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How to Keep Peace With Your Adversaries

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him “ – Buddha. We all have adversaries in life. Countries are at war because of perceived enemies; people are fighting and killing each other because of perceived differences and creating adversaries. Peace seems to be in short supply across the world. Even in our own homes husbands and wives cannot stay together peacefully. Especially during the current imposed lock down due to the COVID – 19 pandemic.

The world we know to day is not as it was a few years ago. There seems to be a break down of peace in the world today. It seems to me that when you belong to a different grouping or race you are enemies. And for some of us who live in countries that have enjoyed relative peace for a very long time we seem to be taking it for granted. We seem to have forgotten that the peace we enjoy today was fought for by our fore fathers. I have been doing some reading and researching on how we can learn to maintain peace with our perceived enemies. Key word perceived.

I came to a conclusion that most of the reasons for the enmity around us is purely greediness, ignorance and fear of the unknown. Most of us are scared of what we don’t know or understand. You see fear exposes our weaknesses and we counter it by being angry and hateful. It makes us want to eliminate that which makes us angry and in the process we lose our peace.

I came across a very interesting story by Daryl Davis. He is one of the very few black men who used to attend rallies of the Ku Klux Klan popularly known as the KKK. Daryl had become friends with the Grand Dragon of the Klan and over time he would be invited to attend their rallies. At the rallies he was even allowed to take pictures. Now if you know what the KKK stood for, you will agree with me that this was an extraordinary friendship. Even though the leader of the Klan insisted that he was superior to Daryl justified by the differences in their skin colour.

In his story Daryl stresses that ignorance breeds fear. For sure we are as human beings are always fearful of the things we do not understand. I have experienced fear without actually knowing what the fear is all about. I believe this is just a defense mechanism we have developed overtime. If only we could take more time to understand our adversaries. We would be making the right decisions and learn to live in peace. It is amazing how we hate people we do not even know based on the colour of their skin or tribe or political grouping. Yet most of us profess to be Christians. The bible I read tells me that “Do onto others what you would want them do onto you” it also tells me that “we are all equal before the eyes of God”. Find here below Daryl Davis telling his story.
Daryl Davis speaking about his experience with the Ku Klux Klan


If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other” – Mother Teresa. Perhaps we need to be reminded that we are all interconnected and belong to each other. If we can spend time to respect and accept each others uniqueness the world would be a better and peaceful place for all. After all God instructs us to love our enemies as we love ourselves. Remember to standout tall and be counted and keep the conversation going with your adversaries.

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Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unkonwn


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is making your dreams come true.

We all have dreams, but life can be a discouragement. Life has a way of pushing our dreams backward.

We all have gone through a rough patch in our lives and this may have resulted in burying our dreams. There are various reasons why our dreams are buried. 

Some dreams are buried under bad health; some are buried under divorce and still, most people are buried with their dreams. Dr. Myles Monroe says the richest place on earth is the cemetery.

This is where you find songs that have never been sung; books that have never been written; paintings that have never been painted; businesses that have never been actualised; the buildings that have never been built and many other dreams that will never be realised.

Even though your dreams have been buried, for as long as you still have the breath of life they are still alive, I believe that God has not forgotten about them.

Your dreams may be buried but they are not dead.

I know that most of us are discouraged when we are met with adversity. But do you realise that obstacles are part of the bigger picture to help you achieve your dreams?

The adversities we face are part of the process we go through to actualise our dreams. The many obstacles that we encounter are part of the journey to achieving our dreams.

There is no success without overcoming obstacles. They say success is measured by the many obstacles that you overcome.

The fact that you have dreams does not necessarily mean that they will be achieved without hard work and persistence.

Yes, it’s very important and necessary to have dreams but that does not guarantee that you will not come across challenges. Life is full of challenges and I believe that these are meant to prepare us for a better future.

I want to let you know that it is never too late to realise your dreams. It does not matter how old you are if you awaken the dreams that God put on your heart you will surely achieve them.

The bible says I will restore the years that the locust has eaten”. God has a way of giving us back our lost time.

Do not die with your dreams, but allow God Almighty to help you share your dreams with the world.

When God created you, he put in you all the gifts and talents needed to overcome any adversity and obstacle that you may encounter on your way to achieving your goals.

He put in you the ability to change adversity into diversity; the ability to overcome obstacles.

Write Down Your Dreams

We must keep a hard copy of our dreams. Most successful people have written down their dreams.

Read goals and goal setting for more details. There is a saying that when you write down your dreams when people read them, they will most likely follow them and this will eventually help you realise them even more quickly.

Writing down our dreams also acts as a constant reminder to us. Every so often it is important to refer back to them and constantly remind ourselves of what we want to achieve.

Believe me, it is not easy to commit to something we have not written down. Regularly review your progress and make improvements. This can only be done if you have written them down.

I have developed a habit of writing down what I want to achieve. Every year I make resolutions and set out goals to be achieved.

I make sure that they conform to the bigger picture of what my life’s intended purpose is.

Life is becoming more bearable for me as each day I focus on what I want to achieve. Yes, sometimes I find myself fire fighting. But I always try as much as possible to learn from fire fighting instances.

Sometimes we may feel that there are too many setbacks, but do you realise that those same “setbacks” are “setups” to achieving our dreams?

They propel you to see beyond the current circumstances. In every bad situation, there is always something positive.

We may not understand it but I think God does not let us go through the storm alone. He always provides a way where there seems to be no way. 

God is always with us and he is always providing guidance. The currents that determine our dreams and shape our lives, flow from the attitudes that we nurture every day.

Speak Life to Every Dead Situation

There is power in your tongue. What you say usually comes to pass. Remember that even during creation the Bible tells us in Genesis that every time God spoke: “it came to be”.

For example on the first day of creation God said “let there be light” and here we are today, we have light throughout the day.

All through creation we are told God said whatever he wanted to see and that is what came out and was created.

To me, this demonstrates the power that the tongue holds. We are in our current situations mostly because of what we hold as thoughts and what we have said in the past.

In other words, we have created our situations knowingly or unknowingly.

If you go about complaining about how hard the economy is and how things are not working out for you, that is exactly what will come to pass in your life.

Have you noticed that when economists predict a rise in inflation or commodity prices that is exactly what happens around the world? And the opposite is also true.

This is equally true even with us on an individual level. When we speak positively about our life things begin to change.

Therefore, it is important that you learn to always speak positive words of encouragement when faced with negative situations.

One source of encouragement is the Bible. God has promised us so many good things even when we are faced with adversities.

If you are sick, begin to claim your healing because the bible promises us good health and long life. “With long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation” – the Bible.

It may take time but every time you speak healing to your body you unbury your dreams of being healthy again.

Begin to see yourself walking and living your dreams because God promised it. Speak positive affirmations to all negative situations in your life.

Yes, you may be struggling financially but remember that God promised that he shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory. Not some, but all of them.

Trust in God

Because he loves me, says the Lord, I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name” – the Bible.

At the end of the day, we are all created by God in his image and likeness.

It’s like when we buy an appliance, the first thing we do is read the user’s manual and understand how the new appliance works and what its limitations are.

The mere fact that we take time to read what the manufacturer’s manual says, we are placing our trust in the manufacturer because they are the creators of that appliance.

We are acknowledging that the manufacturer knows the appliance better than us and gives us instructions on how to use it.

I think it’s the same with us as human beings. If we live trusting God he surely does not let us down. Yes, sometimes things may not go as we want them, but God Almighty knows what’s best for us.

All things work out for the better if we put our trust in God.

Over the years I have learned to trust God. There are times when I feel that he is far away from me but my plans are not his.

I know for sure that he has much much better plans for my life than I can imagine. I try as much as possible to live my life according to his plans. 

The fact that am still alive is testimony enough that God cares about me. You may not realise it but we all have many things to thank God for.

If it’s wealth, I believe that this world has more than enough to round for all the 6 billion + inhabitants.

Most of the time we find ourselves on the wrong end because we ignore what God is telling us, and usually, this is done out of selfish motives.

There is a time I learned the hard way. I was trying to grow some tomatoes on a large scale for sale.

God had clearly told me to do my own seedlings, this would have meant that I plant the seeds and wait for at least a month before transplanting them, but instead, I decided to go and buy the seedlings. I was trying to cut down on waiting time.

They started very well and I thought you see I could have wasted time. My my my I lost everything after putting in so much effort and wasting money on fertilisers and chemicals.

By the time I decided to do what God had earlier told me it was too late and the rains were upon us. I guess God was trying to guide me to work within his plans.


We should show our lives not as it is or how it ought to be, but only as we see it in our dreams” – Count Leo Tolstoy.

I believe that every reasonable human being has a dream, in fact, many dreams.

The difference between successful people and average people is that successful people have kept their dreams alive and are seriously perusing them.

If you are reading this article I know that you have dreams, it is my prayer and hope that you will ask God to not allow you to go to the grave without realising them.

I also hope and trust that you have found this article useful and that it has helped stir up your long-buried dreams.

Have a blessed day and go and realise your dreams always remember to “standout tall and be counted”. Revised on 06/03/2021.

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How to keep track of your thoughts

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw. The lesson learned from the preceding quote is that you are what you are, because of what you think. Therefore, the thoughts you keep in your mind are of paramount importance to building your character. All character and all habits are formed from your thoughts.

It is therefore, important that as you build your character and as you walk on the road of success your thoughts are in tune with your surrounds. Know that your success is the manifestation of your thoughts. It is what you think you are that, will manifest. If your think you are a failure then that is what you will end up to be; if you think otherwise the exact opposite is what you will be. You are the captain of your soul.

What thoughts are right?
Am sure this is the question you really want answered. It is rather difficult for me to answer this question for you as it is an individual’s choice. I would rather you answer it on your own. I have my own answer and I can rest assure you that it is very different from yours. You see one thing I have learned is that the mind does not decipher wrong or right thoughts. It takes whatever, thoughts you allow in. Wrong or right is decided by you.

If you allow your mind to dwell on wrong thoughts you will yield wrong results, if your mind dwells on the right thoughts be rest assured of the right results. In other words you reap what you sow, if you sow positive thoughts you reap positive results and vice versa. What you are from the inside is what comes out of you. You cannot be a devil inside and be an angel outside. The bible says “You shall know them by their fruits”. A farmer cannot plant an almond seed and expect the seed to grow into a guava tree. I have never seen that myself. Somebody help me if they have.

The decision to decide what thoughts are right depends entirely on what you want to achieve in your life. Your thoughts must be inclined to your achievement. For example if you are aiming to have say $5million dollars in five years’ time; your thoughts must have already seen the $5million dollars. You must have convinced in your thoughts that you already have received and begin to work on how you are going to achieve your target. In this case the thoughts of saving and spending less money would be the right ones. The thoughts of how to raise more money would set you on the right path. It would be detrimental to begin to think that money will come without hard work, perseverance and patience.

How to keep track
If thoughts are so important to our lives and success, it then follows, that there must be a way of keeping track of them. As human beings we are prone to easily push aside good thoughts and never recall them. One of the best ways I use to keep track of my thoughts is to have them written down in a note book. I just don’t understand but I know that there is power in writing down something.

I have written down my life’s purpose and continuously write on how best I can achieve or rather attain it. The main theme does not change but the methods being used to get there keep on improving. The more I write about the methods to be used, the more clearer my destination gets. Don’t just write it down and forget it but, read it daily to keep the thoughts fresh. For me writing is the best method I have devised, if you can think of any other method that’s very good. Please follow it religiously and see what results you will achieve.

Keeping track of your thoughts is very important and should be encouraged. The use of mnemonics is also a one good method that can be utilized. You also need to have some “thought time”. This is the time when you are alone and not disturbed. At this particular time search your mind and focus on your written down life’s purpose. Focus on how best you can move towards your set goals and write down every thought and answer that comes to mind. Keep track of them by reviewing them regularly. Off course some will be done away with as they will be unrealistic but still keep track of your thoughts.

I must emphasize and remind you that everything that is, and has been was first conceived as a thought and transmuted into being.  I believe that even GOD had to think before he spoke of creation. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”. Notice that whatever, you say is first processed as a thought before being said. This is how important your thoughts are. Always think before your act and live conscious of your success. Bye for now and always remember to “standout tall and be counted” by thinking positively.

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