Personal Development Self Growth

The building blocks of good character

“I am not made or unmade by the things that happen to me but, by the things that I do”. Unconsciously we are forming habits every moment of our lives. Some of  these habits are of a bad nature and some are of a good one. My character is not determined by the things that […]

“I am not made or unmade by the things that happen to me but, by the things that I do”. Unconsciously we are forming habits every moment of our lives. Some of  these habits are of a bad nature and some are of a good one. My character is not determined by the things that someone will do nor say to me. It will be determined by my reaction to the things that are being done or said to me. My reaction comes from deep inside of me. It is this reaction that will determine my character. The traits of my character are engraved inside me and can only be seen from my reaction to the environment.

In my quest to improve my life, mentally; physically; spiritually and financially, I have learnt that the following traits are some of the building blocks of a good character. We all have a character it is either good or bad and in fact we all have both good and bad characters within us. The difference is the dominating character that comes out. I believe that with persistence, practice and God’s help, we can all develop our characters to whatever, we want them to be.

Our thoughts

Your every conscious act is preceded by a thought. Your dominating thoughts determine your dominating actions which form your dominating character. We as human beings are gifted with a very powerful mind that needs to be controlled and and tamed. We have the ability in us to control what dominates our minds see related article for more. Thought is parent to our character, acts, and habits. If you harbour thoughts that are of a bad intent chances are that you will act according to your thoughts; if harbour thoughts are of good intent you are most likely to act according to them. We must always endeavour to entertain good thoughts; thoughts that promote good life and help improve humanity.

I believe that “I will be what I will to be” with the right frame of mind and positive thinking. My thoughts currently are focused on writing blogs that are beneficial to both my self and anyone who reads them. Mind control is as a result of self discipline and habit.


Humility is golden. It is second only to non. Humility is humbleness; meekness; modesty. The quality of being respectful or modesty is humility. I do believe that each and every human being has some level of humility, again it is the quantity and quality of it that will determine your character. You see to build a good character you need wisdom and humility is a large part of wisdom. Wisdom is basically illuminated reason and it leads to humility.

When we are humble and accept our mistakes and take responsibility for them our humility grows and leads us to be of higher integrity. Our character also grows to new levels. I have noticed that most of us rarely want to be associated with mistakes or failure, we want only to be associated with success, forgetting that taking responsibility for our failures is a pathway to success.


My third block for building good character is integrity. Perhaps an area that most of us lack. Integrity is honesty; truthfulness; uprightness. The most successful leaders are of a higher integrity. You cannot be of good character yet with a low integrity. Good character and low integrity does not mix.

The law of success is service and is built on integrity. We make money through friends and enlarge our circle of friends by helping them make money, by being of service to them. Integrity is not easily acquired it comes with time. The possession and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles is integrity.


The final though not the least is discipline. Without discipline no one can succeed. Discipline is necessary to think correctly yet most of us are lacking in discipline. If you enter into the discipline necessary to bring about a radical change in your life, you must do so deliberately, after giving the matter careful thought and full consideration, and then you must allow nothing to interfere with your decision. Click here to see the “five d’s of success part 2” for more on discipline.

Discipline comes with self control. Before you can control conditions, you must control your self. Self discipline is very important and should be earned or learned at all costs. Every thing we do in life requires us to have self-discipline in order that we succeed. It is therefore important to master the power of self-discipline.


The above building blocks are just but a scratch to having a better and good character. Humanity must endeavour to live in harmony with each other. I know that the earth is endowed with endless natural resources waiting for us to utilise for the benefit of us all. Humanity can only benefit from us when we develop a good and appropriate character. We must learn to control our minds so as to preoccupy ourselves with good thoughts that will translate into good habits that will form good character. A good character should definitely be a target for us. Remember to always “standout tall and be counted”.

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