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How Not to be Successful

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

You may be thinking why would you want to know about how not to be successful? Don’t we all want to know about how to be successful after all, that is one of the main themes for this website? Before we delve into the article, lets define the word successful, according to the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary it means “achieving your aims or what was intended”.

From the above definition you can already see why learning about how not to be successful can help you achieve your goals. Sometimes in life we are so focused on knowing the positives and forget about learning how to avoid the negatives. We are so much consumed about how to do this and that, we never take time to learn how not to be positive. If you want to be positive you must know how not to be positive in order to avoid being negative.

Many of us are busy researching on success but are failing to understand why we are not achieving it. I thought to bring to light some of the things that have contributed to either slowing down progress or not progressing at all. Maybe if you take a break and learn the opposite of not being prosperous you will avoid the pitfalls and stay on the right track.

The above definition is more or less straight forward and is on point. It is not ambiguous. For me the definition brings out a few things that I am passionate and have been constantly writing about on this site. Before you embark on the road to pursue success there are a few requisites that need to be attended to. If you are not attending to these basics, you will find it very difficult to thrive. Being successful, is all about achieving. When you achieve you are successful. “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful men keep moving; they make mistakes, but they do not quit” – Conrad Hilton.

Not Knowing Your Life’s Intended Purpose

Your life’s intended purpose is key to being victorious. Remember the definition says “achieving what was intended”. If you do not know what you were created for; what you where intended for; you will find it hard to be successful. I believe that the first thing one needs to do is finding out or establishing his life’s’ intended purpose. This will generally lead to making decisions and taking steps that help to achieve that purpose.

In other words you need to have set goals and targets, and work towards attaining them. Perhaps one of the most sure way of not being successful is not having goals or not knowing your purpose in life. If you do not have a goal you simply cannot attain it. Yes, you may have all the possessions but is that your goal? Only you can measure the true level of your success. “To be successful you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish, and then resolve to pay the price to get it” – Bunker Hunt.

The other way of not be successful is to not being true and sincere to the situation. Most of us are more concerned with who is right and not what is right. We have so much ego that we let it cloud our judgement. I have been in such situations before, where am questioning who gave the solution and believe me most of the times I have ended up missing the opportunity. This is very common especially, if you are so much involved and interested in politics. A famous politician once said politics makes you sit on your intelligence.

Most of the people who are ardent followers of political parties usually do not make honest and objective opinions about the candidates they support. They turn a blind eye to the wrongs being committed by the party they support and are quick to point out the wrongs being committed by their competitors. That is why I have detached myself from politics. I do try as much as possible to make an honest and balanced judgement. However, on this website I promise to not take sides with any politician and will always not talk politics. I just think politics are more divisive.

Not Having the Right Mental Attitude

Achievement is in your mind and your attitude. If you do not see yourself successful, you are not ready for it. They say you are what you think about most of the times. If you critically look back at your thoughts in the last few years and compare them with your current life. Nine out of ten you are living your thoughts.

Not having the right mental attitude is a sure way of not achieving your goals. The two major mental obstacles for success are fear and doubt. Fear is one of the greatest negative emotions. First of all it is the fear of failure; the fear of embarrassment; the fear of loss and poverty. I have also learned that fear mostly exposes our inadequacies. We fear, to do something maybe because we do not have enough knowledge on a certain topic.

The second emotion of doubt is equally as detrimental as fear. We doubt our abilities mostly because we compare ourselves to other individuals, who are more competent and smarter than us. We feel inadequate to the challenges at hand.

However, the good thing is that both fear and doubt are learned emotions. We acquire them as we grow. This is true because I have never seen a negative baby. You will agree with me that children are fearless, that is why they need adult supervision all the time. What ever has been learned can be unlearned.

The emotions of fear and doubt can be replaced by courage and confidence. The higher your levels of courage and confidence the lower your feelings of fear and doubt. The more knowledgeable you are about a subject matter the more courageous and confident you are to participate. I can attest to this because the more I write and post articles the more courageous and confident I become.

I am hoping that in months to come there will be a total transformation in my writing skills.

Conclusion

There are many things that can make you not to achieve your goals. I just thought of writing this article to make you look at the aside of life. It is not my intention not to see you succeed but to help you change, by bringing to light some of the things that maybe a road block in your life. I believe that knowing what works and what doesn’t work in your life is more important to helping you make those decisions that will push you closer to the finishing line. “If you consistently and persistently do the things that other successful people do, nothing in the world can stop you from being a big success also” – Brian Tracy. Stay focused and standout tall and be successful.

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How to keep peace with your adversaries

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him “ – Buddha. We all have adversaries in life. Countries are at war because of perceived enemies; people are fighting and killing each other because of perceived differences and creating adversaries. Peace seems to be in short supply across the world. Even in our own homes husbands and wives cannot stay together peacefully. Especially during the current imposed lock down due to the COVID – 19 pandemic.

The world we know to day is not as it was a few years ago. There seems to be a break down of peace in the world today. It seems to me that when you belong to a different grouping or race you are enemies. And for some of us who live in countries that have enjoyed relative peace for a very long time we seem to be taking it for granted. We seem to have forgotten that the peace we enjoy today was fought for by our fore fathers. I have been doing some reading and researching on how we can learn to maintain peace with our perceived enemies. Key word perceived.

I came to a conclusion that most of the reasons for the enmity around us is purely greediness, ignorance and fear of the unknown. Most of us are scared of what we don’t know or understand. You see fear exposes our weaknesses and we counter it by being angry and hateful. It makes us want to eliminate that which makes us angry and in the process we loss our peace.

I came across a very interesting story by Daryl Davis. He is one of the very few black men who used to attend rallies of the Ku Klux Klan popularly known as the KKK. Daryl had become friends with the Grand Dragon of the Klan and over time he would be invited to attend their rallies. At the rallies he was even allowed to take pictures. Now if you know what the KKK stood for, you will agree with me that this was an extraordinary friendship. Even though the leader of the Klan insisted that he was superior to Daryl justified by the differences in their skin colour.

In his story Daryl stresses that ignorance breeds fear. For sure we are as human beings are always fearful of the things we do not understand. I have experienced fear without actually knowing what the fear is all about. I believe this is just a defense mechanism we have developed overtime. If only we could take more time to understand our adversaries. We would be making the right decisions and learn to live in peace. It is amazing how we hate people we do not even know based on the colour of their skin or tribe or political grouping. Yet most of us profess to be Christians. The bible I read tells me that “Do onto others what you would want them do onto you” it also tells me that “we are all equal before the eyes of God”. Find here below Daryl Davis telling his story.

Daryl Davis speaking about his experience with the Ku Klux Klan

Conclusion

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other” – Mother Teresa. Perhaps we need to be reminded that we are all interconnected and belong to each other. If we can spend time to respect and accept each others uniqueness the world would be a better and peaceful place for all. After all God instructs us to love our enemies as we love ourselves. Remember to standout tall and be counted and keep the conversation going with your adversaries.

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How to keep track of your thoughts

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw. The lesson learned from the preceding quote is that you are what you are, because of what you think. Therefore, the thoughts you keep in your mind are of paramount importance to building your character. All character and all habits are formed from your thoughts.

It is therefore, important that as you build your character and as you walk on the road of success your thoughts are in tune with your surrounds. Know that your success is the manifestation of your thoughts. It is what you think you are that, will manifest. If your think you are a failure then that is what you will end up to be; if you think otherwise the exact opposite is what you will be. You are the captain of your soul.

What thoughts are right?
Am sure this is the question you really want answered. It is rather difficult for me to answer this question for you as it is an individual’s choice. I would rather you answer it on your own. I have my own answer and I can rest assure you that it is very different from yours. You see one thing I have learned is that the mind does not decipher wrong or right thoughts. It takes whatever, thoughts you allow in. Wrong or right is decided by you.

If you allow your mind to dwell on wrong thoughts you will yield wrong results, if your mind dwells on the right thoughts be rest assured of the right results. In other words you reap what you sow, if you sow positive thoughts you reap positive results and vice versa. What you are from the inside is what comes out of you. You cannot be a devil inside and be an angel outside. The bible says “You shall know them by their fruits”. A farmer cannot plant an almond seed and expect the seed to grow into a guava tree. I have never seen that myself. Somebody help me if they have.

The decision to decide what thoughts are right depends entirely on what you want to achieve in your life. Your thoughts must be inclined to your achievement. For example if you are aiming to have say $5million dollars in five years’ time; your thoughts must have already seen the $5million dollars. You must have convinced in your thoughts that you already have received and begin to work on how you are going to achieve your target. In this case the thoughts of saving and spending less money would be the right ones. The thoughts of how to raise more money would set you on the right path. It would be detrimental to begin to think that money will come without hard work, perseverance and patience.

How to keep track
If thoughts are so important to our lives and success, it then follows, that there must be a way of keeping track of them. As human beings we are prone to easily push aside good thoughts and never recall them. One of the best ways I use to keep track of my thoughts is to have them written down in a note book. I just don’t understand but I know that there is power in writing down something.

I have written down my life’s purpose and continuously write on how best I can achieve or rather attain it. The main theme does not change but the methods being used to get there keep on improving. The more I write about the methods to be used, the more clearer my destination gets. Don’t just write it down and forget it but, read it daily to keep the thoughts fresh. For me writing is the best method I have devised, if you can think of any other method that’s very good. Please follow it religiously and see what results you will achieve.

Keeping track of your thoughts is very important and should be encouraged. The use of mnemonics is also a one good method that can be utilized. You also need to have some “thought time”. This is the time when you are alone and not disturbed. At this particular time search your mind and focus on your written down life’s purpose. Focus on how best you can move towards your set goals and write down every thought and answer that comes to mind. Keep track of them by reviewing them regularly. Off course some will be done away with as they will be unrealistic but still keep track of your thoughts.

Conclusion
I must emphasize and remind you that everything that is, and has been was first conceived as a thought and transmuted into being.  I believe that even GOD had to think before he spoke of creation. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”. Notice that whatever, you say is first processed as a thought before being said. This is how important your thoughts are. Always think before your act and live conscious of your success. Bye for now and always remember to “standout tall and be counted” by thinking positively.

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How to attract prosperity

You might think that attracting prosperity sounds like a phrase that people use who thinks you need to meditate two hours a day, not eat meat and communicate with spirits with Biblical names. And while there are some new age and new thought gurus who do all of those things, actually attracting prosperity to your life is much simpler than that. You see in order for you to attract prosperity you must have needs. Which we all have. Why do I say this, needs these are demands that create action and brings about results. You cannot attract prosperity without needs and demands. My simple formula for attracting prosperity is “Needs + Demands + Action = Prosperity.

That’s not to say that it’s easy. There are a number of ways to do it wrong, which only means that you won’t attract the prosperity you deserve. Attracting prosperity begins with a change in the state of your mind. There’s no doom and gloom option when it comes to trying to bring good things into your life. You need to change the way your mind thinks and perceives things. You cannot expect to prosper if you have a negative mind about yourself. You need to see and feel yourself prosperous before you actually are. Remember a positive mind attracts positive things. Like attracts like; money attracts more money. That is why they say birds of the same feather flock together. If you do not have a written down purpose for your life it would be smart to do so before you start focusing on attracting prosperity.

Even by just attempting the methods of attracting prosperity, you start wheels turning in both your head and the universe that can help good things happen in your life. Like I mentioned earlier the first step in making good things happen for yourself is a change in your attitude and this begins with the change taking place in your mind. The bible tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. One of the best ways to renewing your mind is by reading. Successful people are great readers. Remember that to those that have more, more is required of them. Being prosperous or successful is not an easy task, it is a huge responsibility and you must be well prepared for it. Are you?

Instead of seeing things through a negative lens, it’s necessary to see them through a positive one. Use the analogy of a glass that’s filled halfway with water. Instead of seeing it as half-empty or half-dirty, learn to see it as half-full. If you burn your dinner, don’t see it as a ruined meal, notice that the pans will still be fine after they’re washed. If you do not do well at your first attempt don’t see it as a failure but as a first attempt in the right direction. Do not accept failure in your mind. Make adjustments and give it another shot. Often times we do not succeed at the first attempt.

This shift in perception takes you from seeing negativity and limitations and instead into seeing the positive side of everything. Attracting prosperity works on the principle that, what you believe and what you surround yourself with will attract similar things. Be careful with what you surround yourself with including your friends and associates. Don’t go through your day noticing what’s wrong with everything, you are going to attract problems but, instead make it a habit to notice only the good things. This might sound far-fetched to some people, but when you focus on being positive and on seeing the good in things, your attitude will change. Look at the bad things with a positive mind and see what that does to your life. I make it a point on a daily basis to reflect through my day and ensure that on my list I have more positive things than negatives. This does not mean that I do not see negative things I surely do but I try as much as possible to concentrate on the positives.

Once this attitude shift takes place, it becomes even easier to automatically see the positive in even a very bad situation. When you begin noticing positive things, opportunities that you would have otherwise missed if you had been focused on the negative instead make themselves known to you. In other words you open up the flood gates of blessings. You begin to attract the right ingredients for prosperity. You develop a mechanism whereby you may create for yourself health; strength; success; prosperity or any other condition which you desire.

When viewed this way, attracting prosperity seems less like some strange metaphysical system than it does good common sense. When you see an opportunity you might have missed with a more negative attitude, it’s like you’ve attracted the potential for prosperity, by seeing an opportunity where you wouldn’t have before. With a positive mind before you, opportunities are easily noticed and you can quickly take advantage of them.

Conclusion
Even if it was something you might have noticed before but not acted on when you had a more negative attitude, with a positive attitude you may act on it and believe that it will work in your favor. Attracting prosperity becomes second nature when you believe that good things are possible. The key to attracting prosperity is a positive mind. Keep it positive and “standout tall and be counted”.

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How to build your character

Nature compels us all to move through life, but every right thinking person wants not merely to move through life like an empty bottle, but to develop, to improve and to continue the development of his thoughts to the close of physical life. Yet, most of the people have remained stagnant and wallow in poverty and live in mediocrity. This development can only occur through the improvement of the quality of the individuals thoughts and the ideals and actions that arise thereof. Every one of us has the power of will and choice, and can therefore, exercise them in the selection of the type or kind of life to lead.

Personal development is not an easy task and no one can say they have arrived at the station of personal development. It is not destination but, a continuous exercise. We can only get closer to perfection as we continue to build our selves on a daily basis. The only way to keep from going backward is to keep going forward. There are three things that you need in order to help build your character.

Knowledge of the power within

Surely knowledge is supreme and all growth is from within. The bible tells us that “without knowledge my people perish“. Perhaps the most cardinal ingredient to personal development and achievement is knowledge no one single person can do without it. You need to acquire knowledge in order that you succeed at anything you desire to do. He who desires wisdom, power, or permanent success of any kind will find it only within. Knowledge is the number one building block to achieving your personal development and success. Therefore, you need a solid foundation of knowledge if you are to succeed at any endeavor you set out to do.

Knowledge leads to skills. A good set of knowledge leads to a good set of life skills. In order to build and improve on your skills you need to build on your arsenal of knowledge. One of the best ways I do to build my knowledge is by reading the bible on a daily basis. I have come to appreciate the bible because it also offers not only a worth of knowledge but also spiritual growth. The only way not to go backwards is to keep moving forward. When you discover the power within you the sky is the limit if only you can touch the clouds.

Courage to dare

How many of us have the courage and I mean real courage to dare? Many of us fail because we have no courage. We are always saying what if I start up a business and I fail? Dare yourself and say what if I start a business and succeed. Surely we are what we think. The thoughts we harbor are reflection of what we are “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart“. You must always remember that all there is today is as a result of thought. Think about all the buildings around you. They all first existed in someone?s mind. The bible encourages us to be strong and courageous, not to be discouraged and not to be terrified.

The courage to dare is the most lacking ingredient to people?s success. Most people have developed brilliant ideas yet they luck the courage to dare implement them. We always find excuses for not implementing our ideas and thoughts. The most successful men and women have the courage to dare implement there ideas. Failure is a state of mind. You only fail when you accept failure.

The faith to do

What is faith? “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen“. Knowledge alone will not bring forth success. You need to have faith and believe in what you are doing in order to bring forth results. Faith is a powerful tool needed to achieve any level of success. Walk in faith and just start living your dreams.

If faith is so important how then do you acquire it? The bible says “faith cometh by hearing“. I have discovered that one of the best ways to develop faith is to write down your intended purpose and desire and read it to your self aloud every morning and night. The repeated reading of your life?s mission statement will be impressed on your subconscious. As your mind becomes attuned to your intended purpose and desire you will develop the faith to do.

Conclusion

Like I always mention in many of my articles the subject of personal development is not an easy one. I believe that the above article has helped you. A good mix of the three will definitely yield better results for you. Personal development is a life long commitment and should be taken seriously. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted“.

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