Inspiration Personal Development Self Growth

Taking the giant step of growth

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“All growth is from within” ~ Master Key. “Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life” ~ Herbert Otto. I know and believe that every normal thinking person has a dream, at least I have one. We all want to believe deep down in our souls that we have a special gift, that we can make a difference, that we can touch others in a special way, and that we can help make society and the world at large a better place. The biggest challenge to this belief is ones-self. You are responsible for making it and living your dream life. No one but you alone, are the master of your destiny. The thoughts and actions you make come from within you and hence determine the course of your life’s direction. In this article I try and help you take a leap of personal development by accepting that you play a major role in determining the course of your future.

There are three decisions that you make every moment of your life that shape and control your destiny. These three decisions will control what you will notice, what you will feel, what you will do and finally what you will contribute and who you will become. I believe that if you do not control these decisions it becomes very difficult to take the giant step of growth. It also means to me, that you are not in control of your life. Firstly you must understand that all growth comes from within; growth is embedded thin the inside of you. Jesus gives us the example of the mastered seed in the bible. Out of a small seed grows a huge tree. Where does the tree come from? Off course the external environment plays a part but it is hugely what is inside that determines that extent of growth. If you have very little faith in what you are doing then you might as well stop it and grow the faith before continuing. When you control these three decisions then you begin to shape your destiny.

What is your focus in life?

Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives” ~Tony Robbins. The first step of growth for me to take is the decision is what to focus on. You see, it’s not what is happening to you right now or what happened to you in the past that determines who you want to become. But rather it’s your decision on what to focus on that will help determine your personal growth. Do you want to dwell on the negative past and want to focus on the negative results that you have archived? What you decide to focus on largely determines what results you will accomplish. Focus on negative results and believe me you will have just that. It is very important that you learn to focus on the positive aspects of life even in trying movements. Here is a lesson I have learnt in life it is much easier to walk out when things are not going on well. This I tell you is the easiest decision you can make in life and believe me it is not usually the best one available.

Luckily we all have the ability to make decisions to focus; we all have the some power and consciousness to focus. When you focus this power through attention or concentration on any single purpose for considerable length of time nothing becomes impossible. If you have ever looked through the viewfinder of a camera, you found that when the object was not in focus, the impression was indistinct and possibly blurred, but when the proper focus was obtained the picture was clear and distinct. This illustrates the power of concentration. Unless you can focus and concentrate upon the object which you have in view, you will have but a hazy, indifferent, vague, indistinct and blurred outline of your ideal and the results will be in accordance with your mental picture. We therefore, have no excuse to fail making better decisions.

By making the decision to focus on the right things in life we are taking a giant step of growth. Remember that growth will not come all at once or like manner from heaven. You need to make the right decisions and actions. I want to believe that if you have a written down life’s intended purpose then you have a plan to focus on. The first thing to do before you make the decision to focus is to have a written down life’s purpose as mentioned before. This will give you a better reason to focus and achieve your goals in a more organized manner.

What do things means to you?

“My definition of success is to live your life in a way that causes you to feel a ton of pleasure and very little pain – and because of your lifestyle, have the people around you feel a lot more pleasure than they do pain” ~ Tony Robbins. My second step of growth is the decision about what things mean to you? Well you may want to ask yourself what life means to you; why do you exist? These are just but some of the questions that you may have to know the answers to. The decision about what things mean to you is a huge one that you cannot afford not to make if you have to make the second giant step of growth. Remember you need to know what things mean to you in order to have greater control of your life. After you have made the decision to focus ask yourself what does the thing(s) you are focusing on mean to you; what is the value of it? If it can be quantified put a monetary value to it. They say you heart is where your money is. Where is your heart?

In life we come across so many things and most of them are actually useful for a short while and then become meaningless after some time. Therefore, it is very important that you know when something is of value and when to let go of it. Many of the times we keep holding on even to things that have no more value. We carry a lot of cabbage long with us. Know that if you carry cabbage it is of no value to you. This applies even to people that we come across. Some of them have no value per say in our lives. Yet we continuously spend more time with them. I am not saying you should create enemies but try to spend more time with the people that add value to your life, If you have to grow.

If you have to grow stop taking responsibility for people’s actions. Remember you are accountable for your own actions. I have seen people who want to take responsibility for someone’s actions in the name of pleasing them. This is very wrong, and please know that the best recipe for failure is to try to please everyone. You should attach a value to Personal growth and development. To do this you need firstly to have spelt out your intended life’s purpose. Believe me, if you do not have a written down LIFE’S INTENDED PURPOSE, you are just chasing after the wind. You are flowing with the wind. You have no control of your life’s destiny.

What do you want to do?

I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” —THOMAS EDISON. Lastly the decision to know what you want to do to achieve your goal is very cardinal. This still brings me back to the idea of having a written down life’s intended purpose. Without which you cannot make the decision to know what to do to achieve it. If you went ahead and made the decision, it would be like getting in a car and driving off without a known destination. In other words you would be driving aimlessly. In this case you are living life aimlessly without a written down life’s intended purpose.

Many of us are scared to make decisions of what we want to do or rather how we want to go about achieving our intended life’s purpose, for fear of making the wrong decisions. Believe me we all have made wrong decisions in our lives and we are all going to make wrong ones in future. The key is to be flexible enough to override our earlier decisions and replace them. We do not have to allow the past wrong decisions we made to control our future. Remember your future is affected by the decisions you make now. Always try your level best to think through and possibly delay your decisions so as to make better judgment of what you want to achieve. The best time to make some of these hard decisions is in the night when you are alone and reflecting on your day. Believe me I have made far much better decisions when not rushed. Remember: Success truly is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is the result of experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgment!


Too many of us don’t make the majority of our decisions consciously, especially these three absolutely crucial ones; in so doing, we pay a major price. To avoid making wrong decisions’ we must commit to learning from the earlier mistakes. This is the only way we can improve on our decision making process and stop make better judgment of what decisions are to be made in future. Personal development is a continuous process and does not come without effort. Remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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The dawn of a season

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending” ~ Carl Bard. Take heart and give way to the new season. This is my first article for this New Year since my website was hacked. Time flies and waits for no one. Whether you like it or not time will not wait for you. We have just been ushered into a new season and it is still the right time to start afresh or build up on the gains achieved from the past season.  If you are like me and like to set new goals please go ahead and set them. Set this season as the turning point that will see you grow in your weakest areas of your life.

In order to grow you must obtain what is necessary for your growth but, as you are at all times a complete thought entity, this completeness makes it possible for you to receive only as you give; growth is therefore conditioned on reciprocal action just the same as like attracts like. The challenge for you this year is to obtain what is necessary for your growth; to stop those detrimental habits; to build on your business skills; to improve on interpersonal relationships and to grow spiritually.

The challenge

How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you will become after the game, whether you are a winner or loser” ~ Lou Holtz. Think for a moment, what you would be if you were not a husband or wife, father or mother, or brother or sister, if you were not interested in the social, economical, political or religious world. What then would you be? Think about what you were last year; how much you achieved; and how much more you did not achieve; do you want to stay in the same position or do you want to climb the ladder of self-improvement or would you rather take a few steps backwards?

The challenge therefore, for me is to find the right combination and balance of tools or rather characteristics for a more fulfilling personality. The target should be to find the  ingredient’s necessary for my growth. In order to grow I must then, obtain what is essential for my growth. My growth then is dependent on what I take in. Remember first that all growth is from within and that I am the source of that growth. Note that you are also the source of your own growth. 

For me to ensure that I reach the optimum growth levels for this year I must make sure that I develop the right mental attitude. This will mean a constant renewal of my mind. I must make a deliberate policy to buy and read self-improvement and development books. It will also mean that I need to focus more on the positive things in life.

Manage your thoughts

It is very amazing to know that all things in the world began as a thought. Even at creation I believe that, God must have first thought before speaking. The saying “as a man thinks so is he in is heart” holds water for me. You always produce what you think. Your outside world is a true reflection of your inside world. If you think cheap you come out cheap. If you set your mind on mediocrity you get exactly that and vice versa. I can challenge you that nothing in this world has been ever invented without first being conceived as thought or an idea by someone. I have noticed that the world has a way of giving us back what we predominantly harbour as thoughts.

This then makes me realize that one of the most important tools we have as human beings is the mind which is the thinking organ. If you can control what thoughts you harbour believe me you are destined to achieve greatness. In this new season I challenge you to start learning how to control and manage your thoughts. 

Be proactive and not reactive

The human nature is that of being reactive. Meaning we always wait for the situation to happen and then react after wards. This means that most of the time we are firefighting. That is the difference between successful individuals and those of us that are struggling with life. If you want to be ahead you must be proactive and not reactive. I used to be like this and I can confess that this firefighting syndrome has not completely gone away from me. The best way to handle life is to be prepared for every eventuality. To be proactive is to take measures in advance for an event that will occur including the unexpected.

Like I said this is a new season and with it comes a new tide of everything. The challenge this season is to build on the little gains achieved for being proactive and not reactive. I want to believe that being reactive is a sign of laziness and no lazy person can be successful.


As per tradition for me every New Year is a new season and I always make resolutions and set goals for it.  This is one of the best tools I use to measure my progress towards reaching my personal development goals. I hope and trust that you have formulated one for yourself to keep you going. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted.

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Stand on your two feet

Each step upward makes me feel stronger and fit for the next step” – GANDHI. Everyone of us has a privilege to life and this comes with the great responsibility of improving our lives with the choices we make. To those of us who are striving to become whatever we have set our eyes on, the key is to be able to stand on our own two feet. A famous Chinese proverb says “a journey of a thousand miles starts with one step” in the right direction of course. Whatever, you want to achieve in life cannot be achieved without you standing on your own two feet. Get me right, yes you need people around you as you go on. You cannot succeed without people around you. I have not come across a successful person who is a loner. In this article I will try and outline the importance of standing on your own two feet.

Why stand on your two feet?

I believe that as a parent the best gift you can give to your children is the gift of freedom. Allowing them to make decisions on their own and providing guidance as they learn to stand on their own two feet. When you teach your children how to catch fish, they will surely not be dependant on you for fish. One of the biggest mistake I see in our society is that children are not taught how to catch fish at the right age. Parents will continue to spoon feed their children and not letting them learn the realities of life. I thank God for my late father who taught me to work hard for everything that I possess. I realised at a tender age that my father’s assets are not mine but his.

Again I thank God for giving me a country were we have freedom to so many things without government interference. Standing on your own two feet means freedom to me; freedom to express myself; freedom to do whatever I want to do.  We are born to be free to decide what kind of life we want to lead. Break the chains of dependency and enjoy the freedom of standing on your own two feet. Enjoy the freedom to make choices that build on your character on a daily basis. We all should learn to stand on our own in whatever, we do in life. Be it financially or socially. We were created to core exist but to be able to stand on our own feet. When you are able to stand on your own that is the time you can give the world your best.

How many of us enjoy being perpetual dependants on someone for survival? I certainly do not enjoy it. Life demands that we move from being a dependant to being dependable. We have a huge responsibility to be taken up that is to be dependable and not being a perpetual dependant. There is nothing wrong though on being dependant in our infancy and childhood. we do not just stand on our two feet from nowhere but we learn to stand on our own through our every day experiences and choices we make.

Learn from the past

Learning is a continuous process. We are learning something new everyday. It is this knowledge that we accumulate over time that helps us grow. To be able to stand on our own feet we must learn and appreciate past experiences. They say experience is the best teacher, very true. What you have learned through your own experience will stick to your mind much more than what is taught by someone else. I personally have taught my self how to use most computer applications that I know of. I have learnt through experience that most computer user applications almost the same, usually the difference is minimal. Notice that even when you are confronted with a situation that you have come across before decision making is usually based on past experiences.

Life has a lot of ups and downs. The people who have succeed in life have failed before and people who are not successful are failures. We all have come across challenging situations. Some have remained stagnant because they have accepted defeat. I have not accepted defeat and will continue to soldier on. Personal growth does not come easy. The daily experiences we encounter add to our growth. We are an expression of our exposure.


To stand on your own two feet is one of the greatest gifts you can ever receive in life. We always ensure that we are striving to stand on our own. I know that life has a lot of challenges and many of these are a stepping stone to greater growth. We choose to accept what we cannot change and instead change our inner selves, learning whatever there is to be learned. This is the only way we can grow and learn to stand on our own feet. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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