Personal Development

5 Reasons Why You Should Be Responsible For Your Life

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


Life is what you make of it. If you make it happy you will enjoy happiness. If you make it boring you will definitely be bored; make it positive and you will live a positive life. You take out of life, what you give it, nothing less and nothing more.

In other words you are responsible for your own life. You are responsible for creating the life that you want. You can chart the course of your life. No one has the right to prescribe what your life should be or look like, without your permission. This is your birth right and your responsibility.

Quit blaming people for what you do not have or have not achieved and start doing something about it. If you are miserable you are solely responsible for ensuring that you change it.

In the first place you must realise that you are the one who got yourself where you are, based of the decisions and choices you have made.

This is what many people do not realise, that it is everyone’s responsibility to make decisions that will help chart their own lives.

Instead, they wait for someone to come and make decisions for them and they end up waiting for eternity or continue living a life that is controlled by other people.

Do you realise that every decision you make has an immediate or future influence on your life? Your life is made of the small decisions and choices you make everyday.

That is why it is important to the make right decisions and choices that have a lasting and positive influence on your life.

As human beings we have a tendency of turning a blind eye to facing the reality of making those tough decisions and choices. Especially, if the decisions will lead to some temporal set backs. This is a bad habit that must be broken.

If you do not make the decision to resolve certain problems, they have a way of showing up in future. It could just be the reason why certain things are going wrong in your life. Have the courage to make decisions and learn to live with the consequences.

Do not shy away from making those uncomfortable hard decisions that could make or break your life. Do not allow people to take away your responsibility for your own life.

Take Control of Your Destiny

The results of being responsible for your life are many. When you are in control of your life, you also control your destiny. You decide what is good for you and what is not good for you.

You decide what your life should look like, what direction it should take and what it should be. In other words you are the captain of your life.

Yes, sometimes things will not go accordingly, but you will be absolutely pleased that you are responsible for everything that happens to your life because, you made the decisions and choices yourself. The other thing you will take away is that you will have no one, but you to blame.

Instead you will find solutions to fix your current inadequacies and correct the situation. Equally, when you succeed you will take all the credit.

Well, you know how it feels to be credited with success. This is what makes life worth living for, the ability to make adjustments and decisions that help propel your life forward.

It doesn’t mean that things will be easy when you are in control, No. But it motivates you to do even more things that make you happy. You set your own goals and move at your own pace.

Experience Personal Freedom

Every good thing comes with a responsibility. Being responsible is a requisite for personal freedom. Its an expression of personal freedom and signifies maturity. It is a good measure to use as a self check to achieving personal development and self improvement.

My son was learning about his rights as a child at school. One day when he came back home from school he was very excited to tell me about his rights, I asked him to list them down one by one.

What I noticed is that he was not told by the teacher that to every right there is a responsibility. He was only told one side of the story.

I got his list and also wrote down the responsibilities that go with the rights he had listed down. It then dawned on him that to very right he has, there is also a requirement to take responsibility in order to enjoy the right fully.

I think that is the way life should be. Personal freedom and responsibility go hand in hand. If you want to enjoy freedom you must take responsibility for it.

We must ensure that we put in place things that will propel our freedom without infringing on other peoples freedoms. We must learn to coexist as human beings.


Accountability is “responsibility to someone or for some activity.” If you are married you are responsible and accountable to your spouse. Yes, it is your responsibility to be accountable. I know that most men do not want to be accountable to their wives. But it is our responsibility and duty to do that.

I believe that we are all accountable to one another not only our spouses but to the community at large. How we live our lives is a reflection of how accountable we are.

How then, can you be accountable if you are not in charge of your own life. I am a Christian and believe that one day God will ask us to give an account for our lives.

Being accountable is being responsible. If you work for an Audit or Law firm you are taught to account for your time by way of filling in a time sheet on a regular basis.

You have to be in control of your time because every minute you spend on a file is charged to the client. This is just one way of asking you to be responsible with your time. You do not want to over charge a client and you also want to give the best advice or service possible.

A Sense of Belonging

You feel a sense of appreciation when you are contributing to a just cause. You can only contribute more when you are in control of yourself. Those who are totally in charge of their lives contribute more positively to society than those who are not in control of themselves.

As you may well know, that human beings are social by nature. Belonging is the feeling of security and support when there is a sense of acceptance, inclusion and identity for a member of a certain group. We all strive to be accepted socially because that is in our nature.

Creating genuine feelings of belonging, is a critical factor in improving engagement and performance. You should not force your acceptance to a group by giving up your responsibility for your life. You have the power and will to choose what type of relationships to belong to.

It Is Your Duty

Your life is your responsibility. It is your duty to look after it and do what you feel is right with it. At the end of the day it is you who will be answerable for it to your creator. You will stand in the “dock” and be answerable for how you spent it. What you did with it.

Taking responsibility is acknowledging that you are taking control of your life, it is telling your friends and the world that you are in charge and not your spouse, father, mother or any one else.

It brings out the best in you. It is your duty and your birth right to be in charge of yourself.


One of the most important aspects of taking responsibility for your life is that you will live your life according to your will. No one will live it for you and everything you accomplish will be dully credited to you.

No one will take away the joy you and happiness you will experience. Make sure you are responsible for your life.

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Mental Health

Why is a Positive Mental Attitude Important?

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with a wrong mental attitude” – Thomas Jefferson.

Attitude is everything. At the heart and core of personal development is mental attitude. Success or failure is largely determined by ones’ reaction to their environment. The ability to react is a result of your mentality.

How you react to adversity; your ability to grow and learn and your ability to overcome challenges are all factors that are largely influenced by your mental attitude.

What determines your success or failure is your attitude towards life. If you have a positive mental attitude you are more likely to succeed. That is why it is very important to keep a positive mental attitude.

For this reason, you will agree, that one of the most important personal assets to continuously make improvements on, is your mental attitude. If you want to achieve more, you must ensure that you work on improving your mental attitude.

It is the get way to life’s opportunities. How you react to different situations will determine what course of action you will take.

You may not realise it but, sometimes opportunities come and they pass you by, simply because of your negative way of thinking.

The most successful people are those that have a positive mentality even when they are faced with adversity. Yes, I know that sometimes it is very difficult to stay positive, but if you want to succeed you need to put on a positive mentality.

They say “the only disability in life is a bad mental attitude.” We all have weaknesses. I always say that we are all challenged in one way or the other. But, the only disability is having a bad mentality.

I have seen people who are physically challenged, yet are successful in life. A good example is one of my favourite preachers Nick Vujicic.

This is a man who is physically challenged yet with great charisma and a positive mental attitude towards life. I find his teachings amazing.

The reality with life is that we are solely responsible for forming our own attitudes. God has given us the authority and willpower to be in charge and be responsible for our own characters.

It Has an Effect on Your Life

Your attitude is usually formed over a period of time due to your life’s experiences. However, your reaction and actions towards any given situation are but your choice.

You have the power and will to choose how you are going to react to any given situation. Only you are in charge of the willpower to choose.

Your reaction towards life also has a bearing on both your long and short-term achievements. The negative reactions will usually delay your success rate and increase your failure rate.

What you want in life is to increase your chances of success, which can only be done with a positive attitude.

The more positive your attitude is the more increased your chances of success is.

Like I have said before that life is enjoyed when you triumph. Winning can be addictive just as losing can be demoralising.

It’s like in sport, the more you win, the more motivated you are and the more invincible you feel. However, the opposite is true, the more you lose the more demoralised you feel.

Am sure it takes more energy and a great attitude to reverse a losing streak in any situation.

The effects of having a positive way of thinking on your life is the ultimate feeling you should be aiming for. You have better self-esteem and your confidence is enhanced.

Confidence naturally reduces your stress levels and you develop a feel-good factor about yourself, that leads to more happiness. After all, the ultimate goal in life is to live a happy and healthy life.

It Can Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

As mentioned before having a positive attitude has many benefits among them is the improvement and boosting of your self-esteem.

The quality of your life and the way you feel about yourself are all linked to your mental attitude.

The more positive your mental attitude is, the better the quality of your life.

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” – Brian Tracy.

If you think positively, you will feel happier. If you are negative, you’ll feel pretty dull. Boost your self-esteem by looking at yourself in a positive light and picking out the things you like about yourself. Also, turn any negative features or characteristics into positives.

People will always have an opinion about you, it’s important to not let what others think to bother you, and to really try not to worry yourself about what they think at all.

I have a personal rule, of not paying so much attention to things that I have no control of. One of which is that you will never have control of what people think or say about you. Make it a policy that they do not affect your happiness.

Always remember that everything action you take has consequences and it is basically a reflection of your inner being. Like I said before you have the willpower to make better choices.

As mentioned above attitudes are formed through experience. They are learnable. This means that both positive and negative mental attitudes have been learned over time. Just like anything else that can be learned they can also be unlearned.

According to a Stanford Research Institute study, the path to success is comprised of 88% attitude and only 12% education. This does not negate the importance of education but goes to show how vital a positive mental attitude is to success.

Self-esteem can only be boosted by unlearning the negative way of thinking and replacing it with a positive one.

It Can Improve Your Motivation

You are motivated when you are sure of yourself. Motivation is a product of having a positive outlook. Motivation is key to achieving your personal development and self-improvement.

When you are of good cheer, nothing can stand in your way. Yes, you will stumble but will turn adversity to your advantage. A person of good cheer will surely succeed in life because they will be razor-focused on achieving their goals.

“When you change the way you look at things; the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer.


“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” – Brian Tracy.

Having a positive mental attitude is what you should be working towards achieving.

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Why it is Important to Measure Your Progress

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer


Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants.” – Horace.


Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” – Unknown


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.


“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.”  – Newell D. Hillis.


You have to measure what you want more of” – Charles Coonradt. Self-improvement takes a lot of hard work. Writing, being productive, managing your finances and improving your social life, all of these
pursuits take a great deal of energy and time. They can also be a little overwhelming and they all need to be measured to ascertain your progress.

Life is not static, it is dynamic. Things are always in motion. Life dictates that we grow and that all growth is from inside. Change is inevitable. The things we used to do five years ago cannot be done today. What was fashionable a few years ago is no longer fashionable now. This therefore, demands that you measure your progress every step of the way, if you have to keep up with life. Many of us have remained behind and are just moving with the wind. They say time waits for no one.

If you want to succeed you need to develop habits that will help you achieve your objectives. Now, I would not consider my self as  successful, but I know that am on the right track and path. Although, I still remain a very much work in progress in many aspects of my life I equally have made great success in some other aspects of which am very happy and proud of. It is very important that we learn how to measure and monitor our progression in life. In doing so we must also bear in mind that we are living our own race and are not in competition with anyone. This is very important.

Many of the times, people end up taking short cuts and find themselves in an wanted situations. It is not good to cut corners in life. One of the people I was privileged to have met and I thank God for bringing him in my life, was an engineer. I met this man for a few years but oh the wisdom he shared with me was very valuable. He became a father like figure to me even though we met on a professional level. The man always used to encourage me to do the right things and never cut corners because life has a way of catching up.

He shared with me his personal life experiences and you could see that even in his advanced age he had nothing to hide. From him I learnt that those who live to enjoy life are those who do the right the things all the time, even when it is not fashionable amongst their peers.

If you have to be successful at what ever you do, it is very important that you learn how to measure your progress. Knowing how to measure ones progress in life is one of the yards sticks of achieving your goals. This however, is not taught in schools. Yet, measuring progress is the norm at school and often times the teacher will give you a test. The purpose of the examination is to gauge the progress of the learners. It even gets worse when you attend tertiary institutions were you cannot proceed to the next semester without passing exams.

I believe that we need to change our educational system to start teaching learners how to be successful and not just for the sake of acquiring knowledge. Success principles must be included as put of our school curriculum. “Success has always been easy to measure. It’s the distance between one’s origins and one’s final achievement” – Michael Korda.

With the demands of life what has helped me greatly is to know how to measure my progress. Measuring my progress has more benefits in helping me be the right track. It helps me to be more efficient on my productivity; am more organised as I keep reviewing my performances regularly; I get more and more organised. Right now I have become a little more efficient on my article writing because I jot down my ideas as they pop up. This efficiency is largely due to reviewing my progress on a regular basis.

If you critically think about it. Your natural inclination is always to improve. How then do you know where you are going without keeping score of your progress? If you were to keep a scoresheet on the five things that would advance your personal and professional objectives the most, imagine how motivated you would be each time the numbers improved in your favour.


Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided” – Tony Robbins. Decide where you need to keep score in order to manifest your vision and achieve your goals. Make sure to keep measuring your progress in all the areas of your life.

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Leadership Mental Health Personal Development

3 reasons why leaders fail

We are all born leaders in one way or another. If you are not leading people, at least you are responsible for the leadership of your life. You will agree with me that a good leader takes risks and sometimes fails, the distinguishing  factor is that an effective leader learns from  his failure and moves forward. It is an realistic to assume that all forms of leadership are a success. In this article I outline some of the reasons why leaders fail. There are many factors though but I feel that the ones outlined below are the major reasons.

  • Not sharing and understanding the Vision

A good leader will share his vision or plan. This will allow his followers to understand him and see how they can fit in his vision or plan. I have noticed that most of our leaders have no clear cut vision to share. I have noted with displeasure especially amongst our African politicians. They have a tendency of not having a clear cut vision for their people and hence end up failing when they are in government.

Sharing the vision of the company or any other venture is very important. For the young manager it is very important that you understand the vision of the company before you get into leadership positions. A leader who does not know or understand the company vision and goals will be leading a team without goals. I want to liken this to a sports team. The manager of a football team knows that the vision and objective of the game is to produce positive results in this case beat every opponent in order to lift the first prize. He will then prepare his team accordingly and imparting the vision to his team members, in order to achieve the set goals.

If you are a CEO of a company and the your company has no vision for the future. Please formulate one and pass it on to your team and see how they will take it. Most likely they will quickly realign themselves to fit it.

  • Do Not Listen

Real leadership requires that you spend time listening to your team members. I have worked with a CEO who does most talking than listening and I can tell you he was not an inspiring leader. We had a high labour turnover at work and even the ones he really thought would stay longer did not. Reason being he was always talking and not listening and taking in criticism.

Giving a deaf ear to your team members’ suggestions and observations is a very good recipe for failure. A good and progressive leader will encourage his team players to speak out and give them an opportunity to heard. By not listening and taking constructive criticism the leader will end up having to make wrong and catastrophic decisions. I want to believe that if you cannot listen then you are not a leader you are a boss. Only bosses make final decisions without listening to other people’s inputs.

Leaders who are successful over the period have mastered the art of listening and allowing all the stakeholders to candidly express their opinions.

  •  Do not widen the Circle of Involvement

My last observation for leaders failure is a luck of widening the circle of involvement. As a company grows a strong leader will realise that there is need for more players to get involved. This is not the case nowadays as most companies want to maximise on profits and spend less on the much needed team players. There is something that most people in leadership positions forget and that is that you are made successful by your team and not yourself. Your team is capable of making you succeed or indeed fail. Having a widened circle of participants is good for company growth.

Great leaders continuously engage and involve more people in their vision. This will bring about change and support will grow both naturally and organically. With support from most of your team members the sky is the limit.


Ultimately there is no formula for leadership success. You can only find suggestions and how you apply them entirely depends on the kind of organisation and team players your are handling. The situations at play are different at all times hence I would encourage you to read more on leadership. I truly hope you found this article of great use. Bye for now and always remember to “standout tall and be counted”.

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4 Reasons why memory should be improved on

Surely there can never be personal growth without someone having a Memory. Perhaps one of the key physical ingredient to personal development is having a good memory. We use it in our daily lives but often we take it for granted. Imagine life without memory. You would not even remember your own family. Yet not many people realize the important function that memory has in our lives. But this should not be the case. Having a great memory is vital to our survival and personal growth. The ability to remember is what is called memory. This ability can either be improved or neglected.

Most of us are content with an average size memory. The little science I know tells me that the difference between being a smart student and and average one is the ability to quickly recall what has been learned when needed. Thus, it is important that you take steps to better your memory. Here are 4 reasons why you should:

Memory defines who we are
Our daily lives are made up of the things we do and the things we do are stored up in our memory. The memories in your lives define who you are. Try erasing all your memories and you will not have a sense of who you are. It is the experiences that we have in the past that will determine who will be in the future. Without a memory of the past, we will find it hard to go forward in the future. Most of the decisions we make today are based on our past experiences. Without which we will have to start building relationships again and have a sense of who we are like what we did when we were still growing up.

In all our entire lives we heavily depend on our memory. I cannot remember a day I never used my memory maybe you can. I say this to stress the point that our memory defines who we are. You are nothing without memory.

It helps us learn
We are continuously learning things in our everyday lives and we use our memory to learn new things and develop new skills. Without memory I can bet anyone they would not have been schools. It would have been impossible learn. Memory is actually important in school where we need to memorize a lot of information in order to pass our examinations. Memory is the one that we rely on when it comes to examinations and recitations. But memory is not just for memorizing. Knowledge is also acquired with the use of memory. We learn to do things because of our brain’s work.

As I said before learning is a continuous process that cannot be achieved without the aid of memory. The sharper your memory the quicker you will learn new things. It is therefore, very important that you improve on your memory for this purpose. Un improved memory is a get way to doing things better and faster.

It helps us with our jobs
Although we will not be answering examination questions when we are on the job, we need memory to help keep up with our schedules and the meetings that we have had with people. There are professionals who rely a lot on excellent memory. You need it as a secretary when you have to be on top of your boss’ schedules. You need it when you are a journalist especially in remembering statements that your interviewees have made. You even need it as the owner of the company. You need to remember all the products that you are manufacturing, the capital that you used and the income that you get for the second quarter of the year etc.

You need it especially of you are like me who deals with figures every day. I always have to answer questions from the top of my head in meetings. I cannot imagine what it would be like if I lost my memory today. I would definitely find it very difficult to work. Even as I write this blog I am heavily relying on my memory.

It helps build relationships
People who easily remember the names of people are seen as much warmer and more intelligent than those who can’t remember names even on the same night. This is why personal relations employees are trained to remember names on an instant as this shows respect and appreciation for others. When people remember our names, we feel a sense of importance and we in turn forward those feelings of good will to that person.

Having an excellent memory also helps people remember birthdays. This is especially true with men who usually forget dates of anniversaries and birthdays especially for their spouses. People who remember special dates come across as more thoughtful and more caring as opposed to those who forget all the time. Even if remembering birthdays are not really a sign of love or a measure of love, people still see it that way.

Memory is actually a reflection of our mental processes. Having excellent memory usually means that you have great brain power. Thus, when you are making an effort to better your memory, you are also improving the way you think. And with that, you don’t really need so many reasons.

We must always keep our memory in excellent condition as it forms an integral part of our personal development. No single person I know can achieve their personal goals without having an excellent memory. Our memory defines what we are, what decisions to make and who we want to associate with. Always remember to “standout tall and be counted” and commit what you have read today to memory.

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