Personal Development

The Power to Make Choices is In Your Hands

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


We live our lives based of the choices and decisions we make everyday. The choices and decisions we make largely determine the quality of the lives we live.

If you choose to be happy, you will live a happy life; if you choose to be negative you will be negative, but whatever you decide to do, the choice is yours.

You are currently in this situation largely because of the choices you have make previously. You are living your choice. Stop blaming others and do something to change it.

You are totally responsible for the decisions you make. God gave us the ability to make our own decisions. We are expected to be responsible for the decisions we make and endure the consequences.

Unfortunately many of us live in denial of being responsible for the state of our lives. We always want to blame someone for not being supportive or doing something about it.

How do you expect someone to do something about your situation when you made the wrong decision? You made the wrong choice? Look, I believe that God allows certain things to happen to us in order that we may learn from them. Experience is a good teacher.

Most of the time we neglect the good counsel we are given. When people come with good advice we are quick to ignore or even rebuke them. “I Know what am doing. Its my life after all.” These are some of the most common answers we give.

People always want to give an excuse when they fail. We cry and complain to say “why me” O Lord. But, lets face it, if not “you” then who? We only want to be credited with the positive things we do.

The same energy you apply when things are going right should be applied even in your trying times. In fact you must double that energy during your trying times.

The Blame game will not change your current situation it will only make things worse. If you are facing difficulties in your marriage go and seek professional help, make the decision and quit complaining about your spouse.

If its finances you want, start a side hustle, no matter how small it maybe, learn the ropes and get busy with it. At least get started. Yes, you will fail but one day you will look back and say I have come from very far.

Life has taught me that, to make meaningful progress, you need to realise that you are totally responsible for your choices and decisions you make. This will help you make better decisions and take corrective action were necessary.

Taking responsibility may sound harsh but, that is just the reality of life. If you are not happy with your current life style, it is your duty and responsibility to change the situation. You have the power within, to make the right choices.

If you wait for someone to come and change it for you, most likely you will wait forever.

Look no one has the right to force you to go against your free will without your permission. You are made of the things you do and not the things that happen to you. Yes you will stumble, every now and again that’s life but stumbling is not what makes you.

What makes you is that which makes you stand-up when you stumble. Just because your friends have invited you to attend a party does not mean you should attend. You have a choice either to attend or not.

If you have a goal to achieve stay home and work on it. True friends will always support your endeavours. Surely there will be more parties to attend when you succeed.

Create Personal Boundaries and Take Responsibility

Humans by nature are social beings. This means that we are tolerant of other beings. We want to have a sense of belonging. That is why family and friendships are important. We want to have a safety net. A place where we feel safe.

Most of the times especially in our teens we are easily influenced by our peers and join in everything we think is cool just to fit in a certain group.

This leads us to loosing our personal boundaries and allows people to control our lives. I remember being in the same dilemma for a long time. I know that many of us have experienced peer pressure at some point.

When you allow people to cross your personal boundaries you loose yourself. You loose your personal Identity.

That is why it is important to maintain and guard your personal space it is your property. It is your responsibility to ensure that you are in charge of your boundaries.

It is difficulty to re-create boundaries especially when you have lost them, but it is worth fighting for. Do not let other people be responsible for your well being. Let your “No” be “No” and your “Yes” be “Yes” nothing less nothing more.

Sometimes we loose our boundaries by being over responsible for other people’s needs especially our children. We want to be involved in everything they do and take responsibility for them. We want to be responsible for their happiness, success and their life in general.

Well, in as much as we have to be involved in the many aspects of their lives, especially when they are still young, we have to have a limit. They are individual human beings and at some point in life they will have to move on. You do not want to have a 25 year old baby in your house.

Depending on how old they are, allow them to make certain choices and let them take responsibility for their actions. When my eldest son was about 5 years I had trained him in such a way that we could go shopping and he would not through tantrums crying for toys.

When it was time to buy toys I would take him to a toy shop and tell him to choose 1 or 2 toys. The funny part is that even as a small boy he would start negotiating with me to get him more toys because 1 or 2 were just not enough.

I would stick to the agreed number and that the choice is entirely his to make. Off course I would chip in to advise but I allowed him to make the final decision.

The catch was to make him own the toys and be responsible for them. This way every time the toys stopped working and he come crying, I would tell him it was his choice. Eventually I noticed that he would take my advice most of the time. Now he is a big boy.

Exercise Your Power Wisely

The ability to choose and make your own decisions is powerful. It should not be taken lightly. This power is uniquely yours and do not allow anyone to get it away from you.

Be in control of your life by making wise informed decisions. To live a happy life, you need to learn how to make decisions and choices that are beneficial in both the short and long run. Be in control of your life by choosing what you do every day.

When you are faced with difficult challenges in life take a break and don’t make hasty decisions. Think about how you will be affected in the medium to long term; think about the impact your decision will have on you immediate family.

If possible consult your spouse and children, let them have an in put after all we spend most of the time working for them.

Listen to their concerns and fears. But ultimately you will have to make that decision bearing in mind the information you have gathered from your immediate family.

Personal development and self improvement demands that you are responsible for the decisions and choices you make.


You have the power and ability to make your own choices and decisions that will affect or change your life. Let no one take away that power and responsibility from you. Make those decisions and choices today and kick start your life.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


Success has many rewards. Walking in success feels great, but rewards last if only you look forward to your next challenge. You will agree with me that when you achieve a goal, when you are successful, you are happy and ecstatic in that moment, you feel like you have conquered the world, you feel over the moon. But as soon as the excitement subsides and reality creeps in, you begin to look for the next challenge to conquer. “Successful people tend to become more successful because they are always thinking about their successes” – Brian Tracy.

The desire to keep enjoying the rewards of your success gets more and more intense, as you achieve your set objectives and goals. The more you succeed the more happiness you enjoy. Seems to me that success brings with it a huge dose of happiness and joy. Those who enjoy a more successful life usually live a happy and fulfilling one. We derive our happiness from our success.

Notice that people who are usually complaining are those who are not working to be successful. They are waiting for success to come to them. The size of your success depends on the depth of your desire.

It is people who do not take action or have given up and think that they will be successful by just waiting and not doing anything about it. Success does not come easy, it takes smart work to achieve it. The more you work at being successful the closer you get at achieving your goals. The closer you get at achieving your success the more happiness you enjoy. I know that sometimes we go through trying moments.

Challenges are not permanent, they are temporal. Challenges are the way that leads to your success. Often times they open up new doors and new perspectives without which it could have been impossible or difficult to achieve our goals. They should not prevent you from accomplishing your destiny,  rather they should propel you even more to achieve your desired results. If you want to enjoy the reward, you must push on and persist when faced with challenges.

Hard Work is not a Guarantee to Success

I know this may not sound or go very well with with many people but I just think that hard work is not a guarantee that you will succeed. Yes, its hard to be successful without hard work but it doesn’t guarantee success. However, it is one of the ways that will ensure your success. Am not discouraging you from working hard. I just want to make a point clear that smart hard work will surely get you the desired results. If you are to achieve your success you must definitely work hard but not only that you should do it smartly.

The following story is a comparison between hard work and smart work. Once upon a time there was a quint little village. It was a great place to live except for one problem. The village had no water unless it rained. To solve this problem once and for all. The village elders decided to putout to bid a contract to have water delivered to the village on a daily basis.

Two people volunteered to bid and take up the task, the elders awarded the contract to both of them, because it was felt that a little competition would help keep the prices lower and ensure a backup supply of water. The first of the two people who won the contract Ed immediately ran out. He bought two galvanised steel buckets and began to run back and forth along the trail to the lake which was a mile away. Ed immediately began making money as he laboured morning to dusk hauling water from the lake with his two buckets. He emptied them into the large holding concrete tank that the village had built.

Each morning he had to getup before the village awoke to make sure there is enough water for the village when they wanted it. It was hard work but he was very happy to be making money and for having one of the two exclusive contracts for this business.

The second winning contractor Bill, disappeared for a while, he was not seen for months, which made Ed even more happy since he had no competition. Ed was making all the money. Instead of buying two buckets to compete with Ed, Bill had written a business plan. He involved various people like, investors and managers and created a corporation. He retained six months later with a construction crew.

Within a year his team had built a large volume stainless steel pipe that connected the village to the lake. At the grant opening celebration Bill announced that his water would be 75% cheaper and that it was more cleaner. Bill knew about the about complaints of the quality of Ed’s water, he also announced that he could supply the commodity 24hrs a day 7 days a week. Ed could only deliver water on the weekdays as he did not work on weekends.

The village cheered and quickly ran for the faucet at the end of Bills line. In order for Ed to compete he immediately bought two more buckets lowered his charge by 75%, employed more people to haul water on a daily basis. Bill realised that if this village needed water then more villages needed it. He rewrote his business plan and expanded to other villages who quickly connected to his line. Bill could supply more volumes of water to more people at a cheap price and therefore, made more money than his competitor. I will end the story here. Now ask yourself who was smarter between Bill and Ed? Who would you rather be?

Recognise the Advantages of Planning

The above story about Bill and Ed brings out a few things that can be learned and applied to our daily lives. Firstly this is a story about solving a problem that was encountered by the village. Which I believe that our lives are meant to solve the problems that are faced by the world. Bill demonstrated the advantages of planning.

How we go about solving these challenges is largely determined by the way we think. That is why for me, the most important asset we have is our mind. Ed seems to have had a head start in solving the water crisis that was faced by the small village. Indeed he succeeded not until Bill came up with a much better plan and solution. I do not think Ed had a thorough thought about how he was going to provide the solution. His aim was probably just having the contract to earn him money.

For me Bill demonstrated that having a goal is not just good enough. We must take time to plan and start working our plan to achieve the intended target and this takes time. In as much as Bill offered a much better solution than Ed am sure he must have given it more thought before going ahead to implement it. Bill’s plan involved investors and managers. It took Bill more than a year before he started reaping from his labour.

Bill’s plan also demonstrates that in our life’s journey we need people who can add value to our lives. People who are going to help us achieve our goals. If you are planning to achieve your goals you need to identify the right people who are going to help you achieve your goals.

By Ed employing more people to haul water from the lake, he demonstrated a lack of learning. He refused to embrace change and instead of learning from the new technology of transporting water he stuck to his old methods. Very often in our lives we do not want to embrace change.


Personal development and growth is a mix of things. I believe that self growth does not come easy it takes time and requires us to take small steps everyday of our lives. If you want to enjoy your life you must always be looking forward to your next challenge. The reward of overcoming a challenge should always motivate you to looking forward to the next challenge for this is the cycle of life. Happiness is the highest level of success. Enjoy the fruits of your labour.

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There is no safety in the “comfort Zone”

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


Life requires that we move on while our human nature dictates that we remain in our “comfort zone”.  Unfortunately our comfort zone does not provide for growth. When you remain in your comfort zone chances are that you will never grow. You are most likely to going to live a non fulfilling life. If you have to contribute meaningfully to society, and to your own well being, you have to move out of your comfort zone and explore the world. Explore the unknown and be bruised and battered to create your own safety zone. Those that make it in life are those that embrace challenges. Unfortunately most of us do not embrace challenges. We would rather complain and do nothing about it.

Most successful people have moved out of their comfort zone and are sailing the deep waters of the sea. They are enjoying the exploits of the sea called life. Where as most of us are scared of exploring the unknown world. We would rather remain in our “comfort zone” which is not even comfortable when you come to think of it. We see our friends progress and are envious of them. I feel that it is rather unfair to world that we demand to see change when we are doing nothing about it. If you want to see change be the change agent yourself.

I believe that change begins with you. It actually begins with a change of attitude in your thinking. All growth is the sum total of the small things that we do and have accomplished on a daily basis. Human beings are like a ship. To know the strength of a ship it must leave the safe harbour and sail the deep waters. The ship must be able to stand the stormy weather and sail back to the safe harbour.

You are the captain of that ship. You must learn to navigate through life and overcome the obstacles that come your way. It is only by exploring the world around that we discover many new and exciting things. I think that when God created us he designed us to explore and learn the world. If you want to grow in a certain area of your life you need to leave your comfort zone and start exploring new ways to improve.

Why should we explore the world?

You will agree with me that life was meant to be enjoyed. You cannot enjoy life to the fullest by being in the same position. One of the best ways to derive satisfaction in life is by exploring the world around you. Many of us are even dead scared to move to new places. We would rather die in one place and not explore new places. I am one person that has always enjoyed travelling. It is through travelling that I discovered that there is more life out there than in the city.

There is more natural beauty out there. God created us to be explorers of this world. There are more opportunities to be of service out there than where you are. I have discovered that the greatest joy one can derive from life is being of service to humanity. You will agree with me that when people appreciate your work it gives you more joy and satisfaction. The y say sharing is caring.

I have discovered that it very difficult to put up a building where there is already an existing structure. You will have to demolish it before you put up a new one; where as it is very easy to build a new structure where there is no building. The majority of us would rather go and build where it is crowded because we think that is where it is safe, when you can go and build where it is not crowded. No disrespect but I find cities to be crowded places. People are all fighting for very few or dwindling resources. I see building being erected where they are not supposed to be.

The world is full of untapped resources. It is therefore, our duty to explore and utilise these untapped resources. We are not doing ourselves a service by staying in one place and constantly fighting for the ever dwindling resources when there are more to be discovered and explored out their. I believe that God created more than enough resources to go round humanity. Imagine if David Livingstone did not have the courage to explore and discover the existence of the Mighty Victoria Falls or if Christopher Columbus did not discover the Americas and many other explorers that risked their lives travelling around the world. We would have probably not known about the existence of the many discoveries they made.

Take the challenge and leave the comfort zone

This year I have set myself a target to conquer some of my fears like public speaking. Yes you heard me right. Public speaking is one area most of us are scared of, especially me. My comfort zone has always been siting in the background and let other people do the talking whilst I silently criticise. To overcome this fear I have started preparing my self both physically and mentally. I am gathering material that I think will help me. Am also already seeing my self as a very good public speaker. Not necessarily motivational speaking but to just speak in front of an audience and do it exceptionally well. I hope that come the end of the year I shall be able to stand in front  of any audience and speak on a given subject with confidence.

You could also give yourself a challenge to overcome some of your fears. It could be the fear of starting a new business, the fear of relocating and so forth. Yes you will be faced with many obstacles at the very beginning, but your success will be determined by the way to rise up when you fall. I always encourage myself by repeatedly saying “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” – Philippians. I also take comfort by know that “if God is for us, who can be against us?” – Romans. I have personalised the Romans quote by replacing “us” with “me”. I say “if God is for me, who can be against me?”. I am not a perfect person am far from being one and would probably never be perfect. I have my own struggles many of them for that matter and have never been better than most of you.

I still struggle with so many things in my life. Forgive me if at any point I portrayed my self as a perfect person, it was not and will never be my intention.

I have lived most of my life with so many struggles however, in the last 10 years or so, there has been a drastic change in my life. I thank God almighty for giving me a second chance at life. Those that know me can attest to this. Am not blowing my own trumpet but just so that you can be encouraged from my own experiences.

Grow your faith and trust God

What seems impossible one minute, through faith, becomes possible the next” – Norman Vincent Peale. Lets begin by defining faith. “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” – The Bible. I believe and trust in God almighty for all the things that I do and hope to achieve. I think it is important to grow our faith and believe that God will help us achieve our goals. There is a nice phrase that I learned from the power of positive thinking by Dr. Norman V. Peale and I encourage you to apply it on a daily basis “God is with me. God is helping me. God is guiding me”. When you start moving into deeper waters you will need a lot of encouragement.

Always remember that God is on your side and is actually guiding you. Yes you will stumble along the way, but if your trust is in God he will certainly show you the way when you call on him.

Most of the times we remain in the safe harbour because we have no faith and we fear to fail. The more you grow your faith the more courage you gain. I guess there is a direct relationship between faith and courage. The only way to grow your faith is by reading and meditating on the word of God. Everyone who has ever succeeded has faith. They believe that they will achieve that which they have set out to accomplish even when they cannot see positive results instantly. Everything that is good is worth the effort.


The first step is to fill your life with positive faith that will help you through anything. The second step is to start where you are” – Norman Vincent Peale. Being in our “comfort zone” will not help us grow. You cannot produce meaningful results in life if you are content with what you currently have. You must show and demonstrate the desire and the will to achieve. Until next time remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


Happiness does not consist in pastimes and amusements but in virtuous activities.” ~ Aristotle. “When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. That is my religion.” ~ Abraham Lincoln.

There is a natural rebound of contentment and a sense of  accomplishment when you choose to do what’s right in each and every situation.

The choice is in your hands to do the right right. The right thing may not be the most convenient or easy, but when we face the truth, and act, we are strengthening our character.

Take whatever pains necessary to do what ought to be done because this is the way to living a good, decent, honorable life. With free will, each and every one of us must be responsible for our clear conscience.

When you accept the challenge to do the morally correct thing, to show compassion and to stay the course, often times you are rewarded just by having done the right thing.

Every day we have a fresh opportunity to make good choices that will reward us in the act of doing what is appropriate.

Try to always make the true choice in big and little areas of your life. Remember you are building character, every day and your choices are a big part of it.

If you are used to doing good you will agree with me that you are living a fairly satisfactory life and I can bet, you are a happy person.

I am not writing to condemn anyone but to encourage you to make a choice of doing the right thing even when it does not suit your current situation.

This does not mean that I am perfect but I try as much as possible to make the right choices. I have realized that every time I think that I have made the correct choice there is a great sense of satisfaction and happiness.

Maybe you are like me who was always in the habit of making wrong decisions and choices, some of them deliberate just to suit me or get me out in a difficult situation.

Well, there is always a beginning to turn things around. You see, the choices and decisions we make have a direct bearing on our character.

We are weaving character every day, and the way to weave the best character is to be kind and to be useful. Think right, act right; it is what we think and do that makes us what we are.” ~ Elbert Hubbard.

I believe we are all worth something, but life’s rewards have to be earned. With such rewards comes a deep sense of integrity.

You feel humbled, blessed, and glad when you choose right and did such a good job. We feel stronger, more self-reliant, and more dignified when we bravely face what we must do.

We should take great satisfaction in doing the right things for our family and friends. But a most important thing to keep in mind is to be sure we make wise and wonderful choices for ourselves.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and sometimes this comes with a little sacrifice. As the saying goes there is no gain without sweat.

Your choices and decisions must not only suit your family and friends but must be the correct ones. They must be decisions that have been made in good faith and based on love.

Together, you and I can help change the world for the better by the choices we make and decisions we follow. Change starts with your mind and transformed in to reality.


Be the change you want the world to see and strive to make the right choices and decisions for your life. Making the right and correct decisions can be a source of happiness and refreshing to your mind and soul.

We should choose to never bend the truth. The choices we make through rigorous discipline expand us, elevate us, and confirm all the good that is our essence.

When we follow the right to the end, we’ll always feel satisfied and we’ll be in good company. “I will follow the right even to the fire but avoiding the fire if possible” ~ Montaigne.  Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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Believe in yourself

Everyone has that earnest aspiration to succeed. One’s ability to establish and accomplish goals will mold one’s happiness and success over and above any skill one can ever realize. You cannot hit the target when you cannot see it. In order to succeed you must set yourself goals and targets to be achieved. It is very important to set out a vision and intended purpose of your life. Success is not a destination but a journey.

The foundation and point of origin of success is that when you decide exactly what you really and truly want, in all aspects of your life. This is the starting point of your success journey. The journey to succeed is indeed a difficult and bumpy one. You will need to believe in yourself and continue to build that belief. One of the pillars that make me continue with my journey to success is self belief. I strongly believe in myself and what I do.

If every individual has that yearning for winning which we all have, and if success is accessible to everybody which it is, why then, only a few succeed? I guess this is a million dollar question. This is because only a few believe in their potentials, and most of all, only a few started by defining and acknowledging a goal, and truly believe in their spirit and minds that they can achieve that goal. Belief is perhaps a driving force to success. You cannot succeed without belief. I have not come across a successful person without self belief.

Take a look at the Barack Obama’s of this world. Who would have thought that an African American could rule one of the most powerful nations of the world? When you hear or read Obama’s speeches you can see that the man believes in himself very much. Henry Ford is also one character that had a strong self belief the list is endless.

Just wishing for something is so much different from being able and prepared to accept it. Nobody is ever prepared to accept anything until they truly believe that they can obtain it. One way to believe that you can obtain something is to conceive it in your mind. See your success and live a successful life in your mind. The belief to succeed begins with the transmuting of our minds. “You are what you think”.

The mind must first be in a state of believing and not just hoping or wishing for something. An open mind is important in believing and a closed mind never inspires courage, faith or the power to believe.

Almost everyone has gone through difficult life encounters and experiences. These experiences and encounters usually define one’s existence, becoming important educators on life’s course. However, the enemy, which is that negative force within often would recognize these difficult experiences as symbols of thyself that one is not “good enough” in order to succeed. Simply put, this is fear from within.

Fear, according to psychologists is normal and a natural line of attack focused to life’s adjustments and changes. Fear is what prevents one from doing “crazy or stupid things”; but it may be carried to a great extent. When one fears nothing, one can be considered as “mad” and “foolish” but then again, fear of almost everything, specially fear to take risks one can be considered as a plain coward. The enemy inside of you will tell you that your fear is reasonable when it is transitory.

As the mind dictates your fear, it also dictates your thoughts and your actions. When you believe in your mind that relationships are complicated and demand so much effort, you will indeed attract those individuals who will cause difficulty in the relationship or demand a lot of effort from you. More significantly, when you worry regarding something that you essentially believe in negative outcomes, then so the result to your actions will be.

Of course, it does not occur every time that you think and believe negatively, because Although there is worry and apprehension inside you, there is still, in that little corner of your heart, of your mind, that you hope for a positive result, so then, that power prevents disaster from happening. Yet worrying through and through, without a small spark of hope, then beware, disaster is sure to come!

However there is so much more to faith and believing than simply creating beliefs. Possessing “positive beliefs” in the mind is the initial step towards making a positive outlook, resulting to a successful life.

Believing, take note is something entirely different. For instance you have “positive beliefs” with regards to money; at the same time, you believe that many ways are offered in order to acquire money. Yet if, for any reason you do not believe you will be able to make money, then you will not make that certain amount or sum of money that you want.

Here are three things to help you get through fear and help develop your belief:

  • Your belief should be superior, exceeding fear. It will entail a lot of effort, but as much as you can, try to closely observe and listen to the inside of you, look around and see what is functioning well in your personal or business life and what is not. Small or great, profess your successes. Believe that you can reach great things and as early as now, begin counting your blessings. Remember the bible says “do not despise the days of your humble beginnings”. Success does not come at once. You work through your success. I believe that God does not bless abundantly if you cannot even manage  the small things that are in your possession right now. To work through your success you need to learn how to manage the current situation positively.
  • Only believe in you, in the things that you can do, and not in the circumstances. You have to believe in only yourself because there will be times when you will be tempted to put your belief into something else such as a job, a friend or a particular opportunity. Although this could be nice, note that people and circumstances are changeable. Your success should be created by only you, and you alone can decide whether to change it or not.
  • Keep in mind that success will take some time and if ever you do fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and reassess your beliefs and your goals.

The powers of believing are very strong and affect our decisions, feelings, and actions. And although you have been depending on a specific set of supposition regarding your life for so many years, those particular beliefs can be adjusted or changed. Start changing it now! Remember to always standout tall and be counted”.

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Explore the power in you

Everything in your life starts and ends with you. The decision to be poor or rich is entirely in your hands. If you want to make a difference in life “be the change you want to see in the world”. Our difficulties in life are largely due to confused ideas and ignorance of our true interest. There is a world within us, a world of life and thought; of power and beauty although invisible its forces are mighty, and this world is under our control. This world am talking about is governed by the mind. The mind is the factory of all thought. Nothing exists on this earth without being conceived in someone’s mind. You are what you think.

Whatever, success one wants to achieve starts with him taking the first step in the right direction. This step is thinking the right things. You cannot be successful by thinking you will not achieve success. It is impossible to become rich when your thoughts are those of poverty. When you make a decision to become rich stand by your decision, see yourself and feel yourself being rich. Act rich even.

Control what you think

The world we leave in is a direct reflection of what we think. You are poor because you think so; you are rich or successful because that is what you think. In order that we change our living environment we must change the way we think. Every thought is a cause and every condition an effect for this reason it is very important that you control your thoughts so as to bring forward desirable conditions. To remove discord, we must remove the cause and this cause is found within us.

Most of the things we think about are as a result of what we feed our minds on. The main source of which are; what we read and our daily life experiences. If we feed our minds with negative things we obviously will think negatively and vice versa. However, we have the power to change and control what we think. The mind will obey what you want it to think. It is under you control. Remember what you think largely influences what you do in life. Since reading plays a greater part to what we think, you must feed your mind with the right material. Always refuse to think negatively about your situation. Besides in every bad situation there is a positive one. Look for the positives and derive pleasure in them.

Improve your mind

In order to express life there must be mind; nothing can exist without mind. “Nature compels us all to move through life. We could not remain stationary however much we wished. Every right-thinking person wants not merely to move through life like a gong, but to develop – to improve – and to continue the development mentally to the close of physical life”. How better can you improve your thoughts without improving your mind? How better can you improve your physical life with improving your mind? Remember your thoughts are a direct result of what you feed your mind. Your outward results are also direct results of your thoughts. Nourish your mind with positive things and positive thoughts will manifest out of it.

In order to achieve greater physical success you need greater mental success. You can achieve greater mental success by continuously improving your mind. Keep acquiring as much knowledge as you possibly can. If you are not in the habit of reading please develop one. At least 30 minutes a day of reading a good book will get you started.

You have the power

All growth comes from within. This is evident in all nature. Every plant, every animal, every human is a living testimony to this law, yet, we error by looking for power or strength from outside of us. We have the capacity to grow physically and mentally without outside interference. When we focus our energies and efforts on success we can surely achieve it. Thought is energy. Active thought is active energy; concentrated thought is a concentrated energy. Thought concentrated on a definite purpose becomes power. This is the power which is being used by those who do not believe in the virtue of poverty, or the beauty of self-denial.

The failures of our lives are largely due to the fact that we cannot recognize and appreciate the power in us. We cannot express powers that we do not possess. The only way by which we may secure possession of power is to become conscious of power, and we can never become conscious of power until we learn that all power is from within.


The need for us to recognize the power built in our minds cannot over emphasized. This topic is far from being exhausted in this small article. I will continue to talk about it in future. Many people who have succeeded have realized and harnessed this power. Not until you fully realize and harmonise it, are you going to achieve your destiny. Remember personal development and growth does not come easily. You need to be persistent and patient for it to manifest. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Leadership in SFI Affiliate Marketing

Affiliate Marketing combined with good leadership skills could yield much more good results than many people would imagine. Like in any other business good leadership skills is cardinal to achieving greater results. One of the biggest mistakes committed by affiliate markers is not to provide good leadership to their downline members. A good leader does not only concern with his needs but has time to find out how he can help others succeed. In other words put your friend’s needs before yours. Remember success will come as your downline members become more and more successful. I have devised a list of good leadership skills and they are as follows:-

Caring and compassion
You need to know what your downline are doing wrong or right so as to can offer them help to improve them. Remember you are responsible for them just as your upline or sponsor is responsible for your success. As a leader you always have to be ahead of your team. You can only achieve this by reading and learning. Dedicating your self to one program and knowing it is the best thing to do especially of you are just starting out in affiliate marketing. Make sure you find a good affiliate marketing program to market, SFI is one such program. It has all the tools and literature to help you get started.

There are many ways to show that you care for your affiliates; call your affiliates just to find out if they have any specific problems regarding the program, send an email, chat with them using skype or any other means you can use to interact with your downline members. If you can meet them in person, the better. You would be amused just how much a phone call can change someone?s mind.

The SFI program has many tools you can use to contact your affiliates. It also has tools you can use to contacting your upline. One other popular way to show your affiliates that you care is to give them gift vouchers. Again I must mention that the SFI program has the tools you can use.

Information sharing
Information should be shared in order for it to be appreciated. Read as much as you can for the benefit of every one in your team. The more information you are loaded with the more you can pass on to your affiliates and equip them with it. Remember as a leader you should always strive to be ahead of your affiliates. One would wonder why the emphasis on being ahead of your affiliates. The answer is very simple they will ask you questions and you need to be prepared in order to create confidence. There is so much to learn about the SFI Affiliate Marketing Program. I get amased at how much I learn every day by visiting my SFI affiliate program’s member’s center. Always read the news alerts they have tendency of giving an idea were the whole program is moving.

There are so many other sources of information in the SFI program including the members’ forum and articles posted by Gerry.

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Sincerity and honesty
You will realize that affiliate marketing is all about creating relationships. The stronger the relationship the better the chances of making lots of money. The key to better relationships are sincerity and honesty. Without which you it is very difficult to succeed. How many skewed people would you like to deal with? Non off course so are you prospecting affiliates. When giving out information try as much as possible to be honest and to give accurate information. Be sincere and create some sense of trust amongst your team members.

Be active
The only way you can convince people or your downline about success is showing then that you are an active affiliate member. Better still be at least an executive affiliate member. In fact SFI has a policy of removing inactive members from their list. I personally feel this is a good policy as it keeps all members active in the program. There are many ways of being active in the SFI affiliate marketing program. Most of the activities earn you versa points. You earn 2 points just by logging in to your member?s area.

You could earn some free points just by joining the booster club, sending mail to your downline, purchasing goods from tripleclicks is one sure way of earning good points. Ensuring that you qualify as an executive affiliate by earning 1500 versa points every month will surely convince your affiliates that you are an active and committed member of the program. The more active you are the more likely that you earn more versa points.

Know the program
Seek first to understand then be understood. A good leader will have better knowledge and understanding of the program. Your downline are as good as you are. They are a reflection of your work and knowledge. Teach them how the program works and they will replicate to your benefit. Remember you can only teach what you know.

Remember knowledge is power, read and understand the program. SFI affiliate marketing program has tones and tones of reading material. The more you read the more knowledge and understanding you acquire. The more knowledge you have the better equipped you are to imparting information to your downline. You could also ask your upline how to be as successful as they are. I would also encourage you to read the FAQ section every now and again.
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There is no substitute for reading if you have to know the program very well. Understanding the program will also give you added advantage in making decision about certain products and investing your money in better sections of the affiliate marketing program.

Be accessible
A good leader should be accessible. You cannot call yourself a good leader if you do not receive feedback from your downline. You have to be accessible at all times. Accessibility is key to leadership. There are many ways of being accessible; telephones; emails; skype etc. take advantage of them. Choose whatever, communication media suites you and ensure you retain and maintain accessibility.

There are many other attributes of being a successful leader in SFI Affiliate Marketing Program these are but a scratch of them. They are the ones I employ and find them worth while. Am sure you they could also work for you. By the way there is no manual on leadership. Do not be a slave to rules but let the rules be your guide exercise some common sense in different situations. Good luck on your way to success. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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