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The Most Important Change Begins With You

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

The fact that you are still alive and still on this earth, going through what you are going through, I want you to know that God has a plan for you. Look around and dig deep inside you and begin to work on the inner you. If you have to succeed you have to know that the most important change begins with you. You possess all that you need to achieve your goals.

Stop complaining about how over weight you are, when you are eating anything that comes around and not going to to the gym. Don’t complain about the quality of your life if you are not doing anything to improve it. You have no right to complain about your pay when you are not not doing a thing to improve your skills. Change your mind and begin living a life of happiness.

Living happy is not a just an opportunity or a privilege. You have a responsibility to enjoy happiness. Decide and determine your own happiness.

You hold the key to change your life. Why are you complaining about how bad things are around you, If you are surrounding yourself with them? Begin by changing your mind and the way you look at things. Why are you complaining about the quality of friends you have when you entertain them?

Just because you have been invited doesn’t mean you have to attend. Just because someone has called you doesn’t  mean you have to call them back. If you are in a pub and someone is offering you alcohol doesn’t mean you have to consume it. You have the power to say no. Quit giving those lame excuses, you have the will power to do the right things.

Just because your homey’s are partying doesn’t mean you have to party. You have a responsibility to your own life. Just because you are down doesn’t mean you cannot get up. You will fall many times before you succeed. Just like like a baby falls many times when learning how to walk. Just because you have made mistakes in life doesn’t mean that’s the end of the world. Who does not make mistakes?

Change Your Mind and Change Your Life

If you are down, get up. Its time to make that important change and move your life to another level. Stop feeling pity for yourself. Yes, you are the reason why you are not employed. You are the one in that unhealthy relationship. But, what are you doing about it? You can change the way you feel by changing the way you think.

Self pity will only make you more miserable and sad. Self pity will not change anything; complaining will even compound your situation. Get a grip on your life by changing the way you think. Look, if you are not in control of your life someone else is. Someone else is making decisions for you; someone else is determining how much you should be paid.

When you change your mind set new doors begin to open up. You begin to write a whole new, better chapter of your life. You begin to possess the very things that you long for in your life. The talents, ideas, the gifts and imaginations you have all begin to come to life. Do not let your poverty mentality determine your destiny.

You begin to attract the very things that have eluded you before.  Look, God created you to succeed. Even before he created this world he had you in mind. Don’t allow your mind to be a stumbling block to your destiny. Do not be afraid of the unknown. If you can see the invisible you can do the impossible. Venture into the unknown and stop being afraid of the unfamiliar.

Your mind is the biggest asset and tool for improving your well being. It is in your mind that change is cultivated, nurtured and birthed. “Everything changes when you change” – Jim Rohn.

Why Important Change is Valuable

Change makes you break your cycle. It motivates you to look beyond your comfort zone. Change makes you venture into new dimensions of your life. It exposes you to things that you never would have experienced. With change you begin to look at life from a different perspective. Positive change makes you feel in control of your life.

I believe that positive transformation is a huge sign of ones personal growth. Not many people embrace change easily. It therefore, means that we must all strive to make positive transformation if we have to have an impact in our lives.

If you do not take the right steps to adapt, the world will leave you behind. After all we live in an ever changing environment. Those who succeed are those who embrace and harness change. Do not be shy from making positive changes in your life. The only way to keep improving your life is to keep on making positive changes. Those who succeed are those who are not scared to make and take bold decisions.

The world is not what it used to be 15 years ago. For example technology has tremendously evolved over the last decades. Take mobile phones, they have rapidly moved from analogue to digital. Now we have smart phones. Gone are the days when a phone was just used for voice calls only. Imagine how difficult it is for people who have resisted change.

Conclusion

The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and
emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing
what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our
behaviours
” – Tony Robbins.

Be the change you would like to see in the world. Fear not your inadequacies. Learn from your past experiences above all take steps to make the change when necessary. I know that sudden change can make you lose your focus, always put your trust and faith in God Almighty he is a great shepherd. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” – Proverbs.

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Self Improvement

Start With What You Have

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Everything that you want to be or achieve in life, begins with what you have. You cannot give what you do not have. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them” – Henry David Thoreau. The biggest challenge the average person has is starting with what they have. Most of the times we want to wait until we have accumulated a certain amount of money before we invest in an idea; we want to wait until we start earning a certain amount of money before we can start saving. But here is the thing, distractions will always be there. Worse still the opportunity may just pass you by. Yes, you may not succeed at the first attempt. But the experience, you will have gained is very valuable for your next project or idea.

Most people who succeed start with the little they have and grow their resources as they progress. In fact, some of the people that have gone on to be successful started with nothing. If you want to start a business, resources do not necessarily mean finances. Resources could just be the skills you have or even the idea you are harbouring is a resource. One of the biggest resources that is over looked by start-up entrepreneurs’  is the human capital.

Many of the times we always want to justify our fears. We are scared of failure; embarrassment and rejection. Justifying our fears is having a poverty mentality. Yes, I call it justifying, our poverty mentality because this is most common among poor people. I cannot start this business because its time consuming; who says being in business does not require your time? Stop giving excuses and get on with your life.

Just Get Started

The company Nike have a very good motto that I like so much “just do it”.  Stop justifying your poverty mentality and get started with whatever, it is that you want to achieve. Look, before starting this website, I had so many excuses. What will people think about me; I am not sure if I can generate enough writing ideas, were some of the lame excuses I was giving. Well a few years down the line am still writing. This site has over 120 original articles published with an average of about 1000 words per posting. I now, have even discovered more ways to keep generating new ideas. Yes, am aware that for now this site may not be as popular as I would want, but slowly and with time it will achieve the intended goals.

When you start, things begin to fall in place. Your mind begins to direct you in a certain way. By doing what you love everyday, you attract the right resources. It is entirely up you to harness them. It is the beginning that is always difficult, but as you go on you grow in confidence. As you grow in confidence, you grow in stature and this gives you even more confidence. Do not be afraid to change your methods.

With every article I publish my confidence is growing and I believe that even my writing skills are being sharpened. My thinking is much more clearer and my plans for this website are even more refined and clearer. Developing ideas has become even more easier.

Today as I write this article I have more than 20 ideas that need to be actualised. Everyday, I keep adding onto this list. My ideas are ahead of my writing skills and ability. It was not like this, a few years ago when I was starting this website. It was a struggle and even when ideas would pop up writing them was still a challenge. But, over time writing has become more easier.

One Day You Will be Proud

Sometimes it seems not fashionable to start small.  The bible says do not despise the days of your humble beginnings. We only admire business empire’s when they are big. When they become house hold names. Yet, we forget that Rome was not built in one day. These same big corporations that are now flourishing started small. Some of them started in backyards and garages. Alas, the owners are now proud when they sit back and look at how far they have come.

It takes time and hard work to build something worthwhile. Imagine the joy you get when you see something of your creation flourishing. I cannot wait to see this site grow to those levels. Am still very proud of it and proud of my self. For now my job is to continue doing what am currently doing.

Improve on Your Skills Set

Once you start and get going with whatever, you intend to do, make time to improve your skill set. This is important. Devote your time and energy to ensure that you achieve your dreams. If your intention is financial freedom, improve your financial management skills. If it means taking further education just do it. With the advent of the internet and advancement in technology, education today has become more accessible than ever.

Improving your skill set could be the difference to earning more income and moving up the ladder quickly. Now, to improve your skill set does not necessarily mean acquiring formal education. I know that it is important to be formally educated. But you can improve your skill set in many ways. You could find materials such as books, audios and videos on the internet. Currently am reading materials on how to improve my writing skills am not formally enrolled in any college or university.

It is safe for me to say am getting an education. I know for sure that reading more will enhance my writing skills and off course this will have more benefits for my readers. The more sharper my skill set the more quality articles I generate. This obviously translates to enjoying my life even more.

Conclusion

You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you” – Brian Tracy. Successful people start with what they have. They do not wait for the so called right time. They strike when the iron is still hot. I guess the right time to take your first step is now. You never know what the morrow will bring forth. Remember to “standout and start with what you have”.

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How to Keep Peace With Your Adversaries

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him “ – Buddha. We all have adversaries in life. Countries are at war because of perceived enemies; people are fighting and killing each other because of perceived differences and creating adversaries. Peace seems to be in short supply across the world. Even in our own homes husbands and wives cannot stay together peacefully. Especially during the current imposed lock down due to the COVID – 19 pandemic.

The world we know to day is not as it was a few years ago. There seems to be a break down of peace in the world today. It seems to me that when you belong to a different grouping or race you are enemies. And for some of us who live in countries that have enjoyed relative peace for a very long time we seem to be taking it for granted. We seem to have forgotten that the peace we enjoy today was fought for by our fore fathers. I have been doing some reading and researching on how we can learn to maintain peace with our perceived enemies. Key word perceived.

I came to a conclusion that most of the reasons for the enmity around us is purely greediness, ignorance and fear of the unknown. Most of us are scared of what we don’t know or understand. You see fear exposes our weaknesses and we counter it by being angry and hateful. It makes us want to eliminate that which makes us angry and in the process we lose our peace.

I came across a very interesting story by Daryl Davis. He is one of the very few black men who used to attend rallies of the Ku Klux Klan popularly known as the KKK. Daryl had become friends with the Grand Dragon of the Klan and over time he would be invited to attend their rallies. At the rallies he was even allowed to take pictures. Now if you know what the KKK stood for, you will agree with me that this was an extraordinary friendship. Even though the leader of the Klan insisted that he was superior to Daryl justified by the differences in their skin colour.

In his story Daryl stresses that ignorance breeds fear. For sure we are as human beings are always fearful of the things we do not understand. I have experienced fear without actually knowing what the fear is all about. I believe this is just a defense mechanism we have developed overtime. If only we could take more time to understand our adversaries. We would be making the right decisions and learn to live in peace. It is amazing how we hate people we do not even know based on the colour of their skin or tribe or political grouping. Yet most of us profess to be Christians. The bible I read tells me that “Do onto others what you would want them do onto you” it also tells me that “we are all equal before the eyes of God”. Find here below Daryl Davis telling his story.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORp3q1Oaezw
Daryl Davis speaking about his experience with the Ku Klux Klan

Conclusion

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other” – Mother Teresa. Perhaps we need to be reminded that we are all interconnected and belong to each other. If we can spend time to respect and accept each others uniqueness the world would be a better and peaceful place for all. After all God instructs us to love our enemies as we love ourselves. Remember to standout tall and be counted and keep the conversation going with your adversaries.

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Motivational Personal Development Self Growth

Living with hope

Motivational Quotes

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe” – Anatole France.

 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Serenity Prayer

 

Cease to ask what the morrow will bring forth, and set down as gain each day that Fortune grants” – Horace.

 

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called present” – Unkonwn

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

He who has health has hope, and he who has hope has everything“. Have you ever felt that you are on the brink of success? That you can smell success in the air? That you can actually see success coming your way? That you can’t help but succeed in whatever you are doing? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you have hope. Keep the hope alive success is actually coming your way.

We all hope for something. We go to school with the hope of having a better and brighter future. No one on this earth can say that they have never hoped for anything in their life. I believe that for as long as you have the breath of life there is hope for you regardless of the current situation. We live our lives hoping for things to happen every day. When we sleep we hope to wake up the next day at least I do. We work with the hope of getting paid. It is hope that drives our lives.

What is hope?

Imagine every day to be the last of a life surrounded with hopes, cares, anger and fear. The hours that come unexpectedly will be much the more grateful” ~ Horace. Lets start by defining what hope is, “a feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen”. Hope is perhaps the most important source of motivation. Hope is the principal emotion towards the future. Resilience is just but a benefit of hope. Hope is precisely, the most central emotion related to the future. We must therefore, strive to acquire and keep it alive, if we are to achieve our intended goals. With hope on your side you can overcome mountains. You have come, this far in life because of the hope that is in you.

You have succeeded because you have kept the spirit of hope alive. Never lose hope or you will die. It is hope that keeps me writing knowing that someone out there is being helped by my articles and I hope that am doing a good job.

Enhance hope

Every one of us should know how to maintain and increase hope in our selves. I have devised a short list of the activities that help me enhance hope in my life. If it works for me it could work for you, make the list a daily part of your habits. Remember habits become character and character becomes your destiny.

  • Hopeful thinking – make efforts to see good and better results when thinking about the future. What you expect from the start determines the future out come. Broaden your thoughts about the future. Your thoughts are closely linked with your hopes. Remember always that you attract whet you think. If you have negative hopes you will definitely reap negative rewards.
  • Have positive thoughts – the more positive thoughts you harbour in your mind the more hope you generate. Look for specific and modifiable reasons to regain control over past failures and place hope in the future. Reject negative thoughts. Anxiety does not help, it takes away valuable energy from your batteries, send encouraging messages to yourself e.g. Henry you will definitely achieve your goals, this is just a temporary set back. Try again at the next available chance.
  • Reflect on the past with serenity – focus on the pleasant things and appreciate them with gratitude. Doing this makes you look at the future in a more positive way. It is therefore very important that you learn from your past failures. I know that we all have failed at some point in life and believe me you will encounter failure in the very near future. Reflect and learn from it.
  • In moments of despair break the cycle by – watching nature, entertaining yourself with something different, listen to music, talk to some old pals or just do anything that distracts you from your current thought patterns. We all go through challenges and it is just important that you clear your mind from them. gain composure and focus on resolving them positively.
  • Be optimistic – hope and optimism are closely related, they always have been. Always have two ways of interpreting the same fact. Everything has a positive and negative side. Examine both but enjoy the positive side of results. There are many encounters in life that can be life changing both positively and negatively. What you choose or follow is what will determine and shape your future.
  • Reading and meditating on maxims of wisdom – is a proven method of elevating ones motivation. Find peace and strength to nourish your hope. One very good book to read is the Holy Bible. You can never go wrong reading the bible. It is full of hope and helps to nourish your mind.
  • Find a good social circle – hope does not only increase through your own influence but also through other people’s influence. Look for people who enjoy hope and be friends with them. Offer your help and see how well you will be received and appreciated. This will make you gain a vision of hope. Vision is an important part of personal development. Without vision and knowledge it is difficult to achieve personal development.
  • Encourage and give hope to others – personal growth also includes transmuting and approaching others with a positive influence. Speak hope to someone going through trials, encourage them, and make them believe that it is just a passing phase and that everything is going to be fine. I personally feel that it is our responsibility to offer hope and help to people who need it. In this vein it is also very important that you ask for help when that time comes.
  • Care for your physical well being – take good care of yourself so that your thinking habits may be hopeful. A simple and varied diet, rest exercise and activity, plenty of water, absence of toxic substances and trusting in God can be of great help to enhancing your hope. When you are in good health you will spend less time worrying and spend more time hoping for good things. Let me encourage you if you are experiencing bad health to focus on getting healed and one best way to do it is to hope for the best. Focus your mind on being healed and hope for the best results.

Hope is a quality closely related to religious faith. Most of the religions are founded on hope or consider it as an important part of religion. Hope links past, present and future. Hope offers eventual and definite end. Keeping thoughts of courage, power, confidence and hope all produce a positive state of mind. Hope;

  • offers salvation
  • is essential to survival
  • takes more than human effort to attain it
  • brings about joy
  • focuses on a perfect and eternal reward.

Conclusion

Hope is a quality that should be nurtured and kept alive in our hearts. Without it we cannot achieve our goals and personal development is but a mere philosophy. Thoughts and hope are very closely linked and I encourage you to read my article “The power of thought to help open up your mind. Have a hopeful life and “standout tall and be counted”. Article revised on 15/07/2014.

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