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Building Strong Relationships and the Importance of Reciprocity

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Reciprocity is the relation of mutual dependence or action or influence. Humans are well known for being social. Being in a relationship, be it intimate, social or business, requires the reciprocity of the people involved. All human beings excel in relationships where both parties have a balanced, give and take situation.

Relationships where reciprocity is not practiced are usually strained. They are one sided and are problematic. When there is no reciprocity the relationship is on the rocks.

To create reciprocity in a relationship, both parties need to take responsibility for that creation.

Good healthy relationships are those that people have mutual respect for one another and every member, does not feel that they are putting in much more than the other. If you want to live a happy life, it is important to be in a health relationship where reciprocity is practiced.

Some relationships are not beneficial for your personal development. If you are in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable, leave. Make the decision and set yourself free. You must weigh what benefits you are getting from being in certain relationships.

If you have to break them please go ahead. This year I have resolved to evaluate most of my relationships. I have also resolved to work on improving those that I feel need to be improved. Over the years I have slowly broken out of some unhealthy relationships.

I have managed to stay away from them, especially those that were not adding any value to my personal improvement. I liken relationships to the game of chess. If you play chess with players who are less skilled than you are, you do not improve. You are merely improving them whilst you remain stagnated.

Building and Understanding Reciprocity

The principle of reciprocity is also key and crucial to success in all business relationships. The strongest and longest lasting interpersonal relationships are based on the principle of reciprocity, and this extends far into the best relationships between buyers and sellers.

Therefore, it is important that we take time to build and understand this principle. You will agree with me that good solid relationships take time to build. When building them we must understand that every relationship is unique.

A good example of how to build the reciprocity in a relationship is to apply the principle of “do unto others what you would want them do unto you.” Believe me it is the best bet. If you expect people to treat you with respect you must be the first to respect them.

The flip side though is to do good and not expect anything in return. When you are expectant most of the times you will be disappointed because you are not in control of other peoples actions. You can only control your actions.

Here are a few ways that can help you build long lasting relationships:-

  • Be the First to Give Something – Try and be the first to give something. The bible says “it is more blessed to give than to receive.” When you give don’t expect anything in return. Regard it as a good gesture. If you are in business offer an incentive when the sale is complete. Send gifts to your clients as a way of thanking them for supporting your business.
  • Keep the Relationship Going – Good relationships are not easy to come by. We all want to have them, so keep the relationship going. Find ways that will help you grow it. I have noticed that some of the best relationships I have were built from my high school and college days. Yes, along the way I have built new ones but am more comfortable with my old buddies.
  • Offer to Support – Support is a form of giving. People always appreciate being supported. Do we all? I believe in a saying that “you never know who is going to keep you tomorrow.” Giving support is also a sign of generosity. Be generous.

You Need to Give and Take

In every relationship that you build you need to have a give and take attitude. You lose some and you win some. Relationships must be based on respect and mutual understandings. Good solid relationships are built on trust.

Remember that trust is earned. Once breached it takes time to repair. When you are trusted with a responsibility at work for example, ensure you deliver. If you cannot deliver ensure that you communicate. It is better to be honest, that way you earn trust.

Conclusion

To succeed we must build strong healthy and trust worthy, relationships with the people we come into contact with. “Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship” –
Buddha.

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Spirituality

My Prayer to the World

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Just when, we thought the COVID-19 pandemic was under control. The world has just been hit with a second wave and more potent strain of the virus. We are told that the second wave is more contagious and very dangerous than the first one.

I have already heard about a few people that have died from it. I feel very sad and my thoughts go out to the families that have lost their loved ones. I just want to encourage all of us to take extra precaution and follow the guidelines as directed by our health authorities.

I would also like to thank our frontline health professionals for their courage, dedication and effort they are putting in to help alleviate the situation. May the good Lord continue to keep them safe.

In addition to following the guidelines as per WHO guidelines such as, wearing facial masks; keeping good hygiene by regularly washing your hands and keeping social distances when in public I encourage you to site psalm 91 on a daily basis:-

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”
Surely he will save you
from the fowler’s snare
and from the deadly pestilence.
He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
nor the plague that destroys at midday.
A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
You will only observe with your eyes
and see the punishment of the wicked.
If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,”
and you make the Most High your dwelling,
no harm will overtake you,
no disaster will come near your tent.
For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways;
they will lift you up in their hands,
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra;
you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
He will call on me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble,
I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life I will satisfy him
and show him my salvation.”

Conclusion

Please stay safe. Go out only when it is necessary and remember to protect yourself and your loved ones by practicing the recommended guidelines. This is no time for politicking but this is the time for the world to show unity of purpose. Together we can eliminate this pandemic. Remember the virus moves only when you move. Stay safe and God bless.

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Motivational

When You Have the Will, the Sky is the Limit

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The capability of conscious choice and decision and intention; is called the will; “the exercise of their volition we construe as revolt”– George Meredith. In other words we all exercise the will to do things at our own volition. Everyone of us has the will to do something.

The power of choosing; the faculty or endowment of the soul by which it is capable of choosing; the faculty or power of the mind by which we decide to do or not to do; the power or faculty of preferring or selecting one of two or more objects; is the will.

If you want to achieve something meaningful with your life, develop a strong desire for it. If you want money develop a strong desire for money. When you have the will to achieve something, nothing can stop you. Nothing can stand in your way; only the sky is the limit.

God gave each and every one of us the determination to succeed. To succeed you need to have the desire; the determination; the resolve and the will to take action. The will is what powers you. It is what drives you to continue taking action, that is why they call it the will power.

The strength of your mind should always be kept at optimum level. To achieve this you need to feed your mind with the right material. You need to have the right mental attitude for every situation that you encounter. If you want peace in your life, your mind must always be thinking peace.

The most common mistake most people make is not possessing what they want, in their mind. You will not achieve personal development if your mind is not thinking personal development. Your mind is the centre of all creation. You are who you are because of what you think about most of the times.

How can you enjoy happiness if your mind is always thinking negatively? change your mind and you will surely experience change.

Do Not Limit Yourself

The biggest obstacle to your progress is yourself. Often times we obstruct ourselves from reaching our full potential. We give up when we are faced with challenges. But do you realise that the darkest hour is just before dawn?

When you are about to hit Gold that’s the time when things look like they are crumbling down. It is usually the most darkest of periods. But I have learnt that it is actually the time to hold on even more. It is time to persevere.

Look, to reach your full potential you must move from the bottom going up. You must move from being a doubter to being a believer. Personal growth demands that you learn the ropes from the bottom up. You do not start climbing a tree from the top.

If you climb from the top, the only other way to go is either side ways or down. If you are going side ways it means there is no growth taking place and of course downs means you are falling.

I have learned that before every growth level there are challenges to be overcome. These challenges are a test of your character and the will to persist. They are building you for what is coming next. However, you need to know how to navigate through them.

In my life I have struggled with so many things, but I have not allowed my struggles to hold me down from pursuing my personal objectives. I have pledged to do everything I can to achieve my personal objectives.

In dark times I always ask God to help me change the things I can change. This way I concentrate my energies on my I can change and allow God to do the rest. He is always faithful. “The men who succeed are the efficient few. They are the few who have the ambition and will power to develop themselves” – Herbert N. Casson.

Celebrate Your Small Victories

We all have experienced success in one thing or the other. The key to staying focused on your goals, which is the bigger picture, is to celebrate your small victories. If possible document them and make a reference to them every now and again.

This will always help you stay motivated and encouraged to work extra hard to experience the feeling of success again. I have found that completing a task on time is very fulfilling for me. Am very happy and proud of myself every time I produce an article for this website.

That nice feeling of having to complete a task drives me to even do more. Yes, I know that sometimes I get bogged down with other things, but I always look forward to being inspired to writing again.

Success is made up of the small victories that we pickup along the way. You should learn to give yourself a pat on the back when you have achieved or completed a task that you set out to do. Completing the small tasks leads you to your main goal.

Conclusion

“If I had to select one quality and one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick persistence and determination. The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying, Here comes number seventy one” – Richard M. Devos. Always remember that when you have the will, the sky is the limit.

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The 4 Keys to Success

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

You will agree with me that everyone wants to achieve personal success. We all have one common goal in life. To be successful and live a happy and fulfilling life. Everyone of us wants to learn the ropes of being successful.

We all have a desire to make a difference in the world. But many of us struggle to triumph and live a below average life.

I know that many of us have read on the subject of personal success. Many of us, if not all are students of the success subject. Only a few are good students and are successful. While many of us fall in the category of bad students and are struggling.

It is almost impossible to understand the subject of success in one attempt. However, in all the books I have come across there are similarities. The presentations may be different but most of them have similar themes and methods of achieving success.

I believe that there are basically 4 keys that you need to help you achieve your success and these are:-

Write Down Your Goals

Without writing down your own goals, you will be shooting in the air; you will just be drifting and moving along aimlessly; you will be at the bottom of the park which is crowded. To have meaning success you need to write down your goals and start working on them.

This is the only way to measure your success. Your written down goals have to be measurable and specific. I like to personalise them by saying “I earn so much by such a date; I have done this by such a date.”

You are the only person that can use the “I” for yourself. No one else can use it on you. Making such pronouncements helps me to immediately know the exact target and the expected results. It also sets a deadline for me. Being exact with the goal, gives me motivation every time I read it.

Since the goals are measurable, if by the set date, I have not achieved the target, I simply adjust the date accordingly. However, I do not adjust the goal because by then my mind is already conditioned and working to achieve the set goal.

Remember that the goals you set must be those that are in tandem with your overall life’s objectives. They must help you get closer to achieving your life’s intended purpose.

Do not underestimate the power of writing down your goals. I usually carry around a note book with me. Where I write down ideas and many other personal things. Don’t just rely on your memory, write down your goals.

Set a Deadline

Everything in life has a useful shelf life. Some things have a much longer useful shelf life than others. That is why deadlines are important. They make you work extra hard. We are always working to beat dead lines because we all know that time waits for no one.

Setting reasonable deadlines is also key to ensuring that you achieve your success. Reasonable deadlines are those that give you ample time to  be creative, work and stay motivated. I have found that short deadlines can be a source of frustration especially if the goals are not achieved.

Everyone has an optimum point when they give in their best. This is the time when you are full of energy and enthusiasm for life. The time when you can take on any challenge without much of a problem. I believe that this is the best time to ensure that you work extra hard to do the right things.

If you are relatively younger this is the best time to ensure that you put your act together. Stop fooling around. Get to work and you will enjoy the benefits later. I know that a day will come when those energy levels will be a thing of the past. Ask those who are well advanced in age and they will tell you.

The way I set my goals is that they include a deadline in the goal it self so am always in the know if am working beyond my expected deadline date. The thing with having deadlines is that your mind is tuned in and expectant to achieve a result at the set time.

I have noticed that somehow your mind is constantly alert to your deadline and this keeps you working towards achieving or beating the set deadline.

Take Action

They say actions speak louder than words. Yes, its important to set goals and having deadlines. But, setting goals and having deadlines will not achieve anything if you do not take action. Most of our plans die a natural death because we do not act on them. Taking action will ensure that you start moving towards your goals.

Create a habit of taking action that will help you achieve your goals on a daily basis. Take one step at a time. If your goal is to make say US$200,000 by 31 December 2021, decide how you are going to make this money and get started with the process.

We have a habit of just making good pronouncements and leaving everything to God. Look, God is not going to make you rich without you playing your part. God will open an opportunity for you and it is entirely up to you to cease it and make good use of it.

You have a big part to play in God’s picture. I have noticed a tendency especially among us Christians of saying “I receive in Jesus name” when a preacher makes certain pronouncements and we leave it at that.

Yes, receive it and start working on actualising the pronouncement by taking action. Get up and go to work. The bible says “the Lord will bless the work of your hands.” Those who succeed are those who try and take action. It is better to die trying.

Persist Until You Succeed

Success does not come easy and does not come cheap. If it were easy, then we would all have been successful. There would have been no need to talk about it. But we talk about because we know the challenges that people will face on the path of success.

Yes, things will not always go according to your plan, and most of the time they never, but when you persist you will triumph over any challenge. Persistence is key to your success. Those who are successful are those who are resilient and persistent. They know that challenges have to be conquered.

Without persistence you are surely doomed to fail. Because along the way of success you will be met with many challenges. Some of these challenges may look to be insurmountable. Your success will be largely determined by your persistence.

The bigger your goals are the more hard work and persistence you need to have. Be prepared that on your journey to succeed you will be greatly tested. You will need to focus on the things that you have influence on, as these are the things that will help you over come your challenges.

Conclusion

There are many ways to succeed but the above are key for me and they seem to work so far. You can devise what works for you but I recon that they will not be very different from mine. We are all wired to succeed and the ball is in our hands. “Successful people tend to become more successful because they are always thinking about their successes” – Brian Tracy.

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The Importance of Committing to a Cause

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

When you only commit to the people and things that are important to you, your family or your career, the results are that your relationships will greatly improve. This will help you achieve your goals more easily and in turn will make you live a much happier life.

Therefore, committing to improving your relationships will largely determine the quality of your life.

This website has become a huge part of my life. It is one of my most treasured assets. Most of the things I do are tailored to have a trickle down effect to the improvement of this website.

I am committing my time and efforts to seeing the improvement and total transformation of the content on a regular basis. The relationship I have built with it, over a period of time makes me want to do even more. Such is the commitment I have pledged to seeing this website succeed.

However, committing to the success of it has not come easy. It has come at a great cost. I have had to pay the price of cutting down on so many activities and dedicated my efforts and energy to this cause.

Cause change and lead; accept change and survive; resist change and die” – Ray Norda.

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but how we react to what happens; not what life brings to us, but the attitude that we  bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst a spark that creates extraordinary results.

By committing to the improvement of generating valuable content, I have learnt so many things in the process, and have seen my writing skills improve. If you have been following my site you will realise that there is an improvement in the presentation and quality of the content.

I know that there is still a lot of room for improvement and I will surely keep pushing until I get there. For as long as the commitment is alive this will be one of the first go to sites for personal growth and self-improvement.

This year I would like to generate more content, published on a regular basis. This means doubling my efforts and improving further on my writing skills. Currently it is taking me longer than I would like, to generate content.

I would like to reduce on the amount of time it takes me to write and publish an article, without compromising on the quality of the content. So far I think am on the right track. Last year I learned to write down ideas as they pop. This has helped me keep track of them.

This has seen me write down more ideas than I can imagine. Currently I have more than 33 ideas that need to be translated into articles and published. This is more than a month of content if I have to write and post an article every day. And the list keeps growing rapidly.

What has lagged behind is the capacity to convert the ideas into content. This is now the area am working on to improve. Lets hope that a formula will be quickly devised that can help propel me to translate the ideas into content on a much more regular basis.

If you have noticed, my articles have gradually increased in length to average 1000 words. This is a deliberate policy and standard I have put in place. In fact it is my intention to increase the length even further, so as to fully give me an opportunity to drive my point.

Perhaps this is one of the major reasons that I has caused me to lag behind in delivering content on a regular basis. The policy to ensure that every article being published meets the minimum standard set.

To help speed up the process of improving my writing skills, am taking lessons from Writing 101: Building a Blogging Habit” this little e-book has been an eye opener. It has taught me many things such as practicing to write on a daily basis.

Lets hope that the knowledge gained from it will be put to practice for the eventual benefit of the website visitors.

There are many benefits to be derived when you are committed to a cause. It entails dedication, ability to work hard and bear infinite fortitude. The trust you develop will surely not go without being repaid. The world gives you back what you give it.

Committing to a cause will ensure that you give your very best. Because you are committed and believe in the cause you will surely take time to do your best. When you give your best the best comes back to you. The bible says that one gives freely, yet gains much more.

Committing to this website has helped change my life. I have seen myself grow not just in years but also in character. Look, because I believe in what am doing I enjoy. Yes sometimes I have no motivation or inspiration to write but I still do something that helps to improve my well being.

Conclusion

I would like to encourage you to make a serious commitment to any cause that you believe in. It could be your family; a charity or indeed your career. Committing to a just cause will surely help you discover many aspects of your life that you would have not known about.

I know that there are many things that you can dedicate your life to. Find something that really matters to you and give it try. Success is committing to give your best no matter what the circumstances. “Commit yourself to a- dream. Nobody who tries to do something great, but fails, is a total failure. Why? Because he can always be assured that he succeeded in life’s
most important battle; he defeated the battle of not trying
” Robert H. Schullera.

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The Reward for Your Success Lies in the Next Challenge

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Success has many rewards. Walking in success feels great, but rewards last if only you look forward to your next challenge. You will agree with me that when you achieve a goal, when you are successful, you are happy and ecstatic in that moment, you feel like you have conquered the world, you feel over the moon. But as soon as the excitement subsides and reality creeps in, you begin to look for the next challenge to conquer. “Successful people tend to become more successful because they are always thinking about their successes” – Brian Tracy.

The desire to keep enjoying the rewards of your success gets more and more intense, as you achieve your set objectives and goals. The more you succeed the more happiness you enjoy. Seems to me that success brings with it a huge dose of happiness and joy. Those who enjoy a more successful life usually live a happy and fulfilling one. We derive our happiness from our success.

Notice that people who are usually complaining are those who are not working to be successful. They are waiting for success to come to them. The size of your success depends on the depth of your desire.

It is people who do not take action or have given up and think that they will be successful by just waiting and not doing anything about it. Success does not come easy, it takes smart work to achieve it. The more you work at being successful the closer you get at achieving your goals. The closer you get at achieving your success the more happiness you enjoy. I know that sometimes we go through trying moments.

Challenges are not permanent, they are temporal. Challenges are the way that leads to your success. Often times they open up new doors and new perspectives without which it could have been impossible or difficult to achieve our goals. They should not prevent you from accomplishing your destiny,  rather they should propel you even more to achieve your desired results. If you want to enjoy the reward, you must push on and persist when faced with challenges.

Hard Work is not a Guarantee to Success

I know this may not sound or go very well with with many people but I just think that hard work is not a guarantee that you will succeed. Yes, its hard to be successful without hard work but it doesn’t guarantee success. However, it is one of the ways that will ensure your success. Am not discouraging you from working hard. I just want to make a point clear that smart hard work will surely get you the desired results. If you are to achieve your success you must definitely work hard but not only that you should do it smartly.

The following story is a comparison between hard work and smart work. Once upon a time there was a quint little village. It was a great place to live except for one problem. The village had no water unless it rained. To solve this problem once and for all. The village elders decided to putout to bid a contract to have water delivered to the village on a daily basis.

Two people volunteered to bid and take up the task, the elders awarded the contract to both of them, because it was felt that a little competition would help keep the prices lower and ensure a backup supply of water. The first of the two people who won the contract Ed immediately ran out. He bought two galvanised steel buckets and began to run back and forth along the trail to the lake which was a mile away. Ed immediately began making money as he laboured morning to dusk hauling water from the lake with his two buckets. He emptied them into the large holding concrete tank that the village had built.

Each morning he had to getup before the village awoke to make sure there is enough water for the village when they wanted it. It was hard work but he was very happy to be making money and for having one of the two exclusive contracts for this business.

The second winning contractor Bill, disappeared for a while, he was not seen for months, which made Ed even more happy since he had no competition. Ed was making all the money. Instead of buying two buckets to compete with Ed, Bill had written a business plan. He involved various people like, investors and managers and created a corporation. He retained six months later with a construction crew.

Within a year his team had built a large volume stainless steel pipe that connected the village to the lake. At the grant opening celebration Bill announced that his water would be 75% cheaper and that it was more cleaner. Bill knew about the about complaints of the quality of Ed’s water, he also announced that he could supply the commodity 24hrs a day 7 days a week. Ed could only deliver water on the weekdays as he did not work on weekends.

The village cheered and quickly ran for the faucet at the end of Bills line. In order for Ed to compete he immediately bought two more buckets lowered his charge by 75%, employed more people to haul water on a daily basis. Bill realised that if this village needed water then more villages needed it. He rewrote his business plan and expanded to other villages who quickly connected to his line. Bill could supply more volumes of water to more people at a cheap price and therefore, made more money than his competitor. I will end the story here. Now ask yourself who was smarter between Bill and Ed? Who would you rather be?

Recognise the Advantages of Planning

The above story about Bill and Ed brings out a few things that can be learned and applied to our daily lives. Firstly this is a story about solving a problem that was encountered by the village. Which I believe that our lives are meant to solve the problems that are faced by the world. Bill demonstrated the advantages of planning.

How we go about solving these challenges is largely determined by the way we think. That is why for me, the most important asset we have is our mind. Ed seems to have had a head start in solving the water crisis that was faced by the small village. Indeed he succeeded not until Bill came up with a much better plan and solution. I do not think Ed had a thorough thought about how he was going to provide the solution. His aim was probably just having the contract to earn him money.

For me Bill demonstrated that having a goal is not just good enough. We must take time to plan and start working our plan to achieve the intended target and this takes time. In as much as Bill offered a much better solution than Ed am sure he must have given it more thought before going ahead to implement it. Bill’s plan involved investors and managers. It took Bill more than a year before he started reaping from his labour.

Bill’s plan also demonstrates that in our life’s journey we need people who can add value to our lives. People who are going to help us achieve our goals. If you are planning to achieve your goals you need to identify the right people who are going to help you achieve your goals.

By Ed employing more people to haul water from the lake, he demonstrated a lack of learning. He refused to embrace change and instead of learning from the new technology of transporting water he stuck to his old methods. Very often in our lives we do not want to embrace change.

Conclusion

Personal development and growth is a mix of things. I believe that self growth does not come easy it takes time and requires us to take small steps everyday of our lives. If you want to enjoy your life you must always be looking forward to your next challenge. The reward of overcoming a challenge should always motivate you to looking forward to the next challenge for this is the cycle of life. Happiness is the highest level of success. Enjoy the fruits of your labour.

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The Most Important Change Begins With You

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The fact that you are still alive and still on this earth, going through what you are going through, I want you to know that God has a plan for you. Look around and dig deep inside you and begin to work on the inner you. If you have to succeed you have to know that the most important change begins with you. You possess all that you need to achieve your goals.

Stop complaining about how over weight you are, when you are eating anything that comes around and not going to to the gym. Don’t complain about the quality of your life if you are not doing anything to improve it. You have no right to complain about your pay when you are not not doing a thing to improve your skills. Change your mind and begin living a life of happiness.

Living happy is not a just an opportunity or a privilege. You have a responsibility to enjoy happiness. Decide and determine your own happiness.

You hold the key to change your life. Why are you complaining about how bad things are around you, If you are surrounding yourself with them? Begin by changing your mind and the way you look at things. Why are you complaining about the quality of friends you have when you entertain them?

Just because you have been invited doesn’t mean you have to attend. Just because someone has called you doesn’t  mean you have to call them back. If you are in a pub and someone is offering you alcohol doesn’t mean you have to consume it. You have the power to say no. Quit giving those lame excuses, you have the will power to do the right things.

Just because your homey’s are partying doesn’t mean you have to party. You have a responsibility to your own life. Just because you are down doesn’t mean you cannot get up. You will fall many times before you succeed. Just like like a baby falls many times when learning how to walk. Just because you have made mistakes in life doesn’t mean that’s the end of the world. Who does not make mistakes?

Change Your Mind and Change Your Life

If you are down, get up. Its time to make that important change and move your life to another level. Stop feeling pity for yourself. Yes, you are the reason why you are not employed. You are the one in that unhealthy relationship. But, what are you doing about it? You can change the way you feel by changing the way you think.

Self pity will only make you more miserable and sad. Self pity will not change anything; complaining will even compound your situation. Get a grip on your life by changing the way you think. Look, if you are not in control of your life someone else is. Someone else is making decisions for you; someone else is determining how much you should be paid.

When you change your mind set new doors begin to open up. You begin to write a whole new, better chapter of your life. You begin to possess the very things that you long for in your life. The talents, ideas, the gifts and imaginations you have all begin to come to life. Do not let your poverty mentality determine your destiny.

You begin to attract the very things that have eluded you before.  Look, God created you to succeed. Even before he created this world he had you in mind. Don’t allow your mind to be a stumbling block to your destiny. Do not be afraid of the unknown. If you can see the invisible you can do the impossible. Venture into the unknown and stop being afraid of the unfamiliar.

Your mind is the biggest asset and tool for improving your well being. It is in your mind that change is cultivated, nurtured and birthed. “Everything changes when you change” – Jim Rohn.

Why Important Change is Valuable

Change makes you break your cycle. It motivates you to look beyond your comfort zone. Change makes you venture into new dimensions of your life. It exposes you to things that you never would have experienced. With change you begin to look at life from a different perspective. Positive change makes you feel in control of your life.

I believe that positive transformation is a huge sign of ones personal growth. Not many people embrace change easily. It therefore, means that we must all strive to make positive transformation if we have to have an impact in our lives.

If you do not take the right steps to adapt, the world will leave you behind. After all we live in an ever changing environment. Those who succeed are those who embrace and harness change. Do not be shy from making positive changes in your life. The only way to keep improving your life is to keep on making positive changes. Those who succeed are those who are not scared to make and take bold decisions.

The world is not what it used to be 15 years ago. For example technology has tremendously evolved over the last decades. Take mobile phones, they have rapidly moved from analogue to digital. Now we have smart phones. Gone are the days when a phone was just used for voice calls only. Imagine how difficult it is for people who have resisted change.

Conclusion

The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and
emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing
what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our
behaviours
” – Tony Robbins.

Be the change you would like to see in the world. Fear not your inadequacies. Learn from your past experiences above all take steps to make the change when necessary. I know that sudden change can make you lose your focus, always put your trust and faith in God Almighty he is a great shepherd. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” – Proverbs.

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Do Not Underestimate the Power of Your Actions

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There is power in your actions just as there is power in your tongue. The two are synonymous. You should always be mindful of what you say or do. Most people underestimate the power that God has deposited in each and everyone of us. Within you there is more than sufficient energy and will power to achieve anything that you set your mind to. “Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!” – Tony Robbins.

It is therefore, important that you realise it and stop underrating yourself. One of the reasons why we do not progress and achieve our goals is because we underestimate ourselves. People think they cannot achieve certain things because they do not have such and such. If you are thinking like that, it is a sign of inferiority complex. Please get rid of it. God created us equal and it does not matter whether you are black or white; rich or poor. Remove the colour of your skin and we all have the same blood running through our veins. I have never seen anyone with white or black blood. We all have red blood in our veins.

We all breath the same air. The sun shines on all humanity regardless of your locality and colour of your skin. Darkness falls on both the rich and the poor. Everyone enjoys the same seasons. There are 24hrs in day for all. Someday each and everyone of us will die. Why then do you underestimate the power of your actions? Every great man or woman knows that every action they take leads to something. That is why it is important that you learn to take decisive actions with your life.

Yes, I know that sometimes our actions may seem not to be right with every one at the time. But nature requires us to do the right things. Some of the things I learnt from my late Dad seemed very harsh then. But fast forward I realise that they are now very useful for my survival. I learnt at an early age in life to be independent. My Dad taught me to be more independent. Well, back then it looked like punishment.

Off course as a young man I would have loved to be a little bit more spoiled. Equipped with more knowledge now, I think It would have been a challenge for me to be a more responsible person if I was spoiled.

Your Every Action Builds your Character

Society will always judge you by your actions, simply because this is what they see. They are not preview to your thoughts and feelings. Most of the times they will miss understand your actions. But always remember that for every action you make there is a reaction. Some will be positive and others will be negative reactions. Stay your course and do what you think is right. I always tell my Children that when you do the right things no one is going to bother you. Not even yourself. You will be at peace with everyone.

No matter how small your deeds may be, do not underestimate the power they carry. It may just be saying thank you to a stranger for helping you. That one small deed can go a long way to making someone happy and feel appreciated. I remember one time at church as I was on duty, I offered one of my team members a cup of coffee. For me it was just extending a good gesture to a team mate. I was very touched to find out a few weeks later that it was the only meal he had for that particular day.

You are a sum total of the small things that you do. Your character is built and formed by the little things you do on a daily basis. So matter how small or insignificant you think your actions are, do not underestimate them. You never know who is watching.

Life is a Work in Progress

My life is a continuous work in progress. I don’t think there will ever be a time when things will just happen on auto pilot. I have to constantly keep pushing myself and find ways of improving. Everyday of my life, it dawns on me that am aging and I have to learn how to do certain things as am aging. When I look at people who are really advanced in age and cannot do the very things they used to do when they were much younger. I realise that actually life is a work in progress. At every stage you have to learn, just when you think you have mastered one thing another challenge comes along.

That is why you must quickly learn to become a student of yourself. You may not have the same energy to achieve your goals in the next few years. They say make hay when its summer because you cannot make it when winter comes. In order to move in tandem with this world you must learn to evolve. Develop ideas on how you can change your way of life and remain relevant to the core. The more relevant you are the more you can contribute positively to humanity.

For as long as am able to, it is my intention to continue contributing in my own small way to the cause of personal development and self growth. I will try and write on topics that are relevant and will continue learning and finding more ways of delivering my messages. I will simply not give up. Not just yet.

Confidence Comes From Experience

You can overcome your fears and flaws by gaining experience. Experience is gained through practice. Take the example of driving a car. The first time you do it you are gripped with fear and are nervous. You are lacking in confidence and make a lot of mistakes on the road. The more you practice the more confident you get. After a number of times driving, you are so much confident that you do not even think about it. Even when you make mistakes you are not bothered that much.

Before you gain confidence you will fall and sometimes bruise your self. But if you persist you will soon get the hang of it and your confidence will soon be more than your fear. To apply the principle of improving your confidence the following could be of great use. Identify the areas of your life that are outside your comfort zone. Take a step by ensuring that you venture into your un comfortable zone. The first time will feel very awkward.

It will not be easy the first time and believe me it will not be perfect either. Go on and continue doing it and you will eventually get the hang of it. Remember that it is not practice that makes perfect but, imperfect practice that results in perfectness.

Conclusion

Never underestimate the potential and power of the human spirit”. Your actions are responsible for shaping your character. If you want to build a good reputation you need to guard your heart jealously as this is the source of your actions. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart”.  It is also says “you shall know them by their fruits”. We do not just act from without. We react with what we have. Remember to “never underestimate the power of your actions”.

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You Have the Potential for Improvement

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The potential for improvement lies within you. We all have the power to change and make improvements to our lives. No matter where you are or what you have done before, there is always room and opportunities for growth, the choice is yours. All growth is from within, but it has to be nurtured. Take a seed for example, given the right nutrients and conditions. It sprouts to become a tree and bears fruit. Whether that fruit is good,  depends on the consistency of the nurturing.

Exactly the same with you, but more so that you have the choice and are in control of what you take in. You decide where you want to go and what you want to do. In other words you have a free will. You have the will to be or not to be, the will to do or not to do. The earlier you realise in life, that the power and the potential for improvement is within, the better for you to lay down a solid foundation for yourself. The more you realise that the authority and ability for improvement is within, the more easily you chart your own scope for growth.

But unless and only if you tap into this inner resource, personal improvement will always remain potential. That is the difference between successful and average people. The most successful people have known how to tap into this power to realise their full potential. We have heard about sportsmen and women who were highly rated in the earlier stages of their careers but never got to fulfill their full potential. They say the greatest tragedy of the average man is that they are buried with their never sung songs.

Be a Student of Yourself

This may sound absurd to many, yet it is true. If you have to succeed you need to continuously be a student of yourself. Yes, a student of yourself. Take time to fully, understand your emotions, your desires and your thought patterns. Know your weakness and your strengths. Funny as it may sound, but there are people who do not even know what there weaknesses and strengths are. Learn everything you need to know about yourself.

We are all made differently, I believe that God does not make duplicates. What may work for me might not necessarily work for you. Study and know yourself, I have found out that writing down helps me to remember a lot of stuff. I am not super intelligent so I cannot totally rely on my memory only. That is why I carry a note book with me most of the times. In this note book there are so many things written down.

I am constantly writing down ideas and the things am learning every time. I have attended so many meetings, and it is amazing to notice that many people do not take down notes. Worse still they do not carry note books to meetings. Well I guess it is just me, but I have noted that taking down notes works wonders for me. Every time I sit down to review my notes, it all begins to flow back. This has really helped improve my productivity.

Being a student of yourself entails trying out so many things and finding the things that work best for you. Not everything will work for you. Like I recently discovered that playing soft classical music in the back ground while doing some work, actually works well for me.

The study of your self is a life long process. It means that you must continuously pay attention to yourself. This process also requires some personal time. A time when you can sit down alone and reflect, a time when you can introspect. I usually do this early in the morning and late at night just before going to bed.

Keep Your Eyes on the Ball

You cannot hit a target you cannot see. Life is like a game of football, the general idea is to score more goals than your opponents. In a game of football the target is to hit the ball past the other goalkeeper. To do that you must ensure that your team keeps possession of the ball. This can only be achieved by keeping your eyes on the movement of the ball and ensuring that you have control of the ball.

In life however, you set your own targets and this you must do. If you have not yet found your life’s purpose I strongly encourage you to do so right now and begin to work towards achieving it. Unlike in a football match were you outscore your opponents, in life you will fail many times. Your goal is to keep moving. The closer you move towards achieving your life’s purpose the more progressive you are. This is the only way you can measure your progress. Remember that personal development should be measured only by you and not outsiders.

Just like in the game of football your opponents are also trying hard to score, you must be prepared to face adversities in life. Do not let what people say about you, to be a distraction. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and you have no control over what people think of you. Consider people as spectators watching a football match, they can only cheer and grumble depending on what they see. They have no control of the game, but you have control of the game called life. It is entirely and squarely in your hands.

What matters most is what you think about yourself. That should be what propels you. If you think you are successful well and good enjoy your success. Just keep your mind focused on the task at hand. Work to improve on it and give it your best shot.

Conclusion

We all have the ability to improve our lives. This potential for improvement is God given. God gave us the power and will to decide what we want for our lives. “Consult not your fears, but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you have tried and failed in, but for what is still possible for you to do” – Pope John XXIII. Remember to always standout tall and be counted.

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At the Heart of Every Obstacle Lies an Opportunity

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

There is no short cut. Victory lies in overcoming obstacles everyday“. When life takes a turn and brings about an unexpected obstacles, we react with our emotions. One may face fear, resentment, anger and doubt. It is absolutely humane to react in this manner. Sometimes the obstacles may seem impossible to overcome. They may seem bigger than we can handle. The bigger the problem the more the rewards. I read a story that changed my perspective to the way I view challenges. This story illustrates the opportunities that lies at the heart of every obstacle.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying on the road where the boulder had been.

The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

Change your Attitude

On the path to success always lies big O’s. Some read them as Obstacles, and others read them as Opportunities.

Off course the peasant in the story had to remove the boulder to clear his way, but in doing so he got rewarded. Going round it is was the easy way out. But, then this would not have solved anything and he would have missed out on the unseen reward. He decided to confront the obstacle head on and got his reward. You, see apart from just the gold that he received he also demonstrated responsibility. Just the act of him removing the boulder benefited more people than just him.

Now, we all know that responsibility is a big part of personal development. It is one of the key areas of personal growth and self improvement.

The other lesson learned from the story is that nature is neutral and it pays you for your efforts. Am very sure that if the king had mentioned about the reward the peasant would not have been the one to receive it as they were other people before him. I guess the peasant’s positive attitude towards problem solving was more at play than anything.

Most of the time we miss out on opportunities that could be life changing, all because of our negative attitude. Usually, the hindrances, presented, are telling us something. If you take time and analyse the problem, if you look at it with a positive mind set, it could be pointing you in the right direction for your much needed solution.

Change your attitude, and start looking at challenges with a more positive mental attitude. Overcoming challenges in life is what constitutes personal development. Whatever problems you are facing right now, there is a lesson that life is trying to teach you and they will not get fixed until you learn that lesson.

Learn from your Current Obstacle (s)

To reach maximum potential one must continuously be learning from life. Everyday is an opportunity to improve our lives. The small things that we do are adding up to our lives. We must make a deliberate habit of learning from our daily challenges. You may not be where you want to be in life. Life may have turned out to be what you did not expect. Well, know that you are not alone, there are people in much more difficult situations than you.

The good news though, is that you have built up a wealth of knowledge from your current situation. Armed with it you can change the course of you life. You have gained valuable experiences that have shown you the results of the choices and decisions you have previously made. If you want to make a positive change, you now know what not to do based on your life’s understandings.

I believe you are more and better equipped than before. The hurdles we face in life merely give us a chance to look at things differently. Sometimes, we are so fixed on one thing and do not look at the other side and then bang, we are faced with an obstacle and realise that there is another way of looking at things. The most important thing is not to lose focus and never give-up when faced with adversities. But, use them as a learning base.

Conclusion

Entrepreneurs are simply those who understand that there is little difference between obstacle and opportunity, and are able to turn both to their advantage” – Victor Kiam. The classic story in this article is really an eye opener. It is worth learning from. The story tells many stories and I know that if analysed even further, you will be able to deduce much more from it than I have. You must always try to solve problems than going round them. This is the only way we can help make the world a better place. Standout and always see the opportunity in the obstacles that lie ahead.

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