We all have formed an image of our self in one way or another. I have been doing a personal study of my performance in relation to my personal image. The discovery has been phenomenon. I have discovered that the way I view my self has a direct relationship with my task performance and my general life output. I believe that this is true for most of us. We live our lives based on our self-image. We form our self-image based on many factors especially external ones. If your self-image is that of a failure or of a loser, believe me, you are most likely living a failed or losing life. However, the opposite is also true. When am carrying out a task and my personal thoughts are negative the results are also not very encouraging. I have sometimes spent hours and hours on articles only to realise that I have not done a good job and this is mostly because I had a negative feeling about the subject. These articles never find their way on my website.
It is, therefore, important that you create a positive self-image if you have to improve your performance. Having a positive self-image is one of the key factors for enhancing your personal growth. A positive self-image will accelerate your performance levels and speed up your goal attainment process. I know that there are times when you just feel negative about something, it is absolutely okay to feel that way. The key thing is how quickly you turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. I have written enough articles on this website that sometimes when I feel demotivated I start going through some of them and boom my mind is filled with positive thoughts. I have also gotten inspiration for writing even more articles just from reading motivational books. I am not blowing my own trumpet but just merely stressing the point of reading motivational articles.
If you have always had negative thoughts about yourself I encourage you to read the bible for inspiration. There are many books out there but, the bible is the book of life. It is your manual for life. You will begin to see how precious you are in the eyes of God. Failure is mostly associated with our negative self-image. You have the capacity to change and shape your destiny if only you can change your personal image. Change begins with you. If you want to improve your performance and live the life you have always wanted, you must make the mental change to believe that you are the best at what you do and begin to take action. You are responsible for your life and should learn to take full responsibility for your actions and current situation. If you are an adult you should not expect a bailout. Just take responsibility and begin to act on making things better for your self. “The moment of enlightenment is when a person’s dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities” – Vic Bruden.
How do you change your self-image?
This is perhaps the starting point to your personal growth. You, alone are responsible for creating your self-image. It’s like in a marriage, what you tell your relatives and friends about your spouse is what they will know about her. If you disrespect her, believe me, they will also. What you call your spouse in public is what they will call her. So if you want people to respect her you will always endeavour to tell them positive things about her. Those of you who are married must take this advice seriously. You will respect her in public regardless of the differences you had at home. It’s those that do not value their marriages who will talk negatively about their spouses in public. Yes, every marriage has its own unique problems and we do not want to bring them out in public.
The same is true with how you view and portray yourself to people. The more positive and confident you show people the more positive and confident people will see you. But this begins with yourself seeing the many positive things and qualities you possess. Take a sheet of paper and just write out 20 things that you think you are. You will be amazed at what you will write down. Yes, we fail but that does not mean we should not try again. The most successful people fail many times before they succeed. The less successful people give up once they encounter a challenge. Failure to me is merely an obstacle to be overcome. Life would be very boring without challenges. Many of the times when we encounter challenges it simply means that there is an opportunity to develop a solution for the challenge.
If you keep trying and trying things differently you will surely succeed at what you are doing. Fill your mind with positive self-images about your self and sooner than later your mind will change the way you look at your self. Create a deliberate habit of saying “I like my self” repeatedly every time you feel low emotionally. When you wake up in the morning ask God to help you focus on the positive things in life. Refuse the spirit of negativity and put on the image of positive thinking. Believe that you can complete a task with better results and make time to develop your skillset. Have an open mind to learning new things. Always see failure as a challenge and refuse to accept it. Surely changing your self-image will make you feel much much happier and definitely help to improve your performance. When you feel good about yourself you will perform much much better. After all, what you want most in life is the feeling of happiness.
know that you will come across people that will say unpleasant things about you. But you have the ultimate control to either accept or reject them. And besides, we all have skeletons in our closets. No one on this earth can claim to be pure. It is also beneficial to hang around people that have a positive image about you as this helps to keep you motivated. When you create a positive image about your yourself, somehow it flows from you and attracts the right people. Make a deliberate policy to evaluate your friends some of them may not be very beneficial to your personal growth.
Maintain the discipline of doing what is right
You know, there is a good feeling when you do something that is right. The feeling is just awesome. I would not be wrong to say that we all possess the ability to do the right thing. There is just something nice when we feel that, what we have done is good. All well-meaning people have a conscious that tells us about what we are doing. I usually go with my first thoughts or rather my instincts. If am doing a task that am not sure of its effect on society, mostly I back out unless am convinced otherwise. This is not to say that I have never done the wrong things before. Believe me, I have but, I have learned to take responsibility and help to correct them if I can. I am not ashamed to go back and say am sorry let me correct my wrongdoing. I have developed the discipline of doing what I think and feel is right especially for my success.
Self-discipline is one of the most difficult traits, but an important one for personal development and growth. We keep fighting every day to do the right things. Our minds are always telling us to do the easier things in life than do the most difficult and important things first. Like delayed gratification, we always want to spend money rather than save for the future. I will be honest, I also struggle on a daily basis to do the easy things and forget the difficult and necessary tasks. But tell you what, every time I conquer this edge, there is a feeling of joy and satisfaction.
Developing the discipline of doing the right things first is a good attribute to helping in improving your performance. Doing the right things always makes you feel motivated and proud of yourself. Society lucks men and women who can stand up to do the right things even in the advent of criticism. It seems to me that many of us have fallen prey to doing what is popular or trending for fear of being called bad names. We would rather be on the same side with the majority even when we know deep down our hearts that what we have done is wrong.
“Believe in your self” – Unknown. The essence of personal self-image is very critical to personal growth as it is the centre of your performance attribute. We should try as much as possible to create a positive self-image if we have to enjoy our lives. Most of the people who have a negative self-image are low performers. If you are in a leadership position take a closer look at your subordinates performance reports, you will realise that one of the major factors of low performers is as a result of a negative self-image. The higher performers are more usually confident and have a positive self-image. You should consider helping those that are low performers as this will inadvertently reflect on your leadership skills and enhance your performance as a team. I hope you have found this article useful and thank most sincerely for reading up to the end. Good luck and “standout tall and be counted”.