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Your Mind is the Get Way to Your Success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think” – Benjamin Desraeli. This article is a follow-up to yesterdays post entitled your health is your wealth. The state of your mind has a great effect on your life’s well being. Your mind directs your foot paths. In other words your mind is the compass for your life’s direction. You are where you are because of what you think constantly and the action you have taken. You are a sum total of your thoughts and actions. That thinking takes place in your mind. With this knowledge, I know that a healthy mind is key to achieving your life’s intended purpose.

As human beings who are aspiring and focused to contributing positively to a better society, it is therefore, inevitable that we know how to keep our minds healthy. We must also aspire to develop and devise the right mental attitude and create the desire to take action. There is no quick fix to this statement. This however, does not come easy. They say the most high paying jobs are those that involve thinking. Whether this is true or not is a matter for another day.

Most people who have succeed in life have deliberately developed a right mental attitude towards life. Yes I know that life will not always be easy. But, it also entails that we must be prepared for what comes along because even the so called easy things are not as easy as they seem. Just because you can get over a task with ease does not necessarily mean it is easy for the next person. If you point your compass in the right direction and take the necessary steps in the right direction you are surely guaranteed to meet with success. “The mind has exactly the same power as the hands; not merely to grasp the world, but to change it” – Colin Wilson.

In this regard preparation is key. At the core of ones character is ones thinking and attitude. It is therefore, of paramount importance that we feed our minds with the right stuff. The stuff that will help us in the future and in the present. The right stuff could simply mean changing the people we hangout with; taking time to further our education; making a complete u-turn in the things we are currently doing. You will agree with me that our minds continuously play back our life’s experiences. These experiences come through different ways that may include the following;  real life experiences, reading books, watching videos etc. We should not just exist to navigate through life but to ensure that we leave the world a better place than we found it.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him” – Buddha.

Throughout the years of my life I have discovered that everything that I have become, is as a result of the thoughts and the decision I have made. Believe me some of the decisions I have made in the past are terrible. But you know what am OK with them because I cannot change the past. These are what have helped me learn how to navigate through life with ease. You may not realise it but your thinking and attitude towards life is what has brought you to your current situation. However, do not despair, if your compass is pointing in the wrong direction there is still room to correct it.

I believe that you can still achieve your goals and life’s intended purpose regardless of your current situation and age. You can turn round the ship and begin to sail in the right direction. After all life is not a competition. The fact that you are reading this article could be that you are ready to take the next step in your life. The starting point of all success is to change the way you think. If your thoughts are always negative change them and begin to believe in yourself a lot more and just having a positive outlook about life. Look, not everything that glitters is gold. Even the people you think are successful have struggles in their lives. Its just that they are more optimistic and positive about it. They have prepared themselves mentally for what life has to offer.

Conclusion

The sooner you realise that you need to protect your mind from negativity the better. The bible says “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”. If we are to leave a better world we then must learn to feed our minds with the correct stuff and begin to act on it. There is so much going on in this world that needs to be corrected and I believe that you are living now for a reason and purpose. You may be going the wrong way with your life but I know that you change the status quo by repositioning your mind. I challenge you to find it within yourself. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind” – William James. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Personal Development Self Improvement

7 tips for self-improvement and success

“All the evidence that we have indicates that it is reasonable to assume in practically every human being, and certainly in almost every newborn baby, that there is an active will toward health, an impulse towards growth, or towards the actualization” ~ Abraham Maslow. Life naturally dictates that we move from point A to point B to point C. None of us will remain at the same point or place. It is therefore in our nature that we seek self-improvement in our daily lives. Yes we all grow as nature dictates the difference however, is growth that benefits not only you as an individual but society at large.

Self-improvement and success does not come easily; it comes with hard work and perseverance. It takes time to build and nurture the right mental attitude and character to achieve self-improvement. There can never be self-improvement without personal growth. You see personal growth follows knowledge; action follows inspiration; opportunity follows perception. The distinction between success and failure lies in what kind of growth one has attained. To achieve better personal development and success we must strive to improve ourselves holistically.

So what does it take to be a cut above the rest? I have drawn below a list of tips that have been very beneficial to me as I walk on my success journey. These tips can be practiced one per week in order to get maximum benefits.

What is your intended life’s purpose?
Many people fail because of a lack of a well-defined purpose in life. The first and foremost important tip is having a written down life’s intended purpose. Before you even begin on your journey of personal development it is very important to know what you want achieve with your life. There is no hope of success for the person who does not have a central purpose, or definite goal at which to aim. If you are wandering through life with little or no direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health and prosperity; identify your life’s purpose or mission statement and write it down, this will give you your own unique compass that will lead you to your north every time.

This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight or even dead end. But there’s always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself. Having a written down life’s intended purpose really takes a lot of excess baggage and makes you focus on what you want to achieve. Just imagine how light you will be when you have your life’s goals in your hands. This I believe is the beginning for self-improvement and personal success. Your life’s purpose gives you a measure and direction of your achievements otherwise you will have no yardstick to measure your success. It is therefore important that you invest time researching your persona; knowing your weaknesses and strengths; knowing what flows naturally from you. Remember that we were all created with unique talents for the benefit of humanity.

Do you know your values?
The second on list of tips is about knowing your values. I am sure that we all have values it is just a question of having the right ones. What do you value most? You will realise that as you list down your values they will be closely related with your life’s purpose. Make a list of your top 5 values these should be the ones that comes to your mind right away. Some examples are security both financial and personal, freedom, family, spiritual development and learning and peace. Check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values you may want to reconsider it or revise it.

Your values will mainly consist of your strengths and weaknesses. This might be the right list to use when deriving your life’s purpose. The values we have are a direct reflection of our inner self. Remember you are what you think and your thoughts form your character. The qualities of your values are mainly determined by what you feed your mind. In essence your thoughts have a direct bearing on your values. In order to enhance your self-improvement process I encourage you to feed your mind with the right stuff. I have always said that one of the best ways to renewing your mind is by reading and listening. Ensure that you acquire as much knowledge as possibly can and take action.

Knowledge increases your personal self-improvement rate. Remember that your value is established entirely by your ability to render useful service or your capacity to induce others to render such service. In relation to establishing what you value most do not forget to attach value to your personal skill set with respect to your life’s purpose.

Know your needs
Brian Tracy Personal DevelopmentThe next tip is about knowing your needs. We all have needs and these have to be me. Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who live their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it’s too late! The say necessity is the mother of all inventions.

It is very important to differentiate between your ‘wants’ and your needs. Having needs does not mean they are all important. We humans have a lot of unnecessary ‘wants’ that we think are needs. Some needs are a waste of resources. You should be able to categorise your needs into necessities and non-necessities. I will give you an example of owning a car, yes a car is a necessity but, what type of a car meets your needs? Such reasoning will help you make right decisions as you strive to reach your personal goals. As you walk the journey of self-improvement there is always going to be challenges that will come your way in the form of ‘wants’. The body may want something that may not necessarily add value to your progress.

What are your passions?
We all have passions, don’t we? The next tip is about knowing your passions. Knowing your passions is key in determining what you want to achieve in life. Do you know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life? The answer to this question might just be what your intended purpose in life is. Review it and compare it with what you have written down as your intended life’s purpose. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become the very person you want to be.

You see having a clear mind about your passions and synchronising them with your life’s purpose makes your work easier and enjoyable. Self-improvement is not a punishment it is about living life the way you want it. I always advise people to make their passions a career. If you intend to be successful in business make sure your business is around your passion. This way you will be doing what makes you happy every day and earning a living from it.

You live from the inside out
There is a world within which is governed by the mind and the world without which is the reflection of the world within. Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Learn to commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”. Your character and habits are a true reflection of what your world within is about.

What appears without is what has been found within. In the world within may be found infinite Wisdom, infinite Power and infinite Supply of all that is necessary, waiting for unfoldment, development and expression. Therefore, it is very important that the world within is fed the right stuff. Remember we said that this world within is governed by the mind. Your mind is therefore your greatest asset. Learn to safe guard it. One of the best ways you can help safe guarding your mind and enhance your self-improvement skills is by reading motivational books and thinking positively.

Explore your strengths
Remember I talked about knowing your weaknesses and strengths when writing your life’s purpose? Well it is now time for me to pay special attention to your strengths. What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative, witty, and good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know with others.

Your strengths are your weapon to self-improvement. Work to sharpen them on a regular basis. This does not mean you neglect your weaknesses. These too need attention. Remember you are improving yourself holistically. The benefits of improving your weaknesses are immeasurable. Always find new ways to explore your strengths and put them to good use. Personal development is about achieving your goals and learning to share them. The only way you can improve your skills set is by exploring your strengths.

Service to humanity is key
Service service service. We were created to serve each other. There is no greater satisfaction than to serve others. When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.
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All these invention and technological advancement we are experiencing are intended to serve humanity. People must learn to appreciate serving others before themselves and this begins with you and me taking the first step. “Be the change you want to see in the world” ~ Mahatma Ghandi.

Conclusion
Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It shouldn’t always be within the confines of an office building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better. As we take our journey of personal development success let us endeavour to learn to serve one another for the betterment of our planet. Remember we only have one home and it is our responsibility to make it a better place for all humanity. Peace and love, “standout tall and be counted.

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The 7 key principles of success

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The 7 key principles of success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“Success is a journey not a destination” ~ Ben Sweetland. This is one of my favourite quotes. Indeed success is not a destination that you can say now I have arrived at success. It is a daily way of living. I have come to understand that there is no quick formula to success. We all have asked questions of why are other people more successful than others. I have been doing some research on this question and have come to an understanding and believe that the following key principles have a common ground among successful people. There are a lot other factors that have made different people succeed but all of them have revolved around these 7 principles.

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There are many different ways of measuring success. Some people measure it by the wealth they have accumulated others by what they have achieved. Whatever, measure you choose to use I believe that the 7 principles mentioned in this article will definitely be of use for you. Personal development is directly link to success. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the attitude towards what they want to achieve. Those who men and women who walk the journey of success are usually persistent and are more motivated and focussed with what they are trying to achieve. And now I present to you the 7 principles of success;-

Set your goals
“If one advances confidently in the direction of their goals and endeavours to live the life that they have imagined, they will meet with success unexpected in common hours” ~ Henry David Thoreau. The principle of goal setting cannot be over emphasised. You cannot call yourself successful if you have no target to achieve. It is there very important that you write down what your intended life’s purpose is before you set out fulfilling it. I believe that all human beings have a God given task to achieve in their lives. Most of us have abandoned or have no idea what that purpose is. Man was not created to live an aimless life. God created you to contribute positively to the human race.

Dr. Myles Monroe says “the richest place on earth is the grave yard” this is because at the grave yard lies ideas that have never been; songs that have never been song; inventions that have never been born. Imagine if you and I play our part in making this world a better place. Setting goals is the first thing that should be done before venturing out to fulfilling your God given purpose. I know that when you write down your goals and read them on a frequent basis, they act as a stimulus and motivation to helping you move towards achieving them. Targets act as reminders. They are meant to be used as a gauge. I have never come across a successful person who has no goals. If you have no goals in life then you are just flowing with the wind. I can rest assure you that if you do not set targets for yourself you will never achieve much.

Forget about failure
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently” ~ Henry Ford. We fail because we accept failure. There are many great stories about how people never gave up even when they were faced with the prospect of failing. Failure should be treated as an opportunity to perfect our act. Yes in everything that you set out to do you shall encounter challenges. A challenge is merely there you teach you and tell you to adjust your plans. A word of encouragement to everyone is that there is no success without failure. There is no successful person that has never failed at some point. The difference is perseverance.

When you are starting out with your plans “DO NOT PLAN FOR FAILURE”. Don’t even think about failure; erase it from your mind. When you are faced with failure take it as a challenge face it head on. Failure is as result of wrong thinking and lack of persistence. Put on your positive thoughts and failure will run out through the window. Please understand me very well personal success does not necessarily mean that you will not encounter challenges. If you think that the journey of success is a plain and easy one then you are absolutely mistaken. Walking the journey of success requires persistence; hard work; diligence and perseverance. If you cultivate the habit of persistence you will certainly enjoy the insurance against failure. “Mastery of the Law of Success philosophy is the equivalent of an insurance policy against failure” ~ Samuel Gomers. I have come to realise that one of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is confronted by temporary defeat. Most of us are guilty of this mistake at one time or another. We have all quit at some point in life.

Take one step at a time
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”~ Chinese Proverb. Often times when we set out on a project we have a tendency of doing too many things at a time. I find that there is nothing wrong with multi-tasking but the danger with multi-tasking is that you may lose your focus on your main objective(s). It is therefore, very important that you take one step at a time. Put in mind that you are not racing with anyone. It is your personal achievement program. Your plans will not be very clear as at the beginning but as you take one step at a time the clear picture of what you want to achieve will begin to illuminate.

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The beauty about setting out your life’s purpose is that you do something that you enjoying doing for the rest of your life. The challenges you will face on a daily basis will be more exciting as you overcome them. You will be able to look back with pride and joy at how far you have come. In this part of the world I come from we have a tendency of doing things for the interim. Even our own local businessmen start it businesses just for daily sustenance we have no succession plan. When the owner of the business dies they die with it. There are very few well established businesses that have flourished long after the original owners have passed on. I do not want to be in the bracket of them that dies with the ideas.

Avoid negativity
Watch out for the negative people. Always get around positive people. Find people who will encourage you and compliment what you are doing. You cannot entertain negative thoughts and expect to have a positive outcome? The positive thought will destroy the negative as certainly as light destroys darkness, and the results will be just as effectual. Negativity is the mother of failure. I can challenge you to think of a successful person who has a negative minded personality. One of the major differences between success and failure is positivity and negativity. The more you lean towards positivity the more success you will accomplish or achieve and the opposite is true.

But then you may ask how can I avoid negativity? See 4 tips to help stay positive. In this article you will find some useful tips and information that you can use. Like I said before negativity is the beginning of all failure. The bible says you will reap what you sow. If you sow negativity you will definitely meet with negative results if you are positive you will as well reap positive results. There are very few instances that you reap negative results when you are very optimistic. Avoiding all the negative things in life can help change and enhance your personal success.

Clarify your goals
The goals you set will not be clear at the first instance. If you wait for them to be clear you will never start on your journey and I can assure you they will never be clear. When I first set out my life’s purpose it was very hazy and it only started becoming clearer as I started working the process. Every day I visualise what the end product will be and it gets more and more clear. It is important though at the very beginning to be specific on what you want to achieve example you may have a target to raise say US$5 million in five years. This is a more specific and measurable target than to just say I want to raise a lot of money after 5 years.

Clarifying your goals as you go along is very important as it sets your mind in tune with what you are doing. Have an open mind be more interested in the journey rather than the goal. Remember it is only with unbounded confidence that the goal is reached.

Embrace obstacles
Large ideas have a tendency to eliminate all smaller ideas so that it is well to hold ideas large enough to counteract and destroy all small or undesirable tendencies. This will remove innumerable petty and annoying obstacles from your path. You also become conscious of a larger world of thought, thereby increasing your mental capacity as well as placing yourself in position to accomplish something of value. Obstacles must be embraced; they are part of the journey to success. Obstacles are a way of telling us to change something our plans.

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It is, however, through attention that you will finally be able to overcome obstacles of any kind that appear in your path onward and upward, and the only way to acquire this wonderful power is by practice. Remember practice makes perfect. Difficulties, in harmonies, and obstacles, indicate that we are either refusing to give out what we no longer need, or refusing to accept what we require. Difficulties and obstacles will continue to come until we absorb their wisdom and gather from them the essentials of further growth.

You are not an island
No man is an island. We are all part of one big family and that is the universe. There is a reason why God gives us people to be surrounded with. You should not be ashamed or feel inferior to ask for help. In fact help is everywhere. Solicit for help in areas that you require it. Man is part of one huge universe and each and every one of us has a different role to play just the human body consists of various parts performing different but coordinated functions. Support can come through various different forms, if you are in business it could come through employing people and or delegating some of your duties. You should always endeavour not to live life in isolation. Also try and surround yourself with helpful people. That is those that you can learn something from.

Conclusion
Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving they make mistakes but they do not quit”~ Conrad Hilton. There is no known secret to success, but believe me he who thinks big and acts on his thoughts has every chance to succeed than he who thinks small and does not act on his thoughts. I would like to end by encouraging you try out these principles they could just be what you have been missing in your life above all “standout tall and be counted”.

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Personal success and development carnival – First edition

Welcome to the First edition of Personal success and development carnival. I hope to create this as a source for linking you to some great articles across the blog-sphere. Personal development is essential for us all to help change the world for the better. It is my prayer and hope that you will find these listings helpful, uplifting and motivating. Do not just stop at reading them share them and act on them. Hope to see you soon. If you are interested in having your post included in an upcoming edition of the carnival, please follow this link.

Patricia Pugliese presents Are you a Caregiving Couple? posted at The Caregiving Cornerstone, saying, “As a couple, who may be in the midst of caring for parents or other loved ones, please don’t forget to take care of yourselves. Think of the reasons you want to keep your love alive, the little things you did for each other when you were in Amorata. Loosely, amorata, refers to the birth of romance and love.”

Personal development
Tim presents How to Overcome Email Addiction posted at Fitness for Professionals, saying, “Email addiction is a problem a lot of people struggle with. Use these tips to help you overcome your email addiction.”

Sebastian presents What is Self-Confidence? posted at Seduction Blog, saying, “You need it to put the art of seduction into practice and to become successful with women. This is a fact you just can’t ignore. Fair enough, but how do you get this crucial ability, how do you reach this state? How do you become a self-confident man?”

Erik Matlock presents Missed opportunities posted at Becoming a better man, saying “Start watching for opportunities to be a good man. Listen and hear. Make them know you are all there. Love them”.

Positive thinking and Success
MandyKloppers presents Learned Optimism  posted at Thoughts on Life and Love, saying “Learned optimism is the idea in positive psychology that a penchant for joy and optimism can be cultivated. It is contrasted with learned helplessness. Learning optimism is done by consciously challenging any negative self-talk”.

Jon Rhodes presents How to Beat Your Winter Blues posted at HypnoBusters, saying, “The winter period, particularly after Christmas, can see many people feeling sad and lethargic. Here’s some practical tips to energise and make you feel happy once more.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog articles to the next edition of personal success and development carnival using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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Self-belief is key to personal success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

“Believe in yourself” ~ Unknown. “First say to yourself what you want to be; then do what you have to do” ~ Epictetus. Have faith in yourself. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. But with sound confidence you can succeed. Self-belief is a very important and key ingredient in personal development and success. Most of us fail to because of the disbelief we have in our selves. The biggest difference between failure and success is self-belief and confidence. In this article I try to bring out the important aspects of self-belief and what it can achieve for you.

Positive affirmations
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” ~ the Bible. This is one of my favourite quotes. For me this is the magic sentence. Every time I feel down and out; when everything else has failed and I need to get on. I always remember that “I can do all things through Christ…”. Believe me it works and I would recommend it to you.

I know that we all fall down most of the times in our lives but the most important thing is how you get up. One best way to help you improve your self-belief is to use positive affirmations. Keep telling yourself, you can do it, you can do it, you can do it. This will build some form of self-belief and the results can be unprecedented. To get more benefits from positive affirmation you need to change your mind set from being negative to positive. Look at the better side of everything. Encourage yourself to believe more in yourself. Positive affirmation requires that you change your way of thinking from “I can’t, to I can”, remember the magic sentence? Many of the times we let great opportunities pass by because of our negative and mediocre thinking.

There is power in positive thinking and affirmations. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”.We shall know them by their fruits” ~ the Bible. This goes to show how important our thoughts can influence our well being. Change your thoughts with positive affirmations.  “Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny” ~ Mahatma Gandhi.

Know yourself
The starting point for your journey of self-development is you the person you see in the mirror. Know yourself, your likes and dislikes, preferences and skills; it is the very basic need for your self-development. Here I have listed a few tips that can help you know yourself better:-

  • Journalise and diarise your daily activities. This will help you analyse the events and how you reacted to them.
  • Look in the mirror and notice what you see. Yes seems funny but most of us have never noticed what is in the mirror. That’s you a “millionaire” in the waiting.
  • Get feedback on your work and behaviour from the people around you especially your colleagues at work. In order that you have a balanced view, ask your critics as well. I have belief that in order to make a good leader you need both sets of people that is those you can easily influence and those that can stand up to your face and tell you no when you go wrong. Often times this is lucking in our leaders.
  • Study your relationships and how they make you feel. You may realise that no man is an island. We all have some sort of relationship be it at work or home. I have learnt that relationships play a very significant role in a person’s life.

Have positive expectations
Numerous experiments have confirmed that when you expect the best often times you get it and when you expect the negative the same will come to pass. So at the start of any enterprise or at the start of a day or start of the year or season, look forward with the expectation of the very best. Here is a quote from kalidasa (Indian dramatist).

Look to this day
For it is life, the very life of life;
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence
The bliss of growth
The glory of action
The splendour of beauty
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision
But today well lived makes every yesterday
A dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope
Look well therefore to this day!
Such is the salutation to the dawn.

This is a life changing poem. In a nutshell we must look forward to today and enjoy it in a positive and constructive way, because tomorrow we will reflect on it and have happy memories.

Like the man who had too many lemons and turned them into lemonade, or the man who bought a snake infested land and learned how to make snakeskin into shoe leather, every seemingly negative situation can be turned around into something positive. You must learn to turn negative situations into positive ones.

Mix with positive people
One of the biggest drains on our enthusiasm is mixing with negatively minded people. I am sure we all have come across or have such people in our lives. Try this out and see what the results will be for you. Identify someone who has a positive attitude towards life and one who has a negative attitude, spend some time with both of them at separate intervals and note what you will be feeling after spending sometime with either of them.

According to my results I feel more at peace and relaxed with the positive person than the negative one. Positivity is actually infectious. The more time you spend positively the more confident and happy you feel.

You have two choices though, if you want to survive being positive; avoid them, this though I would not encourage or better still train them and they will appreciate you when then get over it and you will have made the world happier by one person.

Conclusion
Perhaps the greatest gift in human history is the discovery of the power of your mind to create almost every aspect of your life. You see, everything you can visibly see was conceived in the mind of someone as a thought or an idea before being translated into being. Your thoughts are creative; your thoughts form and shape everything around you. Think about your goals and have belief in yourself above all “standout tall and be counted”.

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Your confidence is key to success

“It’s not the mountain we conquer but our selves”~ Edmund Hillary. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without confidence” ~ Hellen Keller. Success cannot be achieved without confidence. I have learned that most successful people are the ones with confidence. You cannot set out to do something and succeed without the backing of confidence. If you luck confidence there is a very high likelihood that whatever, endeavour you have embarked on will not be a success this is surely a guarantee. In this article I will show you how to develop the confidence you need to succeed. Read 5 ways to improve your self-confidence.

It’s absolutely vital that you develop the confidence and self-belief that you will achieve your goals. Self-belief is very crucial to succeed. I am not talking about being arrogant and ignoring feedback from other people and thinking you are infallible or invisible. Am talking about having a balanced view of yourself that does not indulge in false modesty and self-pity, and an inner view that is not strong enough to be crushed and defeated when someone challenges you.

The thing is; to succeed you must develop the mind-set and confidence to achieve your goals. If you’re really are serious about succeeding you cannot afford to wallow in negative thoughts of “I am not good enough”. Here are a few tips to help you develop your confidence.

Self-talk
Self-talk is perhaps the most important step towards developing self-confidence. What to tell your self has more bearing than what other people tell you. Remember you are what you think. The bible says “as man thinketh so is he in his heart”.  Develop the attitude of talking positively to yourself. It helps to keep telling yourself that you can do it, you can do it. Usually when am working on a task I keep reminding myself of the benefits that accruals when a task is achieved.

I usually remind myself early in the morning that I can achieve all the tasks that I have laid down. Yes I will come across obstacles but my mind is prepared for the tasks ahead. You should try having a to do list every morning and see how that helps you towards achieving your intended goals. “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” ~ the bible. This is my prayer every morning. Try personalising this saying and say how your confidence levels will be improved.

Your behaviour matters
What you think about and what you say to yourself has a profound bearing on your behaviour and on what happens to you. Your thoughts, attitudes and behaviours towards your ability to achieve your goals, have an impact on your expectation of the situation. In turn your expectation will impact on the way you behave in a given situation. People will just respond to your behaviours. “The most powerful forces of Nature are the invisible forces, so we find that the most powerful forces of man are his invisible forces, his spiritual force, and the only way in which the spiritual force can manifest is through the process of thinking” ~ the Master Key.

Am sure we’ve all known someone if not ourselves, who has been worrying about something they have to do and have constantly spoken how badly it’s going to go and when it does go badly they jump and exclaim “I knew” that would happen. You see all along they did not realise that they created their own self-fulfilling prophesy. There is power in thoughts and words. Always be mindful of what to say.

Focus on the things you do well
Take stock of your skills set and attributes that you already possess. In other words know your weaknesses and strengths and focus on improving your strengths. The idea is when you set out to do a task and accomplish it very well there is a sense of wellbeing and satisfaction. This is not to say that you should neglect to improve on your weakness. But focusing on doing the things you do better can highly improve your motivation and confidence levels.

I have listed down the some personal questions to help you identify your skill set and attributes if you are not sure of them. Write down the answers and keep on reviewing them. Make sure you answer the questions honestly.

  • What am I good at?
  • What have I received compliments and positive feedback for in the past?
  • What do people value me for? (Compare this with what you value yourself for).
  • What challenges have I overcome in the past?
  • What skills helped me to overcome the challenges?
  • What have I achieved in the past that I perhaps thought I couldn’t?

“We see things not as they are but as we are” ~ H. M. Tomlinson. As human beings I have noticed that we judge other people by our own standards. Believe me if you have set yourself a high standard that is what you expect to get from other people and nothing less.

Be inspired by other people
One of the things that has always inspired and given me confidence to succeed is by looking at and reading about other people who have made it. Find yourself some role models whom you admire and whose story of success inspires you. A role model does not necessarily have to be alive or known personally. It could be someone you have read about or someone who does not even know you. Most successful people have written books about their lives. Find some literature about them and read it.

A good role model will show you the following attributes

  • Their attitude and approach
  • Where and how they started
  • How they made the most of their abilities
  • How they handle their success
  • How they overcome challenges

Always remind yourself these too were or are human beings just like you and me. If they can make it why shouldn’t you make it?

Conclusion
I hope and trust that you have learned one or two things from this article. Let me end by emphasising that you cannot succeed without having self-belief and the confidence to carry you on. I have not come across a successful person without self-belief and no confidence. I challenge you set out intended purpose in life and start pursuing it with confidence and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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Develop the right mental attitude for you to succeed

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude” ~ Thomas Jefferson. “If you don’t like something, change it, if you cannot change it, change your attitude” ~ Maya Angelou. Attitude isn’t quite everything when it concerns being successful, but attitude plays a part in almost every phase of your life. A pitiful attitude gets more individuals fired than any other single factor, and a good attitude gets individuals, jobs and helps them keep those jobs more than any other factor.

Your attitude has a bearing on many individuals in your life, from your family to the stranger you smile at on the streets. Your mental attitude is especially important when you face apparently hopeless situations like losing a job; losing a spouse; losing a close family member, or losing a close friend. Your mental attitude towards the above situations will largely determine the way and how you will move forward. In the same way your mental attitude has a direct bearing on your personal development and success.

There are at least 2 ways to view your life and surroundings. You can either choose; being a pessimist, who seeks difficulty in every opportunity or; being an optimist who seeks opportunity in every difficulty. The mental attitude of a pessimist is rather lukewarm. He has a mentality of just looking at the opportunities and not seeing the opportunity. Whereas the optimist sees the opportunity even in a negative situation. The optimist takes the right action when he sees the opportunity whereas the pessimist looks at the opportunity and procrastinates. Most of the people who complain too much are more inclined to being pessimists.

Regrettably, many people look only at the trouble and do not see the opportunity that lies inside the problem. Many employees complain about the difficultness of their jobs, for instance, not realizing that if the job were easy, the employer would hire somebody with less ability at a lower wage. A little coin can hide even the sun if you hold the coin close enough to your eye. So when you get too close to your troubles to think objectively about them, try to keep in mind how your vision can be blocked, take a step back, and view the situation from a fresh angle. Look up rather than down. Encourage yourself, by doing something that will energise your thoughts. Create the right atmosphere for the right mental attitude.

Pessimism muddies up the water of opportunity. Anytime a fresh innovation appears promising to make life easier, somebody always complains that it will take the jobs of individuals. When Eli Whitney invented the cotton gin, objectors said that it would put thousands of individuals out of work. Rather, the invention made the production of cloth much cheaper, and millions of individuals could afford more clothing, which created infinite jobs. When the computer was devised, folks believed that individuals would lose their jobs. Some individuals have had to retrain themselves to stay sellable, but almost everybody agrees that computers have created — not deleted — jobs and have improved our capabilities are now boundlessly.

You can’t do anything to alter the fact that a problem exists, but you can do a good deal to find the opportunity within that problem. You’re guaranteed a better tomorrow by doing your best today and formulating a plan of action for the tomorrows that lie ahead. Just remember to sustain a positive mental attitude so that, as you plan for tomorrow, you’re doing so with the sense of anticipation that produces substantially better results. The most successful people have developed the right mental attitude. You cannot succeed if you have a mind and attitude of a pessimist. Having the right attitude involves you taking the right steps and directions. It is not easy to develop the right attitude without constantly reminding yourself about what your life’s purpose is.

Conclusion
There are many ways you can use to develop the right attitude for your success. You hold the keys to your own destiny. What you do; how you do it; where you do it; has a huge influence on your future success. Developing the right mental attitude is therefore key to your success.

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4 Tips for self-improvement

What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in?  What if you are sick and tired of your job? What if you are sick and tired of your current situation? What can you do to get out the current dilemma?

Though not easy, it is possible to take inspired and motivated actions to survive your present situation and live the life you’ve always dreamed of. To do this you will have to come out of your comfort zones to discover potential opportunities waiting for you.  You have to conquer your fear and take calculated risks. You have to stay focused and persevere despite the difficulties you will encounter.

Success does not come easy.  It takes heart, passion and time. Experience is always a good teacher and there can never be any better substitute. The lessons learned in your everyday life become your foundation. Self-improvement does not come without hard work and perseverance.

You have to work harder, dig deeper, and sacrifice more to attain your ambitions. But no, you do not have to hate the world and feel bad when you encounter difficult situation.  Just remember the Law of Attraction. If you hate the world, the world will hate you back. Here are 4 tips to consider for your self-improvement.

Learn to love your current situation. 
No matter how bad your current situation is, there are some good things in it. See all the positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Love your boss, your coworkers, your family, your friends, love whatever it is that you are currently despising. Love attracts goodness and general happiness.

It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong will power. Just do not fall in love so much that you totally forget about your dreams. Love, but try to hold on to reality. Many of the times we tend to focus on the negatives in a situation. But do you know that there are also a lot of lessons to be learned in your current situation. No matter how bad it is find the positives and concentrate your efforts on them.

Balance is the key. 
Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time. One day at a time. Do not be so engrossed as to forget about other aspects of life. Learn to live a balanced life even as you embark on your journey to success.

While you are slowly starting on the long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible.  Do not hurry up too much that you totally forget how to enjoy life. Appreciate the beautiful things you will encounter on the journey. Always remember that personal development and self-improvement is not a competition. You are not competing with anyone to succeed.

One day, you will finally attain what you have always longed for.  But when that day comes, do not look down on those who belittled you. Forgive and forget, after all your desire is to be a better person.

Stay humble. 
Do not criticize others when you see that you are becoming more successful than they are. Try to help them. Helping others is an act of good will. Inject your positive aura into their personalities. When you give, you will yield back equal or greater rewards. “It is more blessed to give” ~ the Bible. Always endeavour to give more and more.

Humbleness just like patience is a virtue. Even when you are walking in your success stay humble. I know and have seen some people that have lost their coolness after attaining their success. Do not think that you are the only one who can succeed instead try and help others to reach their goals if you can. Always do something that other people will appreciate. Self-improvement is all about making the world a better place by first improving yourself.

Are you ready to begin the journey?
Start it with the courage and desire to improve your life. Survive and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and positive thinking. Finish it with a resounding bang of accomplishment and with the desire to help others succeed as well.

Before you begin your journey have a written down plan for your life’s purpose. This should be a guide towards how you will live your life. Continue to improve on it and read it every day and believe that you have attained it. Commit your plans to God’s hands and see how wonderful and faithful he is. “A journey of 3000 miles begins with one step” ~ Chinese proverb. With these few pieces of advice I think you can begin your journey.

Conclusion
There are many other self-improvement tips that you will get as you go on with your daily life. Take note that you are not alone. There are others in much more difficult situations than you are currently in. That is why there will be no shortage of advice about self-improvement. Hope and trust that you will find the above tips helpful. Remember to always stay focused and share love and be compassionate with one another.

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Tick tok, tick tok, time is ticking

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff that life is made of” ~ Benjamin Franklin. Tick tok, tick tok the clock is ticking, never backwards but always forward. You want it or not; like it or not; believe it or not, time does not wait for anybody. Time is no respecter of persons. If God is an unfair God then he has been very generous and fair to all of us by giving us 24hrs to be utilized in a day. It does not matter whether you are rich or poor, black or white, able bodied or physically challenged whatever and where ever you maybe, we all share the same hours of the day and that is 24hrs. No single person or country is more privileged than the other to have more or less hours.

The first quarter of the year has but gone, ask yourself what you have achieved as against what you have intended to achieve by the end of the year. Many of us will not realize that we have achieved very little or nothing at all. If you are in this bracket stop and take a serious inventory of yourself. I am not perfect either but am consoled by the fact that I have achieved most of my monthly targets. Certain things have happened to me that may derail my progress but I take them as challenges rather than as problems.

Look forward
We all have lost time at some point in our lives. The key is how you get up and recover it. There is so much to look forward to for me than to look at spilled milk. Yes sometimes I have lost a lot of time, but I always encourage myself by rereading my written down life’s purpose on a regular basis. This gives me a sense and purpose to live for. I imagine and appreciate the life ahead of me and how comfortable it will be. My written down “life’s purpose” is one of the motivating factors.

Whatever is done is done and what ever has not been done has to be done. If you are to become a better person and an achiever you need to improve on how to utilize your time. Time management is of the essence. Great men and women are those that have learned how to manage the precious commodity called time. If there is anything that has to be taught or learned at an early stage in life it is time management. Unfortunately our educational system does not teach us how to manage and utilize time. How I wish this could be introduced in our schooling systems.

Sometimes I feel that most of what we learn from our schools is irrelevant in our lives. Most of the stuff does not apply. What a waste of time and resources. Please this does not mean you should not get an education. You need it. When you wake up every morning, regardless of your circumstances, look forward to getting started with the day. There is so much waiting for you out there.

Have the courage
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage” ~ Anais Nin. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be discouraged” ~ the Bible. In order to succeed at anything you need to be bold and courageous. You will need to take bold steps.  Some steps will off course trample on other people’s toes but if it is the right thing to do just do it. Warning, PLEASE DO NOT CREATE ADVERSARIES.

I will be very honest here, some decisions I have made have actually offended other people. But under the circumstances they were about the best choices I have made in my life. These choices have been life changing and over time wounds have been healed. As a human being you are bound at some point in life to make some tough decisions and like I always say decisions have to be made. Wrong or right. It could be resigning from your current job; it could be cutting links with some of your old mates or any other life changing decision. It could be that you are wasting time in your current job and are not progressing. Please be wise and pray over it before you make those life changing decisions. Have a master plan for your life, especially if you are married and have children to support.

Conclusion
If you have a plan for something just do it. Many of the times we spend a lot time procrastinating and let our good plans go to waste. If I can recall, I’ve had so many plans on how to make money and most of them have gone down the drain. Not because they were not viable ideas but because they were not even tested. I know that this describes some of you. Lastly we must all endeavor to learn and appreciate how to manage time this is the only way to ensure personal development and growth. Above all “standout tall and be counted”.

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5 Personal success questions

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will” ~ Vince Lombardi. All normal human beings want to have personal success at whatever they are doing.  Any normal and ambitious being will pride themselves in whatever endeavours they are engaged in. I want to believe that no single person wants to show their failed results before they succeed. Usually we will brag and talk about our failures only after success has been realized or achieved. In my quest to achieve my personal intended goals I have asked myself some questions and these I hope will help guide you as well. Simple though they may seem, these questions can literally change your life.

Have I neglected a fundamental skill?
Before you answer this question ask yourself if you even have the basic skill. Regardless of what you do for a living, you cannot succeed if you’re failing to master the basics. In every area and aspect of our lives there are basics. You do not expect a baby to start running before it learns how to walk and sit for example. You need to identify the basic requirements for whatever endeavours you are involved with and ensure that you have the skill set. Many of the times people set out to do something without the necessary fundamental skill set.

For example to succeed in any business you need to gather the needed basic skill set before you even venture out. If you want to own and run a home business, say an affiliate marketing program. You will off course need to do a market research and understand the niche you are entering into. You must acquire the basic knowledge and apply it in your business for better results and success. Same applies if you are involved with personal development and coaching.

The lesson here is simple learn and do the basics of your job. Unless you’re doing that, you can forget about success, because it’s just not going to happen. It is better not to reinvent the wheel but improve on the wheel.

Is there a bad habit I should stop?
Great! You’re doing the basics, so now it’s time to look at the stuff that’s getting in your way. Look at your daily routine, your weekly activities, your monthly commitments. If you’re like most people, you’re probably doing things that aren’t just useless, but counterproductive. You are doing business as usual. Stop and check your daily activities and start doing “business unusual”.

Yes even for me there are a lot of bad habits I am working on that are very detrimental to my progress. Things like computer games, web surfing and more, these I find very destructive to my progress. I am slowly learning how to use the web for my growth and not otherwise. Take care on how you use the internet.

Whatever it is for you, you’ll get a huge burst of productivity when you limit (or stop) these behavioral impediments to your success.

Do I need to upgrade my basic skills?
Now it’s time to examine the basic skills required for your job and identify any that need improvement. For example, if you’re in sales, maybe you’re good at asking questions and presenting solutions, but tend to hem and haw when it’s time to close the deal. If so, work on your closing skill.

There are many ways you can use to improve your skill set. The one I use most is reading relevant material. You could choose further training if you want to have a recognized qualification depending on what your demands are with your current situation. Upgrading your basic skill set will definitely give an edge over your competition. I encourage you to have an open mind and always embrace change.

If you are a manager be a good listener to your subordinates. Do not feel threatened if you have a member who has more knowledge than you. Instead embrace them and learn from them and use them to get better results. Besides it does not mean that when you are the manager you are the most intelligent no no no.

What extra skill will bring me the greatest success?
It’s time to take a big step in your endeavours. From this perspective, identify a skill or habit that today is totally foreign to you but which, if you mastered it, would also propel you to a level of success far beyond your current situation. Do not remain stagnant or content with your current skills set. Find a new skill to propel even further with your success.

For example, suppose you’re a brilliant innovator and have mastered all the basics of engineering. What would happen if you mastered the ability to sell your ideas to anyone? Similarly, suppose you’re making a decent living in Sales. How much more successful would you become if you mastered business accounting?

Conclusion
There are many more questions you can ask yourself that will help propel you to even greater heights. Make sure that you answer them honestly and always improve on them. It is always better to have a written down life’s mission that should be read on a daily basis and used to monitor your success progress. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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