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5 Reasons Why You Should Be Responsible For Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

Life is what you make of it. If you make it happy you will enjoy happiness. If you make it boring you will definitely be bored; make it positive and you will live a positive life. You take out of life, what you give it, nothing less and nothing more.

In other words you are responsible for your own life. You are responsible for creating the life that you want. You can chart the course of your life. No one has the right to prescribe what your life should be or look like, without your permission. This is your birth right and your responsibility.

Quit blaming people for what you do not have or have not achieved and start doing something about it. If you are miserable you are solely responsible for ensuring that you change it.

In the first place you must realise that you are the one who got yourself where you are, based of the decisions and choices you have made.

This is what many people do not realise, that it is everyone’s responsibility to make decisions that will help chart their own lives.

Instead, they wait for someone to come and make decisions for them and they end up waiting for eternity or continue living a life that is controlled by other people.

Do you realise that every decision you make has an immediate or future influence on your life? Your life is made of the small decisions and choices you make everyday.

That is why it is important to the make right decisions and choices that have a lasting and positive influence on your life.

As human beings we have a tendency of turning a blind eye to facing the reality of making those tough decisions and choices. Especially, if the decisions will lead to some temporal set backs. This is a bad habit that must be broken.


If you do not make the decision to resolve certain problems, they have a way of showing up in future. It could just be the reason why certain things are going wrong in your life. Have the courage to make decisions and learn to live with the consequences.

Do not shy away from making those uncomfortable hard decisions that could make or break your life. Do not allow people to take away your responsibility for your own life.

Take Control of Your Destiny

The results of being responsible for your life are many. When you are in control of your life, you also control your destiny. You decide what is good for you and what is not good for you.

You decide what your life should look like, what direction it should take and what it should be. In other words you are the captain of your life.

Yes, sometimes things will not go accordingly, but you will be absolutely pleased that you are responsible for everything that happens to your life because, you made the decisions and choices yourself. The other thing you will take away is that you will have no one, but you to blame.

Instead you will find solutions to fix your current inadequacies and correct the situation. Equally, when you succeed you will take all the credit.

Well, you know how it feels to be credited with success. This is what makes life worth living for, the ability to make adjustments and decisions that help propel your life forward.

It doesn’t mean that things will be easy when you are in control, No. But it motivates you to do even more things that make you happy. You set your own goals and move at your own pace.

Experience Personal Freedom

Every good thing comes with a responsibility. Being responsible is a requisite for personal freedom. Its an expression of personal freedom and signifies maturity. It is a good measure to use as a self check to achieving personal development and self improvement.

My son was learning about his rights as a child at school. One day when he came back home from school he was very excited to tell me about his rights, I asked him to list them down one by one.

What I noticed is that he was not told by the teacher that to every right there is a responsibility. He was only told one side of the story.

I got his list and also wrote down the responsibilities that go with the rights he had listed down. It then dawned on him that to very right he has, there is also a requirement to take responsibility in order to enjoy the right fully.

I think that is the way life should be. Personal freedom and responsibility go hand in hand. If you want to enjoy freedom you must take responsibility for it.

We must ensure that we put in place things that will propel our freedom without infringing on other peoples freedoms. We must learn to coexist as human beings.

Accountability

Accountability is “responsibility to someone or for some activity.” If you are married you are responsible and accountable to your spouse. Yes, it is your responsibility to be accountable. I know that most men do not want to be accountable to their wives. But it is our responsibility and duty to do that.

I believe that we are all accountable to one another not only our spouses but to the community at large. How we live our lives is a reflection of how accountable we are.

How then, can you be accountable if you are not in charge of your own life. I am a Christian and believe that one day God will ask us to give an account for our lives.

Being accountable is being responsible. If you work for an Audit or Law firm you are taught to account for your time by way of filling in a time sheet on a regular basis.

You have to be in control of your time because every minute you spend on a file is charged to the client. This is just one way of asking you to be responsible with your time. You do not want to over charge a client and you also want to give the best advice or service possible.

A Sense of Belonging

You feel a sense of appreciation when you are contributing to a just cause. You can only contribute more when you are in control of yourself. Those who are totally in charge of their lives contribute more positively to society than those who are not in control of themselves.

As you may well know, that human beings are social by nature. Belonging is the feeling of security and support when there is a sense of acceptance, inclusion and identity for a member of a certain group. We all strive to be accepted socially because that is in our nature.

Creating genuine feelings of belonging, is a critical factor in improving engagement and performance. You should not force your acceptance to a group by giving up your responsibility for your life. You have the power and will to choose what type of relationships to belong to.

It Is Your Duty

Your life is your responsibility. It is your duty to look after it and do what you feel is right with it. At the end of the day it is you who will be answerable for it to your creator. You will stand in the “dock” and be answerable for how you spent it. What you did with it.

Taking responsibility is acknowledging that you are taking control of your life, it is telling your friends and the world that you are in charge and not your spouse, father, mother or any one else.

It brings out the best in you. It is your duty and your birth right to be in charge of yourself.

Conclusion

One of the most important aspects of taking responsibility for your life is that you will live your life according to your will. No one will live it for you and everything you accomplish will be dully credited to you.

No one will take away the joy you and happiness you will experience. Make sure you are responsible for your life.

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You Are Responsible For Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.

 

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

 

“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

 

“I am the captain of my soul. I am the master of my fate” – William Henley. If you didn’t know now you know that you are solely responsible for your life. The choices and decisions you make are your responsibility.

Stop blaming other people for your under achievements and take responsibility to correct them. Humans have a tendency of playing the blame game. We want to have an excuse for our failures and inadequacies.

Most of the times we want to find someone or something to blame when things are not going right.

But do you realise that most of the time, if not all time we are responsible for the out come of our decisions?

If you make poor or bad choices do you expect to have better results? Why then do you want to blame other people for your choices?

This lack of being in control of our lives has costed many of us opportunities for growth.

Look if I have been in total control of my life from a young age I know for sure that I could have achieved many things. Am pretty sure you can relate to this as well.

However, the fact that I have not progressed as desired does not preclude me from being accountable for my life. It is my responsibility to ensure that I achieve and attain my God given destiny.

I know for sure that we all want to live a good life atleast I do. But, every good thing comes with a price.

For you to live a good life you must first take responsibility and be prepared to pay the price and usually it is a very high one.

Sometimes the small things that we do may seem to be insignificant. Well you are wrong, success is doing the small things that need to be done and when added up they become significant.

Being responsible makes you feel at peace with yourself. I know that as human beings we do not like being associated with negative results. But remember that it is the movement from negative to positive that determines the level of your success.

Personal development and self improvement starts from being responsible for your life. When you are in control of your life it is much easier to chart the course of your life.

Yes things will not always go accordingly, but you will learn to handle disappointments more maturely and improve on your weaknesses.

The Need to Be Accountable

“Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to; all they need is one reason why they can” – Willis Whitney.

“A desire to be in charge of our own lives, and a need for control is born in each of  us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control” – Robert F. Bennett.

When I was growing up I had no sense of accountability. For me life was just about enjoying myself and nothing else. But slowly as I approached my teens and advanced in my education things started to change.

The demand from my Dad to perform better and keep up with school work, made me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life. At least then, it was out of fear of being reprimanded by my Dad.

I thank God and give a lot of credit to my late Dad for the role he played in making me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life not only to my self but to him as well. This was a game changer for my life.

Being able to be accountable made me realise that I also needed to be in charge of my life. Because you will not be able to give a positive account if you do not know what you are doing. I think being accountable makes you responsible.

Fast forward, am no longer accountable to my Dad but I have a wife and children that look up to me. Apart from God and society at large these are the people that am directly accountable to.

You see because I now have my own family and they depend on me, I have learned that my life is not just about me. It is also about them. I need to strike a balance between my needs and also meet there needs.

So far they have been very supportive of my work and I really thank them. But I do not take it for granted.

Being accountable to someone makes you grow as an individual. It also helps you measure the level of your growth. If you do not have someone you are answerable to, it takes a lot of discipline to stay focused.

I would encourage you to find someone you can be answerable to. I know that the temptation especially for us men to wanting freedom is greater, but if you want to have better control of your life you need to have someone who can help you be in check.

One Day You will Be Answerable

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God” – Leo Buscaglia.

I believe in God and the resurrection and that we were all created by him. I also believe that there is a heaven and hell somewhere.

The one who gives us life on a daily basis will one day demand an explanation of how we lived our lives on earth.

We will be answerable to him, that is why we must try as much as possible to live according to his word.

I have developed a never give up mentality, because for everyday that I wake up, I believe that God still has use for me.

Oh yes, I know that some things have eluded me, but I also believe that there are much better opportunities to come for me.

Always look to the brighter side of life. Stop complaining about going through the darkest side of life. If not you, then who?

Get on and do the right thing bearing in mind that one day you will be answerable to your creator.

Conclusion

Life is too short. Focus from this day forward on making a difference. It is your responsibility to ensure that to attain your God given destiny.

With each choice you make, you create your life. Choose wisely and above all be responsible for your life.

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