Happiness Self Growth

The Joy of Serving People

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution will ever experience life’s deepest joy; true fulfillment” – Anthony Robbins. We live to serve people. Humanity was created for service. What ever kind of job you do is related to serving people. It may be directly or indirectly interacting with people, but I believe that what ever we do in life is ultimately serving people. If what you do, does not benefit people, it simply means you are robbing the world. Everyday of our lives there is a time when we have to serve someone. No matter what you are or do there comes a time when you have to serve someone. Service that is beneficial to the person being served. People do not realise that there is joy and a lot of satisfaction in being of service.

People remember us by the way we treat them; the way we talk to them. The small things we do and say really matter and count. If you are a parent or a guardian you will agree with me that you take pride and joy when you are being of service to your children or spouse. I always try as much as possible to be of help and make myself available when ever time allows. With the busy schedule I have on my plate I have over the past created some days during the week where I give my family undivided attention. My two children know that they can ask me to play with them and they do not expect any objections. Sometimes my youngest son David will remind me and and say that today is our time with you.

I have noticed that ever since I deliberately created more time for them there is a sense of togetherness. I am beginning to grow more patient with them on so many things. This has helped improve my understanding and enhanced my relationship with my family. I guess this is very important especially that my eldest son Lutangu is getting into his teens. In other words am discovering the other side of me; the patient side of me; the gentle side of me. Because generally I am not a very patient person. Now they look forward to those days. When we are playing games am the one who is usually serving them; am the one who does the dirty work and they get to enjoy seeing me all dirty.

I also serve at church in the traffic department. We are the first people you meet and the last people you see when you come to church on Sundays. It is a tough job especially, on hot and rainy days but the joy and satisfaction you get when serving God’s people is just immeasurable. People will always appreciate the service you render to them no matter what. Even if they don’t thank you immediately they will at some point thank you. All you have to do is to just continue doing what is right. It is such a joy when you find people thanking you for your service. That is why it is always important to say thank you when you are being served, it simply encourages the one providing the service to even do more.

There is Growth from Service

Apart from just the joy you get from serving, there is also personal growth. We are all called to serve. The world needs more people to serve. If you are not deliberately serving people, I encourage you to take time to find something that you can do to serve others. It could be at your work place. Be the one that helps out a colleague; be the one who is more dependable in a certain area. Not just helping your boss but also help your peers. The more you practice to help the more you grow and the more you get satisfaction and derive happiness. The bible says “it is more blessed to give than to receive“. The rewards of serving are immense.

I developed this website not only to share my personal experience but to be of service to people. The articles I write are mainly personal experiences through which I hope that someone is being encouraged and challenged. Over the years I have also enjoyed personal growth because of my own articles. I do a lot of reading and research. As a result I am learning everyday of my life. I can only thank God for the ideas and opportunity he has given me to develop this website. I  believe that am still very much a work in progress. There are many many areas of my life that need to be worked on and slowly but surely they are being turned around.


Love is the joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amazement of the Gods” – Plato. Through service of people lives can be changed and transformed. As we serve and grow we should, endeavour to reach out to the world at large. I believe that serving people is also one way to unlocking our full potential. One can realise their potential by being of service to people. Again I would like to encourage you to find something that you can do that can be of service to the community around you. Start small and slowly reach out to a larger audience.  Take joy in serving people. Remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There are two things to aim at in life: first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second” – Logan Pearshall Smith. Everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with joy and happiness, but also everyday is a beautiful day that is filled with sadness. If every day is a gift why do you then decide to live a life of sadness. We live our lives based off, the decisions we made in the past. That is why it is better to make the right decisions today that will affect our future.

Am not perfect but everyday that I wake-up, I thank God almighty for giving me another opportunity to better my life. I believe that for as long as you are alive you have the chance of improving your life and that of the people around you and beyond.

Yes, I know you may not be in a position to do the things you want to do now, but you have the chance because you are alive. One thing I have noticed is that we as human beings take life for granted. We do not take time to appreciate the fact that we are alive and in pretty much good health. If you are reading this article you are even more privileged than most people. It simply means that you have access to a computer and the internet.

However, you are accessing them, these things cost money. Do you know how many people cannot even come close to think about having the privilege you have? Yet you continue living a life of sadness. I know that you may not have all you desire, but at least give thanks that you are alive. Life is not just about having all you desire but living happily and enjoying it.

Take Responsibility for Your Decisions

The biggest weakness we have as human beings is not taking full responsibility for our decisions. We only want to take responsibility when things are going right and people are praising us. I believe that taking responsibility for our mistakes is a sign of maturity. I am proud to take full responsibility for my personal decisions. Sometimes its difficult to accept that am in a certain situation because of my decisions but that’s just the truth. If I had made better choices I could not have found my self in difficult circumstances in the first place. Ever since I decided to be taking full responsibility for my decisions, life is more fulfilling and enjoyable. What this has done is that, before I make a major decision I think about it very hard.

I have also learnt that deciding to be happy early in the morning makes my day a lot easier to navigate. I know that sometimes people want to mess it up for me, but because a decision was made in the morning to be happy, I stick with it. My mind is pre-conditioned to stay happy and this flows to my emotions. They say our thoughts influence our emotions. When you decide on something and you stick with it, nothing can shake you. Yes things may be thrown at you, but you have the resolve to be happy and you will be, even during the bad and difficult times.

One of the things I do when am confronted with a potentially explosive situation is to just smile and walk away if I can or better still just keep quiet. Its hard to just walk away at first especially if you are hot tempered, but with practice it becomes easier.

There is no need to allow people to annoy you. Life is too short to be lived sad. God has given us the ability to choose freely. The power to decide is entirely in your hands. I like to make a comparison with say going out to have fun with friends. Most of the time when something goes wrong we blame the company we were hanging around with for the decisions we made. Yes they may have played a part but the final say, lies in our hands. If you say no to taking part in unwanted situation you can. This also goes to being in a toxic relationship. You can either decide to continue in it or you can get out.

Learn to Enjoy Your Life

Life is too short, learn to enjoy it. You can only enjoy life if you decide to and this decision is entirely yours. There are many ways to enjoying life, one of which is to do the things that make you happy more often. Most of us do not enjoy our lives simply because of the jobs we do. If your daily job does not make you happy you are most likely living a sad life.

The happiest people are those with jobs that make them happy. You can be paid as much money as possible but without happiness the job is meaningless. You would be probably contributing more if you found a job that makes you happy. Now, a job does not necessarily mean being employed by someone or working for a big corporation. You could be self employed and earning a decent living by doing the things that make you happy. “Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do” – Gerry Sikorski.

That is why it very important to know your life’s purpose earlier in your life. This helps in choosing careers that will enhance and help you achieve your goals. One of the ways to know what your life’s purpose is, is to list down the things that easily flow from you. The things that you do with much ease and less effort. These are the things that could point you to what your life’s purpose is. It could be that you are gifted at making people laugh, well go ahead and be a professional comedian. The idea is start living and enjoy your working life. After all we spend most of our time working.

If you have made mistakes in the past like me, don’t worry, there is still room for change. You can make the change right now and decide to do the right things for the rest of your life. And besides who has never made a mistake in their life? Forget the mistakes you made, treat them as a learning point and move on. You cannot change the past but can positively influence your future beginning this moment by making the right decisions.


You don’t pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success” – Zig Ziglar. I would like to conclude by advising you to made a decision to start living a happy life. Get your power back by taking responsibility for your decisions. We all fall down, but we get up and press on with life. Until next time have a blessed and happy life.

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This is my first article for this year and I thought that I should write an article that will help you stay happy for the rest of the year. “A man is successful if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do” ~ Bob Dylan. Perhaps this is the best description of success for me. The key factor is enjoying doing what you want to do. Sometimes the obvious escapes us.

Notice that whenever you are enjoying what you are doing, you do a better and outstanding job, you have more fun, and feel a certain sense of ease delight and mastery. We become better at something because of the time we spend doing it. In other words the saying practice makes perfect is true. I read somewhere that if we spend two hours a day doing something that we choose to do that makes us happy, within five years we can become an expert. That is why it is very important to have a job that you enjoy. There is no joy in doing a job that does not make you happy.

The challenge
I want to challenge you to find a little something that makes you happy every day. If you are currently working and you feel you do not enjoy your work, well before you think about quitting look at how you can improve your current situation and learn from it. Life is too short to live worrying every day. Besides most of us spend a lot of our time at our work places, why not make them a happy place. I have been in employment before that I dreaded going for work every day and I know what am talking about. The best solution is to make the best out of it. Remember it is essential that you learn to enjoy life there is much more to enjoyment that being sad. I know for sure that happiness makes you look younger.

You and only you alone are in charge of discovering then deciding what you want to do more of that which makes you happy. There are certain things that have to be done. To achieve happiness, make a commitment to making the best out of every situation. Work with pride do your job as if there is no tomorrow. Challenge yourself to always go an extra mile if you are in employment. This will certainly make you stand out from your fellow workers and earn you accolades. If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased and that is you.

Happiness is infectious
Marcus Aurelius concluded that “very little is needed to make a happy life”. Indeed happiness is a state of mind. A happy person always has a positive mental attitude. Make is a point in life to decide to be happy. I know that you come across trials and tribulations but the more you practice to do the things that make you happy the more relaxed and the more inner peace you will have. Happiness has a tendency of spilling over to the others around you.

I have a friend who is always happy. There are very few times I have seen him sad and he is such a huge source of greatness for me. Every time we meet up you feel like you just want to be with this guy more and more. I asked him what his secret to happiness was and he simply said I make a decision every morning to be happy and try to do more of the things that make me happy. This to me is one of the best formulas to happiness. Turn your sad moments to learning moments and reflect on them. Many of the times we are sad because we have allowed others to do so. There are times in all of our lives when we have to focus on sad and painful situations. But in the big picture, when life is running more smoothly, we have to remember to get back in the habit of making choices that will provide opportunities for us to do more and more things that make us happy.

Happiness in service
I believe that some of the happiest people are those in the service industry. If you are in this industry and are not happy please quit. I know that some of the people join the service industry for the sake of a pay cheque. These are the ones that should leave the industry and allow people with a natural inclination for serving humanity to do it with dignity and honor. I have experienced some of the worst treatment by medical personal yet this is a noble profession with a calling to serving lives.

In reality it feels very nice and pleasant and you feel useful after giving a helping hand. I have noticed that, even in my little kids they enjoy giving a hand in whatever I am doing. When they take this opportunity they are very joyful and happy. I want to believe that we all have a part to play in making the world a better pace and it all starts with you and me being a happy people. Service is honourable. When we continue to do more things that make us happy, we will become happier. This gift of well-being is the great reward of living the good life. Each one of us has a choice about how to love the world in our own unique way. “I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves…The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth” ~ Albert Einstein.

Laughter is the best medicine” ~ Unknown. Every day of your life make a decision to be happy. Wake up and declare happiness to be a part of your day. Yes you shall encounter sad moments but treat them as stepping stones. Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a happy world where everyone is playing there part and are happily doing it? I believe it can be done if we all played our part honestly and happily. Stay happy and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Be gracious and stay happy

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation” ~ Brian Tracy. When something bad happens, instead of embracing it and taking it personal you need to learn to change how you think of it. For instance, if you work in the service industry and you have a rude customer, instead of letting it ruin your day and your mood, try and show some compassion, you see different people have different problems, perhaps something bad has happened to that individual, try and do something nice for them. A smile can be contagious. Instead of taking everyone’s bad mood personal make the choice to be in a good mood, smile and circulate the cheer! Thank the customer and wish them a pleasant day.

With larger life issues that can bring us down, like an ill family member, a divorce, a disagreement with a loved one, cast your worries away. Do what you can to help or correct the situation and then leave it in God’s hands. Many of the times we want to carry the burden in our heart. Remember you’re only a human, you can’t fix everything and shouldn’t have to carry all of life’s burden’s on your heart day in and day out. Do your best to apologise to those you wronged, forgive those who wronged you, ask for help when you require it, and offer help when you are able to.
It’s about letting go of all of those things sitting in your heart that are keeping you from having a positive outlook. It’s your choice; do not overload your heart with hate and spite. If you are able to keep the negative in your heart, let it go to make room for the positive.

Some people will never tell you they had a bad day perhaps they will describe the events that occurred. As a matter of fact some believe there’s no such thing as a bad day. I know that this is a hard concept to grasp especially for me, “bad days” have been a steady occurrence. To some every day is a gift. Some are thankful for the challenges as they are a source of learning. Be thankful for your job even when it is not pleasant. I have worked in an unpleasant environment. Until I learned to appreciate the job did I start getting some job satisfaction. I did not stay long though my plan was to move on.

Try and start to adopt the philosophy of appreciating what you have and see if it can work for you as well. Make a choice to be positive and learn to be thankful for all you have. Remember there are millions of people in a worse situation than you are. When you are having a “bad day” try and discover something good in it, there are more good things than bad things in a day. When you discover something good you will realize that a few bad things don’t ruin a whole day unless you let them! It’s an option! Every day we’re alive is a gift there is so much to be grateful for so why do we center on the things that make us unhappy? “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it called present” ~ unknown. Surely a present is mean for all to enjoy.

Readapt your thinking .bad days are selections we make! In the end having a positive outlook is entirely up to you! Its a choice you make day-to-day. You can never control what other people say or do to you but you are able to control your response. By selecting the positive route, as briefly outlined, you’ll be happier and healthier than ever before. You’ll have a peace within you that will leave people looking at you in awe. I think it is a choice that’s worth making. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted” and be gracious and enjoy your life.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

In my life so far I have come across different people from all walks of life and from different races. None of these people I know would like to live a miserable or sad life. Every single one of them wants to lead a very happy and fulfilling life. It is interesting though to note that most of them are not as happy as they wish to be. Does this sound familiar to your ears? Before we go further, ask yourself the following questions; what does happiness depend on? Is it luck or good fortune? Does it depend on money or possessions? What is it that makes you happy?

Happiness is a state of mind. It is a decision to be happy and is a personal choice. Gasping for happiness is a matter of will of wanting and learning to be happy. If you want to be happy get the happiness consciousness. Happiness is an emotion and I know that all emotions are under our control. Why is it then that most people do not leave a happy life? A great deal of happiness depends on the desire to be happy, a consciousness and firm decision to reach that state. As described before happiness is a personal decision, here?s a few things that could help you enhance your happiness:-

Good friends

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A lively and positive social circle could be a great source of happiness. Choose your friends carefully. I do not mean that you should discriminate but be careful with the people you hangout with. Choosing the right and positive set of friends is very helpful. Concentrate on the positive side of things. Helping out a friend is another source of happiness. Have you ever noticed that being of service to your friends just makes you feel loved and wanted? It works for me.

Having a good sense of humour

Try as much as possible to develop a good sense of humour. The say laughter is medicinal. Having a good sense of humour and laughter are cause and consequences of happiness. I know that you will encounter situations that will go against the principles of happiness, such is life. Make sure you quickly switch your mind to decipher the positives out of every situation. Mostly things happen for a good reason and it our duty to know and find those reasons.


Spending time with your family is another source of happiness. It is important to find a member of your family you can share your feelings with. It could be your spouse if you are married or any other close relative. Try helping out a family member sought out their problems. There is more satisfaction and happiness in helping out the needy. You could even go further by doing charity work.

Decide to be happy

You were created to live a happy life. Make a firm decision to be happy everyday, you deserve it. Forget the hassles and bustles of life live a happy life. Tell yourself in the morning that this is the day the lord has made for me and I shall rejoice in it. Weeping may come but joy comes in the morning. The way you start your day has more to do with what you are going to get during the day. If you wish to be happy decide to be. Once your decision is made, you will have to overcome the many barriers intercepting your happiness.

Be satisfied with the past

Your life and experiences can be either a source of happiness or suffering. And depending on how you judge them, they may build or destroy your happiness. Look at the past with satisfaction, contemplate the future with hope and decide to live in the present. A great deal of joys and positive moods are directly linked with our past events. Avoid regrets for past events no body can change them. Use past experiences as a learning tool to avoid future complications. Use the rewarding memories and talk to your dear ones about them and treasure them.

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Live in the present

Enjoy the here and now” this is very important. Why dwell on the past when it cannot be changed? However, treasure the good memories. To be happy at present, learn to enjoy the simple things of today; people; nature; children. There is great joy in playing with children. You will be amazed at how much you can actually learn from them.


Being happy is very important to personal development and growth. You cannot attain your full personal development and growth without happiness. Being happy is a personal decision and choice. Make a firm decision and choose to be happy. We live in a world full of sadness. Every body is busy with their own things. Make a difference by making at least one person feel loved and happy everyday. Have a happiness consciousness. Happiness is God given always start your day with a prayer and “standout tall and be counted”.

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