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8 ways to help you maximise your potential part two

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

This is the second article of a two part series on 8 ways to help maximise your potential. A quick reminder of the definition of the world potential according to the oxford dictionary “potential is having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future“.  Personal development and growth is a vehicle that you can use to help maximise your potential. We are all built with potential, that is waiting to be unleashed and maximised. “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential.. .these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence” – Eddie Robinson. Lets get straight into it and see what the remaining 4 ways are:-

Know yourself

You will be amazed to learn that many of us do not know ourselves very well. It may sound absurd that am talking about knowing yourself but it is very important that you know yourself and have total control of your being. I believe that self knowledge is the starting point of maximising your potential. It gives us an insight into understanding our capabilities. Knowing your self will help you understand where your natural strengths lie and how well you can combine them to take advantage of the prevailing opportunities.

Donald O. Clifton and Paula Nelson in “play to your strengths” outline five different ways in which we can discover our strengths as outlined below:-

  • Listen for yearnings – normally our yearnings are often triggered when we hear or see someone doing something we would like to do or feel we can do it better. You will agree with me that there is something you are yearning to do but do not realise it because you have not paid attention to your self.
  • Watch out for satisfactions – what really satisfies you? When you get a glow of satisfaction from doing something (work related off course) even though we may not understand why, this is most likely one of your strengths.
  • Watch out for rapid learning – a strength is usually characterised by rapid learning. Am very sure that you do have things that you learn more easily than others. This will usually continue for a longtime if not a life time.
  • Be aware of moments of excellence – position your mind to be alert to your moments of excellence. I believe that each and everyone of us has had a moment of excellence in their lives.
  • Watch for total performance of excellence.

Over the years I have learned to be a student of my self. Learning is a continuous process and so from time to time I do a personal re-evaluation. This process has so far proved to be very important and of great use to my personal development and growth.

Make the change for new things

Don’t get stuck in the survival or maintenance modes of personal development and growth. You need to make the change for new things in order to maximise your potential.  We live in an ever changing world and the only way to keep moving forward is to embrace change. Most of us have a reputation of resisting change. I know that change comes with at a price but it must be embraced as it usually comes with different opportunities. “Your current conditions do not reflect your ultimate potential” – Anthony Robbins.

Life demands that we move with time and everyday is a new day. It is also important to be always reading and improving your skill set. Knowledge is key to success and you should always be willing to learn on a daily basis. There instances when you cannot change some situations due to various factors but you can change your mind set and behaviour. The only factor that you have control over is yourself. Many of us fail because we do not want to change our habits and behaviours to accommodate the ever changing environment.

Set your goals and stick with them

Perhaps the starting point to maximise your potential is goal setting. The importance of goal setting cannot be over emphasised. This is one of the cardinal principles in personal development and growth. When your have set your goals it is important that you stick with them and do not be distracted from achieving them. Persistence and perseverance will be key in achieving your goals. Stay focused and motivated as you pursue your goals.

You should set goals that are realistic and achievable. However, you should not limit yourself to setting goals that will not challenge your ability. You are capable of achieving more than you can image. God made you to be a solution to the world and the way I see it now the world needs more solutions than ever. For more details on goal setting please read click here.

Take action

Continuous effort! not strength or intelligence, is the key to unlocking your potential” – Winston Churchill. Maximising your potential requires that you take action. A journey of a thousand miles requires that you make the first step in the right direction. Regardless of what your plans are for your life just get started. Its only when you take action that you begin to realise your potential. Without taking action you will never realise your full potential and a later on maximise it. Taking action is the fuel to living your dream. Once you get started on your journey there will be obstacles that you will encounter. These obstacles should not stop you from re-focusing.

You should make a commitment to achieving your intended life’s purpose. Your success will only be achieved by taking action. Do not let procrastination still your success. Do not let failure stop you from achieving your goals. Instead make a commitment to pursuing your goals and live to enjoy the fruits of your labour. I know for a fact that everything worth while does not come on a silver platter. There is much joy in living your dream without short cuts. I always try to do things right and straight it makes my life much easier and leaves me with a piece of mind. So far so good.

I have made a commitment to ensure that this blog becomes one of the preferred sites in the areas I have fashioned it to be. This commitment is for life. I will continue to write and post articles on this site for as long as I possibly can. I know for a fact that it is helping someone out there and that is the biggest motivation for me. This site is one of my contributions to help change the world for the better.

Conclusion

Consult not your fears, but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you have tried and failed in, but for what is still possible for you to do” – Pope John XXIII. There are many ways that you can use to help maximise your potential, the 8 ways mentioned in both articles are just some of them. I recommend that you develop the habit of reading and have an open mind to learning. Remember that personal development and growth is not a competition but a personal journey to be walked by you alone. Bye for now and  as usual “standout tall and be counted”.

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8 ways to help you maximise your potential part one

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around” ~ Leo Buscaglia. We are all blessed and posses skills and abilities that nobody else possesses quite like we do. God made each and every one of us unique and have a role to play in the world. Just like the body has different parts that make it whole the world has different components that make it complete. Those components represent you and I.

We are all gifted with unique talents and gifts, whether this is talent to show on the world stage, or on a small stage as someone who makes a difference, does not necessarily matter. What is important is for one to play their part and not deprive the world of their talents.

All these talents and abilities if not expressed are just potential. Since we are all blessed with these unique talents the question is how do we make the most of our personal potential? Let’s start by defining or rather establishing the meaning of the word “potential”. According to the oxford dictionary “potential is having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future“. if you have something then you have something to show. There is no point in showing something that you do not have it is not possible. You may not currently know what your talents are until you fully understand and explore your personality. If you have to fulfill your dreams it is imperative that you learn how to maximise your potential. The following methods might just be the answer if you have been on the quest to fulfilling your potential.

Happiness and Goals

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“Look to this day for it is life, the very life of life. In Its brief course lie all the verities and realities of your existence; The bliss of growth; The glory of action; The splendor of beauty; For yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a Vision: But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope. Look well, therefore, to this day!” ~ From the Sanskrit. One of the greatest hindrances for failing to maximise our potential is living an unhappy life. You see, happiness is a choice. You choose either to be happy or otherwise. I have learned that happiness is an antidote for success.

From the time of great philosophers such as Aristotle happiness has been linked to the achievement of goals. That is the more reason why we find so much happiness and pleasure in the work that makes us achieve our goals. Happiness and goal setting cannot be substituted for anything if you have to maximise your potential. Living a happy life will surely motivate you into maximizing your personal potential. Click here to read more on happiness. There is no success without happiness. I think that what drives most of us to succeed is happiness. Happiness therefore is a very important driver to maximizing one’s potential.

Do it your self
“I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore, that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to my fellow-creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again” ~ William Penn. Self development is a do it yourself skill and do it yourself activity. However, you look at it, if you have to maximize your potential; you have to learn how to do it yourself. I have noticed that most of us would rather not do even the easiest of tasks for fear of failure. Yet, we would rather be credited with someone else’s success. From my working experience most of us do not want to take responsibility for our actions especially if they are negative ones.

I believe that to maximize your potential you need to learn and know how get the basics done. I do not know about you but I enjoy doing most of the things on my own. It actually gives me great satisfaction and pleasure when I have accomplished something on my own. I am basically a do it yourself person. This does not mean that I do everything, no no no. I am very much aware of my skills set and know my limitations. If you are in a leading position you must learn how to delegate and supervise your subordinates. One of the greatest skill you need to posses as a leader is the skill of delegation and supervision. As a leader you must learn to give direction and motivation to your followers.

Create your destiny
“That a man can change himself, improve himself, re-create himself, control his environment, and master his own destiny is the conclusion of every mind who is wide-awake to the power of right thought in constructive action” ~ Larsen. “Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not something to be waited for, but rather something to be achieved” ~ William Jennings Bryan. Maximising your potential entails creating your own destiny. We live our destiny by the little things that we do every day. Always remember that your destiny is not a destination but rather the journey that you live.

Philosophers and great thinkers have in the last centuries pondered and puzzled over the extent to which our lives are in our own hands and the extent to which they are pre-ordained. There are many thoughts and arguments but the main thought that comes out very clearly and distinct is that we can all set ourselves on the path we want by making up our minds to it. This has been proven that even in the most limiting societies we still have a free will to try. For if you are trying to achieve something then that is your first step to creating your destiny. If you are like me and are learning to maximise your potential then you are living your destiny.

Improve yourself
“Rely on your own strength of body and soul. Take for your star self-reliance, faith, honesty and industry. Don’t take too much advice — keep at the helm and steer your own ship, and remember that the great art of commanding is to take a fair share of the work. Fire above the mark you intend to hit. Energy, invincible determination with the right motive, are the levers that move the world” ~ Noah Porter. Even though nature compels us to improve, there are two opposing forces at play; to stay where we are and consolidated what you have gained or to explore what is still possible to achieve and know how far we can go.

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The majority of us would rather not venture with the second force. We would rather take the safe and secure one, yet continue wondering what we might have missed out. This to me is the situation to most of us. We sit on our potential and die with it. Those who take the second risky path go on adventures seeking to maximise what they posses. This though comes at a cost and it is worth paying for. Have you ever noticed that the good things in life are not free? If you are not exploring your talents then I can assure you that you have taken the comfort zone. Get out there and explore your talents. You might just be the answer the world has been waiting for. I know the most common excuse that most of us have; I have no money or resources. If you think your idea that is good enough go for it and start living your dream.

Conclusion
I will end here for now. Lookout for part two in which I concluded with the remaining four ways to maximise your potential. Remember to always standout tall and be counted“.

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5 Ways to improve your confidence

This is one of my long articles. Feel free to bookmark it and come back later to finish reading it. Self-confidence is something that people find difficult to have. There are people who find low self-confidence influences the way they see themselves and their performance. Contrary to what most people think, self confidence is not something that only the gifted and blessed could have.  With the help of personal mastery, individuals could now start building on their self-confidence. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face” Eleanor Roosevelt. Self confidence is a requisite to personal development. Having an improved self-confidence can really improve your general work out put.

Personal mastery is about self-development and self-improvement. It is about loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are. You need to acknowledge your weaknesses and at the same time strengthen them. To improve your self confidence it is important to know and accept your weaknesses. I believe that identifying your weaknesses is the first step to personal improvement. Many of the times we like to ignore our weaknesses and concentrate mainly on perfecting our strengths. I have written down my weaknesses and strengths and keep reviewing them from time and again. I have found this very helpful and would recommend it to anyone.

To attain personal mastery and confidence, it is important to believe in yourself. It is also important to be content with yourself. Self belief and contentment lead to building a solid self-confidence. It is very difficult to achieve personal development without being content with yourself. To develop self-confidence, self-acceptance should occur.  Self-acceptance is about accepting not only the good things in life, but also the failures in life. Failure is only failure if accepted. You must always treat failure as a learning curve. When you fail the first time re-organise yourself, analyse your failure and move on. Do not stop at failure.

And now the suggested five ways to help you improve your self-confidence

Understand your thoughts and emotions

Many of us find it very difficult to understand our thoughts and emotions, yet understanding these can unlock huge potentials for improving self confidence. Forgetting about a bad habit or behaviour would make us more aware about our thoughts and emotions. By becoming aware of our emotions and behaviour, then we will be able to overcome and correct our behaviour. Behavioural control and correction is one of the key important elements to improving self confidence. I have noticed that a lack of confidence is mainly our negative behaviour and most of the times we are very aware of it. It is very rare that if you put on your positive behaviour you will experience a low self confidence.

Understanding your emotions is very critical. Your emotions will usually dictate your mood. It is therefore important that we always try to replace our negative emotions with good ones. A few practical ways to know your emotions is to observe and write down the feelings and emotions you experience; observe and or write down the preceding events and duration of your emotions. I have noticed with time that my emotions are largely affected by my thoughts. Hence I always try to keep my thoughts positive.

By knowing the root cause for your emotions you can learn to take control of them. Flee from sorrowful emotions and make the decision to improve your mood. You deserve to be happy.

Self discipline

Self discipline is perhaps the number one factor for self growth. Without discipline very little can be achieved in life. I have not come across a successful who is indisciplined. When we set our goals on achieving our intended purposes in life, discipline and focus in what keeps us from swaying away from them. We graduate from school because we are disciplined to study hard.

Changing attitude and behaviour, or even perspective might take a while. Change does not happen overnight. You need to gather enough knowledge and start learning and practicing the skills that you would like to improve and develop. To do this you need to be disciplined. This is an essential ingredient that is found wanting in many of us. Discipline comes through self control. This means that one must control negative qualities.

Have a clear vision

To be able to move forward in your life, it is important to have clarity. Have a purpose written down. Seeing what you want to have in a clearer image would encourage you to work for it. That is why it is important that you write down your intended purpose in life and read it every day. I would encourage you read it every night. I read my every night before going to sleep.

Having a defined purpose in life, acts as a guide and motivation for living. I know that most of us live by the day. If you do not have a defined purpose and vision for yourself I would encourage you to think about formulating one. At first your vision might not be as clear as possible but just start working on it. You will begin to see a clearer picture of your destination. You will be amazed at how much self-confidence you can have just by writing down your intended purpose in life.

You have a choice

You can choose what you want to experience. Doing something important for you and something you love, would give you enough confidence to continue with what you have started. The beauty about being human is that God gave us a choice. You have the will to choose whatever you want to be. You can choose to be confident or not. We are made up of the choices we make in life. If you take a look at yourself you will realize that you are where you are because of the choices you have previously made.

It is their wise to make choices that are self building. I know that some choices are difficult to make but, remember that choices are there to be made and they have to be made. You have a choice and the choice is yours. Bear in mind that the choices we make today have a direct effect on our tomorrow. We are continuously shaping our future by the choices we are making today.

Commitment and trusting

To be able to attain personal mastery for development and growth, you need to trust yourself that you can undergo the process and commit yourself on the process.

When developing self-confidence through personal mastery, we would have to develop some characteristics. We would develop self awareness, which is about our readiness to look at our past, accept it and the same goes for the present.  Aside from this, we also develop self-knowledge which is about understanding our past and our attitude. Not only should we understand them but also be able to comprehend the basis for such attitude or experience. Last, we develop self discipline.  Self-discipline is about how we make sure that our goals and vision are translated in action and achieved.  We need self discipline to make sure that we do not back-out just because of simple and little disappointments and setbacks.

Conclusion

Building self-confidence can’t be done on just a snap. Self-improvement is a never-ending process. There are people who even acknowledge that self-improvement can last even for a life-time.  Sometimes, we can only say that we are fully masterful of our life if we have reached our dreams and goals. Improving our confidence can help with growth and eventually with success. We just need to continue with our dreams and be patient and so always “standout tall and be counted”.

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