Happiness Relationships

Relationships are a source of personal stability

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” ~ Brian Tracy. Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and personal stability; and can also be long lasting despite many trials. There are very few people if any that can claim not to have been or be in a relationship of some sort.

Being in a healthy relationship can be a great source personal stability and can provide security. We derive comfort and security in relationships. Human nature demands that we create relationships. No man is an island. We succeed based mainly on how successful or rather how healthy our relationships are, be it in a business or intimate relationship. I have come to understand that being in an unhealthy relationship has a very negative effect on your personal development journey.

Creating effective and efficient relationships
We all strive for security and personal stability therefore; building an effective and lasting relationship is a necessity. As human beings we feel more comfortable and secure if we know that we come from a loving and caring environment. It gives you a peace of mind when you know that you come from a caring and loving home. It is therefore very important in life that we cultivate and nurture our current relationships. For me the number one killer of relationships; be it personal or business, is luck of satisfactory communication channels. If you are in an intimate relationship make communication number one on the agenda of your to do list.

And effective relationship will have such attributes as; Respect and trust; understanding; taking responsibility for our actions; effective communication and confidence; in intimate relationships patience is also important. When these attributes are correctly applied you are guaranteed of having an effective and efficient relationship. It takes all parties involved in the relationship to make it work.

Even in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management. Sometimes there is a tendency by management not to listen to complaints and suggestions from the junior members, forgetting that without the junior members there would be no organisation to run. People seek employment that offers personal stability and security.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An ineffective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group, with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

Relationships and society
Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. In simple terms society is made up of you and me. I would like to emphasise that at the very core of society is the family. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. We all look forward to a society that offers security and personal stability for all. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships. We are part of one big family. Each and every one of us was created to contribute positively to the growth of every society.

Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them. This is one way of showing respect and exercising your communication skills.

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice. This often creates a breakdown in communication. It is not wise to assume or rather think on behalf of someone. Relationships play a very important part in molding society.

Respect and trust in relationships
Perhaps one of the key factors in determining the healthiness of a relationship is respect and trust. A relationship without both will definitely fail. I have not come across a successful business partnership without respect and trust among the members. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. Respect and trust also applies very much in intimate relationships. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.
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You see in any relationship it takes both parties’ efforts to make a healthy relationship, this is one way you can achieve personal stability. If you are in an intimate relationship it is very important that you respect and trust your partner. The bible says “do onto others what you would want them do unto you”. We definitely do not take pleasure in being hurt unless you are not normal. You see it takes a long time to build trust yet it is very easy to break it. Most of the broken relationships I have come across are as a result of mistrust and luck of respect.

Your character is a reflection of what you think. Feed your mind with the right stuff and you will think and act rightly. There is no way you will respect others if you do not learn to respect and trust yourself. Change begins with you. You cannot go into a relationship expecting to receive what you cannot give. One must learn to please the other before they can receive. Service is very cardinal in any relationship. You must be the first one to be of service and remember you are doing it without expecting any reward.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’. Being in a healthy relationship can be a source of personal stability and security as it releases your mind to focus on achieving your life’s intended purpose. “standout tall and be counted”.

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4 Reasons why memory should be improved on

Surely there can never be personal growth without someone having a Memory. Perhaps one of the key physical ingredient to personal development is having a good memory. We use it in our daily lives but often we take it for granted. Imagine life without memory. You would not even remember your own family. Yet not many people realize the important function that memory has in our lives. But this should not be the case. Having a great memory is vital to our survival and personal growth. The ability to remember is what is called memory. This ability can either be improved or neglected.

Most of us are content with an average size memory. The little science I know tells me that the difference between being a smart student and and average one is the ability to quickly recall what has been learned when needed. Thus, it is important that you take steps to better your memory. Here are 4 reasons why you should:

Memory defines who we are
Our daily lives are made up of the things we do and the things we do are stored up in our memory. The memories in your lives define who you are. Try erasing all your memories and you will not have a sense of who you are. It is the experiences that we have in the past that will determine who will be in the future. Without a memory of the past, we will find it hard to go forward in the future. Most of the decisions we make today are based on our past experiences. Without which we will have to start building relationships again and have a sense of who we are like what we did when we were still growing up.

In all our entire lives we heavily depend on our memory. I cannot remember a day I never used my memory maybe you can. I say this to stress the point that our memory defines who we are. You are nothing without memory.

It helps us learn
We are continuously learning things in our everyday lives and we use our memory to learn new things and develop new skills. Without memory I can bet anyone they would not have been schools. It would have been impossible learn. Memory is actually important in school where we need to memorize a lot of information in order to pass our examinations. Memory is the one that we rely on when it comes to examinations and recitations. But memory is not just for memorizing. Knowledge is also acquired with the use of memory. We learn to do things because of our brain’s work.

As I said before learning is a continuous process that cannot be achieved without the aid of memory. The sharper your memory the quicker you will learn new things. It is therefore, very important that you improve on your memory for this purpose. Un improved memory is a get way to doing things better and faster.

It helps us with our jobs
Although we will not be answering examination questions when we are on the job, we need memory to help keep up with our schedules and the meetings that we have had with people. There are professionals who rely a lot on excellent memory. You need it as a secretary when you have to be on top of your boss’ schedules. You need it when you are a journalist especially in remembering statements that your interviewees have made. You even need it as the owner of the company. You need to remember all the products that you are manufacturing, the capital that you used and the income that you get for the second quarter of the year etc.

You need it especially of you are like me who deals with figures every day. I always have to answer questions from the top of my head in meetings. I cannot imagine what it would be like if I lost my memory today. I would definitely find it very difficult to work. Even as I write this blog I am heavily relying on my memory.

It helps build relationships
People who easily remember the names of people are seen as much warmer and more intelligent than those who can’t remember names even on the same night. This is why personal relations employees are trained to remember names on an instant as this shows respect and appreciation for others. When people remember our names, we feel a sense of importance and we in turn forward those feelings of good will to that person.

Having an excellent memory also helps people remember birthdays. This is especially true with men who usually forget dates of anniversaries and birthdays especially for their spouses. People who remember special dates come across as more thoughtful and more caring as opposed to those who forget all the time. Even if remembering birthdays are not really a sign of love or a measure of love, people still see it that way.

Memory is actually a reflection of our mental processes. Having excellent memory usually means that you have great brain power. Thus, when you are making an effort to better your memory, you are also improving the way you think. And with that, you don’t really need so many reasons.

We must always keep our memory in excellent condition as it forms an integral part of our personal development. No single person I know can achieve their personal goals without having an excellent memory. Our memory defines what we are, what decisions to make and who we want to associate with. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted” and commit what you have read today to memory.

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