My Top 50 personal development website for July 2014

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

I have a very huge passion for personal development and Self growth so this month I thought to list my fifty personal development sites. The methods used are subjective but they are currently the most reliable and widely acceptable. I used the alexa traffic rank system and the google page rank system. I have arranged the sites according to the alexa ranking. It was actually very difficult for me to come up with the list so I used the following combination of keywords; Motivation, Positive Thinking, Self Help, Self-Improvement, Self-Development, Personal Development, Self-Growth, Personal Growth, Personal Development and success, Personal Growth and Success. I hope you find it useful.

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It is an honor for me to produce such useful information for my readers. If you are like me and enjoy the subject of personal development am sure you have found this list very useful. I will endeavour to produce another such list at the end of the year. I believe that this is one way of giving. I would also appreciate a link back from the webmasters of the above listed sites. I have also been trying to host a monthly carnival but have had challenges receiving submissions ever since went down. I will in the near future announce how to submit your carnivals for inclusion in the upcoming ones. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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How to create a positive self-image

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself” ~ George Bernard Shaw. Before we start please get a piece of paper and write down the answer to the following questions. What do you think about yourself, what do you think your colleagues and peers think about you? The answers off course will vary from individual to individual and will reflect what you think you radiate and transmit to your associates and peers. Galileo Galilei once said “you cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself”. What most of us do not know is that our positive spirit is the adventurer in us. It’s just a glimpse of what we are capable of doing. Yourself image is the person you think you are. You are your own creation.

When you carry a low self-image you attract into your life all the experiences and conditions that tell you how poor and pathetic you are. Conversely when you are high in spirits you attract all the experiences telling you how great you are. When you have learned to form mental images of the conditions desired, it will be the easier and quickest way to secure results; if not, results can be accomplished by argument, by the process of convincing yourself absolutely of the truth of your statement. Personal development and success has no room for a negative self-image. Which successful person have you ever seen carrying or putting on a low self-image?

Have a positive mind
“Whatever, the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” ~ Napoleon Hill. Life requires us to put on a positive self-image. You see everything begins with your mind. Have you ever noticed that that when you have a positively inclined mind about something the results follow suit? If you have never observed this try to deliberately have a positive conscious mind about something good happening to you today. Believe me just the thought will make you will feel good and act positively. Imagine living in a society with positive minded people. Individuals, who do not talk or act negatively towards each other, well it all starts with one person and that person is you. Creating a positive mind is one sure way of creating a positive self-image.

With a positive self-image even the people around you will be infected with it. This I guess is the only decease you and I would be glad to spread. They will begin to treat you positively. Remember you attract what you think. The more ambitious and positive you think the more you attract those things that you will need to prosper. Yes I agree that you may be distracted by temporal setbacks. But remember they are temporal and they offer us an opportunity to learn and grow from them. Image how boring life would be without challenges? Without having to sweat before sweet comes. Most of us especially the young generation, we want to have sweet before we sweat. We want to cut corners and start enjoying good things where we did not sow, the end result is usually terrible.

I believe that if God intended for us to enjoy everything at the same time he would have done that. But, then that’s not the case. That is why he gave us stages in life. First you feed on your mother’s milk before you graduate to feeding on solids. You start small and as you learn how to handle small things he increases upon your responsibilities. Some of us though, have remained and have not grown to handle larger responsibilities. This has mainly got to do with our mind set. Do you realise that we all have the same mind? It is the same mind that is in you and me. It is the same mind that has had great inventions. The difference between success and failure is how we have positioned our mind. What mental self-image do you carry in your mind? Having a positive mind set will definitely radiate a positive self-image.

Act positively
They say actions speak louder than words. True to this is how you act in different situations. If you have to build a positive self-image then you have to act accordingly. Even when you have been challenged, be it physically or otherwise. A positive reaction attracts positive results. You cannot create a positive self-image just in your mind without reflecting it. Your outward behaviour is a reflection or a mirror of your inner self. I always say that our outer reaction is an accumulation of our inner image. One always reveals themselves by how they react especially in challenging situations.

Self-image can only be reflected by your actions. Therefore, it is very important to act positively if you have to create a positive self-image. Without action there is no reaction. Imagine all the great inventors did not act on their thoughts, we would not have been privileged to be using computers today later on the internet. Action is the key to every outcome. There would be no outcome without some action and reaction. Personal development requires us to act on the knowledge that we accumulate. I don’t know about you but the knowledge I acquire is for sharing with the people I come into contact with including you reading this article. It is no use accumulating knowledge and not acting on it.

The difference between success and failure is the luck of action or acting on the wrong side of the coin. Positive action will surely enhance your self-image. There are many situations that will come your way in life and will require your action. In this instance your actions will be a reflection of your self-image. This is when it matters most, what you feed your mind. If your mind is not well feed it will be revealed. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”. Our thoughts are predominantly what we see, hear and read.

“Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw.

Renew your mind
“You shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind” ~ the Bible. Nothing beats the renewing of your mind other than by reading. It is far the best way to renewing your mind. What you feed your mind is very important. From the time you are born to the time you grow up most of your character is as a result of what has been feed to your mind. I will give an example, if you grew up in a home where your parents fought every now and again you will most likely end up doing the same. It may not be your fault but your mind is conditioned that way. That is why it is important to feed your mind with the right stuff. If you are a parent PLEASE DO NOT DO ANYTHING especially with your spouse that sends a wrong self-image in front of your children. Their mind is like a camera they never forget easily; remember that they learn from us. We as parents are responsible for nourishing their fragile minds.

I have given myself a target of reading one personal development and self-growth book every month this is besides the bible off course. I know this is not much of a target but atleast I feed my mind positively. Believe me reading especially the bible, helps to build my self-image. I have always emphasied in my previous articles on the importance of reading. If there is anything that you will not leave with anyone on this earth when you die, it is knowledge not unless you impart it on them. Therefore, when you acquire knowledge it is your choice whether to keep it to yourself or share it. Please don’t be self-fish learn to share so as to make this world a better place. I am only saying this to emphasise the need to read. The Bible says “By wisdom the earth’s foundation was formed”. Wisdom is gained through knowledge and the main source of knowledge is reading. You cannot make a wise decision without having knowledge.

“If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest” ~ Benjamin Franklin.

Having a positive self-image can greatly accelerate your personal development and success process. We as human beings must always endeavour to improve on our self-image after all we were created in the image of GOD. The more positive your self-image is the more confident you are, carrying about your daily life. This also gives you more confidence in achieving your, written down life’s intended purpose. I know that there are many other ways that you can use to help improve your self-image. I would encourage you to take them one step at a time. Always remember that you are not in a race. Personal development is your own race and only move at the pace you set yourself. You are not competing with anyone. Stay blessed and always remember to “standout tall and be counted” thank you.

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Addressing the 3 main motivation killers

Even though motivation is a key factor when it comes to issues of personal development and self-growth it is not always easy to stay motivated. Most successful people, be it sports men/women, movie actors, politicians, businessmen etc. will tell you that without being motivated by something, they would not have attained greatness. “To succeed you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you” ~ Tony Dosset. There has to be a motivating factor for you to continuously pursue your life’s purpose. Motivation is one of the single most factors that distinguish success from failure. But we all at some point in our life’s journey get demotivated for various reasons. There is nothing wrong with it, we are human and it’s in our nature. The difference is how we handle life’s challenges. How we rise up and get over it.

I have analysed the main reasons for being demotivated, let’s first outline the 3 motivation killers and proceed to addressing them.

Lack of self confidence
The first one is a lack of self-confidence all together. Why would you continue to do something if you don’t believe that you can do it? If you are a cyclist and have entered into a competition would you go ahead to participate in it if you think you cannot win it? For all I know those who are successful participate in competitions with the aim to win and not to lose. Let’s take two soccer teams for example competing in the world cup final. I would like to believe that the team that carries the day is the one with the right confidence and show that they really want it.

When you lack self-confidence it is almost impossible to succeed. Confidence enhances our motivation. It is true that when you have high levels of confidence so is your motivational levels and the opposite is equally true. A low or no self-confidence generates low or no motivational. The greatest enemy to developing a positive high confidence is fear; it can also generate low self-confidence. It is therefore very important that you try as much as possible to avoid lacking self confidence.

“Have your heart in your life’s work, and be stout-hearted. Do something, act always, and do it now. Don’t be afraid. Many a man has been defeated by his doubts—lack of confidence. Take your risks —you cannot eliminate them, you cannot escape them. You can diminish them by dominating them” ~ Batten’s Wedge.

Lack of focus
“Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives” ~ Tony Robbins. Do you know what it is that you want to achieve, if not, why should you take action; why should you be motivated? You cannot start a journey without a final destination in mind unless you are tourist. You cannot start something without knowing exactly what you want to achieve. Otherwise you will find yourself with a lot of goals that are difficult to achieve. You need to concentrate on a narrow path that is manageable to achieve. You need to focus on what you want to achieve in with your life. Having a clearly written down life’s purpose is the beginning point for focusing.

When I started my path on self-development I listed down quite a number of goals and began to narrow them down as time passed by. You will notice that at the very beginning when we set out, we have a number of goals to be achieved but, as time goes by and as the picture becomes clearer you will be forced to adjust your goals. The important thing however, is to get started with at least a good understanding of what you what to achieve. It will definitely be very blurred and unclear. The time and thoughts wasted in aimless effort would accomplish wonders if properly directed with some special object in view.

Lack of a sense of direction
Insight enables us to plan to advantage and turn our thought and attention in the right

direction, instead of into channels which can yield no possible return. You cannot have a sense of direction without understanding what you want to achieve. However, if you know what you want and believe that you can achieve it but have no clue how to get started, you can be very demotivated. Have you ever felt that whatever you are doing has no sense of direction and what was your reaction to it? Exactly you quit and refocused.

Though when starting out, sometimes you may find yourself in the situation were you feel you have no direction, being in there may help you create direction. Whatever you do in life you must always make sure that you have a sense of direction. It may not be clear to people around you but for as long as you feel it is for you, continue in the same path. We have outlined the 3 main motivation killers above. It is now time that we move on and focus our attention on how to address them. We will now proceed in the same manner as before until we reach the conclusion.

Addressing a lack of self confidence
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope or confidence” ~ Helen Keller. Thoughts of courage, power, confidence and hope all produce a

corresponding state, but the one enemy which must be absolutely destroyed before there is any possibility of letting any light shine is fear. Fear is an enemy of success. Remember that fear is a very strong emotion and has the ability to derail anyone who harbours it. Here are some suggestions that can help address a lack of self-confidence;-

  • Focusing on what you already have achieved than what you do not have. Appreciate what you have. After all they say “a bird in hand is better than one in the bush”.
  • Create your own positive mantra that will assist you to boost yourself up.
  • Speak positive things to yourself every day. If no one compliments you on your work why not do it yourself. Tell yourself how well you have done. Find ways of rewarding yourself for your work.
  • Learn also to accept compliments when they come along and enjoy the feedback. Compliments are good but they should not get to your head. Sometimes we have a tendency of over reacting to compliments from other people.
  • Keep reminding yourself of the good things that you have achieved and have gained. We all have done good, at some point. This will surely lift your spirits. I believe that even the worst condemned person on earth has some goodness in them. Remember we are all created in God’s image and God is love.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt. Personal development demands that you have confidence in whatever, you are doing for your own success.

Addressing a lack of focus
Brian Tracy Personal DevelopmentOne of the best ways to defeat a lack of focus is to set goals for yourself that are reasonable and achievable. The very act of goal setting puts a structure around your random thoughts and keeps you focused on them, that’s why, it is important to have your goals written down. Read them on a daily basis and make sure you can recite them. Goal setting is one of the key areas of personal
development and self-growth. Instead of worrying about the future and what it will bring set down and gain what fortune grants. Focus on how you can help change the situation.

I recently listened to Brian Tracy’s DVD entitled “the miracle of self-discipline” Where he teaches about daily goal setting. This DVD is life changing. You can get some of his great works by clicking here. Remember that the consciousness that focuses in your brain cells is the same consciousness which focuses in the brain cells of every other individual. You need to develop sense of focus and fine tune it. It may not be easy for some to develop it at the beginning but with practice you will improve it.

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular” ~ Tony Robbins.

Address a lack of sense of direction
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined” ~ Henry David Thoreau. Addressing this one is tricky especially if you are just starting on your road to success. As the Chinese say “a journey of 3000 miles begins with one step”. It does not say whether it’s a step in the right or wrong direction the most important thing is to take the first step. Daunting as it may seem the direction will become clearer as you break down your goals into smaller manageable ones. Remember you cannot skip from 1 to 3000 miles. You need to plan on how to reach the next mile and make adjustments as you get to know the terrain better. This way you will have a sense of direction and appreciate your journey.

As they say Rome was not built in one day. When you have built the right sense of direction you tend to be motivated and feel comfortable with what you are trying to achieve. One of the best ways to creating a good sense of direction is writing down what you want to achieve and breaking it down into small achievable goals. You may also consider goal setting Technics, click here to learn more on this topic.

Motivation plays a key role in personal development and success. We must try by all means to overcome the 3 motivational killers mentioned in this article as they can derail our progress. Remember you can do all things possible in Christ Jesus who strengthens you. Bye for now and stay motivated and always “standout tall and be counted”.

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“The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it”. ~ John Rushkin.  We all have it in ourselves to develop to our fullest potential, whether in relationship; work; family; sport; whatever. Each and every one of us is engineered to develop and reach their utmost potential. But then why is it that most of the people remain without even reaching half of the potential? To achieve your goal requires a mix of qualities, mind set and behaviours; remember that all “growth is from within”. Here are my six most important qualities. Please take note that the qualities listed here are not in any particular order.

My first quality is ability. In life, you will have a tough time achieving your full potential if you try to do something you are not gifted for. If you set out to achieve your personal intended life’s purpose ensure that you are doing the right things with the right abilities. Thankfully, our almighty God the creator gave us all the right abilities to prosper and succeed in achieving our goals.

It is therefore, important that you know what your life’s purpose is. For example you cannot succeed at being a sportsman when God engineered you to be a musician. The level of success you will attain in being a sportsman will be far less than the level you would have achieved had you been on the right path. You will spend more energy at trying to succeed at being a sportsman than being a musician. Know your life’s purpose.

The second quality and I guess my favourite is attitude. I say attitude is the mother of all success. Attitude is the beginning and end point of all self-development work. Without the right mental attitude of positive self-belief you will not achieve anything of significant importance in life. With it everything is possible. “I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus who strengthens me”~ the Bible.

I personally regard attitude as key to personal development and success. You may have all the necessary tools and equipment laid before you (which are actually endowed in you), but with a wrong attitude you will not succeed. With the right and positive attitude the sky is the limit. Many of us have a wrong attitude towards life especially when we are faced with challenges. Instead of seeing opportunities presented in the challenge we focus on the problem. Those who succeed see opportunities in the challenges they face. Stop crying over spilt milk and rise above the challenge.

You cannot change the situation but at least you can control how the situation affects you. Charles Swindoll says “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it”.

What is faith? “It is the demonstration of hope for things not yet seen”. “Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark”~ Scandinavian Proverb.  I will give an example of Christianity. We believe that there is God even though we have never seen him. The bible encourages us to have faith. I believe that faith distinguishes those who realise their full potential from those that don’t. In fact the strength of your self-belief is the one thing that determines if you can move mountains or foot hills. But having self-belief or faith is not an easy task.

One of the best ways to help improve your faith is to talk positively to your self during a task. Even when the going gets tough tell yourself “I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus, who strengths me” these are magic words. Believe me you will not know what strength you can derive just by saying the above words. It has worked wonders for me and so it will work for you. The subject of faith is a very broad one and I would encourage you to the read the bible frequently to help you get inspired and increase your faith.

The combination of qualities of personal development such as ability, self-belief and awareness are the factors that produce what I call “luck”. Scientists believe that there are no random accidents. Everything that happens to us is as a result of our mental self-belief and our physical action. We all as human beings have more or less the same chances. The difference is how we see and utilise those chances when they come around.

In a football team where competition for numbers is high the players will work hard during training to impress the manager so as to be named in the starting line-up. When this opportunity comes it is up to the player to embrace it with both hands and prove to his manager that he is worth being in the team. This is also true with life.

“… strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~ the Bible. This was actually a command God was giving to Joshua. It is easy to start the process of self-development, much harder to keep it going especially when things are not going our way.  When the odds are against you that is when you need to summon your courage to see you through. The journey to success is a personal one and so is the courage and will to succeed. The difference between highly successful individuals is measured by how much courage the have to undertake certain risks.

Most people fail before they even start, especially in business because they have no courage to rise up when the tide rises higher than anticipated. When you fail at the first attempt relax and evaluate your failure and try again until you have it right. Do not settle for failure. “It is not the mountain we conquer but our selves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

There is no short cut to self-development that I know of. I challenge anyone to help me find one. The only route I know to self-development is a combination of the above qualities mentioned coupled with perseverance and personal experience.

All personal growth follows a similar route which has its own momentum and takes its own time. There is no success without perseverance. With persistence and perseverance comes the break through to reaching our intended life’s purpose. Remember that success is not a destination but a life long journey.

I hope and trust that you have learned something from the above article. Please feel free to comment. Self-development is not a race neither is it a competition. You are what you think. Having a positive mind is one sure way to achieving self-development. The above qualities are only a guide and they are the ones that I use. There many other qualities that you can learn and improve yourself. Till next time “standout tall and be counted”.

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5 Ways to improve your confidence

This is one of my long articles. Feel free to bookmark it and come back later to finish reading it. Self-confidence is something that people find difficult to have. There are people who find low self-confidence influences the way they see themselves and their performance. Contrary to what most people think, self confidence is not something that only the gifted and blessed could have.  With the help of personal mastery, individuals could now start building on their self-confidence. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face” Eleanor Roosevelt. Self confidence is a requisite to personal development. Having an improved self-confidence can really improve your general work out put.

Personal mastery is about self-development and self-improvement. It is about loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are. You need to acknowledge your weaknesses and at the same time strengthen them. To improve your self confidence it is important to know and accept your weaknesses. I believe that identifying your weaknesses is the first step to personal improvement. Many of the times we like to ignore our weaknesses and concentrate mainly on perfecting our strengths. I have written down my weaknesses and strengths and keep reviewing them from time and again. I have found this very helpful and would recommend it to anyone.

To attain personal mastery and confidence, it is important to believe in yourself. It is also important to be content with yourself. Self belief and contentment lead to building a solid self-confidence. It is very difficult to achieve personal development without being content with yourself. To develop self-confidence, self-acceptance should occur.  Self-acceptance is about accepting not only the good things in life, but also the failures in life. Failure is only failure if accepted. You must always treat failure as a learning curve. When you fail the first time re-organise yourself, analyse your failure and move on. Do not stop at failure.

And now the suggested five ways to help you improve your self-confidence

Understand your thoughts and emotions

Many of us find it very difficult to understand our thoughts and emotions, yet understanding these can unlock huge potentials for improving self confidence. Forgetting about a bad habit or behaviour would make us more aware about our thoughts and emotions. By becoming aware of our emotions and behaviour, then we will be able to overcome and correct our behaviour. Behavioural control and correction is one of the key important elements to improving self confidence. I have noticed that a lack of confidence is mainly our negative behaviour and most of the times we are very aware of it. It is very rare that if you put on your positive behaviour you will experience a low self confidence.

Understanding your emotions is very critical. Your emotions will usually dictate your mood. It is therefore important that we always try to replace our negative emotions with good ones. A few practical ways to know your emotions is to observe and write down the feelings and emotions you experience; observe and or write down the preceding events and duration of your emotions. I have noticed with time that my emotions are largely affected by my thoughts. Hence I always try to keep my thoughts positive.

By knowing the root cause for your emotions you can learn to take control of them. Flee from sorrowful emotions and make the decision to improve your mood. You deserve to be happy.

Self discipline

Self discipline is perhaps the number one factor for self growth. Without discipline very little can be achieved in life. I have not come across a successful who is indisciplined. When we set our goals on achieving our intended purposes in life, discipline and focus in what keeps us from swaying away from them. We graduate from school because we are disciplined to study hard.

Changing attitude and behaviour, or even perspective might take a while. Change does not happen overnight. You need to gather enough knowledge and start learning and practicing the skills that you would like to improve and develop. To do this you need to be disciplined. This is an essential ingredient that is found wanting in many of us. Discipline comes through self control. This means that one must control negative qualities.

Have a clear vision

To be able to move forward in your life, it is important to have clarity. Have a purpose written down. Seeing what you want to have in a clearer image would encourage you to work for it. That is why it is important that you write down your intended purpose in life and read it every day. I would encourage you read it every night. I read my every night before going to sleep.

Having a defined purpose in life, acts as a guide and motivation for living. I know that most of us live by the day. If you do not have a defined purpose and vision for yourself I would encourage you to think about formulating one. At first your vision might not be as clear as possible but just start working on it. You will begin to see a clearer picture of your destination. You will be amazed at how much self-confidence you can have just by writing down your intended purpose in life.

You have a choice

You can choose what you want to experience. Doing something important for you and something you love, would give you enough confidence to continue with what you have started. The beauty about being human is that God gave us a choice. You have the will to choose whatever you want to be. You can choose to be confident or not. We are made up of the choices we make in life. If you take a look at yourself you will realize that you are where you are because of the choices you have previously made.

It is their wise to make choices that are self building. I know that some choices are difficult to make but, remember that choices are there to be made and they have to be made. You have a choice and the choice is yours. Bear in mind that the choices we make today have a direct effect on our tomorrow. We are continuously shaping our future by the choices we are making today.

Commitment and trusting

To be able to attain personal mastery for development and growth, you need to trust yourself that you can undergo the process and commit yourself on the process.

When developing self-confidence through personal mastery, we would have to develop some characteristics. We would develop self awareness, which is about our readiness to look at our past, accept it and the same goes for the present.  Aside from this, we also develop self-knowledge which is about understanding our past and our attitude. Not only should we understand them but also be able to comprehend the basis for such attitude or experience. Last, we develop self discipline.  Self-discipline is about how we make sure that our goals and vision are translated in action and achieved.  We need self discipline to make sure that we do not back-out just because of simple and little disappointments and setbacks.


Building self-confidence can’t be done on just a snap. Self-improvement is a never-ending process. There are people who even acknowledge that self-improvement can last even for a life-time.  Sometimes, we can only say that we are fully masterful of our life if we have reached our dreams and goals. Improving our confidence can help with growth and eventually with success. We just need to continue with our dreams and be patient and so always “standout tall and be counted”.

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