoreau. There is no success without perseverance. All successful people will attest to the fact that they persevered before reaching their life’s purposes. I will give you an example of education. If you set out to have good grades or good results at school you will agree with me that you may need to put in extra for the results to show. Perseverance and endurance cannot be avoided in your quest for self-development.

Whatever you set out to achieve if you are not prepared to persevere you are most likely to measurably fail. Perseverance is the ability to continue moving on even when the odds are against you. “Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance” ~ Samuel Johnson. Napoleon Hill in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich” says “perseverance and persistence are essential factors in the procedure of transmuting desire into its monetary equivalent”.

Conclusion

There is a close connection between perseverance and faith. As you have seen we achieve our self-development through faith and perseverance. In the same way you can only develop faith through perseverance. I have also noticed that faith can be induced into our minds. The more you believe in something the more faith you develop. Remember faith is a very critical ingredient to personal development have faith in what you are doing and remember as always “standout tall and be counted”.

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5 Qualities of leaders and motivators part 1

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader” – John Quincy Adams. This is a two part series in which I am illustrating the 5 qualities of leadership and motivation. We are all born with leadership qualities regardless of our situation the difference is how much of it, do we show the world. I thought to talk about these just so as to remind us about our leadership qualities. You may not be in a leadership position but you are the leader of yourself. If you are a parent like me then you are responsible for providing leadership to your family. Men and women are leaders and bot posses almost the same leadership qualities. Find herewith, the five qualities of leaders and motivators.

Vision
The first quality is vision. I have never come across great leader without vision. All great leaders have a vision. Perhaps vision is the single most quality that, more than anything else separates great leaders from average leaders.  The more vision you have the more likely you are to succeed. “All successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose”. ~ Brian Tracy. A good leader does not get caught up in the day to day activities this is the work for his followers. The Bible says “where there is no vision the people perish” ~ Proverbs.

But remember that we are all born with this quality called vision. If you focus in your area of interest it does not matter what area is, you will be a great leader in that respect. “Cherish your visions and your dreams, as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements” ~ Napoleon Hill.

The best way to motivate others is to firstly motivate yourself. I have attended some personal development workshops and the first thing that strikes me is the level of motivation by the speakers. Believe me if you yourself are not motivated and are trying to motivate others it will show. Example you cannot talk to people about how to make money when you do not have the money to show for it. You must at least show some potential for earning the money or demonstrate that you are actually earning the money. I sometimes come across adverts in the streets, about how someone will give you some lucky charms for getting rich when they themselves are living in poverty.

One of the most powerful tools for all motivators is the commitment to excellence. The best motivational vision you can have for yourself and others is to strive to be the best. Be in business or in whatever area of leadership you are be the best. If you are not the best strive to be among the best at least standout.

Courage
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged” ~ The Bible. The second quality of a leader is courage and is the distinguishing characteristic of a true leader. You can often see it in a leader’s words and action.  A true leader speaks with courage and boldness. It is always easy to set a vision and standards for yourself. But it takes a lot of courage and humility to abiding to your aspirations. We all have what we want to be in life or rather achieve. At least I have formulated my life’s purpose and moving towards achieving it. The distinguishing factor is having the courage to make certain unpleasant decisions that will help us in the long run. When you set certain standards for yourself trust me temptations will come your way so as you compromise with your standards and this is when your show your courage by resisting them.

Remember when I said that we are all born with these qualities? It is the level of growth that differentiates leaders from followers. I believe that all growth is from inside. And that what we are, is as a result of what has developed from the inside.

The foundation of character is the combination of courage and integrity. The first form of courage is your ability to stick to your principles, to stand for what you believe in and to refuse to budge unless you feel right about the alternative. Courage is also the ability to step out in faith, to launch out into the unknown and then to face the inevitable doubt and uncertainty that accompany every new venture.

I give the example of Alexander the great, the king of Macedonia. He became king at the age of 19 and managed to conquer great nations with mightier armies than he had at the time. Simply because he refused to remain at home when his soldiers went to battle instead he was the first one to charge at the war front. He lead by example by letting his men know that he believed in the outcome of every war or battle they fought and that motivated the soldiers to do even more.

Conclusion
For now I end here. In the next series I will mention the remaining three qualities of leaders and motivators that is integrity; realism and responsibility. “You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore” remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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How to build your character

Nature compels us all to move through life, but every right thinking person wants not merely to move through life like an empty bottle, but to develop, to improve and to continue the development of his thoughts to the close of physical life. Yet, most of the people have remained stagnant and wallow in poverty and live in mediocrity. This development can only occur through the improvement of the quality of the individuals thoughts and the ideals and actions that arise thereof. Every one of us has the power of will and choice, and can therefore, exercise them in the selection of the type or kind of life to lead.

Personal development is not an easy task and no one can say they have arrived at the station of personal development. It is not destination but, a continuous exercise. We can only get closer to perfection as we continue to build our selves on a daily basis. The only way to keep from going backward is to keep going forward. There are three things that you need in order to help build your character.

Knowledge of the power within

Surely knowledge is supreme and all growth is from within. The bible tells us that “without knowledge my people perish“. Perhaps the most cardinal ingredient to personal development and achievement is knowledge no one single person can do without it. You need to acquire knowledge in order that you succeed at anything you desire to do. He who desires wisdom, power, or permanent success of any kind will find it only within. Knowledge is the number one building block to achieving your personal development and success. Therefore, you need a solid foundation of knowledge if you are to succeed at any endeavor you set out to do.

Knowledge leads to skills. A good set of knowledge leads to a good set of life skills. In order to build and improve on your skills you need to build on your arsenal of knowledge. One of the best ways I do to build my knowledge is by reading the bible on a daily basis. I have come to appreciate the bible because it also offers not only a worth of knowledge but also spiritual growth. The only way not to go backwards is to keep moving forward. When you discover the power within you the sky is the limit if only you can touch the clouds.

Courage to dare

How many of us have the courage and I mean real courage to dare? Many of us fail because we have no courage. We are always saying what if I start up a business and I fail? Dare yourself and say what if I start a business and succeed. Surely we are what we think. The thoughts we harbor are reflection of what we are “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart“. You must always remember that all there is today is as a result of thought. Think about all the buildings around you. They all first existed in someone?s mind. The bible encourages us to be strong and courageous, not to be discouraged and not to be terrified.

The courage to dare is the most lacking ingredient to people?s success. Most people have developed brilliant ideas yet they luck the courage to dare implement them. We always find excuses for not implementing our ideas and thoughts. The most successful men and women have the courage to dare implement there ideas. Failure is a state of mind. You only fail when you accept failure.

The faith to do

What is faith? “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen“. Knowledge alone will not bring forth success. You need to have faith and believe in what you are doing in order to bring forth results. Faith is a powerful tool needed to achieve any level of success. Walk in faith and just start living your dreams.

If faith is so important how then do you acquire it? The bible says “faith cometh by hearing“. I have discovered that one of the best ways to develop faith is to write down your intended purpose and desire and read it to your self aloud every morning and night. The repeated reading of your life?s mission statement will be impressed on your subconscious. As your mind becomes attuned to your intended purpose and desire you will develop the faith to do.

Conclusion

Like I always mention in many of my articles the subject of personal development is not an easy one. I believe that the above article has helped you. A good mix of the three will definitely yield better results for you. Personal development is a life long commitment and should be taken seriously. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted“.

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